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Are there any risks to going down on a girl with a minor upper UTI/bladder infection? I'm a dude, if that matters.The Door Frame posted:I was swimming in Lake Michigan this weekend and I don't know if I didn't wash well enough afterwards or what, but I got jock rot for the first time since I was 14. How do I get rid of that awful itch? If you're referring to jock itch, then a topical OTC antifungal should make short work of it. I'm pretty sure they make crotch-specific stuff for dudes but I don't know for sure since I haven't had jock itch since middle school.
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Kimmalah posted:I don't know if it's risky for you, but it might not be such a great thing for her until things get a little more settled down there. Especially if she's taking antibiotics for it, which makes it really easy to get stuff like yeast infections. But I'm not an expert, her doctor might be better able to advise. What about manual stimulation (I promise I'll keep my hands super clean)? The girlfriend's been having a really poo poo week work-wise and sex has historically been the best way to take the edge off for her. Penetrative sex is also a no-go right now on account of the aforementioned illness so I'm running down the list of things that are safe.
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bowmore posted:well if you are semi-hard then your dick could slip out and your partner could just smash into your dick (which could fracture it depending on how hard she loving) Yeah that’s especially a risk with reverse cowgirl, also she could pop you with the motion of her hips if you’re trying to get her to ride you harder. Better safe than sorry in my mind. When that happens to me I usually just pull out and switch positions. Also I get paranoid enough about it that my boner just totally disappears at that point anyway so we have to switch things up.
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Doorknob Slobber posted:best apps/websites for a married couple to find a third woman to hook up/date? Feeld Quiver Fetlife You’re gonna want to pay for the first two. It’s not going to be impossible to find a unicorn but it’ll be way harder than finding other couples, so bear that in mind. And it’s way likelier that you’ll hook up with a single woman than form a long-term arrangement, but you never know. Do you or your spouse have any friends you might broach this with? Are you prepared to possibly lose them as friends when you’re done? You may be waiting a long time if you exclusively want that ideal unicorn and you don’t have any leads.
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Kazvall posted:Also if you really need some outside source to help you, OTC male enhancement pills actually work pretty drat well. But that's moreso in maintaining an erection and not in the not being able to cum part. Ummm, exactly which ones are you describing? Because if it’s supplements or herbal poo poo or whatever gets advertised on porn sites, isn’t that stuff like all uniformly bullshit? Like, I could see something like a vasodilator like Viagra, etc working if the issue were getting and staying hard, but are there actually viable alternatives at this point? I’m actually legit curious and not just looking to dunk on this or anything.
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Hey guys I got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago and I’m at the point dating-wise now where I might be going to bed with people. My issue is that I can’t seem to make condoms work for me at the moment. I feel like I’ve never had a good sexual experience wearing condoms. When I was younger I honestly didn’t have relatively many experiences with them/having penetrative sex in general but when I did I had difficulty staying hard and climaxing. Either I’d get overstimulated and climax too soon or I’d go for ever and eventually get soft/feel the latex bind against me and get soft, etc. I’m uncircumcised but I’ve lived in the US my whole life. I don’t have phimosis or restricted movement, and on the spectrum of ‘tighter’ vs ‘looser’ regarding foreskin, I’m probably on the ‘looser’ end of things. Discomfort for me during sex is likelier to come from the skin getting accidentally rolled or caught and pinched than from something like head hypersensitivity or whatever. During unprotected sex I’ve noticed that I tend to be most comfortable when it can move around as it pleases, for lack of a better term. I’ve been doing a fair amount of research into condom types and how to wear them and I’m feeling dejected at just how mixed the quality of information I’ve found on this issue is. Given the relatively global appeal of sex I’m actually surprised. Maybe I’m very confused and dumb but I think I’m seeing differing accounts of what a “proper” fit should look like. Some accounts seem to say that the skin should be retracted and held in place there by the condom. Others seem to suggest that the skin should be retracted during application but also free and able to move about under the condom (and suggest flared-end models for that purpose). And yet others seem to imply that a good condom should ensheath your entire foreskin on both sides and I guess move with it like some sort of foreskin glove (like I guess imagine a latex epidermis over your real one)? I legitimately don’t know which is correct (that last one seems wrong) and what that means in terms of buying myself the right prophylactic. I’m aware that most drugstore condoms available in the US might not fit me the best and I’m open to looking at alternatives, be they international, special brands, stuff available at sex stores/online, whatever. I’m open. My ex and I had been really close friends before getting together, so we kind of blazed through the ‘using condoms all the time’ period of our relationship in