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My wedding cost about $4000, most of that being airfare and accommodations in Prague, the rest being bribes and bureaucracy because there's no such thing as "just go to city hall or a government office and sign some poo poo" in that god drat Kafka-esq country. It was a month long hellish ordeal of stamps and foreign ministries and embassies and trying to secure an actual place for the ceremony because you HAVE to legally have a ceremony. Our actual wedding was at 9am in a small town's mayor and was only a couple hundred plus another couple hundred bribe to keep our slot open when there was some insanely stupid paperwork issue. Our translator didn't count as a witness so we had to quickly get a lady who helped us at a previous office to tag along. We had lunch at a cool cafe that was also a glass blowing workshop and they liked to showboat their glass blowing. Our translator had another job right after so dropped us off at the outskirts of the city and we took the metro home, stopped by a Tesco to get some groceries on the way home. I also found my engagement ring in the gutter when I was a kid. The wedding was a real trial by fire for us working together as a couple and neither of us would trade it for any by the numbers bland 100k "perfect wedding" A year and a half later we actually had a reception with friends and family that ended up being really cheap because the owner of a hotel gave us the whole penthouse level to do what we wanted with, another friend owned a catering company and did all the food for less than cost. In the end it cost my folks just a couple thousand. Saving money is cool. Not having huge debts is also a great way to avoid the top reason marriages break up: finances.
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girl pants posted:Hey that's pretty interesting! Why did you get married in Prague? I met my wife randomly on ICQ because she was stressed studying for university exams in the middle of the night and hit random a couple times to find someone to chat with. She was impressed I knew a bunch about Moscow's stalinist skyscrapers and we got to chatting. It ended up becoming an almost daily thing for a couple years and we realized we really liked each other. Canada would not give her a visa to visit here though and the official even laughed and said "short of getting married there's no way she'll ever set foot in Canada". Russia is a poo poo hole, but she had always wanted to visit Prague so we decided lets go meet in person and if we like each other in person as much as we do online we'll "quick" get married as a gently caress you to Canada. We decided to go for it, getting married was literally kafkaesq and was only then the start of a year and a half visa hell for canada to decide if we were really married and then if she was a spy. She worked at the british embassy in moscow which was actually full of spies and during the visa process the KGB tried to recruit her (or possibly it was canada testing her). A year and a half later she made it over here, is a Canadian citizen, and we've been happily married for 10 years now. Through all this struggle to be together poo poo like what sort of vases the flowers at the head table will be in or if the bird guy was able to only get 50 white doves to release instead of the 80 we wanted for our dream wedding seems like the most meaningless petty poo poo.
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Nov 17, 2017 23:24
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One of my best friends recently got married. He invited a single friend to be there as a witness, they quick found someone who could do it on short notice and just went to a nice park then went out for a nice dinner. I wasn't hurt that I didn't get to come, but he also didn't loving tell anyone. It was weeks later that another friend was asking us if we heard this rumour our friend got married and we had to ask him. "Oh yeah we got married. Well, you didn't ask" I think they spent easily under a grand on the wedding and dinner. But there's a big difference I think between a cheap embarrassing wedding and a wedding that just happens to be small and personal. And generally really cheap weddings are really cheap because the people are poor but really want all their extended family and friends there, good for them if it's fun and works out. What's awful are the huge wasteful expensive weddings that no one seems to enjoy and generate nothing but stress for everyone involved.
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Nov 18, 2017 00:29
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I think of my self as a pretty social person with a large group of friends and acquaintances, yet I think I'd struggle to get past even 50 possible guests for a wedding and that's including extended family. When people talk about their 200+ person weddings who the hell is coming? People you don't even know? Weird long lost aunt-in-laws no one has ever met? Are these huge weddings generally for people who have very large extended families where everyone has 8 aunts and uncles who all had a ton of kids who also have a bunch of kids of their own? On my wife's side there's just her mom, her step dad, aunt and uncle and 2 cousins, and grand parents. On my side it's my parents, a few aunts and uncles and a few cousins, and a couple surviving grand-parents. That's it family-wise. The trend among everyone of my generation I know who's gotten married is to keep the ceremony very small and intimate and then just have a large casual reception after, sometimes not even a catered dinner affair just snacks and drinks and dancing.
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Nov 18, 2017 01:58
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