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For the second part, did your husband have to stop working to stay home and take care of your baby? I've always struggled with depression and coming from a blue collar family, quitting work and staying home all day made it much worse as so much of my self-esteem came from working hard and providing for myself and my wife. I still feel super self-conscious a lot of the time when I take my daughter places and it takes a bit of doing to work myself up to get out of the house. It used to just be going to the park or the grocery story very early in the morning when it was mostly empty. But I do take her places everyday, at least twice a day now so that she can get out and see things. My wife gets 4 days off a month, and works 10-14 hour days the rest of the month and I don't know anyone within a 1000 miles of where I currently live, so if I didn't do it then no one would. It's harder to be sympathetic for a grown-up when they're supposed to responsible for a child. He's not playing video games all day is he?
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MoCookies posted:Part I - My kid (10 months) also only goes to sleep with a boob. I find it annoying some nights, but learning to nurse in a sling has been helpful, since I can get some stuff done while nursing. Or at least I don't feel quite as tied down since I can move while he's nursing. No Cry Sleep Solution has been a helpful guide for us too. Unless you're in a big city, it's really hard to find any parenting groups on meetup.com that aren't for 'Moms.' I'm in a big city now and there's tons of Mom groups and only 1 Parents group and it's 'For Jesus' which makes me uncomfortable. I've resigned myself to only talking to my daughter and store clerks for the next four years of my life.
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Please don't get crazy about this again. It's what got the thread shut down last time. There's lots of different ways to do things and none of them are "right."
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car dance posted:Anyone have good suggestions for a sippy cup? My daughter is great at nipples and has used a variety of them. She still will drink out of a bottle okay but if there's water in it she is not happy and will just put down the bottle. I tried just giving her a cup but she choked herself, even with me helping her do it slowly. She really wants to drink out of a cup so I wanted to get her a training cup or a sippy cup but there are so many different options and varying reviews so if you have one that worked for you, I'd love to know about it so I don't spend too much money looking for one she'll like. Thanks! You can learn from my mistakes and get Take and Toss Spill Proof or these if you want cups with straws. I ended up buying these on a lark after going through about a dozen different ones that cost from $6 - 15 a piece and finding all of them awful. In all of the cups, the spill-proof mechanisms and straws tend to trap food and drink particles in spaces that are way too small to clean. I am extremely weird about these things, but I did see mold growing in a couple of them up in the weird plastic twists and turns that I couldn't get clean no matter how much I tried. The Take and Toss work very well as spill proof and once they get too weird for me I throw them out. We mostly use them without the lids now so they're not useless once the kid gets a little older either. Don't get the similar ones that are Ziploc branded, they are very terrible. edit - And don't bother spending $10 on a gyro-bowl. My daughter loves dumping things and took it as a challenge every time I gave her the bowl. It lasted less than a minute and she was 12 months old when she got it. Ariza fucked around with this message at 10:48 on Nov 6, 2012 |
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Does anyone have a suggestion for a TV sort of thing for the car? Most of them seem to be portable DVD players with LCDs that mount to the back of the headrest, but we don't really have DVDs anymore, so I'm looking for something that can play off of USB drives. I'm going to be making multiple 8 hour (6.5 without stops) car trips with just me and my daughter soon and it's not very fun. I'm hoping being able to watch something will keep her happy longer than reading to herself.
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Nov 21, 2012 13:11
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Canuckistan posted:Really you should be looking at a tablet. Videos + angry birds + headphones = happy car trips. Thanks! I didn't even think about that and now that I look there's quite a few ways to mount it to the back of the seat for her. Kids are so spoiled nowadays and I feel like such a hypocrite doing it after talking poo poo for so many years when I'd see people letting their kids watch movies in the car. I plan on only using it for long trips but I'm afraid it'll slowly seep into everyday use.
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Nov 21, 2012 15:08
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Chickalicious posted:Benzocaine should be a last resort sort of thing for teething. There are some pretty scary risks (reduced gag reflex among them). Jesus Christ, thanks for this. It's insane that this still isn't on the label. Babies can get this from eating too many beets too, so make sure you watch for that.
