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Nintendo Kid
Aug 4, 2011

Trophy-ko says:
~death to capitalism~

Hilalry is 45


WELCOME
Everybody is welcome in this thread! This includes trans* people, cis people, gender-nonconforming people, genderfuck people, people with intersex conditions, cross dressers, binary and non-binary identified, drag performers, and everyone else no matter your gender identity, expression, or sexual orientation.

If you need to contact me, email me at fishmech@gmail.com or pm me on here.

In the past, TMT threads were started as Ask/Tell threads but they eventually grew into places where trans people could talk about their experiences and questioning people could vent their frustrations and learn. I want to keep this thread as newbie-friendly as possible so I'll be adding frequently asked questions and resources to the OP as they come up.

Trans Lifeline - (877) 565-8860 - Transgender Crisis Hotline http://www.translifeline.org/

Disclaimer: Any posts made within this thread are viewable to the public at large including groups of people who will repost images/comments you make and possibly seek out other real life info linked to your nickname.

PREVIOUS THREADS

TERMS
There's a lot of jargon in the trans community and sometimes not a lot of agreement between trans people on what some of it means. If anyone in this thread wants to offer additional terms to add to this list, or revisions to what's here, let's talk about it in the thread or over PM.
  • Transgender - An umbrella term that includes those identities, conditions, or activities that transgress normative gender or sex, either socially, medically, or mentally.
  • Transsexual - Someone whose subconscious sex is not the same as their assigned sex.
  • Subconscious Sex - Another term for gender identity (which is not the same as the term gender in a feminist context). It is the mental or subconscious phenomenon that encompasses your internal experience of your gender and/or sex. Everyone has this, not just trans people.
  • Gender - In a discussion on trans issues this usually means "subconscious sex" or "gender identity". In a feminist sense this is referring to the socialized roles of men/women based on their male/female sex identification. Try not to conflate the two meanings (please?).
  • Assigned Sex - This is the term you're looking for if you're typing the words "biological sex" or "genetic sex" or "real sex" or "birth sex" or any of a hundred other things. This is the sex that is typically assigned to you by a doctor at your birth.
  • Sexual Orientation - Who you are attracted to. Everyone has a sexual orientation just like everyone has a gender identity.
  • Trans - There is some debate over Transgender vs. Transsexual, so to avoid that stupid poo poo, a lot of people just use trans.
  • Cis - Simply a word meaning not-trans. An easy parallel is homosexual vs. heterosexual. You can be totally awesome and avoid othering trans people when talking about non-trans people by using the word cis. So please use cis to mean non-trans! It's a great word
  • Trans Woman - A trans person whose gender identity is female.
  • Trans Man - A trans person whose gender identity is male.
  • Genderqueer - Anyone who identifies outside the gender-binary (man vs. woman). If you don't know what pronouns to use, please ask them.
  • Blending - An alternative word for passing without the racist connotations. If someone blends, then they are successfully navigating the world as their gender without standing out as trans. People do this in order to mitigate gender dysphoria, not to reinforce gender stereotypes.
  • Conditional Cis Privilege - A description of blending/passing from a trans-feminist perspective. Blending is being granted conditional cis privilege. It's conditional because it can be taken away if someone learns of your trans status.
  • Gender Dysphoria - That horrible sensation of being trans that prompts many people to either transition or, sadly, commit self-harm or suicide. If I knew how to describe the sensation then I would but I can't and I've never heard of someone successfully conveying to a cis person what it feels like.

RULES
Please try to have some common courtesy when asking questions. There are tons of trans people on SA that are perfectly willing to answer your questions, but just be mindful that cis-privileged bullshit and stereotypes will probably offend us. Duh. For example, asking me to seriously consider the views of FOX News contributor Keith Ablow will probably piss me off. So don't do it! Don't ask personal questions or feel like you have the right to know someone's medical history. Surgery is a personal decision and you are not allowed to demand that anyone disclose anything they don't want to. There are lots of people that will freely discuss surgery and highly personal issues, but that is their choice. And try to avoid "debating" with obvious trolls. These threads have a history of attracting horrible trolls (on both sides) and nothing is served by multipage derails about poo poo that only you care about.

MODS? MODS?
We are sick of drama arising from this thread. We would like it to be a valuable, reliable resource for the trans community and honest questions from cis folks. We would also rather see it go away if it becomes a constant source of poo poo. Sure, individual idiots will be probated and banned (and you know who you are), but we encourage all of you to contribute to a positive, helpful tone in the thread. If you really can't manage that, just don't post.

Expect harsh penalties for idiocy in this thread. Thank you, back to the thread.

FAQ
This section is broken up into general questions, questions about trans men, questions about trans women, and then questions from the questioning. If anyone has any suggestions for things to add to this section, feel free to contribute and I'll add it.

Q: "What does 'transgender' mean? Who is considered trans?"
A: The exact meanings of the terms like “transgender” and “transsexual” are hotly debated with constantly shifting goalposts based off of politics and ideologies. For the purposes of this thread, all gender-nonconforming people can and should be allowed to participate with the obvious caveat that, for example, a cisgendered drag performer not claim to speak for the experiences of all transgender people or vice versa. There are tons of great quotes from current and no-longer-posting TMT posters about what transgender and transsexual means to them. If you're interested you should definitely check out some of the previous TMT OPs.

Q: "Is there a right way to be trans?"
A: NO! If you are questioning and your personal experience does not mesh with many of the posts in this thread, do not despair. Everyone comes to terms with their gender, sexuality, and expression in their own way and on their own terms.

Q: "What about disclosure?" AKA, the "Which bathrooms do they use?!?" question.
A: It's none of your loving business! Disclosure is a tremendously complex subject and trans people feel pressure from all directions to conform to one standard or the other. But it's their loving choice. You do not get to demand or expect disclosure, ever. It's their personal medical history and you do not have a right to it if they don't want to share it. End of story.

Every trans person decides for themselves when and where and how they disclose their trans status and/or aspects of their medical history. It's their personal choice and if you're curious about why they make particular choices then feel free to ask, but don't judge them if they don't want to answer or you don't like their answer.

