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Marx Headroom posted:Can anyone point me towards resources on sub/dom stuff (safety, establishing boundaries, what's out there etc) that aren't weird and regressive? FetLife's only redeeming quality is that it makes finding your local groups and events relatively easy. You can just type in your city under the events tab and search from there. If you are looking for sub/dom relationship resources, I would check to see if you have a local M.A.s.T. chapter at https://www.mast.net/chapters.php. Even if you are not looking for a 24/7 D/s relationship, these would be the people who could point you in the right direction of what you want. I also have a lot of non-fiction book recommendations on the subject of D/s relationships if anyone is curious.
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eSporks posted:I'm very curious about poly relationships and I'm wondering if anyone could point to some good books. I'm particularly interested in books that go into advice on handling the emotional aspect and boundaries in the relationship. I'd like to have a bit of a roadmap and some tools before understanding if its right for me. On top of the other recommendations, you might want to try The Polyamory Toolkit: A Guidebook for Polyamorous Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams.
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StrixNebulosa posted:I think if I could delete any US law I'd start by deleting FESTA/SOSTA. There are others, but like... I wish there was a safe, legal way for people to get together and make money selling pictures of their feet. Or whatever they want to sell. Just a reminder that the Woodhull Foundation is currently fighting FESTA/SOSTA in court. They do a lot of work to advocate for sexual freedom and sex workers. https://www.woodhullfoundation.org/
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If anyone is in the LA area. The Geffen Contemporary at MOCA will have a month-long residency called KINK OUT: Ephemera. This will include roughly half of the Carter/Johnson Library as an exhibit. The Carter/Johnson Library is a collection of BDSM/Leather history, books and art. This includes a number of rare books, photos and art going back to the 1700s. On September 9th, Viola Johnson the founder and head librarian will be there and on September 30th with her wife Jill Carter. Vi Johnson and Jill Carter are icons in the Leather community, this is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to hear and meet them. I highly recommend visiting the Carter Johnson Library if you have the ability. As someone who is openly kinky and leather, I'm constantly told that I am sick, wrong, I should be ashamed and I am unworthy of God's love. Being in the Library is a reminder that I am not alone, I have history, culture and most importantly family.
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I'm not a fan of Erica's work either. However, Erica has been open that they suffer from immense mental illness to the point that they are seeking outpatient therapy. So I feel it's best to give them a wide breadth.
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more falafel please posted:You mention Fetlife and BDSM -- have you tried going to events in your local kink scene? Fetlife's not a dating site, correct, but it is the de facto repository of all the events you can go to to meet people you might want to date. Keep in mind that munches, classes, etc are also not meat markets, they're meetups. I'd also recommend checking our your local kink scene. Instead of trying to find someone through a dating app, your in a more sex positive social group that should be more tolerant towards your desires of "Anal and BDSM." Kink has to be negotiated and part of that negotiating is expressing what you want. Again, you have to treat it like a social group and not a meat market, but you can find causal or long term sexual partners. There are also national BDSM conferences and events that will have whiteboards for you to put up "I'm looking for anal and enthusiastic blowjobs" and you can find people who are into that.
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You guys seem to be interested in actual sex research, so I'd like to mention the Science of BDSM research team. I've had the pleasure of meeting them and attending some of their presentations and they are all really great people. Also all of their articles and data are free to read on their website. As for incest kink; I think it's a fairly common kink it's just that in the past 10 years more people feel comfortable expressing it online through memes and poo poo.
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two fish posted:That's a good question. I would definitely say they're adjacent to it at a bare minimum, with some unidentified proportion of that community actually being full-on zoophiles. Someone should really do a study on them. They're incredibly poorly studied for how long they've been around as a social group. I just did a quick google search and found over ten years' worth of furry research papers. I don't know how much of this involves furries' sex lives, but people are studying furries and their social groups. I only know a few furries and I'm not involved in their communities. But when I've talked to them it's been more about taking on a different personality and body than being on the bestiality spectrum. This also applies to people who engage in pupplay or ponyplay.
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