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FAUXTON posted:Those cigars aren't for the sex. What size condom should you put over a cigar when it is for the sex?
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Qubee posted:Interested in butt plugs. For two people who've never used them, how do you even get it in with the least amount of discomfort? I think it'd be really hot for her to use and she's keen on the idea, but I'd rather push it off until I'm 100% sure it's gonna be a really nice experience for her, instead of both of us fumbling around figuring it out and causing her some discomfort. Also, prep beforehand etc. what do you all recommend? It's also worth noting that butt plugs range in size from about as big as your finger right up to and exceeding the plug that created goatse. Start on the smaller end of that spectrum.
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If you search around, you can find the complete photo set from which the goatse pic was taken. It's been a while since I saw it, but there was definitely one of that size.
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purple death ray posted:I'm not saying there wasn't one of the appropriate size, I'm just saying let's not forget the smaller plugs that paved the way. Goatse was a team effort and the last guy over the finish line shouldn't get all the credit For sure! My recollection from the photos is that there was only one smaller one, though. That was one highly trained anus. And back to my advice to OP: start very small and work your way up!
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Look at all these noobs who don't know that you adjust the seat height and size your entire bike so your bits will never slam on the top tube. Step through frames are bullshit to allow people to ride with long skirts, which is also bullshit because long skirts get caught in the chainrings. Also bicycles were the reason women are now allowed to wear pants. Look it up, it's true.
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AngryRobotsInc posted:To be fair, they're also good for people like me, who have somewhat limited mobility. My hip joints are kind of hosed, and while I can walk and bike well enough, it can be difficult for me to get my leg over a diamond frame. Oh yeah fair enough. You could also try a recumbent.
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KillHour posted:What people do with their bicycles in the privacy of their own homes is none of your business. Except that guy in the UK who got caught loving a bicycle in a hotel room, apparently. They put him on the sex offenders' register.
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silvergoose posted:On that topic, Good Vibrations is including an Anal August survey in their marketing emails this month and it's pretty funny. Their emails have got to be the only marketing emails in my promotions folder I actually click on though. This seems like one of the more appropriate posts for 
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The alt.sex.bondage FAQ is getting kinda old (it's from the 90s!) but still a good resource: https://www.datapacrat.com/True/BOOMFUN/ASBFAQ_1.HTM Things have moved a lot further in terms of active consent since then, but it's good for background. Seriously, though, just talk to your new partner about what she's into, and what of that you'd be into. Maybe what she wants/needs is stuff you'd be into, or at least willing to indulge her in. If needle-play freaks you out, then reading about the full depth and breadth of the BDSM world may not be a recipe for good mental wellbeing.
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I think it's good, giving, game. Generous and giving are kinda redundant. The good is to imply "spends some time working on skills".
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Turtlicious posted:LMao if you're not in a committed relationship with an asexual so you have to find increasingly dark and forbidden tomes to get yourself off Obscure Oglaf reference spotted.
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Qubee posted:I didn't have a meltdown, come on man. No, no. He said "dick meltdown", as in your dick is melting down, not as in you're melting down about your dick. You have, since then, melted down about your dick. But bleh, I'm about 50/50 on this being another Avshslom gimmick-alt.
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Sex Questions Megathread III: Please shut the gently caress up about your dick
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I'm not a clinician, but nicotine is a vasoconstricter, and erections depend on blood flow, so cutting out smoking could help. But ... you should definitely be talking to your doctor about this. They can at least rule out physiological issues.
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Work masturbation (and/or sex if you're partnered) into your daily schedule and use more lube? More seriously, if you have persistent and unwanted arousal, talk to a doctor. A pelvic floor physiotherapist might also be able to help if there's a physiological component.
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Rabbit? It's a tried and tested brand, and the clitoral vibrator is separate so it can be turned off.
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chaser lowtax posted:hi Maybe see a sex therapist who specializes in trans issues? Both you and your partner sound like you have some major hangups around sex that greatly reduce the range of ways you can enjoy yourselves.
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Its Chocolate posted:thanks for your answer, although I don't know if it's completely satisfactory If there is a genetic association, it's almost certainly a complex trait, meaning it would need a very large study cohort to find it. Digging around in some databases, the only associations I could find were based on congenital disorders where a whole lot of things went wrong. Often the driver gene is a regulator that's present and active in most cells in the body, like ESCO2 or KAT6B, such that disruption of the gene disrupts pretty much everything. http://amp.pharm.mssm.edu/Harmonizome/gene_set/enlarged+labia+minora/HPO+Gene-Disease+Associations https://hpo.jax.org/app/browse/term/HP:0008683 Anyway, the easy way to get an answer to your question would be to raise a few million dollars and use that to give out research grants to scientists to work on the problem.