Q: "Should someone be out or stealth?"
A: It's none of your loving business! Stealth, if you don't already know, is when a trans person decides to live their life mostly never disclosing to people about their trans status. Or maybe they don't disclose to their friends but they do disclose to their partner. Or maybe they don't disclose to most people but are ok disclosing to some friends. Whatever. It's their decision how they want to play it. Out trans people are not being more honest than stealth trans people, and stealth people are not "abandoning" their out brothers and sisters by being stealth.

Q: "I know next to nothing about transgendered folk and had a couple of questions, and I’m a bit nervous about asking a dumb/rude question but was reassured by the OP... until I found that the answer to the 3rd and 4th FAQ question is 'None of your loving business!' Can I suggest you modify the OP slightly?"
A: Yes, you can! The thrust of those answers is this: Don't ask individual people about personal medical issues like their surgical status, and don't dictate or ask leading questions about the "right" way to cope with the social issues that come with being trans. If your question isn't doing any of those things, you're probably OK to ask it. All we're asking for is a bit of mutual respect here.

Q: "Is self medication safe?"
A: This is up to an individual to decide for themselves. However, it would definitely be best to get medical supervision even if your are self medding just in case something rare comes up. If you can see a endocrinologist, that's even better.

FTM
Q: "What kinds of hormones are involved?"
A: Testosterone, and only testosterone. Testosterone is the main male sex hormone. There are several methods of administration for testosterone:
  • Intramuscular injection: stabbing yourself (or having someone stab you, you pussy) in the leg, butt, or shoulder muscle and filling you full of man juice.
  • Subcutaneous injection: stabbing yourself in the butt or belly fat with a much smaller needle and filling you full of man juice. (NOTE: Still fairly experimental)
  • Dermal absorption: rubbing on a cream or wearing a patch full of man juice.
Q: "What can I expect out of hormones?"
A: The effect of testosterone depends partially on the person - if you're Asian or Native American, you probably shouldn't expect much body hair, but Italians can break out the gold chains to nestle into your new fur sweater! But here's an overview of some effects that will definitely happen:
  • Clitoral growth - some have reported penetrative ability, though most will achieve no more than an inch or two at maximum. *
  • Increased aggression.
  • Increased muscle mass and ability to build muscle.
  • Facial and body hair growth. *
  • Lengthening of vocal cords - your voice will drop. *
  • Fat redistribution away from hips, thighs, face, and other areas to belly.
  • Increased sex drive.
  • Cessation of menstruation HELL YEAH
  • Decreased vaginal lubrication.
And here are a few things that MIGHT happen:
  • Male pattern baldness! If your mom's brothers are balding, you might want to get an early start on the Rogaine. *
  • Acne! This is basically a second puberty, including greasiness. If you had it bad the first time around, you'll probably get a repeat, unfortunately.
  • Increased blood pressure, cholesterol, and/or chance of heart disease.
  • Sterility - this is not well-studied, and T is NOT birth control! Please have safe sex!
  • Increased incidence of ovarian or uterine cysts or cancer, if you've still got those bits.
  • Decreased good cholesterol, increased bad cholesterol.
  • Different-smelling body odor. :???:
  • Appearance of adam's apple.
  • Reduced appearance of aging.
* The items above marked with an asterisk are permanent effects and will not go away if you stop taking T.

Finally, a few things that will not happen:
  • Growth of penis and/or testicles.
  • Disappearance of breast tissue.
  • Foot or hand size increase.
  • Genetic switch from XX to XY.
  • Sudden interest in or knowledge of sports, tools, NASCAR, beer, guns, engines, or World War II.

There is also an alternative to testosterone, referred to as "natural transitioning," called DHEA. I don't know a thing about it, other than it exists apparently in the UK.

Q: "How does binding work?"
A: Binding is the practice of flattening and hiding one's breasts to create the appearance of a flat chest. In short, it hurts and is really uncomfortable. While it won't do you any permanent or seriously hurtful damage, it can leave marks that take a while to disappear, and over time your breast tissue will degrade and become saggier. If you're planning to get top surgery, that's obviously not a problem, but if you're unsure, you might not want to bind every day or too tightly. There are several methods of binding, some more effective than others, but the size of your chest is the real limiting factor. Some guys can just wear a sports bra and be passing as a 12-year-old in no time, and some guys can wear two commercial binders and still not convince anyone. Let's go through some possibilities:
  • Tape of any kind: No. Do not pass go, do not rip off your nipples.
  • Ace bandages: Not great. Tend to fall down a lot if you're bigger than an A, and you can't get it that tightly wound by yourself. Also very difficult to fix effectively if it does slip. That said, this is likely the most widely accessible option due to price and availability. Furthermore, Ace bandages are meant to immobilize joints, so the Ace bandage will get progressively tighter if it doesn't slip. I have heard stories of rib injuries.
  • Frog bra: Some kind of super-sports-bra, this is supposedly great for smaller guys.
  • Neooprene back braces: These are those squishy blue things you see in the pharmacy. You can velcro it around your chest instead of around your lower back and it works pretty well, but it WILL make you sweat, since neoprene doesn't breathe at all. Powder will minimize risk of heat rash if you go this route.
  • Compression vests: There are two main companies that make these things - T-Kingdom and Underworks. They're basically sleeveless vests that you wear under your clothes that crush your manboobs as close to your body as possible. They are quite powerful, but also quite expensive. T-Kingdom has a good guide to buying these, but at Underworks you'll probably want either this or this (or both, if you're really big or anal retentive).
Those are the most typical ways. For more in-depth exploration of binding, go to http://www.ftmguide.org/binding.html and you'll find a whole lot of info. The main tip for binding well is to always push them down and out, towards your armpits. This will help them look more like pecs and less like horrible deformities.

Finally, there is a program called Big Brothers that allows trans guys, post-top surgery, to pass their old binders along to other guys who can't necessarily afford new ones. There's a small cost, but it's much cheaper than buying new. CK07 has passed along some of his old binders specifically to goons as well, and may find more as time goes on - watch the thread for updates!

Q: "What sorts of things do I need to bring with me for top surgery?"
A: Goatface Killa posted a list of useful things following his surgery.