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Nov 22, 2012 00:24
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LuckyDaemon posted:Hello thread. I am about to fly with my 18 month old, alone. Please kill me. TV doesn't make you a bad parent, that's just for crazy moon people. I've taken my daughter a few times (12-14-16 months) and most of the time it was OK. The first time I tried the extra sleepy method so she'd sleep on the plane, and that went atrociously. She screamed most of the time so I never tried that again. The last time I downloaded a bunch of animal videos from Youtube and played those for her on my laptop and that kept her entertained for about 15 minutes at a time. I bought a couple of new books and different treats just for the plane trip. Hopefully he's bonded somewhat to a blanket or stuffed toy, because that usually helps a bit too. Take off can be intense but most of the time you're really just fighting boredom and sitting still. If you're at all sensitive to stranger's perceptions of you, you'll want to prepare to steel yourself a bit. You might get some eyerolls, sighs, and under the breath bitching from people if he's crying or fussing. People are extra rude when flying.
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Lyz posted:Anyone have any good recommendations for a good, safe baby jungle gym? Chris is driving me nuts climbing over everything - couches, coffee table, his activity table. He's only thirteen months old! I need something a bit safer to satisfy his insatiable need to go upwards, especially since he doesn't really pay attention to how close to the edge he plunks his butt down. It really depends on how much space you have and if it's indoor/outdoor you're looking for. I like this one, but this one is a little smaller and they both have little slides. They're both a bit pricey (to me), and if you want to get a bigger one they start to get insanely expensive. I trawled Craigslist for 'climber' for about 6 weeks (they were usually gone within an hour or two) and ended up getting the Step 2 Treehouse for $40 and a bigger one that normally went for $750 for $200. Any of the climbers from Step 2 or Fisher Price or Little Tikes that have little stairs and a little slide should be fine. We have wood floors so there was some pain involved, but she really really loved them at that age.
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My daughter did that up until about 9 months almost every day. She never seemed to care at all when she did it, sometimes I don't even think she noticed. If they're not in pain when they vomit, and it's not projectile, there's usually not a lot to be done about it. It could be GERD or an allergy, but if she's gaining weight normally and doesn't seem bothered the pediatrician will probably just tell you to ride it out and not be concerned until the baby is older.
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A long backstory: When my wife had her first official ultrasound the ob/gyn thought that my daughter had a diaphragmatic hernia because she could see a 'bubble' in the ultrasound. After going to a few different specialists and having a thousand tests done, it was concluded that she had a cyst on her bronchus which was causing hyperinflation in one of the lobes of her lung due to fluid build-up. This in turn was crowding out the other lung and her heart, making her lung shrivel and her heart to be on the wrong side of her chest. We met with the prenatal surgeons who determined that surgery was probably going to be necessary, but they wanted to wait until 30 weeks if possible. The best case scenario we were presented with was that she would have one lung that worked and one that was a shriveled up mass. We met with the perinatologist every week for ultrasounds to make sure she was still alive. Right around the time surgery was going to be necessary, my daughter had a growth spurt and the cyst stayed the same size. Her lung looked like it was starting to grow back and her heart shifted back (though it was still flipped around). My wife ended up being induced at 38 weeks and my daughter was born in the NICU, but she was breathing. Now: She seems to be doing fine, but every time she has trouble breathing or has excessive coughing I start getting really anxious about her cyst. I know it's still in there and I have no idea if it's growing. The preferred method to see lung tissue is still a CT scan, which carries with it a lot of risks and is not usually recommended for children. I keep a camera on her crib and usually wake up at least 2-3 times a night and watch to make sure she's still breathing. I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking for here, but how do you deal with stresses like this? I forget about it for a few weeks and then she coughs and I start getting paranoid again.
