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Store brand soda on a card table is always a death sentence.
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Panfilo posted:There's this assumption that there is a correlation between how much was spent in a wedding and how likely the couple is to get divorced. But I think it's just confirmation bias. I saw data on this and IIRC, the lowest and highest spenders were at the highest risk of divorce. So spend a normal amount, you dorks! (I would guess that a lot of the lower-cost weddings are from second or later marriages. So those people are already predisposed to divorce. After all, the single biggest risk factor for a couple getting divorced, by a wide margin, is one or both partners having had a divorce from a previous marriage.)
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Nov 22, 2017 07:20
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they bought each other wedding bands. nothin says "ex-wife in 5 years" like not committing to a ring
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Nov 22, 2017 07:23
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Conch Shell Corp posted:they bought each other wedding bands. nothin says "ex-wife in 5 years" like not committing to a ring A wedding band is a ring.
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Nov 22, 2017 07:29
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Drunk Tomato posted:I saw data on this and IIRC, the lowest and highest spenders were at the highest risk of divorce. So spend a normal amount, you dorks! This is interesting. Like I said, the extremes on either ends have their pitfalls. It would be interesting to cross reference other factors, like you implied: Previous divorces, children, pregnancy, debt, culture, etc. The priciest wedding we've been to was $70,000 and they've been married longer than we have. Now some people could say that doesn't necessarily mean they are happy together but that just reinforces my point that the amount spent isn't a good predictor of the survival of your marriage. Our method was to work out how much each of us could realistically save in a year, and budget accordingly. If our income was 50% what it ended up being, we would've spent 50% as much.
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Nov 22, 2017 07:38
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Maybe how much you spend isn't necessarily the main indicator, especially if you don't have their income to compare it to, but what they spend it on. Trying to DIY everything is generally going to end in disaster either way, if you pay someone else to do the organising for you then it's another story.
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Nov 22, 2017 07:52
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3 years salary or you'll never be happy together
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Nov 22, 2017 09:04
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if you dont love her enough to graverob in the rich peoples cemetary till you hit diamonds you don’t deserve a happy marriage tbh
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Nov 22, 2017 09:10
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And plus, no one will be able to say you don't own John Larroquette's spine.
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Nov 22, 2017 09:17
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Conch Shell Corp posted:if you dont love her enough to graverob in the rich peoples cemetary till you hit diamonds you don’t deserve a happy marriage tbh Modern graves are miserable to rob. Stupid groundwater contamination regulations mean you have to dig waaay more dirt out and figure out the sealing mechanism, just to get in there and find the mortuary already lifted anything of value. 100+ year old graves are where it's at. Get an old enough one and you can claim you're an amateur archaeologist if you get busted. Great date, 10/10 would grave rob again.
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Nov 22, 2017 11:57
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I have a friend who had his marriage officiated over the phone. I didn't know you could even do that.
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Nov 22, 2017 18:31
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Conch Shell Corp posted:they bought each other wedding bands. nothin says "ex-wife in 5 years" like not committing to a ring My husband and I bought each other a plain gold band. I didn't want to wear some fancy ring each day. He proposed with my grandmothers diamond band and that stays in my jewelry drawer. Simple is better in our case.
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Nov 22, 2017 20:41
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Congrats nooner  I also got married this year and everything we spent money on was worth it because my wedding owned loving bones. One of my husband's coworkers got married a few weeks ago and while it wasn't really loving cheap they did manage to run out of every liquor except tequila before the reception was halfway over. This worked well for me because I like tequila but I think they underestimated how much people were going to drink. Which is extra funny to me because I met the bride's parents a few weeks before the wedding and the mom was stressing over the exact measurements of the cake table, like down to fractions of an inch, and the placement of flower petals and apparently mirrors atop the cake table. I did not notice or care about any of this on the day of, just that there was a cake and not enough alcohol to sustain the whole reception.