MTF
Q: "Do I have autogynephilia?"
No. No one does. It's not a real thing. You don't have it. Read more here: http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/autogynephilia.html

Q: "What kinds of hormones are involved?"
A:It depends on the person, but typically you're looking at some combination of the following. Anti-androgens suppress the male hormone testosterone and cease masculinization of the body. Spironolactone specifically also has the effect of being a form of anti-acne medication (and is actually marketed as such for cis women). Estradiol is the main female sex hormone, which is in all regiments of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for trans women. Progesterone has dubious advantages and disadvantages. As of this posting, the Sherbourne Health Centre's HRT Protocol does not include progesterone as a viable component of HRT.

The main reason why anti-androgens are used is because it allows estrogen to feminize the body more easily, without having to fight testosterone for the same amount of space and function. Without anti-androgens, high amounts of estrogens must be prescribed. High amounts of oral estrogens can cause blood clotting, cancers, and so on. While AA's aren't perfect, their side effects and potential damaging effects are far less than overloading on estrogens. And on the plus side, AA's also bring testosterone levels to normal female amounts.

Typically, the following dosages are used.
  • Spironolactone 100-200mg (typically 50mg or 100mg twice daily) OR Androcur 50mg-100mg.
  • Estradiol 2-4mg (once daily) or Premarin 4-5mg (once daily)
  • Progesterone 100mg (once daily) (optional/not recommended)
Hormones such as this are typically taken in pill form, although estrogen can also be taken as an injection into the muscles of the butt or leg every seven to ten days.

If one has not undergone the "wrong" puberty, or wishes to shut down a currently-ongoing puberty, drugs such as Lupron can be taken (again, injection) to essentially shut off the hormone-regulating functions of the brain, therefore ceasing puberty before more damage can be done. “Puberty blockers” as they're known are generally not useful for any trans person over the age of 18 or 19, and instead anti-androgens should be used for trans women.

Q: "What can I expect out of hormones?"
A: It depends on the person. Some of the most noticeable (and nigh-universal) effects of female sex hormones and anti-androgens on male-bodied persons are:
  • Much softer skin texture
  • Decrease and eventual elimination of male sex drive and the development of a female sex drive
  • Slower-growing (although not disappearing) body hair
  • Reduction in acne
Depending on age, build, and genetics, the following may also happen:
  • Breast growth (final size and shape dependent heavily on genetics, body fat index, body shape)
  • Lactation (got milk)
  • Puffier cheeks
  • Redistribution of fat to chest, hips, thighs, face and arms
  • Greatly reduced muscle mass/enhanced female-type muscle tone
  • Reduced penile tissue (it's gonna get smaller)
  • Reduced gonadal function (nothings gonna come out anymore, also sterility (although estrogen is NOT birth control - some girls never get completely sterile before an orchi or SRS; please have safe sex))
What will not happen is the following:
  • Bone structure will not change unless started through puberty (hips, face, frame, etc. do not change)* (note below)
  • Voice will not go higher (it will need to be trained)
  • You will still have to shave (and undergo Laser or Electrolysis to epilate the hairs permanently)
  • Your genetics will not convert from XY to XX
  • Your testicles and penis will not fall off
  • You will not grow ovaries and/or a vagina
* While bone structure may not change, fat and muscle redistribution over time may make the hips, chest, face, etc. take on a more feminine shape, especially if one has started in their late teens through to their mid-to-late 20's. Hips may appear more girly, you might start developing the right curves, and so on, over the course of a year or two. While these possible effects go down over time, you'll only start facing real problems if you begin over the age of 35-36.

Some of the bad effects:
  • Spironolactone is a diuretic, which means you will pee a lot more than usual.
  • Salt intake will also be a bit hosed with Spiro, and will most likely require you to eat more salty things.
  • Potassium may spike with Spiro.
  • Occasional mood swings on Estrogen, although no where near as bad as if you were on Progesterone as well.
  • Water retention levels will go up and down even while on Spiro because of E. Welcome to being a woman!
  • Your breasts will hurt. A lot.
  • Your testicles may or may not be in occasional pain. This is either hit or miss for most people: some get it, some don't.
Q: "What will happen to my sex drive?"
A: The female sex drive is very different than the male sex drive. As opposed to it being “always on,” it takes more time to work up to a full erection or to be aroused in general. Sex is often less “rushed” and the orgasm doesn't become the centre-piece of the sexual act. Orgasm becomes something of a full-body experience, ranging from slightly more intense than a male orgasm to extremely intense and mind-blowing, depending on how well the body takes to it and how well the body was stimulated before hand.

You most likely will still be able to get erections with a female sex drive, and your interests generally won't change too dramatically. The #1 sex organ is the brain. Estrogen might make you like certain things more than you thought possible (smelling the scent off of a boy will be very interesting the first time you do it, especially if you consider yourself to be lesbian).

Q: "What about tucking?"
A: Tucking is essentially cramming your junk downwards and wearing two pairs of elasticated panties over them. It can be very difficult for those of us who are well-endowed, but it gets easier over time. There are hyper-advanced methods of tucking, but essentially the easiest way to do it is to simply get panties with elasticated crotch areas and just shove it all down and towards the back. You might have to adjust it through the day, but it beats the poo poo out of wearing a gaff or taping/gluing () your junk.

Q: "Do you have any tips for voice training?"

-Sing! Start with falsetto until you are comfortable with higher ranges. This will help train your flexibility as well.

-Consider developing a pseudo-accent at first. It somehow helped me to overly affect a bit of my latent country-girl twang while I was training

-This Stuff and some honey works really, really well to treat soreness.

Don't give up! After a few months it should start getting easier; after a year you probably wont even think about it.

Also, check out this post (archives required) (pastebin copy here) for lots of helpful information.

There's also a FREE, EASY program to help with your voice. I haven't used it myself, but MageMage says that it's better than human advice. Try it for like 6 weeks and see if it helps: Voicetutor.

Spindrift posted:

I can confirm that that program works very well. I used the audio exercise CD (titled "Finding Your Female Voice") she made and it really gets the point across if you pay careful attention and do what she is describing. It's on iTunes for $10, but it's a little lacking in instruction since it's meant to accompany the DVD that does most of the talking. The DVD she has helps with explaining certain things, and while I realize there's tons of free info on this topic online, if you're willing to pay $25 for it you probably won't regret the purchase.

