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photomikey
Dec 30, 2012


I got certified as a foster parent a year or two back and never ended up putting us on the list to get a foster child, so I can't answer with a lot of confidence. The one thing that stuck with me through training and has born true with friends I've seen go through it (both as the child and the parent) is that if you get a kid who was removed from a home where they were sleeping on dirty carpet without plumbing in the house and a drug addicted parent with no food in the fridge, and they are placed in your 5 bedroom house in the suburbs with an olympic pool and a 70" TV with cable and a maid and 3 hot meals a day, they will eventually resent you for dragging them out of their perfect family life and forcing them to live in such a shithole. It's not logical, but if you can consider the kid's life through that lens, it will help you understand all the other poo poo you go through.

In California, most adoptions are open now. When you have a kid removed from a home because of drugs, 1) you'll be doing visitation on a court ordered schedule (couple times a week) until the case is closed, maybe a year or two, with a drug addicted parent whose children you've stolen, and 2) once the adoption is finalized (if you're the adoptive parent), look forward to a lifetime worth of occasional letters, phone calls, and visits from them. I did not hear a lot of good things about open adoption in this scenario from the adoptive parents.

I think being a foster parent is one of the most important things you can do in our society, and I encourage you to move forward, but know what you're getting into (which you surely seem to).

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