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Nov 22, 2017 21:36
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And if y'all are going to talk about Bridezillas and cheap weddings, this is mandatory viewing: https://youtu.be/cJCI_oSbJtQ
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Nov 22, 2017 22:40
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Meiers Goldbrick posted:Expensive weddings are for shallow retards with lovely friends.
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Nov 22, 2017 23:15
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i facebook stalk this couple whose entire lives can be summed up as a plane crash of poor financial planning, heres their wedding timeline:
their life is my guilty pleasure i love how bad they are at decisions i already live w/ my schmoopy  and we're about to go to disneyland, i think we'll get married when he finishes his degree. planning on just buying a fuckton of costco hot wings and lovely beer and having our friends/family over.i bought him a handmade silver ring w/ a dumb simpsons quote engraved on the inside, i guess he can just move that to his left hand when we sign the paperwork bigfatdynamo fucked around with this message at 01:21 on Nov 23, 2017 |
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Nov 23, 2017 01:15
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what simpsons quote?
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Nov 23, 2017 01:30
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 (the first things we ever said to each other were simpsons quotes, not even like a hello or how are u, i think it's cute but i'm biased. goon love is best love)
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Nov 23, 2017 01:32
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Goons are such loving dweebs. Not that I'm any better. But we all deserve eternal wedgies
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Nov 23, 2017 02:24
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coronatae posted:And if y'all are going to talk about Bridezillas and cheap weddings, this is mandatory viewing: How a bitch don't know how to make goddamn rice?
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Nov 23, 2017 03:21
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pointlessone posted:Modern graves are miserable to rob. Stupid groundwater contamination regulations mean you have to dig waaay more dirt out and figure out the sealing mechanism, just to get in there and find the mortuary already lifted anything of value. 100+ year old graves are where it's at. Get an old enough one and you can claim you're an amateur archaeologist if you get busted. It is worth whatever effort to get to those wonderful and very sexy dead bodies. Never thought about stealing anything from them, tho. Hmmm.
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Nov 23, 2017 03:49
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coronatae posted:And if y'all are going to talk about Bridezillas and cheap weddings, this is mandatory viewing: Tifani is extremely hot, and I don't usually say that about living people.
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Nov 23, 2017 03:54
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Neukoln19 posted:It is worth whatever effort to get to those wonderful and very sexy dead bodies. Never thought about stealing anything from them, tho. Hmmm. My date and I were just going on living history archaeological hunts after dark in the local burial grounds. Ain't no reason to bring necrosexuality into this now.
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Nov 23, 2017 07:25
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I went to a few weddings as a kid and they were all in a field or barn or whatever and I always wondered why these people never had a nice wedding in a church or whatever. Now that I'm an adult I've realized that expensive church weddings are completely stupid. Also most weddings I went to were the 2nd or 3rd marriages so no one gives a poo poo about wasting money on a ceremony at that point.
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Nov 23, 2017 07:54
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I ushered a friend's wedding recently. They spent around $25k which seems insane to me. By hour 6 of my involvement I was tired and wanted to go home but then it went on for 4 more hours. If I ever get married it's going to be at a courthouse and then maybe a nice lunch or something for close friends and family.
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Nov 23, 2017 08:04
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Drunk Tomato posted:Goons are such loving dweebs. my lovely goonhusband was really embarassed that i posted about him, this is a good and cool relationship thx
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Nov 23, 2017 09:25
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Casimir Radon posted:I ushered a friend's wedding recently. They spent around $25k which seems insane to me. By hour 6 of my involvement I was tired and wanted to go home but then it went on for 4 more hours. pro tip: have a lot of friends but no best friends or anyone who cares too much about you, you still get to go to all the weddings but you don't have anything expected of you and you get drunk for three hours and leave con of the tip: die alone
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Nov 23, 2017 10:09
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Cheapest I’ve been to was a backyard wedding that was very informal and potluck. It was alright but didn’t feel like a special event. Groom was in jeans and tshirt (sadly not a tshirt with a tux printed on it) and I forgot what the bride wore. There weren’t really even any decorations. I know expensive weddings are bullshit and all that but it felt a bit trashy tbh. Most expensive was around $150k (I heard) and It was good but they were trying way too hard to impress people.