Q: "What do I wear?!?"
The problem with writing universal women's fashion tips for anyone is that it is 100% subjective. Some trans women like being butch, or butch-y, or androgynously butch, or straight-up androgynous, or androgynously femme, or femme-y, or femme, and so on and so on. To go for any “universal” look is nigh-impossible. There are, however, some basic guidelines.

Don't be afraid to show skin. Start shaving your body parts like your arms, and show them off. Don't hide your body shape even if it isn't particularly feminine – female clothing can and will accentuate the feminine aspects of your body shape, even if you're convinced you have none. Masculine and feminine body shapes aren't a binary dichotomy, so don't be extremely concerned with that – many cis women have narrow hips and broad shoulders and they get by just fine.
Don't hardline to an ultra-conservative matron. It's a common practice for trans women to want to wear tons of layers and long skirts or baggy pants to hide their bodies. A lot of this has to do with our innate body dysphoria. Try to ease off of that and show more skin, and more importantly, dress more like other girls around you. If you're a 20-something girl living in a big city, you'll typically see girls wearing t-shirts or blouses during the summer that show off their arms. Don't start loafing around in a giant loving turtleneck sweater during the middle of July. It looks silly and brings attention to yourself.
You're not ugly. Shut the gently caress up. While experimenting with stuff, you might find looks that kinda-sorta work, but not really. But go with it. Every trans girl has horrible wardrobe mistakes in their pasts that they look back on and proceed to place their hands over their faces for. Don't worry about it. You're practically growing up again so just have fun and learn from the mistakes.

At the end of the day, you'll get better advice showing a picture to other people rather than just reading a guide. You can contact one of the SUPERFRIENDS to get some fashion advice, or possibly go on IRC for it, but please don't post nude pictures to either set of people or places unannounced! If you really want to post a picture in here, you can, but be aware that everybody on this site can see it and there's a whole bunch of creepos who will repost it elsewhere. I suggest you're best off finding friends whose style you already like and asking them what they think of your outfit.

??QUESTIONING??
Q: "I can't seem to find any gender specialists/therapists in my area, what do I do?"
A: You don't have to find a gender specialist. A good therapist is many orders of magnitudes more helpful than a mediocre or poor gender specialist, and usually easier to find.

Q: "I think I might be trans but I’m not so sure about hormones/surgery/transition/etc. Does that mean anything?"
A: Medical transitioning is only a small part of transitioning. Transitioning is mostly a psychological endeavour to figure out who you are, what makes you happy, and to deal with any pain associated with what you perceive to be "lost" experiences. You don't necessarily need hormones to be trans. A lot of trans people don't feel they have the body dysphoria that would make them desire hormones. Many people who DO take hormones don't necessarily want to get something like sex reassignment surgery.

It doesn't mean anything. Don't worry about medical transitioning or transitioning at all. Explore yourself until you find something that you think fits you well enough to go with. And don't worry about where you're going - the journey is the point of transitioning.

Q: "Are you ever SURE?"
A: If you're ever 100% sure of anything, you're probably not thinking about it. The fact you are unsure is probably a good indicator that you are thinking about it long and hard. Keep experimenting unless you are at least certain that your experiences make enough sense to you to warrant modifying your body.

Don't make it about being “right” or “wrong,” simply try to improve your own quality of life, whatever path that may be. Never be ashamed of who you are.

COMMUNITY

IRC
Good rules to follow when using IRC: Don't troll, no personal attacks, don't be extremely emo unless it’s warranted, and if someone's being creepy try and report it to the admins of the channel.

Warning
There are goony people in a goonchat!

So people were assholes to you in irc?
Got it. Please stop posting about it. I am not in control of irc, neither are any mods on SA, so don't PM us about it because there's nothing we can do.

Server: irc.synirc.net
Channel: #sass

Server: irc.synirc.net
Channel: #hugbox
"I've made a safe space irc channel if anyone wants to join it. Join #hugbox if you want to help out." -- Teabiscuit


Q: "I'm a trans woman. Am I reinforcing gender stereotypes by transitioning?"
A: No. Not simply by transitioning. However it is useful to think about things critically. You're learning to navigate the world as a different gender, and you've been socialized for years about what it means to be that gender and how people of that gender should or should not preform. Basically:

willing to settle posted:

DO: do what you need to do to be comfortable in your body
DO: perform gender in the way that makes you the most comfortable/allows you to feel safe
DO: accept that gender is a social construct and ultimately pretty arbitrary. There is no need to be "feminine", unless that's how you feel comfortable acting.

DON'T: perform gender without thinking about why you're doing it.
DON'T: assume that your dysphoria is necessarily BECAUSE of gender.
DON'T: blame yourself for things you like that are "antifeminist". Blame patriarchy.

Fabgoon Megathread - Solidifying the Homosexual Agenda
Unsurprisingly, some trans people are also queer!

:iamafag: SUPERFRIENDS
People in this list will help give you someone to talk to, but don’t get into extreme personal detail on the first day. That would burn out the majority of the list too fast. Get to know people first.

This list has had some long inactive posters removed. If you're on here and don't want to be anymore, or aren't on here and want to be, PM me or email me.

pre:
Marshmallow Mayhem - Cis Woman                RumbleFish - Trans man
AIM: emiwenis                                 AIM: RumblinFishSA

Moinkmaster - Trans Woman                     merrilyx4 - Trans Woman
Accepts PMs                                   AIM: fleurazure

Bigreddot - Cis Dude, or whatever             
AIM: bigbigreddot                   

AllisonByProxy - Trans Woman                  Tragedienne - Trans Woman
AIM: allisonbaker82                           AIM/Yahoo: Tragedienne404

SuddenConsequences - German Trans Woman       LtSmash - Cis Male
Accepts PMs                                   Steam: dienestoo

teh winnar! - MtF                             RabbitMage - FtM. All that goodness.
Yahoo: goddessinsilver                        AIM: RabbitMage
Twitter: Sovereignhope

