loquacius posted:

yeah I thought it was kinda gross that you jumped straight to a humiliation fetish thing, this seems p straightforward to me

loquacius posted:

Seriously is there a popular line of Youtube videos about "how to deal with sexually aggressive suitors harassing you and humiliating you in public" that you're referencing here or what

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Hi everyone and thanks for reading. I'm at a loss with this situation with my grandma. I'm not sure how worried I should be, as my mother says that all old people get "a little funny", but I think that actually, my grandma is not that old yet. I also wonder if I should be worried in a medical sense (Alzheimer's?), but again, my mum says it's totally normal. I don't have a lot experience with old people, because my grandma is my only remaining grandparent while all the others died too young.

Some background that might be important: We have a large family and my grandma has many friends at church. She has a very busy social life, I would say. I would also say that my grandmother is very well liked in her community. She also has a lot of money and travels quite a bit, mostly alone (one trip every 2 to 3 months). We all live in the suburbs of a larger city in Germany.

On to the problem: During the last year, I've noticed that my grandmother likes to tell stories that aren't true. I have no absolute proof that they aren't true apart from their absurdity. What all those stories have in common is that they paint her in a very positive light. Also, the stories get bigger and bigger (and more unbelievable). It started small with stuff like this:

- She witnessed a thief stealing a purse from a young lady, and called over a police officer who was standing by. The thief was arrested and the police officer took her to the police station to make a statement where the police chief himself thanked her for her courage.

- She met Robbie Williams in an elevator during her last trip to London and he told her that he liked her purse.

- The neighbour's cat had climbed into a tree and couldn't get down so she called the fire department but they took so long that she climbed up in that tree to get the cat down herself. When she made it down safely the firefighters were cheering her on.

- A young girl dropped a bracelet on the street and my grandmother picked it up to bring it to her, when she realized it was super expensive and old. She told the girl how valuable the bracelet was, and the girl was completely surprised because she tought it was worthless, and she thanked her a thousand times.

Well, you get the picture. It's lots of little stories like that. The police is often involved but she has never shown me a single police report or anything.

Now, a few weeks ago, her lies got worse. My grandmother came back from a holiday in Beirut and told everyone that she had taken in a Syrian refugee, a pregnant woman, that she picked up in Beirut. She now tells us hundreds of stories about this woman, about her hard life and how grateful she is to my grandmother. Noone has ever seen that person. I came over to my grandmother's place unannounced a few times in the last weeks and "Sarah", the Syrian woman, was never there. She was at the doctor, grocery shopping, at the bank etc... I keep telling my grandmother we should all host a dinner for her but now she suddenly tells everyone that Sarah moved out and got her own apartment (of course, my grandmother helped her get it!

And oh, you wouldn't believe how unfair the realtor was to the poor woman!) I'm 100% sure Sarah doesn't exist! And here's why:

there's this thing my grandma and me do where she gives me her mail and I read it to her, because she has trouble with reading small print. Last week I read her mail to her and there was a receipt for 8 nights at a spa hotel in another part of Germany. It was exactly the week when she "was in Beirut". I didn't say anything to her, I just ignored it, but then I was thinking back and realized that my grandmother hasn't shown me any pictures from her last holidays. She says the buttons on the camera are too small and she doesn't like taking pictures any more. All those holidays were to "exotic" locations and of course she told the most amazing stories from her holidays.

Ok, so here's the next problem: my grandma told me that she will give an interview with the church's paper about her and how helping a refugee has changed her or something. I can't believe she's doing this. I'm sure whoever writes that article will want to talk to the Syrian woman and that's when someone will realize it's all a lie. I can't decide if my grandma is acting horrible or confused, if I should help her or confront her. Someone please help!

tl;dr: My grandmother started inventing small and rather harmless stories, but the stories are getting bigger, she invented holidays and even invented a person now. I'm not sure how/if I should help her, or what I should do. My mother says all old people get a little funny and I should just leave it at that.

gigawhite posted:

*Closes and bars the doors* What? I'm not doing anything. *Starts pouring gasoline around the thread while whistling I've Been Working on the Railroad* Honestly it seems like a pretty complicated situation if you really think about it. *Lights match*