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Nov 23, 2017 10:26
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i don't think any reason a relationship falls apart is because somewhere along the line, one of the wedded keeps awake at night thinking 'but they spent so much/little...' unless they are already going down the road of is it worth it
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Nov 23, 2017 11:45
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Jabberlock posted:I went to a few weddings as a kid and they were all in a field or barn or whatever and I always wondered why these people never had a nice wedding in a church or whatever. Now that I'm an adult I've realized that expensive church weddings are completely stupid. Also most weddings I went to were the 2nd or 3rd marriages so no one gives a poo poo about wasting money on a ceremony at that point. Church weddings are usually free or very cheap if you go to the church, though?
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Nov 23, 2017 16:50
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OMFG FURRY posted:i don't think any reason a relationship falls apart is because somewhere along the line, one of the wedded keeps awake at night thinking 'but they spent so much/little...' unless they are already going down the road of is it worth it Dunno, I could see it as a seed of some sort of trust issues or, even worse, in-law issues. Especially if one side stiffed the other side or something like that
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Nov 23, 2017 18:49
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Drunk Tomato posted:Church weddings are usually free or very cheap if you go to the church, though? I mean isn't that half the point of a church? To do poo poo like marriages, births, and funerals?
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Nov 23, 2017 18:50
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I don’t think they do a whole lot of births
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Nov 24, 2017 17:43
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OXBALLS DOT COM posted:I mean isn't that half the point of a church? To do poo poo like marriages, births, and funerals? the venue we had our wedding at wouldnt let us inside the actual chapel cause im a dirty protestant and she is agnostic even worse! lol
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Nov 24, 2017 18:38
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Nooner posted:the venue we had our wedding at wouldnt let us inside the actual chapel cause im a dirty protestant and she is agnostic even worse! lol Being part of a church is like being part of a club. Non-members don't get to use the pool at the club.
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Nov 24, 2017 18:45
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Baronjutter posted:I met my wife randomly on ICQ because she was stressed studying for university exams in the middle of the night and hit random a couple times to find someone to chat with. She was impressed I knew a bunch about Moscow's stalinist skyscrapers and we got to chatting. It ended up becoming an almost daily thing for a couple years and we realized we really liked each other. Canada would not give her a visa to visit here though and the official even laughed and said "short of getting married there's no way she'll ever set foot in Canada". Russia is a poo poo hole, but she had always wanted to visit Prague so we decided lets go meet in person and if we like each other in person as much as we do online we'll "quick" get married as a gently caress you to Canada. We decided to go for it, getting married was literally kafkaesq and was only then the start of a year and a half visa hell for canada to decide if we were really married and then if she was a spy. She worked at the british embassy in moscow which was actually full of spies and during the visa process the KGB tried to recruit her (or possibly it was canada testing her). A year and a half later she made it over here, is a Canadian citizen, and we've been happily married for 10 years now. It was the FSB, not KGB. It was probably really the FSB and not Canada because that sort of direct approach is kinda their M.O. They also have the legal framework in place these days to lean super heavily on Russian citizens/their families if they decline. Our wedding ended up being around $3k. We were originally going to do the courthouse thing but decided to just do a small ceremony with close friends and family. Took 2 weeks to plan and turned out really nice. We spent our money closing on a house a few weeks later.
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Drunk Tomato posted:Church weddings are usually free or very cheap if you go to the church, though? I don't know where you are or what religion you are where this is the case but I have never been to or heard of a wedding that didn't have to pay a "venue fee" and "donation" even if they were members of the church they were getting married in, many also charge for the organist/pianist. It's not a huge sum (I think like $250-$1k total) but it's certainly not free.
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