LemonLimeTime - Trans Woman                   Notorious QIG - Trans Woman
Accepts PMs                                   Skype: mathx314 (don't judge)
                                              Email: quiggy. It's a Gmail account.
Amni - transgirl                              Stream: quiggy_b
Usually in IRC

Sir Quetzal - gay FTM                         ChikenOfALesserGod - FtM
anankylosaurussir -at- hotmail.ca             Gmail: shinichiki

Porter_77 - pansexual trans girl              Adnap - binary trans woman
AIM: Tybaar                                   AIM/Yahoo: Lavenderadnap

AbsoluteLlama - trans woman                   ChickenArise - transwoman
Accept PMs                                    usually in IRC

Collaterly Sisters - trans woman              Lupus Rufus - transwoman
Gtalk: collaterly@gmail.com                   AIM/GChat: Chronikerdelta@gmail.com
AIM: collaterly

MizPiz - cis male
email: parkm365@gmail.com      

Thalantos - trans woman
Accepts PM

The Iron Rose - trans woman
Accepts PM

Karma Monkey - trans man
accepts PMs
email: keebert@yahoo.com
Will chat on any platform, but email first because I don't login unless I'm expecting a chat.


Araenna - genderqueer
Accepts PMs
AIM: purplechelles Emails: AIM username at aol.com 

NDB - MTF
email: luluxzee@gmail.com  GChat: laneshill@gmail.com

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RESOURCES
These are resources a trans person can use to stay informed about their situation and options regarding legal maters or medical issues. If anyone has anything to add to this section, please post about it in the thread.

Toll Free Listening Lines - Talk to our trained volunteers about safer sex, coming out, where to find gay-friendly establishments, HIV and AIDS, depression, suicide, and anti-gay/lesbian harassment and violence.

HRT For Trans People, With References - Forums user Helena P Blavatsky wrote up an excellent post that I have transcribed to Google Docs.

The Sherbourne Transgender-HRT Protocols - by The Sherbourne Health Centre. The "protocols" are a published medical document that is written to inform physicians or clinics outside of the Sherbourne Health Centre who have trans patients of their potential healthcare needs. It is designed to educate physicians about the need for autonomy in the trans minority, and how to care for them in the form of Hormone Replacement Therapy. It is one of the best tools a trans person has about bypassing potentially discriminatory treatment by the psychiatric industry. (Some form of therapy is still mandatory, however, but it doesn't have to be a psychologist and no diagnosis is required.)

The Standards of Care by WPATH - WPATH has established internationally accepted Standards of Care (SOC) for the treatment of gender identity disorders. These internationally accepted guidelines are designed to promote the health and welfare of persons with gender identity disorders. The Standards of Care are updated and revised as new scientific information becomes available.

RCPsych Gender Dysphoria guidelines - Standards of care which are essentially the UK equivalent of the WPATH.

Basic TG/TS/IS Information - By Lynn Conway. A scientifically sound site, backed with tons of research and updated regularly. There's even a feed on there for the latest trans-related medical and media information.

Transsexual Road Map - Some of the information on this site can be old and outdated but there's a mountain of useful information collected here.

Endocrine Treatment of Transsexual Persons - This evidence-based guideline was developed to formulate practice guidelines for endocrine treatment of transsexual persons.

Pill and Patch Identification Guide - Intended as a guide/reference for hormones for trans women if you find yourself going down the self-medding route. Even if you do so, it's recommended that you have regular checkups and blood work with a doctor, even if that doctor isn't prescribing your hormones.

TransLine - A set of resources dedicated to improving and educating healthcare providers about trans issues.

Also if your doctor doesn't know what to do with trans patients, UCSF and I believe the San Francisco Department of Health put together a nice little resource list, including primary care protocols, for healthcare providers that have trans clients. That is here (From CK07)

DON’T GO TO THESE PLACES THEY KINDA SUCK

John's Hopkins Sexual Behaviors Consultation Unit – Go here at your own risk! Trans people that have gone here are studied like lab specimens, interviewed by people who specialize in sexual predators, and literally berated for things like having a Facebook in their chosen name. Maybe there are some good people at John's Hopkins, but many still hold fast to antiquated ways of thinking about trans people.

Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) – the guy who runs the CAMH GIC is a kind old man. If you take your small child, who has recently come out as trans, he will make them better and not trans anymore! And, if you are an older trans person over the age of 18 and no longer under the death grip of your parents, he will make you jump through hoops to even get a diagnosis of GID, let alone any form of HRT. Don't go to CAMH. Go to Sherbourne. If you are going to CAMH right now and you think they're helping you, trust me, they aren't, and any path they take you down is a cul-de-sac. Escape while you still can, even if they've started dangling the carrot of hormone blockers over your head.

Transsexual.org - at first this seems like a mundane website run by somebody with no design sense but ultimately trying to be helpful. Then you realize that she's got no clue what she's talking about, she lives vicariously through a webcomic, and the COGIATI test is little more than a way of testing how you conform to her notion of what an MTF is (ie, traditional femininity). Because clearly, if you like math you couldn't possibly be an MTF. (Also she ran HappyPuppy.com back in the 90's and took the massive fortune she got from that and pumped it into anime DVD's and wall scrolls so now she's poor again but )

Anything related to Harry Benjamin Syndrome (HBS) HBSers believe that they have an intersex condition rather than transness. They believe that any kind of trans identity is fraudulent. If you don't blend perfectly, you're fraudulent. If you don't like men, you're fraudulent. If you didn't KNOW that you were (HBS)/trans from birth, you're fraudulent. If you don't conform to perfect 1950s woman's roles you're fraudulent. FTMs are not part of the HBS equation.

LITERATURE
I want this section to grow over time, so send me your recommendations!

The Phallus Palace: Female to Male Transsexuals - by Dean Kotula. Personal testaments from FTMs and contributions from a host of others place the subject of transsexualism into a historical, medical, psychological and cultural context.

Whipping Girl - by Julia Serano. A popular book written from a trans-feminist perspective. There are things to like about this book and it is relatively easy to pick up. That said,

willing to settle posted:

I think Whipping Girl is an important book. The chapter on trans people in the media is basically flawless, but a lot of the rest of it is full of some shady poo poo, as are a number of her other works. It's really kind of time for trans feminism to start growing up. The second wave is difficult for us to access because of trans-exclusionary radical feminists, and the way they frame their arguments to deliberately exclude us. But the fact of the matter is that just because the second wave is (largely) transphobic, that doesn't mean that there's nothing valuable there. Transfeminism has largely ignored that whole area though, admittedly as a survival tactic, and that is a major, major weakness.