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We’ve been together for three years. He is my first boyfriend. I knew early on that he watched a lot of porn. By “a lot,” I mean, at least twice every day in the morning and at night. Honestly, it bothered me and made me feel insecure, but only because he started to have problems finishing with me. So, we talked about it, he attempted to cut back and our sex life improved.
He again started watching porn a lot, at least twice every day and I became aware that he’d even watch it at work on his bathroom breaks. To me, it seems excessive, but maybe I am wrong. We talked about it again and, because it bothered me less this time around, I agreed that it was okay for him to watch it however frequently he wanted as long as it didn’t affect us in the bedroom. So, that is our current situation. Our sex life is good/stable, but I do think we’re in a bit of a (normal) rut.
Now, about two weeks ago, I saw that he saved some photos of one of his favorite Internet personalities. I don’t know why, but for some reason, this particular “celebrity” brings out my insecurity more. I guess because she’s the typical guy’s gamer girl, cool, nerdy, and sexy looking. Anyways, she’s perfect to him. (And I can’t stand it lol! I know this is petty, so I apologize.)
Anyways, I guess I’m wanting a boost. I’ve been working out and my body, particularly my butt, is shaping out pretty nicely. So, I had the bright idea of maybe posting to GW. Also, I think it’s important to note that I’ve never been hit on, my whole life, with the exception of my boyfriend and one other guy. So, yes, I am seeking a boost/some sort of validation.
I told my boyfriend about it last night to see how he felt about it and he said that no, he wouldn’t want me to do that. He then proceeded to ask me why. So, I told him about needing the boost. He felt like his compliments aren’t enough for me. And, truthfully, I guess they’re not if I’m seeking random Internet attention. I then asked him why it’s ok for “Gamer Girl” to post provocative pictures and for him to look at them, but that I can’t do the same. I told him that I want to be desired by other guys, like how she is. He replied that she probably doesn’t have a boyfriend that respects her enough to not want her to show off her body. At this point, that comment kind of threw me off (I didn’t know what to make of it), so I just went to sleep.
So, I guess, my problem is that I don’t know how to proceed. Obviously, if my boyfriend is uncomfortable with me posting, then I won’t, because our relationship is my priority. But, at the same time, I feel like his habits are messing with my head and I do want to feel hot. That is MY problem though.
What should I do?
TL;DR: I'm feeling a little low due to my boyfriend's porn habits. I want an ego boost by posting to GW. He doesn't want me to. What should I do?

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My [35M] wife [32F] is becoming insufferable over grocery shopping.
submitted 2 hours ago by GroceryStoreInsanity

Throwaway because wife is an avid redditor.

My wife and I have been married for 8 really good years, we've had some bumps and quirks in the relationship but for the most part we've been on the same page, until recently. It started about a year ago when she discovered couponing, initially it was a big help but it's been causing more and more problems.

It started becoming a problem, in my view, when she stopped finding coupons for the stuff we were buying, and started buying things she had coupons for. Our eating habits changed a lot, we started eating more processed foods. I couldn't stand it, so as a compromise (which she really didn't like), I started buying and cooking my own separate meals. Most of the things I buy, fresh meats and vegetables, there aren't coupons for.

So that went on amicably for a few months, until she started knowingly bringing in expired coupons and coupons from other stores. She would do this and stack coupons and other deals to basically bring her grocery bill down to $0. This was like a point of pride to her I think, she would get noticeably giddy doing it. The problem is she would bully and harass the people working at the grocery store to make this happen. I've never seen her so mean.

I was embarrassed to shop with her, so I didn't. I did my shopping on separate days and eventually separate stores, because the staff in our old store would complain to me about her. I was sympathetic and commiserated with them, which caused a lot of poo poo-talking about my wife, which made me more negative towards her at home. This caused fights between us, I told her she was being really rude and she needed to reign it back, that she can't keep treating workers like poo poo. She thinks that's what they're there for (not to be treated like poo poo, but to meet her needs as the consumer.) We went to couples counseling and because this was causing so many problems in our marriage, I was advised to just back off and she was advised to enter personal therapy.