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Ben Davis posted:I'm so sorry We've moved so we've had a few different pediatricians now. The general consensus that I'm getting is to wait until some symptoms are present before trying a CT scan. The cyst may just fade away or it might grow larger. They said that we could try a CT scan but they may not see anything, but that doesn't mean it's not there. It may be a bad angle, etc. Before she was born the perinatologists we met with said she'd need annual x-rays starting at 2, but the pediatricians think that's not necessary. I've read all the journal articles I can find and the medical community is pretty divided on whether asymptomatic cysts should be removed or not. Things turn bad very, very quickly if they burst and their behavior is pretty erratic on that front. Yesterday was just a super stressful day for whatever reason and I was freaking out about it. Most days it doesn't even cross my mind, I'm too busy trying to keep her from messing with the oven or playing in the trash or harassing the cats. When I show my friends the webcam that I keep on her when she sleeps, they all think I'm weird and creepy.
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That's so stressful for you. How is your pediatrician keeping tabs on it?
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Gravitee posted:I have a question about car seats. My son is 22 lbs + and very tall for his age (10.5 months) and he's starting to get too long for his infant car seat which is good up to 30 lbs. It's the Chicco Cortina system. I'd like to get him a new one but they are all forward facing and everything I read says they should be rear facing until age 2. Can I get away with a front facing or am I going to have to buy an in-betweener car seat in the meantime? I'd rather not since I'd have to buy two, one for each car, but I'm not sure how safe a big car seat would be. There are a ton of 'convertible' car seats that work both forward and backward facing. My daughter's is good up to 100 lbs and we've used it since she was 6 months old. You really want to keep him facing backwards as long as possible.
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We tried at least seven different brands and ended up using normal Luvs every night. I think the baby's shape makes all the difference. My wife is insane and we had dozens of boxes of Huggies that we ended up donating because she peed through them every night. It was worse when she didn't wake me up and just laid in it all night. That made me feel awful.
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Jan 16, 2013 22:30
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If you're actually a functioning human, talk to him before you call the cops and hope to ruin a family. Do people seriously behave this way with friends? I wouldn't even do that with a neighbor I don't like. It may be a shock to some people, but even very recently car seats weren't really used. Within certain poor communities even today, they're not used more often than they are. It's an attitude people (including myself) are working to change, but it is a reality away from people who seek parenting advice.
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Does anyone have any suggestions for books/websites with a good system for potty training (preferably not German-borne)? My haphazard random approach isn't going very well so far. There seem to be thousands of different books and ways of approaching the situation and I'd like some guidance.
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I'm just starting to potty train my daughter, so I haven't had to deal with her using public restrooms yet. I have still never seen (other than myself) a baby being changed in a male bathroom though I know it must happen. It's not a big deal but I'm still paranoid about creepsters because I'm easily influenced by pedophilia scare tactics. Taking her when I have to pee is annoying too because she's still in the take off running or rolling on the floor if I set her down so I have to hold her and try not to spray all over while she squirms and fights to get loose.
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I've used all 3 and the front mounted seat is the way to go. If you ride your bike a lot, it's very irritating and scary for the first 15-20 minutes, but then you'll get used to it and it just means a better workout for you. I really, really did not like the bike trailer. People in cars are dicks and I was insanely paranoid the entire time that someone was going to smash into the trailer. If you have an open track with good line of sight I think the trailer would work fine. My dad used to ride me in one of those rear mounted seats because that's what you did in the 80s. That stopped when I was 3 and we got chased by a pitbull that ended up taking a chunk out of my heel. My Dad said it was one of the most terrifying experiences of his life, trying to outrun that dog going uphill with me in the back.
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Gounads posted:Any recommendations on T.V. shows that won't drive the parents crazy for ~1 year old. Bonus points for show that have some educational content. Conversely, recommendations on what to avoid? Now then, if you have access to Netflix there are a ton of shows made for babies. If not, I'd recommend getting the Baby Signing Time DVDs. It's basically just a string of music videos with a bunch of kids signing and the host lady singing. The music is pretty non-offensive as far as children-oriented pop goes and my daughter learned a lot from it. Now we basically just watch animal videos downloaded from Youtube (lots of zoos put up good videos) and music videos so she can dance. As for brushing teeth, my life got much easier once we got my daughter an electric toothbrush and starting using that. I find I can be more gentle on her teeth while still feeling like she's getting the gunk cleared off.