Sex Educations: Gendering and Regendering Women - by A Radical TransFeminist. An excellent introductory article on transgender and transfeminism.

Families In Transition - by Central Toronto Youth Services. It's essentially meant as a primer for parents of trans people/children who have come out as trans and who wish to transition. It's a very good book, professionally done, and can be downloaded freely (PDF on site) or a hard-copy can be bought for $10. I have a hard-copy and it's really well made, a good investment for anyone who gives a drat.

Transpeople - by Christopher A. Shelley. Sociological primer on trans issues and intersectionality. It's not that hard of a read: if you've got a decent head on your shoulders and any interest in trans issues, this book will be a fast and good read.

Transsexual Brain Study - by The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism. An awesome medical journal article (concerning both MTF/FTM's, don't let the title trick you) about the brain structures of male-to-female and female-to-male transsexuals and how their brains are wired almost exactly the same as cisgendered people, for their perceived gender identity (MtF -> female brain type, FtM -> male brain type).

MEDIA

I want this section to highlight positive role models that people may not be aware of and provide links to non-lovely articles or blogs about or by trans people. Generally, I'd like to give more exposure to well written and stereotype-free stories about trans people than all the terrible tabloid level crap that seems to be published non-stop gets.

This section is small now, and it's kinda experimental, and it could even turn out to be controversial, so I guess we'll see how it goes. For example, links to blogs could be controversial if people don't agree with some of the ideas expressed within them. I'll try to keep that in mind and not post only those links conforming to any one agenda or philosophy. So if you do see a link to a blog here that you disagree with, keep in mind that others might not feel the same as you and it might be helpful to them even if it isn't helpful to you.

Janet Mock Comes Out as a Trans Woman in Marie Claire

Article about transgender athlete Chris Mosier

LOCAL RESOURCES
This is a collection of local resources for trans people. If you would like to contribute to this section just make a post and I'll merge it into the OP.

General UK Guide
Teabiscuit has made a document summarizing the medical process for transition in the UK.

Teabiscuit posted:

Ok so you live in the UK, congrats trans women are entitled to one free vagina and trans men get top and bottom surgery. Firstly, you have to be prepared to be really really patient, like you need god level patience the NHS is SLOW, like really slow! If you even feel remotely like you might need treatment go get this process started NOW even if you’re not totally sure, because you can back out at any point. Some people wait over a year to see a specialist.
Read more: https://docs.google.com/document/d/...c/edit?hl=en_US

A pretty comprehensive list of therapists who deal with LGBT stuff: http://www.pinktherapy.com/

http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/...plastyinfo/info Yahoo group for transmen looking for more information about phalloplasty. Recommended by Carbon Thief

Vancouver, BC
Vancouver Coastal Transgender Health Programs & Services

Catherine White Holman Wellness Centre - Informed Consent, Counselling, Massage, Accupuncture. Managed/Run by mostly non-cis volunteers.

St. Louis, MO
There's a support group in the St. Louis, MO area open to trans individuals and their families, it's called TransParent. My mother joined it when I came out about a year ago. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Tran...442152539159226 is their Facebook page, sadly there is nothing more official at the moment. If you're interested in joining the group, you can email transparenting@aol.com for info and meeting times and such. If anyone's parents need a support group, this is a great resource.

Toronto, Canada
The Sherbourne Health Centre – a trans-focused health centre. Offers informed consent treatment of trans people including HRT – they do not require a GID diagnosis for hormones.

Supporting Our Youth (SOY) – a queer social support program including many different groups, for both gender and sexual identities (and their intersecting minorities or social groups).

Central Toronto Youth Services (CTYS) – an organization that focuses on therapy for youth 26 and under. They offer many social supports for LGBQ and T youth, including counseling services for worried parents and family members. They also do many activist-y things, such as producing trans-positive literature.

Planned Parenthood Toronto now handles transition related things and can give referrals to other services.

Ottawa (Ontario, Canada)
Royal Ottawa Mental Health Center - much more uh reasonable than the CAMH in Toronto but very limited availability. Took me about 4 months from referral to first appointment.

Making A Difference Counseling - Doctorate in social work. Not exclusively trans counseling but she is very GLBT friendly and can get you referrals to other stuff. I get the impression that most trans people in the city have been to see her at some point. Pretty expensive ($110/session) but she's flexible and most insurance plans (including OHIP) will cover at least a significant portion of it. Worth it since her availability is way higher than the psychiatry at ROMHC; I got an appointment a few weeks after I e-mailed her.

Chicago, USA
Howard Brown Health Center is a major LGBTQ clinic on the north side of Chicago with excellent services for trans people, including general health care if you're broke.

Philadelphia, USA
The Mazzoni Center - This is an LGBT clinic with a variety of services, including mental health, on a sliding scale. They handle basically every trans person in Philadelphia and a three-hour radius around it, and offer informed consent treatment. There are also a number of support groups run through Mazzoni, as well as the yearly Philadelphia Trans Health Conference.

Boston, USA
As a local resource Fenway Health in Boston, MA is worth mentioning. They are an LGBT health center that has many services for trans people and will help you get MassHealth and have free/reduced cost if you aren't eligible.

Austin, Texas, USA
There are a ton of great resources here in Austin. The Transgender Education Network of Texas is a fantastic organization that holds open meetings (welcome to all) and will not hesitate to help you figure things out.

The Central Texas Transgender Society has monthly meetings and organizes other events. They're awful, and will spam you with unwanted emails if you ever contact them. Stay away at all costs.

There are lots of good doctors in Austin that will prescribe HRT for trans people. Try your own GP first and if that doesn't work you can PM me for more details.

Mike Bergman is a great therapist and is very trans friendly. I highly recommend him if you have an insurance that he takes.

Shannon Sprung is a trans friendly therapist in the area that I have heard is good and interested in providing resources and help to trans people.