I did back off, tried to ignore it. She never went to therapy. Which brings us to last week when she brought home about 100 packages of men's disposable razors. They're like $10 a pop and she worked some deal where she got them all for free. Her plan was for me to return a few of them for store credit every time I do my personal shops, which would offset the "expense" of my groceries. Well I actually tried it (reluctantly, and after a huge fight) and it turns out the store doesn't even accept returned razors, because they get stolen so often. My wife now thinks I need to bully them into taking the razors back, just like she would do.

I think this is total bullshit, I don't want to play her games. The crazy thing is I make over $150k a year, I'm happy to actually pay for the things I want. It's really driving me crazy, she spends over 20 hours a week now on her coupon bullshit, and honestly I think she's a bit addicted. She won't go to therapy. Coupons have only made her neurotic, angry and have driven a wedge in our relationship and we don't even need them. I've even considered divorce! Over loving coupons!

So reddit what should I do? She's reluctant to go back to counseling, she won't do personal therapy. Should I offer an ultimatum? Or should I just find a lawyer and work on that divorce? because the more I write this out the more I realize I'm just done.

tl;dr: My wife's coupon habits have destroyed an otherwise good relationship. I'm considering divorce or a harsh ultimatum.

Moridin920 posted:

Fat Shat Sings posted:

I can see something as dumb as coupons being a huge problem in a relationship if your partner is basically Coupon Hitler screaming at you and store employees so that they can Min/Max their shopping properly.

Stuntman posted:

sorry for being angry about people defending pedophilia

Jack Trades posted:

How is an inappropriate full-body hug (basically)

Moridin920 posted:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4wqemi/my_15f_mom_45f_claimed_her_family_is_dead_they/


I dunno this one could go any number of ways

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Update 2 We are okay. My parents are home and my brother is home from work. They talked to him for a while and then called the police. The police came and took statements. My mom has been on the phone with a lawyer. For the time being my dad told us to stay inside. He's the only one allowed to take our dogs out. I'm not sure what's going on. My brother seems pissed, but has been sticking close to me and my sister.

Naerasa posted:

what the gently caress is going on here

Naerasa posted:

Can we all shut the gently caress up about the lame posts and go back to the update from this one?


what the gently caress is going on here

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We both deactivated our accounts under advisement of one of the officers. My brother doesn't even have one.

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Right now they are still talking with the lawyer. My brother says once they are done we will probably have a family meeting.

City of Tampa posted:

actually that last dude is just being a bitch to his rad wife. I misuse coupons all the time, for example I only buy one item when I'm supposed to buy three, or get the smallest size when it's supposed to be the larger size for the coupon. like 70% of cashiers don't give a gently caress and let you get away with it

i don't do that dumbass extreme couponing thing but it's totally OK if you can get away with something like razors. his wife is correct; he definitely could get the store to accept the returns if he raised a stink about it. it doesn't matter how much money you make, it's like finding a $10 bill on the ground every time you go to the store. you're not going to pick it up?

City of Tampa posted:

actually that last dude is just being a bitch to his rad wife. I misuse coupons all the time, for example I only buy one item when I'm supposed to buy three, or get the smallest size when it's supposed to be the larger size for the coupon. like 70% of cashiers don't give a gently caress and let you get away with it

i don't do that dumbass extreme couponing thing but it's totally OK if you can get away with something like razors. his wife is correct; he definitely could get the store to accept the returns if he raised a stink about it. it doesn't matter how much money you make, it's like finding a $10 bill on the ground every time you go to the store. you're not going to pick it up?

Naerasa posted:

what the gently caress is going on here

SneakyFrog posted:

being a dick to people for personal gain if you arent a corporation or company in america is usually considered bad form.

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About six months ago my bf and I moved into a small apartment complex in a new state. We met our neighbor when we were unpacking boxes. He appears to be a bachelor who has lived alone with his cats for a majority of his life. He was super friendly and offered to help us move in boxes. He seemed eager, so we accepted his offer. As a thank you gift we took him out to dinner. It is really nice to have a friendly neighbor! Don't get me wrong, it's better than having a neighbor who is a jerk. However, over the past few months he's gotten too friendly. He is CONSTANTLY knocking (at LEAST once a day) on our door, either offering free stuff, asking for advice, etc. I don't mind him knocking on our door maybe once a week, but this is excessive.

