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VorpalBunny
May 1, 2009

Killer Rabbit of Caerbannog


I just read an article on the LA Foster system that they are desperately seeking beds for the unaccompanied migrant youth coming over the border. We haven't been certified in LA County in over 2 years, since we adopted our littlest rugrat, and technically we are full with 4 kids in 2 bedrooms. BUT my husband and I are willing to reopen our home for temporary shelter for anyone who needs a bed.

Is anyone here based in Los Angeles who can verify the call for beds, and help us figure out if emergency certification is a thing? We'd hate to waste months going through training again, the house is essentially as it was left 2 years ago. Locks are on cabinets, we'd have to lock the knives away again, and we'd have to move a bunch of toys to put in new bunk beds or cribs or whatever. But, we are willing to do it.

So, how can we help? I put feelers out to our old contacts at the foster agency, as well as our most recent County social worker, but with Covid protocols people aren't in their offices and I don't know who to call.

Thanks in advance for any help y'all can give!

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Mocking Bird
Aug 17, 2011


Do you speak Spanish? Because that's usually who they are desperately seeking in those circumstances.

I'd call their county on boarding staff and see what they have to say -

Foster and adoption recruitment
(888) 811-1121

Also, agency homes are limited to two children per bedroom, but county homes can go up to four, with six kids total in the home.

VorpalBunny
May 1, 2009

Killer Rabbit of Caerbannog


Mocking Bird posted:

Do you speak Spanish? Because that's usually who they are desperately seeking in those circumstances.

I'd call their county on boarding staff and see what they have to say -

Foster and adoption recruitment
(888) 811-1121

Also, agency homes are limited to two children per bedroom, but county homes can go up to four, with six kids total in the home.

I did not know that, about the 4 kids in a room bit! I have 4 already so I could take in 2 more, but yeah it's the training that would suck to have to do all over again. I hope there's some kind of emergency authorization thing they can do, all that paperwork takes so much time. I get why it's important, the car review and the doctor's records and all that. If this is truly an emergency, I'm hoping they will bypass that stuff and do an in-home inspection for temporary status.

I reached out to DCFS, our old private agency, and two other private agencies. They all pointed me in circles, but one place apparently has been doing these kinds of cases with the county so I hope they get back to me tomorrow. With everyone I spoke to today, I said I didn't want to start the foster certification process all over again but that if there was an emergency service I could offer then keep us in mind. We just don't have the time or resources to be full-time long-term foster parents, but I can't just stand by and do nothing.

None of these social workers saw any alarm bells or heard of any massive influx of new kids, which made me a little angry for falling for hysterical media coverage but also grateful to put our names out into the world. Maybe HHS will resolve everything quickly?

And no, I don't speak Spanish but my kids are all in a DI program and could translate a bit if needed.

Paratan
Jan 1, 2008

it's sumo, folks


teen moving out to stepmoms family probably today it's a dream come true. omg . we survived

e: he's been back twice already for clothes and he keeps saying he's coming back. our official meeting for moving out is next week, *pats teen gently*
NONE of us are staying here lol I'm packing my stuff up next

Paratan fucked around with this message at 01:00 on Apr 1, 2021

Paratan
Jan 1, 2008

it's sumo, folks


https://www.crisisprevention.com/Blog/FASD
What is this, is this for cops? Is there a foster parent version of this page because the short paragraphs are really good and I'm about to copypaste it to some pastors, etc. who will be interacting with my teen when i move away and he's still in the area with his family ;__;

I'm mad I just learned about fetal alcohol spectrum disoreders like 6 months ago when I was listening to podcasts to make me feel better abouty my teen's behaviors because "at least he's not THAT bad" lmao

and then i asked someone who knew biomom for confirmation of prenatal alcholo exposure hahaha everything's falling into place...

edit:
ALSO i had already been practicing dealing w/brain trauma due to dementia!!!!!!! i found good results when i interacted with him like one of my dementia friends while thinking "but... but he's not an old person!" so if that website would just tell me everything without my "organization name" i'd really appreciate it.

Paratan fucked around with this message at 12:29 on Apr 7, 2021

Paratan
Jan 1, 2008

it's sumo, folks


Engineer Lenk posted:

Hey my fellow trauma-informed peeps,

Can y'all vet this three-step process I'm going to give my kid as a magic 'get out of lecture free/deescalate a tense situation' strategy?

1. Figure out why the other person is upset.
2. Let them know that you are listening to them.
3*. Let them know one thing you'll try in the future to prevent the same thing happening again.

*3 does not apply if the other person is completely irrational.

If the other person is a cop, just say 'I can't talk to you until after I've talked to my parent,' and then be quiet.

That seems like an ok starting off point to me? How'd it go?

I realized I have already packed away most of my books but when I looked it up in the old Boys Town manual, they had lists like
How to listen, how to follow directions, how to accept compliments, etc.
that were so granular I can't actually expect my teen in particular to ReMEMBER the steps all by himself.


edit: thanks I will go through that
v

Paratan fucked around with this message at 10:52 on Apr 10, 2021

Tulalip Tulips
Sep 1, 2013

The best apologies are crafted with love.


Paratan posted:

https://www.crisisprevention.com/Blog/FASD
What is this, is this for cops? Is there a foster parent version of this page because the short paragraphs are really good and I'm about to copypaste it to some pastors, etc. who will be interacting with my teen when i move away and he's still in the area with his family ;__;

I'm mad I just learned about fetal alcohol spectrum disoreders like 6 months ago when I was listening to podcasts to make me feel better abouty my teen's behaviors because "at least he's not THAT bad" lmao

and then i asked someone who knew biomom for confirmation of prenatal alcholo exposure hahaha everything's falling into place...

edit:
ALSO i had already been practicing dealing w/brain trauma due to dementia!!!!!!! i found good results when i interacted with him like one of my dementia friends while thinking "but... but he's not an old person!" so if that website would just tell me everything without my "organization name" i'd really appreciate it.

It might not be exactly what you're looking for for FAS/FAES information and tips but the University of Washington's FAS clinic has a page. Check it out here. They're the primary diagnostic clinic for WA and have a lot of info.

Engineer Lenk
Aug 28, 2003

Mnogo losho e!

Paratan posted:

That seems like an ok starting off point to me? How'd it go?

I realized I have already packed away most of my books but when I looked it up in the old Boys Town manual, they had lists like
How to listen, how to follow directions, how to accept compliments, etc.
that were so granular I can't actually expect my teen in particular to ReMEMBER the steps all by himself.

Yeah I think the multiple step thing might work better if he was as autistic as I am. It's at least got him thinking about things, but three steps is still 2 more than is easy for him to remember.

Tonight's quote from him (which should in and of itself be diagnostic for ADHD): As I was saying, before I was interrupted by MY drat BRAIN.

Blue Footed Booby
Oct 4, 2006

got those happy feet




Slippery Tilde

Engineer Lenk posted:

...

Tonight's quote from him (which should in and of itself be diagnostic for ADHD): As I was saying, before I was interrupted by MY drat BRAIN.

Oh man I feel this. I just got done reading a wikipedia article on ball bearings that somehow interrupted making breakfast.

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Paratan
Jan 1, 2008

it's sumo, folks


Ok well found out I'm not going to have room to foster when I move this summer. CASA here I come mayhaps

e:
oh my god this looks boring as poo poo, is there a CASA in here??

Paratan fucked around with this message at 13:35 on May 7, 2021

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