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Maybe also try probiotics? It sounds like the evidence isn't bulletproof yet, but there are strong suggestions they can help. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16827601 Obviously also wash your hands before touching her genitals. Same for any object after it has touched a butthole.
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Ok Comboomer posted:Don’t use coconut oil or coconut butter or coconut purée or anything made out of food as lube I dunno -- in general coconut oil makes pretty good lube (including for administering cannabis), but for sure it'd be a good thing to try to cut out if there are recurrent UTI issues. But yeah, I wouldn't use coconut butter or puree or whatever. Also coconut oil is definitely not compatible with condoms.
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Ok Comboomer posted:the combined smell and taste of coconut oil with well-churned sex bits/fluids makes me physically ill, but yeah specifically I was calling out the possible UTI relationship. You can get the refined coconut oil that has no taste/smell. It's used as a butter substitute in vegan baking and as a general-purpose cooking oil. mllaneza posted:To paraphrase a noted pervert, use lubes that taste good. A lot of the (most?) water-based lubes contain glycerine, which tastes sweet. You can get flavoured lube, but in my experience it's got some pretty nasty-tasting artificial flavourants.
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KillHour posted:"I am an adult now. I have two towels - one for showering and one covered in lube stains!" Realtalk though, sex towels are super useful. Use them when there'll be lube everywhere. Use them when one or more participants will be menstruating, or have postpartum discharge. Use them when you're having sex in someone's currently-empty chill space at Burning Man because you're not an rear end in a top hat who'll leave fluids all over their stuff. Also, you can sing this to your partner (or yourself!) Sex towel Sex towel You're my sex towel Babe you make me horny Horny like an owl 
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SnatchRabbit posted:Not as of yet, but we have talked about it. We are each in therapy separately, I was going to ask my therapist if there is anyone they can recommend. Yeah breakup thread is a great resource. And couples counselling is always a good idea in this situation. Maybe you figure out that you can make things work. Maybe you figure out that divorce is the best path. Either way you have a neutral third party mediating and making sure you're both on the same page, and there really is no downside to that.
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Also the two acronyms to search for are SSC (safe, sane, consensual) and RACK (risk-aware consensual kink). There are philosophical differences, but you should find good resources associated with both.
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FWIW I'm not seeing any bad decisions there. It sounds like you're all communicating and being respectful of each other's boundaries. The challenges you're facing are: 1) You're not feeling sexual post-partum, but you feel like you should be. 2) You feel like you should be wanting to have sex with your friend, but you don't. These are rooted in things you're feeling, not in decisions you've made, and there are no "wrong" feelings. For 1), the question is whether you're happy with your current level of sexual desire (ie you are asexual, which is totally OK), or whether it's something you want to work on. If you figure out you're asexual, then you need to talk with your husband about how your relationship will work, how you'll maintain intimacy in non-sexual ways, what your boundaries are around him finding sexual gratification, etc. If it's something you want to work on, it might be a good idea to look for a therapist who specializes in post-partum sex stuff. Also, here's an article with generally good information: https://www.allure.com/story/low-postpartum-sex-drive-or-hsdd For 2), it sounds like you need to talk through your trust issues with your friend, and try to re-build some trust. If she's being intimate with your husband, and you're relying on them to abide by the boundaries you've set, you will really need to do this. And, maybe you're just not sexually attracted to her in particular, which is totally OK? Also it sounds like you have some past trauma around group sex and open relationships, so it's probably a good idea to talk through that and have a lot of check-ins with your husband and friend. (I'm sure you're probably doing that?) And maybe group sex just isn't for you, which is also OK? Either way, you're not doing anything wrong, and it's OK to not want a threesome with your friend even if it's something you fantasized about years ago.
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Nessa posted:I’ve never fantasized about being with this particular friend, but rather just a threesome with another girl who I liked and trusted as I’ve never had an opportunity to explore my bisexuality before. One suddenly falls into my lap and now I don’t want it? Am I even bi like I thought I was? So there's this heteronormative fallacy that folks who are attracted to folks of the same gender are by default attracted to everyone of that gender. Being bi doesn't mean that you're attracted to every woman. And not feeling sexually attracted to your friend just means you're not attracted to her in particular. It does not in any way preclude you from being bi. Also it's great to have an abstract fantasy about having a bi threesome, and be interested in trying one if the right situation arises. But it's a bad idea to try to force having one with people you don't find sexually attractive just because the opportunity has come up. That is not a recipe for a fun time. So by saying no to the threesome, you did right by yourself. You honoured your feelings and held your boundaries. Seriously. You should pat yourself on the back or something.