under a month, got tested, got an IUD, shacked up, and never looked back for five years. Over that time I was extremely happy with my sex life and performance. I dunno what would’ve happened had, say, my ex and I spent much more time having sex with condoms but I’m kind of scared that I won’t be able to make the same kind of positive impression with someone new. Trying things out now on my own I’m finding them uncomfortable and I’m having similar difficulty staying hard, granted I’ve been sort of awkwardly experimenting with this on my own. You don’t have to convince me of why condoms are good and smart. I just want to find a brand or a methodology that works for me and doesn’t make me dread the prospect of having to wear one or possibly embarrassing myself with somebody due to performance issues. If that also means potentially addressing mental or emotional stuff around anxiety/staying hard I’m game to address those too. TLDR: I wanna have good sex with condoms and right now I feel like I can’t.
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Mar 11, 2019 22:49
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black.lion posted:Put a lil lube inside that condom my friend! Yeah, but like what’s supposed to happen? Is stuff supposed to move around in there? Should it be held all snug like I’m wearing a compression bib on my johnson? Should it stay pulled back, tight, and outta sight?
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Qubee posted:Totally unrelated note: I'm not sure if it's cyclical and women just taste different / smell different during different periods of their cycle, or if it could be an indication of something going wrong. I've been with my current gf for just over a month, and she used to taste amazing and it was fine (she's on the pill). But just before her period and just after, she's gotten a sort of funky, unpleasant taste and strong smell. I don't want to say anything, and I soldier through it, but it makes me focus more on her clit instead of using my tongue all over her down there. Will she go back to tasting how she did when she was in the middle of her cycle? Should I just keep my mouth shut about it so I don't hurt her feelings? I managed a 4 year relationship with my ex and she always tasted and smelled awful down there, and my experience is pretty limited. So is this the norm? It’s always changed with my partners, and yes, it’s super tied to women’s hormonal and menstrual cycles- and yes, it could be a sign of something bad so it’s good to be informed and proactive about that poo poo. Sometimes the same vagina can taste and smell (and discharge) totally differently over the course of a few weeks or even over different seasons. But I’ve also noticed it changing when partners have tried different soaps, different diets, wearing different kinds of underwear, whether or not they’re dehydrated, whether they showered right before we had sex, etc- which is why I’m a firm believer in saying poo poo and not burying it, as long as you do it in a manner that’s sensitive to your partner and doesn’t body-shame them. It may be the case that your current gf is going through some ph changes. It may be that this is her natural state when she’s bumping uglies straight from work and isn’t gussying herself up for a first or second date. The only way you can figure this out and figure out a solution for both of y’all is by talking about it. The last thing you want to have happen is for it to become a thing where months go by and it eventually comes out, and it also comes out that you were hiding it the entire time. Maybe you’re not as enthusiastic about going down on her as she’d like you to be and she calls you on it. Maybe one day you swallow something that you don’t want to and she catches you making a face. Maybe you catch yourself asking for oral less in an effort to get her to ask for it less in return. Think about how she’ll feel when looking back at your sexual history together. Did he really enjoy himself the first time or was he faking it for me? Has he always hated my smelly vag? Is there anything really up or is he just being an rear end in a top hat guy who wants to get out of giving oral now that we’ve been together for a while? Kudos for being GGG but know that it isn’t your place to just shut up and do the needful. No genitals should be expected to taste or smell 100% amazing 100% of the time but nobody, regardless of gender, should expect discomfort as a key aspect of satisfying their partner. Be upfront and polite and enthusiastic and reiterate just how much you love going down on her, and how wonderful you find her bits. Tell her that you enjoy it very much, and that the taste/smell in general has been excellent, but recently, in this specific moment, maybe because of her period, she’s got a little bit of stuff going on that you’d like to take care of. Maybe you both need to freshen up from work and wouldn’t it be fun to mess around in the shower? Honestly, in my experience it takes like a minute of rinsing it off in the shower to take care of pungent mucus. Other things to consider- my ex used to be most pungent when she was dehydrated and stuff down there was most concentrated, often at the very beginning of sex. As she would become lubricated, things would dilute and that pungency and taste would go away. Try using your fingers or a toy first. Maybe do some PIV. Maybe consider having her climax once before going down on her if she’s somebody who gets really wet when orgasming. When you’re going down on her, use your fingers/toy/dick to stir that poo poo up. Unless it’s specific to something in her secretions (which is a total possibility) the new fluids will probably be way less offensive than the old. Another thing that’s worked for me is diluting your partner’s taste with saliva or water. Get a lot of spit going and that tends to improve the taste and consistency of stuff.