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rectal cushion posted:You are correct, it's too early to worry. This sounds normal. Does he seem to understand words? Understanding is a much better measure than the words a child can say at that age. Also pointing, if he points/understands pointing that is a good sign. Some doctors will definitely err strongly on the side of caution because they know if they don't and something is happening (not likely at all in your situation) they are held legally liable. Some hospitals/practices really drill that fear into their doctors.
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My daughter never responded to benadryl, it just made her extra cranky. Basically just control the fever when it gets bad and ride it out. My nephew has had a bad cough since November and there's not much to be done. Also, make sure you're cleaning your cold most humidifier at least a few times a week with bleach, preferably every day. They're basically bacteria incubators and then it just gets spread all over the room. It's good your pediatricians didn't just give you antibiotics to make you happy. That's what they did when I was a kid.
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If you have an Android phone (I'm sure there's 10x as many apps on iPhones) you can get a free app called SafeDose that asks for your child's weight in kg and then gives you recommended doses for medicines where it won't be listed on the labels, like benadryl. It's meant to be used by health care professionals though, so it's mostly IV drugs and stuff you'd never want to give your baby yourself. You can also ask a friendly pharmacist and they'll either look it up on their computer for you or pull out their big book to find a dosage. I would talk to your pediatrician before giving your baby loratadine though. I've never heard of that and all the info I can find says not to give it to babies under 2 (even professionally).
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Has anyone used this Stearns puddle jumper for a two year old in a pool? I was going to get a Speedo one piece with the built in life vest but it got bad reviews for kids who can't swim. Also, any comments on the one piece long sleeved swimsuits? They seem like they could be too hot or uncomfortable in a subtropical environment. Burning isn't really a factor, but I'm afraid of cancer.
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Chickalicious posted:I just went out to the lake today with some friends and one of the 2 year olds had the puddle jumper. She did so well with it that I'm going to buy one for my kid too. She was just paddling around like it was nothing. Perfect, thanks! Nobody I know had never heard of them and I never saw one when I was a kid. My uncle just threw me in a lake. Kids are so spoiled these days.
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frenchnewwave posted:Re: sunscreen, I did some research and found that California Baby seemed to be the gentlest and least chemically for babies. It's $$$ but my daughter is only 6 months so she won't need a ton. You won't find any support for it here and people get pretty up in arms about it. I personally have sorta tried it a few times, but never for that long and not when she was that young. Whatever you do, stick with it. My daughter just turned two and she has a really hard time falling asleep still when my wife or I (always me) aren't holding her. It's gotten to be routine so it doesn't bother me much anymore but she's switching to her bed in a few weeks and it's going to be months of hell in the house. Anyone have any foods/drinks that would sorta mask the taste of iron supplements? I think I've tried everything.
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I know some people on here are into it, but I would suggest never sleeping in a bed with an infant. It is demonstrably dangerous and babies die every year from it. As with any parenting advice, along with sleep strategies, talk to your doctor and peers and do your own research. Don't feel bad if you choose a method that some people don't agree with. Advice always changes and some people derive their self worth from judging and denouncing other people's parenting methods. Do what you think is best for your family and everything will be fine.
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rectal cushion posted:A six month old is hardly an infant though. Edit - I think this exact topic and me arguing with everyone is why this thread got locked last time. If you're going to share a bed with a baby, do your own research outside of this forum. Ariza fucked around with this message at 19:02 on May 24, 2013 |
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They do taste really, really good and my daughter is nuts for them when she's sick. She'll go through 10 in a day (not recommended, they get expensive). Plus they help push through the cheese that she loves so much.
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God, we're all the same. We need to share! My 2 year old is still in the 15th for weight, 65th for height, and 9th for BMI. My wife weighed 98 lbs and I weighed 115 lbs when we graduated high school (getting old sucks) and we're both normal height so she's following us I guess. Switched to a twin bed last night straight from the crib and I was terrified after reading all of the horror stories on here. She slept perfectly for 9 or 10 hours! It was amazing for one thing to finally not be a struggle. Small victories. My wife has been on 13-15 hour 3rd shifts 6 days a week for the last few months, so it's been just me and the princess all day everyday. I really need the night time to recharge and half relax.