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Yeah stress and distraction are pretty solid orgasm killers for most people. If you're worried about your dog, and about coming too soon, and any other crap, it will be harder to come.
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Yeah I've definitely known people with girthier-than-average penises for whom the "standard" size was way too tight. But probably 80% or more of penises will fit fine in regular-sized condoms.
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Good on you for being responsible about being tested, and on your sexual partner for contacting you about it. And for what it's worth, I'm pretty sure chlamydia is an antibiotics-and-done STI, so even if you did pick it up, it's really only a temporary inconvenience.
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credburn posted:...should I bring snacks...? The fact that you're asking this question of the Something Awful Forums, rather than the host of your orgy, raises questions about the assertion below: credburn posted:Like, I know to communicate Also lol, what do you mean by "orgy"? Is it five friends getting together to gently caress for someone's birthday? A sex club? A sex party at someone's house? A dance party with a gently caress space but most people are actually just there for the dancing/hanging out? A naked buffet party?
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Just to echo what OK Comboomer said, going to an orgy with people you've never met who invited a ton of randos from the internet to their home is probably a bad idea.
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Probably   Also lol, not really, I just find it funny that you find these absurdly awkward looking ones.
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Laserface posted:Im sleeping with a woman that is a squirter. Pretty sure it's not usually pee. But there was an Ask/Tell thread by a guy in the porn industry who said that in porn it mostly is pee, because that's just an easier way to have it "happen" reliably on camera. Re: OnlyFans, my impression is that, like any internet side -hustle, it takes a lot of work doing self-promo, plus you need some skill and equipment for producing photos/videos. That said, if you're looking to do a low-commitment "couple having natural-looking sex" thing, I've heard good things about Lustery. Oh and also give a thought to your future. The way someone once put it to me is that having your nudes all over the internet is like getting a facial tattoo. It can be cool and empowering, but it will definitely close some doors for you career-wise.
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The thing I'd worry about with Amazon is getting counterfeit goods. I don't know if toys come with some proof of authenticity, but if not I'd be super cautious.
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RFC2324 posted:Lovense hush if you wanna pay out the nose. I have some wonderful stories that aren't forums appropriate 
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wakka wakka posted:Does it help your chess game? I mean, the pieces do have flared bases.
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Grassy Knowles posted:I’ve definitely eaten daves insanity and forgot to brush before going down on a partner. I felt terrible but I bet they felt worse. Title text/post combo.
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There's also a whole thing around osmolality of (water-based) lubes. A lot of lubes can draw water out of sensitive skin by osmotic pressure, making it more prone to damage. Also vaginal pH is fairly acidic, while rectal pH is neutral, so you ideally want a different lube for each, with roughly the correct pH. There's a whole lot of  in the below article from the WHO, including a table of a bunch of lubes they tested (most of which have way too high osmolality).https://apps.who.int/iris/bitstream/handle/10665/76580/WHO_RHR_12.33_eng.pdf I believe some of the better lubes now have osmolality and pH values you can look up.
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whydirt posted:That’s interesting but without any data on the relative risk of the different water/based lubes or providing a list of brands that fit their criteria I’m not sure how useful it is. They advise against any lube with >1200 mOsm/kg and provide a table at the end of the document with osmolalities for a range of popular brands. Here's another post gathering together some tables from various studies: https://womensvoices.org/osmolality-ph-properties-commercial-lubricants/ e.g. Sliquid Organic has a really low osmolality (106 mOsm/kg) which is great, but a fairly neutral pH, so probably better suited to butt than vaginal use. edit: actually, on Googling, here's someone who went and tested a whole bunch of lubes and then categorized them according to the WHO criteria in that guidance I posted: https://phallophilereviews.com/ph-balanced-lubricant-guide-safety/#Complete_pH_Osmolality_Ratings Lead out in cuffs fucked around with this message at 19:35 on Jul 19, 2023 |
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Yeah my impressions from friends are similar. Also that it has all of the obstacles involved in becoming a successful content creator, ie that things are so competitive you need a ton of free time and/or money to get established. Ie it may not actually be the best/easiest thing to do as a way to get out of a bad financial situation.
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