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Origami Dali posted:That used to be true, but it feels like now people of both sexes have been totally raised on internet porn to the point where everybody is trying to recapture it in the sack. At what point does it just becomes what sex is? Plus, that doesn’t account for a lot of the variety of stuff there is out there. Like, people legit just film themselves having sex with their partners now and put it on a marketplace and if you’re at all queer or queer-adjacent (kink, etc) then that’s something you’re probably at least aware of. And like, I can say that videos of women getting themselves off helped me get a lot better at getting my partners off.
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MightyJoe36 posted:I remember a while back there was a goon who worked in the industry posting in Ask/Tell who said that most "amateur porn" was just regular porn shot that way for people who were into that. Not anymore. I mean, a lot of it is people who might otherwise consider going into sexwork in another capacity, but we’re way past the days where everything “amateur” was really just pro shoots with lovely cameras. A lot of the funding comes from the same places/a lot of the providers are the same but technology and changing attitudes really have made it much more accessible for people to shoot something and have it uploaded and making money immediately. A lot of it depends too on where you’re looking. As an example: the explosion in amateur webcam platforms over the last decade is half-dependent on American millennials amenable to doing gig-economy sexwork in their bedrooms and half-dependent on businesses in places like Latin America and Eastern Europe that just employ dozens-to-hundreds of people to cam for them.
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From what I understand a lotta people are dumb and think they’ll make a ton of money doing it (same way with YouTube) but only a few are lucky/good/smart enough/have enough other irons in the fire to make it a viable career, let alone lucrative. Many want to use it to break into the “main” industry and still have a platform they can control. And a lotta other people are into it just for kink or exhibitionism and like the fact that they can be paid for it rather than just having their poo poo pirated or not go through the trouble at all. I know one person who uses their porn income for “weed and toy money”
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purple death ray posted:And just like art, if you cater to niche enough fetishes, you can charge astronomical amounts of money to desperate people who want you to film yourself stepping in yogurt or whatever.
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Yeah the only thing that can be really guaranteed to make you better at sex is to have more sex. And when you’re in that honeymoon phase is the best time to lean into practicing and learning as much as you can. The first year with my most recent ex is probably my favorite time in my life so far because we were having sex all the time and the sex was getting appreciably better all the time too. The same ‘newbie gains’ principle that applies to poo poo like weightlifting and driving stick applies to poo poo like giving your partner an orgasm or experimenting with different positions. And as the sex gets better, you’re (hopefully) encouraged to have more sex. But you have to be enthusiastic about learning and getting better, which is surprisingly difficult for some people.
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Johnny Truant posted:I had to read this sentence like three times before I realized you weren't equating driving stick to giving your partner better orgasms I mean, as with driving stick- generally the more thought and care you put into it the more potential and gains you unlock but also you want to get it down to intuition and cerebral “muscle memory” to a large extent and stay out of your own head to really enjoy it. But yeah no, driving stick hasn’t made me any better at sex except that maybe it’s improved the muscle tone in my lower calves a bit.