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Dear Jesus do I hate fevers and the fear of them that I have from my mom. My daughter had a fever of 102.8 and I didn't sleep a wink. I woke her up a few times to check her temperature and make her drink water. I'm terrified that her fever, if I'm not ever vigilant, will spike to 105 and her brains will boil. Of course I know this is all bullshit, but it's been hammered into me so often that I can't use my primate brain to suss it out logically. Kids are fun and I'm had glad that I've been able to keep her alive for over two years so far.
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Alterian posted:When would you have to transition to a toddler bed? When they start to be able to climb things? Absolutely. This was twenty years ago, but my cousin climbed out of her crib before she turned two and broke her pelvis and spent two months in a hospital. We skipped the toddler bed and went straight to a twin, using the sides of the crib as a head and foot board. Toddler beds seemed to be an unnecessary expense for something that would only be used for a year and then stuffed into an attic. My kid is a crazy roller when she sleeps though so she loves all the extra space.
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VorpalBunny posted:So my 2 1/2 year old son is now officially too active for his crib. He can climb in and out with ease, and he already has a toddler bed in his room that we haven't tried to move him to yet. Well, tonight's the night. Anyone have any advice about moving from a crib to a toddler bed? There is a gate on his door, so he can't get out in the middle of the night, and we plan to just put him back in the bed over and over and over again until he gets it. Are there any other tricks out there for this situation? I switched my daughter about four weeks ago and she immediately took to having her own big bed. She's slept better in it since the first night we put her in it. I think she inherited my wife's family's weird sleep habits because she loves flipping and rolling all over and the extra space is great for that. She's started telling me she's sleepy which she's never done before. So maybe you'll get lucky too! We all get a couple, I think.
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I think the last thread got closed because of me arguing against bed sharing over cry it out so I'll be civil. Please do not bed share if you are not impoverished and you have no options. It is dangerous and can be fatal (and underreported). My wife accidentally fell asleep with my daughter and she rolled over the pillow line keeping her in and she ended up breaking her clavicle. A 3 am er visit and $500 later, she spent a few days laid up and a few months away from slides and she was back to perfect other than a bone callus that may never go away. I know it's not part of the current kid raising discussion in our culture but it is important to remember that it can be a bad idea.
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Capslock Holmes posted:There's no way that 90% of people install car seats correctly. I just spent 45 minutes putting a graco 3 in 1 in the suburban. It finally doesn't move around. Also, gently caress seatbelt locking plates and pre-LATCH vehicles. Just like everything in life it eventually gets really quick and easy, even on the older vehicles, once you've done it 50 times. The first time I did it I kept taking it out and putting it back in because it didn't feel right. I think I spent 3 hours the first time in my older car and now it takes about 2 minutes. LATCH is so much nicer and someday I hope to not be poor enough to buy another post 2001 car. Road trips are always fun especially when you're potty training!
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Can anyone recommend a flat table/desk that is a good size for a toddler? There's an Ikea about 2 hours away, but it's in Canada so it's kind of a pain to get furniture. Looking around on the internet, and they all seem to be $150-300, which is way too much for something that will only be used for a few years and probably ruined in the process. She's got an angled desk for drawing already, but I'd like something that can support a small computer monitor, keyboard, and mouse in the years to come.
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Fionnoula posted:I'd probably just order the LÄTT set from Ikea online and have it shipped to me. It's $20 for a table and two chairs, even with shipping it's going to come out to maybe $35 total, right? That is the one I was looking at but I wasn't sure if it was big enough for a monitor and keyboard. They have it on Amazon for about $40 with free shipping. Has anyone used one?
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New American Academy of Pediatrics study was just published. Just going to leave this here:quote:sleep-related infant deaths from 24 states from 2004-2012 in the case reporting system of the National Center for the Review and Prevention of Child Deaths. Cases were divided by younger (0-3 months) and older (4 months to one year) infants. In a total of 8,207 deaths analyzed, majority of the infants (69 percent) were bed-sharing at the time of death. Not going to say anything else because everyone jumped all over me last time and the thread got shut down, but I figure it's important enough to let you know.
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