The Waterloo Counseling Center is our local LGBT counseling facility. They offer a sliding scale for payments so they might be a good option if you're on a tight budget.

Paula Buls is a trans therapist that is politically active in the community and offers counseling specifically for trans people. I've met her a few times but we didn't really get a chance to talk very much. I don't know anyone that sees her so I can't say for sure if she's good or not, but she seems very kind and knowledgeable.

Portland, OR, USA
Q Center - Has a big freakin tranny library and a bunch of support groups. Even for FtMs

Outside In - Technically a homeless shelter but they have a free trans clinic that does bloodwork for hormones.

Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) - Place to hang out with other trans people and play Guitar Hero or something (mostly highschool kids though).

New York City, USA
The LGBT Center of NYC - An all-inclusive community center. There are some support/discussion groups here, and free or sliding-scale therapy.

Callen-Lorde - An LGBT healthcare center. I've heard mixed reviews - some people rave about it, and others absolutely hate it. They seem to be pretty unfriendly to people who are low-income/sans-insurance. They have two trans-related programs, one for people over the age of 24 (informed consent, I believe) and one for under 24 (minimum of 3 months of therapy).

Bronx Community Healthcare Network - Low-cost/sliding-scale clinic with a trans program. Recently changed policies from informed-consent to required therapy, and also raised cost of services to those without insurance. They do, however, take virtually every type of insurance.

Dr. Martinez at the Bronx-Lebanon Hospital - A friend of mine has strongly recommended her to everybody he knows, but I can't find an official website. The link is to her contact information.

Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund's Name Change Project - These fine folk can appoint you a pro-bono lawyer to guide you through the name change process for free.

NYC Healthcare Resources, Courtesy of the Gender Identity Project of the NYC LGBT Center

Virginia, USA
*PDF Warning!* - This is a transgender resource list for VA.

Fan Free Clinic - A free clinic based in Richmond VA. They accept all transgender and questioning patients and will arrange psychological evaluations for entry into the program. If accepted nearly all treatment for HRT is provided free of charge. This includes all blood work and access to a nurse practitioner for prescriptions. It is up to the patient to pay for hormones.

L.A., USA
L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center - Offers a broad array of services for the entire LGBT community includes many programs developed specifically to meet the needs of both MTF and FTM transgender people.

Fresno, USA
Planned Parenthood's Fulton St. clinic in Fresno - They will do bloodwork and prescriptions on a mostly informed consent basis and they are very, very cheap.

Central Florida, USA
Spectrum Trans Awareness - Spectrum is a group of trans people and allies working to raise awareness around transgender issues in the Gainesville area. They have a list of trans-friendly health providers in the Gainesville, FL area.

Atlanta, Georgia

The Trans Health Initiative – an organization that offers reasonably priced medical service to "FtM, trans masculine, and intersex clients".

Someone Cares, Inc. – a non-profit that offers services to trans people around job placement, housing, STI screening, and education support.

TransIt (JustUsATL discussion group) – a weekly discussion group for trans and gender non-conforming youth (ages 13-28). It's a closed, peer-facilitated group, meaning that only trans and gender non-conforming youth are allowed to attend. Most of JustUsATL's leadership is trans, so the organization and all of its services/events are pretty good bets in general.

T&F Transitionz – a bi-weekly trans-oriented discussion group for teens and young adults. It's an open group, meaning that partners, friends, allies, etc. are allowed to attend.

TILTT – a bi-weekly discussion group for trans people of all ages and sorts.

San Francisco, CA
Transgender Law Center - Does name/gender change and legal services pro bono.

Lyon Martin - Sliding scale clinic that sees everyone but cis men. Recommended by EBT.

Baltimore/DC/Virginia

Chase Brexton is an LGBT-focused healthcare provider with locations in Baltimore City, Randallstown, Columbia, and Easton. They offer behavioral health and medical care to trans people and have sliding scale fees for uninsured.

Whitman-Walker Health is an LGBT-focused healthcare provider in Washington, DC. They offer behavioral health and medical care to trans people and also have sliding scale fees for uninsured.

Whitman Walker has guides for DC, MD, and VA!

MD is at http://www.whitman-walker.org/file/...de-Aug-2014.pdf

Recommended by CK07:

-The Transgender Economic Empowerment Initative, which offers aid of many kinds to trans people looking for jobs. I don't have personal experience with this group but I've heard nothing but good things about it.

-Trans Thrive, which is funded through the Asian & Pacific Islander Wellness Center but is most definitely not exclusive to those of API backgrounds. I've been to several events hosted by TT and volunteered for several, and the folks who work there are GREAT and deal with a lot of crazy poo poo with as much grace and kindness as a human could be expected to summon. Many of their clients are homeless or otherwise economically disempowered, they have food at almost all their events and groups so that people can get a meal, and they do tons of other fun and helpful stuff as well. And they are fun people to be around, many are members of the community...I can't say enough good stuff about this org, they have something for everyone.

-TM4M is a subset of Trans Thrive, it's run by a buddy of mine and it's expressly for transmen who are into other men. They have cruising nights, movie nights, support groups, and workshops. They even had speed dating last year, which was a ton of fun. You may recognize some of the resources they've put out, as this (AFAIK) is the first non-profit program in the world to focus specifically on queer transguys, despite how many of us there seem to be.

-(From EBT) Sliding scale laser 3081: Teagarden St San Leandro CA (510) 869 6634 ask for Cecily Cosby. I haven't been here yet (poverty) but I got the info from Lyon-Martin. It is student learning though from what I can tell so your mileage may vary.

New Mexico

Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico Recommended by LivesInGrey. Most of this is in Albuquerque, but has general resources for the state.

Nintendo Kid fucked around with this message at Nov 15, 2014 around 16:58

Irrational Bees
Nov 2, 2013

by Lowtax


Hurray, a new and better TMT!

PMush Perfect
Sep 30, 2009

MY PAPER SOLDIERS
FORM A WALL
FIVE PACES THICK
AND TWICE AS TALL




I like the new title.

Mootiman
May 9, 2005


the One True Thread

psyopmonkey
Nov 15, 2008

by Lowtax


Boo.

Boooooo!!!

What a bunch of assbags.