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Colonel J posted:Our (gf and I) 6th year anniversary is coming up and I'm planning to surprise my GF with a hitachi magic wand. Good idea? It’s a loving no brainer. Shoulda been a 6th month anniversary gift imo 
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I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to be a judgy rear end about the vibe previously. But like when the gold standard of personal massagers costs like $60 how do you not bust that sucker out like week 10. Like it’s literally the cost of a halfway fancy dinner out. Just leave it as a parting gift if y’all don’t work out. Bam. here you go, remember me as your ‘gasm apollo I’ve wasted like twice as much on toys that ended up not working out (looking at you, wevibe), so worst case Ontario it’s too rough/indiscreet/plugged in and you have a decent massager for your glutes. My ex brought like $500 worth of wireless purple softtouch lelo/jejue poo poo into our shared bed and one corded hitachi supplanted loving all of them within like a week. The batteries failed on some of them from complete lack of use.
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Qubee posted:So personal anecdotes of guys who've bought their girls a wand, what happened and did things change in a bad way? No things didn’t loving change in a bad way. Also are you afraid of your partner masturbating or getting themselves off easily? I’m going to call this as you feeling threatened by a vibrator. Hopefully this harsh verbal clarity helps you nip that feeling in the bud. As for what happened: 1) like I said, my ex had a few well-reviewed vibes already. She was initially skeptical that the hitachi would live up to the hype. When it did she was pleased and I was pleased and it raised her opinion of me because all of her previous partners had been pretty sexually clueless. Experimenting with it gave us a shared new thing to try together which made the bonding better imo. 2) It completely changed the way we approached poo poo like performance anxiety or issues with lasting too long or too little or getting sore or chafing or whatever. This doesn’t just go for the magic wand, incorporating any vibe into sex (or at least having it on hand) makes a lot of poo poo easier. Sometimes my ex would get cramps from being in one position or being on the edge for too long and the vibe would help relieve that. Sometimes you need a break and your partner can entertain themselves. My ex would tighten up after using it so it was fun to incorporate it creatively during piv. The magic wand has a long enough handle that it’s relatively easy for you or her to use it clitorally while you’re having vaginal or anal intercourse. 3) it made oral easier/more fun. Use it on your partner while going down on them. Use it on yourself while going down on them. Use it on them/have them use it on themselves/have them use it on you while they go down on you. Enough said. 4) the vibe was used on me. This is maybe the least expected/welcome thing to a lot of cishet dudes but vibrators work on penises too. They make silicone sleeves for the wand as well but in my experience just touching it against your body is plenty. Try using it perineally- just like put it on your taint while she goes down on you. 5) it made other toys better. Like the aforementioned sleeve, they also make insertable attachments if that’s your jam, but my ex thought they were pretty lovely and uncomfortable. Lots of different third parties are out there tho. In any case, the wand is powerful enough that usually touching it to something like a dildo/buttplug/fleshlight is enough to turn said object into a vibrating version of itself. Try fingering her while holding the ball of the vibe in your palm and pressing it against her vulva. Your fingers and hand should transfer vibrations. 6) it made bdsm better (if that’s your jam). The only thing better than using a vibrator on your partner is using a vibrator on your partner while they’re restrained (and have consented beforehand).
