I spoke to my dad on the phone

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Hardawn: Mar 15, 2004; Don't look at the sun, but rather what it illuminates; College Slice

Cats in the cradle, or pussies in the poke in the OPs case

# ? Nov 21, 2018 03:24

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CRIP EATIN BREAD: Jun 24, 2002; Hey stop worrying bout my acting bitch, and worry about your WACK ass music. In the mean time... Eat a hot bowl of Dicks! Ice T; Soiled Meat

John DiFool posted:

dad bad so what

# ? Nov 21, 2018 03:33

Kirk Vikernes: Apr 26, 2004; Count Goatnackh

Nooner posted:

Lol youre the reason mommy and daddy dont love eachother anymore

Boomshakalaka!

# ? Nov 21, 2018 03:38

Moon Atari: Dec 26, 2010

Here is my last parental phone interaction lol

# ? Nov 21, 2018 03:56

Vato: Jan 14, 2018

Moon Atari posted:

Here is my last parental phone interaction lol

I hope your mom sues you for lost wages.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 03:58

BattleCattle: May 11, 2014

Nothing he could ever have done would have been enough for you.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:08

Drunk Nerds: Jan 25, 2011; Just close your eyes; Fun Shoe

Moon Atari posted:

Here is my last parental phone interaction lol

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:09

Moon Atari: Dec 26, 2010

Vato posted:

I hope your mom sues you for lost wages.

I countersue for theft of my hard earned drugs.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:20

Wrath of the Bitch King: May 11, 2005; Research confirms that black is a color like silver is a color, and that beyond black is clarity.

Moon Atari posted:

I countersue for theft of my hard earned drugs.

Luke,

Please consider moving out.

Sincerely,
Your desperate parents

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:21

Moon Atari: Dec 26, 2010

Wrath of the Bitch King posted:

Luke,

Please consider moving out.

Sincerely,
Your desperate parents

I moved into my mum's house because she needed help paying her mortgage and doing renovations. I have completed a full home makeover for her and she is charging me more for rent than what I paid for my own place. I'm in the process of switching it up and doing the exact same arrangement for my dad since his house is being claimed by nature.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:28

IT BURNS: Nov 19, 2012

RabbitWizard posted:

Last time we talked was 4 years ago. I then called him to help me with my taxes. He told me he's going on vacation and will call me back afterwards. That never happened.
I heard he got cancer.
I called him an hour ago. First he asked me if I drank anything (and yes, of course I did!) then he made some lame apologies for not calling me or my sister.

I then told him if he died (and if I would even notice, because no one of the family has my number), I wouldn't have to say good things about him. And I told him that I wanted to tell him how much of a poo poo he was while he is alive. And I won't visit him on his death-bed, I'm telling him now and if he cares he can do something.
He promised to call my sister when I send him her number. And he promised to call me back.
Let'S see how this poo poo turns out.

suck a male camel's dick with hoisin sauce

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:33

Wrath of the Bitch King: May 11, 2005; Research confirms that black is a color like silver is a color, and that beyond black is clarity.

Moon Atari posted:

I moved into my mum's house because she needed help paying her mortgage and doing renovations. I have completed a full home makeover for her and she is charging me more for rent than what I paid for my own place. I'm in the process of switching it up and doing the exact same arrangement for my dad since his house is being claimed by nature.

Oh. Well good on you then I guess.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:35

Who What Now: Sep 10, 2006; by Azathoth

Moon Atari posted:

I moved into my mum's house because she needed help paying her mortgage and doing renovations. I have completed a full home makeover for her and she is charging me more for rent than what I paid for my own place. I'm in the process of switching it up and doing the exact same arrangement for my dad since his house is being claimed by nature.

Your parents just keep owning you

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:35

Genesplicer: Oct 19, 2002; I give your invention the worst grade imaginable: An A-minus-minus!; Total Clam

I'd like to talk to my dad. The last time we had a conversation was six or seven years ago. Since then, his Alzheimer's has gotten really bad, and he can no longer hold a conversation or recognize family members...

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:43

Fredrik1: Jan 22, 2005; Gopherslayer; Fallen Rib

In this thread, goon yells at dying old man.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 04:49

Vato: Jan 14, 2018

Fredrik1 posted:

In this thread, goon yells at dying old man.

I get the impression he's not, like, on his way out just now. I think OP is mad and sad about his dad, is all. And perhaps he fears he is TURNING INTO HIS FATHER. Which is true.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 05:02

SoldadoDeTone: Apr 20, 2006; Hold on tight!

Genesplicer posted:

I'd like to talk to my dad. The last time we had a conversation was six or seven years ago. Since then, his Alzheimer's has gotten really bad, and he can no longer hold a conversation or recognize family members...