The Iron Rose
May 12, 2012

Cat Army


You should add to the OP that planned parenthood is now doing transition related stuff in Toronto, Ontario! They do counselling and hormones and give referrals to CAMH and the like.

Nintendo Kid
Aug 4, 2011

Trophy-ko says:
~death to capitalism~

Hilalry is 45


The Iron Rose posted:

You should add to the OP that planned parenthood is now doing transition related stuff in Toronto, Ontario! They do counselling and hormones and give referrals to CAMH and the like.

Thanks! Added.

WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



thanks fishmech

Tonetta
Jul 8, 2013

look mother look at ME MOTHER MOTHER I AM A HOMESTIXK NOW

**methodically removes and eats own clothes*

WindmillSlayer posted:

thanks fishmech

Karma Monkey
Sep 6, 2005

I MAKE BAD POSTING DECISIONS

Poison Mushroom posted:

I like the new title.

Ditto! I hope to see great things nothing too cringeworthy in the new TMT! Huzzah!

WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



lets talk about trans characters in video games

Karma Monkey
Sep 6, 2005

I MAKE BAD POSTING DECISIONS

WindmillSlayer posted:

lets talk about trans characters in video games

Let's post pix of our boobs. And by "us" I mean those of you that have them and like having them. Eh, what the hell, everyone post pix of whatever you have that you like having. I'm not fussy.

Irrational Bees
Nov 2, 2013

by Lowtax


Karma Monkey posted:

Let's post pix of our boobs. And by "us" I mean those of you that have them and like having them. Eh, what the hell, everyone post pix of whatever you have that you like having. I'm not fussy.

If you really want me to.

WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



Irrational Bees posted:

If you really want me to.

pls

LAY-ZX
Nov 10, 2009



I'm not hip on the new memes, what is "recistance"

WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



LAY-ZX posted:

I'm not hip on the new memes, what is "recistance"

JacquelineDempsey
Aug 6, 2008

It's a horrible name for anything really but especially a shirt.


quote:

New Mexico

Transgender Resource Center of New York Recommended by LivesInGrey. Most of this is in Albuquerque, but has general resources for the state.

OK, I don't post in these threads often and have no voice here since I'm cis scum, but for the love of all proofreaders and trans people using "ctrl F", someone please fix this link. (clearly c&p'ed from the old thread, not sassin' Nintendo Kid). New York is not New Mexico.

LAY-ZX
Nov 10, 2009




I'm retarded thx

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


I like how people in the tmt would literally rather be represented by a poster who at one point was only able to post in the gas chamber than psyopmonkey

Irrational Bees
Nov 2, 2013

by Lowtax



Sense you asked so nicely, [url]

I feel bad using the nws safe tags due to how TINY they are! Wooow!

Somebody fucked around with this message at Nov 15, 2014 around 00:16

Tumblr of scotch
Mar 13, 2006

Please, don't be my neighbor.


Irrational Bees posted:

Sense you asked so nicely, link removed

I feel bad using the nws safe tags due to how TINY they are! Wooow!
Quoted for ban

The Iron Rose
May 12, 2012

Cat Army


Oh god

psyopmonkey
Nov 15, 2008

by Lowtax


Oh yes, this is so much better.

Spanish Manlove
Aug 31, 2008

HAILGAYSATAN

Please don't post homegroan. What the gently caress.

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


psyopmonkey posted:

Oh yes, this is so much better.



WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


Spanish Manlove posted:

Please don't post homegroan. What the gently caress.

psyopmonkey
Nov 15, 2008

by Lowtax


I bet if I posted my tits I would get banned.

Tumblr of scotch
Mar 13, 2006

Please, don't be my neighbor.


This is why everyone thinks we're crazy attention-grabbing weirdos: Because some actually are.

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


psyopmonkey posted:

I bet if I posted my tits I would get banned.




Spanish Manlove posted:

Please don't post homegroan. What the gently caress.

Irrational Bees
Nov 2, 2013

by Lowtax


Hey its not my fault someone was asking for, I mean maybe your bad sarcasm doesn't translate through the internet Or maybe it does but its really of no consequence either way

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


BTW, a lot of trans people have more issues than gender disphoria. Some of which can be linked to the disphoria and social stigma, and some of which is people being just loving crazy.

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


Irrational Bees posted:

Hey its not my fault someone was asking for, I mean maybe your bad sarcasm doesn't translate through the internet Or maybe it does but its really of no consequence either way


Spanish Manlove posted:

Please don't post homegroan. What the gently caress.

pussy riot police posted:

BTW, a lot of trans people have more issues than gender disphoria. Some of which can be linked to the disphoria and social stigma, and some of which is people being just loving crazy.

Tumblr of scotch
Mar 13, 2006

Please, don't be my neighbor.


Irrational Bees posted:

Hey its not my fault someone was asking for, I mean maybe your bad sarcasm doesn't translate through the internet Or maybe it does but its really of no consequence either way
Or you could not post homegroan. That works too.

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable


Seriously, why the gently caress did you think that was a good loving idea? If you want people to jerk off to you, do it on a porn site. You'll get better and/or worse treatment.

WindmillSlayer
Oct 16, 2013



Spanish Manlove
Aug 31, 2008

HAILGAYSATAN

Irrational Bees posted:

Hey its not my fault someone was asking for, I mean maybe your bad sarcasm doesn't translate through the internet Or maybe it does but its really of no consequence either way

Send it via pm like everyone else does

Irrational Bees
Nov 2, 2013

by Lowtax


pussy riot police posted:

Seriously, why the gently caress did you think that was a good loving idea? If you want people to jerk off to you, do it on a porn site. You'll get better and/or worse treatment.

Again, I had no intent of doing it prior to the events at the beginning of this threads. I just made a split second decision and said Yes to the Request. Maybe I shouldn't have, but I did it.

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Karma Monkey
Sep 6, 2005

I MAKE BAD POSTING DECISIONS

Flagrant Abuse posted:

This is why everyone thinks we're crazy attention-grabbing weirdos: Because some actually are.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

Also, just pointing out the obvious - there are a shitload of crazy attention-grabbing weirdos on SA specifically and the internet generally. I'm not sure why troons should be held to a different standard.

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