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Qubee posted:Is it luck of the draw whether you end up with a girl who can do this or not? Cause my current girlfriend (and my ex too) gets super super sensitive when she orgasms and I sorta adopt the emotional repair role where I just spoon her for 5 mins and whisper sweet nothings in her ear until she's good to go again (but even the whispering in her ear can make her shiver), then it's back to the utter filth dirty talk. If I touch her anywhere erotic, it just causes her to spasm and she says it's too sensitive, legit vampire out of a coffin maneuver (hands covering breasts and just rising straight up from the bed) which is hilarious to see. It was a funny predicament at the start cause my neanderthal brain thought "orgasm good, more touch good, keep touch" and she had to slowly school me and make me aware of the fact that no, pinning her arms down and touching her just feels too sensitive, and isn't as hot or teasing as I mistakenly thought. Ok so in the case of my ex and I, when we first started dating she’d never had a partnered orgasm and had a lot of difficulty orgasming alone. Turns out that the SNRI she’d been on for years had rendered her anorgasmic and switching meds basically opened the floodgates. For the first few weeks after, she’d become super sensitive if she came clitorally, and would require a sensory cooling off period before she could do anything else. But if we had intercourse she could orgasm multiple times and feel great (part of the trick is to keep loving your partner when they start coming. A lot of dudes see a woman orgasm and they think they’re done and they let off/pull out immediately without being told to do so and then the woman has a cramp and they have to cuddle for 20 minutes and- you see where this is going? Women don’t orgasm the way men do. Hell, transwomen on hormones don’t orgasm the way men do even if they have penises. Women tend not to need a big refractory period unless they become overstimulated). After a few weeks of that, things began to normalize. The number of orgasms she could have per night went down from like 11+ to 5 to 1-4 over the following months but her ability to jump from clitoral orgasm to vaginal or whatever also got way better. But for the most part, if she had too many exclusively clitoral orgasms she’d cramp up and get uncomfortable- and I’ve heard similar from other women. For the most part women aren’t lying when they say they want and enjoy penetrative sex. Otherwise why the gently caress would dildos exist? And, in general, women do tend to prefer sensory variety when it comes to stimulation. In the same way that you probably don’t want somebody to exclusively whail on your cockhead, women don’t like having purely external (and especially purely clitoral) stimulation. It sounds like you may be prioritizing clitoral stimulation at the expense of actually getting up into her biz. When you go down on her, do you go straight for the clit and stay there? Have you tried g-spot stimulation? Does she own any dildos or insertable vibes? If you haven’t watched many videos of actual women actually masturbating (not revenge porn) try doing that the next time you jerk off and see if there are any major technique differences between what they’re doing and you do. Maybe take notice when they put things inside themselves and consider modifying your approach.
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Kissing is a practiced skill and couples who kiss well a) have been doing it a while (either with each other or with other people) b)probably went through a period of a few days/weeks where they didn’t kiss optimally because they were figuring each other’s likes out and working out the choreography. Chances are you‘ll feel a lot better about it in short order. Stop overthinking it quite so much.
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Geoj posted:I've been tongue scraping for the better part of four years. The poo poo that comes off of your tongue (even if you've brushed it before) will make you question why this isn't taught to school children along side brushing and flossing. Same reason we don’t teach kids proper health or sex Ed. Because we’re thicker than pig poo poo to the point where some of us think it’s a virtue that we are.
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Vibrator Also, if you’re a penis haver try doing the things that would work for you. Sounds obvious but just in case.
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hoobajoo posted:I do, but it's a little different since he's cut and I'm not. I will try the vibrator though! I mean, unless you have phimosis or something that keeps you from directly touching the head it should still be pretty much the same aside from the obvious and maybe some sensitivity differences. Idk, I gotta get back into sexing dudes again.
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Johnny Truant posted:Hitachi Wand question: worth it to splurge for the cordless model? 1.5x the price has me hesitant.. Get the corded first, it’s more convenient and nothing sucks more than jumping into bed and handcuffing your partner before finding out that the vibe is dead. They’re cheap enough that if you decide later to get the cordless it’s not a crazy outlay. IMO $180 in hitachi>>>>$400 in fancier vibes
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Yeah but the corded is so cheap by comparison, and the only drawback is the cord. Like if 99% of the sex you have that would include the hitachi is in the house, or somewhere private where the like 8 foot cord will probably reach an outlet (or you can get an extension cord for like $4) then you’re loving set. The battery option on the magic wand is solving a problem that very few people really have. If you dream of taking your hitachi on a backpacking trip into the woods or a car ride there are better, more discrete options for less money.