He is also doing things that my bf and I do not feel comfortable with. For example: an important package was delivered to our front door. We were gone at the time, so our neighbor decided to take it upon himself to take the package and give it to us when we return (he claims it was to prevent people from stealing it). We freaked out looking for the package, and we did not feel comfortable with him doing that without our permission. I told him that it made us uncomfortable, and he apologized. So far it has yet to happen again, but who knows.

He also keeps texting us non-stop; we gave him our phone numbers so we could coordinate the thank-you dinner. However, he is constantly texting us now about pretty much everything. I kind of wish I didn't give him my phone number. My bf feels the same way.

We were really pushed to a breaking point this past week. I got back from a 3 week trip, only to find out that I have a possibly serious medical condition. As a result, I feel incredibly tired and weak. When my neighbor asked when I was returning from the trip, I told him soon and that I need space because of this medical condition. Yet the day I return, he comes to our door knocking! What bothers me too is that we decided to not answer the door, and as a result he attempted to get in by testing the door knob? I feel like that is unacceptable as well; you should never go into someone's house without their permission like that. Thankfully the door was locked, but it bothers me that he would possibly come in without our permission if we ever forgot to lock the door.

He is friendly, and I feel like this behavior is because he lives alone and wants friends. However, this is too much on my bf and I. We've tried telling him we need a few days of space, yet it seems like he won't take a hint. My question to you all is: what should we do about these issues? What would you say if you were in this position? I am trying to find a way to tell him that doesn't hurt his feelings, because I don't think he is doing this maliciously or anything and I appreciate his politeness. However, it's just become too much.

tl;dr: Neighbor is being too friendly, constantly texting us, knocking on our door, taking our mail, and not giving us the space we need. How to tell him politely to respect our privacy?

SneakyFrog posted:

being a dick to people for personal gain if you arent a corporation or company in america is usually considered bad form.

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

im storebanned shopper bargainstomper58. I first started couponing when i was about 12. by 14 i got really obsessed with the concept of "savings" and tried to channel them constantly, until my shopping process got really bizarre and i would repeat things like "i bought 69 washing machines to sell to Chinese junk ships" and "i love abusing grocery store clerks" in my head for hours, and i would get really paranoid, start bribing supply trucks to provide easily-returned disposable razors, basically prodromal schizophrenia. im not on antipsychotics because there were no coupons on the price of therapy. i always wondered what the kind of "bargain" style of coupon shopping was all about; i think it's the unconscious leaking in to the conscious, what jungian theory considered to be the cause of schizophrenic and schizotypal syptoms. i would advise all people who "get" coupons to be careful because that likely means you have a predisposition to a mental illness. peace.

mind the walrus posted:

Scammers or psychos... leaning towards psychos.


If you're rich/privileged enough and keep it small-scale you can get away with quite a bit.

Quote-Unquote posted:

pfft that sounds like the kind of thing some loser that is too afraid to pull himself up by his bootstraps might say

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

lol though I wish you called it "promotional schizophrenia"

SneakyFrog posted:

being a dick to people for personal gain if you arent a corporation or company in america is usually considered bad form.

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

she stopped eating fresh meat and vegetables because she could get coupons for instant noodles dude

SneakyFrog posted:

eat 37 various penises of various colors income levels religions and sexual orientations you capitalist pigdonkey

Naerasa posted:

Can we all shut the gently caress up about the lame posts and go back to the update from this one?


what the gently caress is going on here

loquacius posted:

loquacius posted:

e: VVVVVVV hey if you're continuing it, why is it he's old enough to have sexual contact at all but not old enough to decide by himself whether he's being harassed or not without his parents' help VVVVVVVVV

Moridin920 posted:

sexual contact here being what, genius?

he jizzed his loving pants when a hot girl touched him slightly holllllyyy gently caress if that was a crime we'd be locking people up left and right and sequestering hormonal boys away in isocubes

loquacius posted:

I mean I'm not really sure how this relates to the post it's theoretically a response to but whatever even I'm bored with this now

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Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship since we met through some mutual interests, we were fine for the first six months but eventually started to bicker and argue more often than not. We both admit to being thick headed and stubborn and have tried to work on it. When we're together in person, things are great (perfect even) but due to circumstances, we can't see each other very often. It's important to note that a reason I'm so scared to leave him is because he's my only friend. He'll be fine without me but without him I will have no one.
My boyfriend cheated on me emotionally with 3 different girls he met on a discord channel. I found out by, wrongfully, snooping and he promised to never talk to them again and that he loved me more and was just doing it for the attention. A few weeks later I found out he was still talking to them and even made an excuse for the messages I sent them (telling them that he was a cheater and they deserved to know). He told one of them that I was a crazy ex who broke into his place and sent it. Once caught, he left the app entirely to try to show he was willing to try. I didn't take him back but I told him I would be willing to hear him out and see if he actually changes and tries to fix things.
Onto my current situation. Last night during an argument with him he asked me if he could go back to the app he met them on because he missed having friends to talk to. I got extremely upset and told him that if he did we would be done forever. The thought that he misses them and wants to see them again made me want to drop dead right there.
He couldn't understand why I was so upset and causing "drama" when it "should have been a no and done with." I could hardly believe that he had the audacity to ask to unblock them when he's told me again and again that he wouldn't talk to them ever again.
We argued and eventually he decided to let me know that if we ever broke up "permanently" that he was going to unblock them and talk to them again. I understand that he can do what he wants if we aren't together, but the fact that he's bringing it up while we're trying to work on things hurts.
I just don't know. Half of me wants to stay and keep trying because I do love him and the other half wants to leave and let the inevitable happen, but the thought of him going back to those girls and probably telling them about me makes me want to be physically sick. I haven't been able to stop crying since it happened. So what do I do reddit? Bite the bullet and end it? Am I overreacting in the first place?
tl;dr: Boyfriend told me during an argument that if we ever break up permanently, he's going to unblock the girls he cheated on me with and talk to them again. Am I overreacting for being upset?

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So I'm [27,M] seeing this girl [25,F] for about 2 months , before getting together she slapped me because I jokingly said she would make a boring girlfriend.

Today she slapped me again in front of two housemates (full power, my glasses came off) because I poked her bruised kneecap (she fell yesterday, i saw her today, we don't leave in the same city). I admit i'm not the brightest tool in the shed but I didn't mean to hurt, I find violence appalling in any case whatsoever.

I'm not sure if i'm being a knob to feel offended by this behavior because this time I feel like I sort of deserve it because I involuntarily hurt her but it's also a massive red flag for me as I would never intentionally hurt anybody and I expect people around me to not intentionally hurt me.

If this was under normal circumstances I would probably already told her to gently caress off but her mom is dying and I don't want to be a massive dick/ cause more drama in her life. Got any advice ?

tl;dr : got slapped twice by my tiny girlfriend, didn't really hurt that much apart from my bruised ego. any advice ?

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I[25m] found some facebook messages where my girlfriend[25f] described me as ugly compared to the guys she dated before, and that my penis was small

I went back and there was a conversation with her friend Julie. Basically my girlfriend Cindy and July were talking to each other about me, she was showing screen shots of my facebook to Julie. Julie was talking about me saying, "atleast he makes you happy." And Cindy started saying, yeah he is kind of ugly compared to ___ guy's names, but he cleans up nice, and he is really smart. Julie asked "well does he atleast have a big dick." And my girlfriend Cindy said, "LOL I wish." Julie, "how bad is it." Cindy, "not the smallest dick but nothing to brag about."

Jack Trades posted:

Nobody's genitalia even got touched. How is an inappropriate full-body hug (basically) suddenly pedophilia somehow?

Stuntman posted:

i'm not talking about the initial story. i'm talking about the pedos using it as a jumping-off point to try and claim that a 15 year old is mature enough to smash a legal adult

Business Gorillas posted:

i hope he's getting advice to drop a one liner that will really gently caress with her like her tits are different sizes or her eyebrows always look hosed up and then

that's p messed up