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torgeaux posted:No, no, no. The cord is in the way. It's never a matter of reach. Once you use the cordless, you never want to mess with an electrical cord snaking around the bed. You sound like you’ve never tried bedroom bondage.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:I've never used any Hitachi version with my partner before, but we've also never used a corded toy together and that seems like an awkward mess just waiting to happen. Why wouldn't you get a cordless sex toy when given the choice???? It's just easier and more natural and allows for more organic situations in partnered play. 1) Given that you’ve never used one I think you might be basing a few things on presumption. The battery powered hitachi is not small, neither of them are. You’re vastly overstating how much of a chore the cord is when the handle is already like a foot and a half long and the vibrations are probably the strongest you’ll get in a toy next to something like a Sybian. You’re not going to discretely whip a cordless magic wand out of a purse and go to town. It’s honestly too powerful for a lot of people to just use all randomly anyway so you may want to keep it next to the bed regardless. 2) the price disparity between the two models is pretty big (like +110% the cost) and some goons have mentioned being on a tight budget and not being able to really splurge on toys. That extra $100-$120 gives you a marginal improvement in the experience of the wand, IMO, but it can buy you a fair amount of lube or other toys or underwear or a basic suite of bondage restraints or some nice date activities or a night in a hotel room or any number of other things that you could buy for $100-120. If you buy on sale/special you can get a wand + some battery-powered vibe with a remote or Bluetooth or iOS for the retail cost of a wireless magic wand. 3. The wand is really powerful. Have I mentioned that it’s really powerful? Some people don’t like that or are too sensitive or never get used to the wand. It’s better to experiment with the regular and then upgrade to the wireless down the road if you feel like you want it than to spend $200 on a vibe that you end up hating or not being able to comfortably use. And it’s really not uncommon for people to find even the “low” setting to be too much.
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argument aside, if you get one of the hitachi+rotary knob sets that are available everywhere (Amazon, Adam and Eve, extremerestraints, etc) be careful with the knob box and be prepared to toss it. When my ex and I ordered one a few years ago there was a promotion running that made the “kit” as expensive as (or maybe cheaper than) buying the wand on its own. The wand was legit but the dimmer box was a piece of nameless bottom-barrel garbage that had sharp unfinished edges and was literally shocking to use.
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Reread the recent Qubee question thread and decided that I didn’t actually do a great job of representing what I meant to say. So I’m taking another crack at it: If your cislady partner is too sensitive after oral/manual/foreplay for PIV then you’re probably focusing on one area too much, and that area is most likely the clitoris. Don’t attack the clitoris! A lot of dudes think that the clitoris is the be-all-end-all of women’s pleasure and zero in on it, when it’s actually really sensitive and should be one of the last things that gets directly touched during sex for many people. It’s not an orgasm nub that you just whale on to make Orgasm happen for Woman. Same thing with a lot of women’s nipples. Don’t just go for them right off the bat because they’re out there and accessible. Unless you like know what you’re doing but anyway, I digress. It’s like getting a super-aggressive handjob that begins and focuses exclusively on the bare cockhead. Oh wait, in the bondage scene we call that CBT. It’s a very intense and often overstimulating experience. With oral and manual try focusing on the other parts of the vulva or going in for a bit before incorporating the clit. It’s really evolved to derive sensation from general sexual activity- ie the whole vulva. When figuring out the basics of what your partner likes, aim to spread your attention around the whole vulva as an initial strategy. Then as they climb the ladder progressively focus more on the clit, especially if they tell you to. But it shouldn’t be the first thing you focus on or your only focus, and if it is then that’s probably why you’re overstimulating your girlfriend. Also I mentioned this before, but two of my exes would often get cramps from exclusively external stimulation or too many vibe orgasms without penetrative stimulation happening too. That may not be the norm, I don’t have my own vulva to give input on, but it’s prolly good to just maintain a policy of variety.
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gariig posted:Buy lube and use a little bit. Neither of you are failures if you need lube, it's completely normal. KY or whatever is at your local drug store is fine, you can head to a sex store later (or online) and buy better stuff if you want. Have fun, sex is awkward KY is poo poo and gently caress parabens and just do the minimal legwork to get some good poo poo. Order it online or whatever if you must
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Johnny Truant posted:I recommend buying a bigass thing of coconut oil and going to town, it's a magic lube. Doesn’t that start to smell really gross after a while?
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Geoj posted:If you find the scent of coconut gross.... No, I love (love) the smell of coconut and coconut oil. I’ve just had issues with the smell of certain plant-based and fancy lubes and I wonder if coconut oil would be even worse. They have a sweet smell which, as it mixes with the odor of bodies and used genitals and the fluids and substances that are produced therein, becomes a sickly-sweet smell as sex goes on. Idk, maybe I’m just being weird. If I get to sex the lady I’m dating I’ll look into giving it a shot.
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IUDs are great, I recommend them as much as it’s appropriate for me, a cis-dude, to do so. I’ll echo all of the points mentioned above, and yes- they can cause discomfort if they’ve shifted around/haven’t been placed well so she should talk to her Dr. if that feels like the case. Otherwise, are you just pounding her like you’re in a porno from the get-go? Just ramming it in without finesse? Maybe try easing in and going slowly and working up the speed/intensity as you go. Start gently.
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bowmore posted:I don’t think there is anything you can do to control her tightness, no OP, have you tried doing it in a sunken tub? Preferably one with pebbles around it?
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Sliquid is 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 although sometimes I find the smell cloying. Go with a thicker “plushier” one rather than a runnier “slipperier” one to start (or get both) I find it’s more versatile, easier to work with, and you’ll likely prefer it for butt stuff if you wanna do butt stuff.
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Just be careful with cheaper lube that has parabens in it as it can cause irritation in some people.
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SpaceViking posted:I've been having an infrequent but frustrating problem with condoms. When doing missionary, sometimes it feels like the condom has worn all of its lube off, and when that happens and I start to feel friction I lose my erection very quickly. It doesn't seem to happen at all in other positions we've tried, so I'm not sure if it's a position problem, a problem with the condoms themselves, or if i should just be putting more lube on the condom before we start. Any ideas? Condoms are always under-lubed (imagine how much more annoying they’d be to use if they weren’t) and the lube is usually lovely and full of parabens. Add some of your own.
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Qubee posted:Question for uncircumcised dudes (I guess circumcised guys can answer too): how easy are quickies for you? Like can you have sex that lasts <5 mins where you're able to actually finish just from intercourse? Yes? I mean it really depends on the situation- what we’re doing, whether I’ve jerked off a bunch recently or not, how tired I am, etc. I feel like maybe part of it is me getting older too. I also tend to go through phases, it seems- sometimes it’s much easier for me to finish quickly and to choose to do so, other times I’d like to last longer and can’t. And then I’ll go through periods where I can just make myself last indefinitely, but then also periods where I just go and go and would love to finish but have difficulty doing so. Honestly, the best thing I’ve found is to just keep having lots of sex and not worry so much if something does/doesn’t happen. If somebody finishes and the other needs manual attention as well then you take care of it.
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Qubee posted:I'm circumcised, so I used to use lube or just weirdly jerk the tip to get around the lack of foreskin. The entire concept of a quickie is beyond me. I can't cum fast no matter how turned on I am, I just gotta thrust away until I eventually hit climax. Which kinda sucks cause creampies are my poo poo, but 9 times out of 10 we finish me off with manual stimulation because I just get absolutely wrecked from how tiring it is. I thought it'd get better with time and laying off masturbation / porn, but I'm stuck in limbo and I guess this is my lot in life. Sometimes it takes weeks. Are you on any meds that might affect it? Do you work out?
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purple death ray posted:I wouldn't mind the porno terms if porno terms weren't consistently the absolute grossest words they could come up with
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Yes, don’t keep them in like a wallet or purse for weeks and weeks
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