My dad hanged himself when the Alzheimer's started to seriously take him. I miss him terribly, but I thank him regularly for not putting the family or himself through such a wretched illness. I'm sorry, friend. Alzheimer's is a cruel, merciless disease.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 05:16

gary oldmans diary: Sep 26, 2005

im pretty sure the path to closure in this matter is having him time travel back and make everything in your childhood work for you and not making peace with him before he dies

# ? Nov 21, 2018 05:27

klapman: Aug 27, 2012; this char is good

I don't have sympathy for the OP's problems, but I have a lot for how he's gonna feel when he realizes he posted a thread

# ? Nov 21, 2018 05:28

gary oldmans diary: Sep 26, 2005

SoldadoDeTone posted:

My dad hanged himself when the Alzheimer's started to seriously take him. I miss him terribly, but I thank him regularly for not putting the family or himself through such a wretched illness

i would go the extra step and make it look like an involuntary death though. i believe large doses of viagra and chest pain medication is the ticket
pretty much only in the face of debilitating mental condition though. other than that ill stay the course as long as i can still pet dogs and laugh at how dumb everyone is

# ? Nov 21, 2018 05:39

Sekenr: Dec 12, 2013

OP: gently caress my gay dying dad! he better spend his last days caring about ME

# ? Nov 21, 2018 07:37

SoldadoDeTone: Apr 20, 2006; Hold on tight!

gary oldmans diary posted:

i would go the extra step and make it look like an involuntary death though. i believe large doses of viagra and chest pain medication is the ticket
pretty much only in the face of debilitating mental condition though. other than that ill stay the course as long as i can still pet dogs and laugh at how dumb everyone is

The problem with Alzheimer's is that it is incredibly doubtful that he had the ability to plan a more subtle suicide. For other debilitating diseases, though, sure.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 12:55

Tiberius Christ: Mar 4, 2009

sorry your dad's a twat and is gonna die

# ? Nov 21, 2018 15:01

Comfy Fleece Sweater: Apr 2, 2013; You see, but you do not observe.

Didn�t expect this thread to go this hard :gurf:

# ? Nov 21, 2018 16:29

Pudding Space: Mar 19, 2014

RabbitWizard posted:

Oh. Maybe that wasn't clear. He had the colon cancer like 4 years ago. Today he told me he had another cancer. He wasn't reaching out to me.
I was calling him to check if he is still alive, because I didn't know.

You sound like an incredibly well-adjusted adult. Here's an edgy site with like-minded people: raisedbynarcissists

# ? Nov 21, 2018 16:38

I said come in!: Jun 22, 2004

Wrath of the Bitch King posted:

So he just stopped talking to you guys? He never beat you or demeaned you?

This is my dad. Ever since my mom passed away a year ago i've had a hard time even wanting to talk to my dad. There's years of physical and emotional abuse from childhood that are unanswered and not apologized for. I'm too much of a piece of poo poo coward to bring it up though with my dad so I guess I can't complain too much.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 17:03

Pewdiepie: Oct 31, 2010

RabbitWizard posted:

Last time we talked was 4 years ago. I then called him to help me with my taxes. He told me he's going on vacation and will call me back afterwards. That never happened.
I heard he got cancer.
I called him an hour ago. First he asked me if I drank anything (and yes, of course I did!) then he made some lame apologies for not calling me or my sister.

I then told him if he died (and if I would even notice, because no one of the family has my number), I wouldn't have to say good things about him. And I told him that I wanted to tell him how much of a poo poo he was while he is alive. And I won't visit him on his death-bed, I'm telling him now and if he cares he can do something.
He promised to call my sister when I send him her number. And he promised to call me back.
Let'S see how this poo poo turns out.

You should ask him if he has stairs in his house.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 17:43

Kazak: Jan 10, 2012

Don't be a dick to your dying dad, be good instead. It speaks to the core of your character and will pay off megabucks in the afterlife

# ? Nov 21, 2018 18:00

Gobblecoque: Sep 6, 2011

Not much to be done about a lovely parent having done a poo poo job. Dwelling on hating him won't hurt him once he's dead and it won't make you feel better. That said, I don't think you're obligated to try to reconcile either and I don't necessarily think it will do you any good. For some people in some situation it does, for others it's just a waste of time. All you can do is to try to make your life better for yourself.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 18:08

DeadFatDuckFat: Oct 29, 2012; This avatar brought to you by the 'save our dead gay forums' foundation.

I'd be kinda happy if my dad talked to me less tbh

# ? Nov 21, 2018 18:25

FlimFlam Imam: Mar 1, 2007; Standing on a hill in my mountain of dreams

They'll get together and have a good time then.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 18:46

klapman: Aug 27, 2012; this char is good

RabbitWizard posted:

Well, i grew up in a big house. And yes, he was able to support a family of four. But then my parents got divorced. Oh, this happened in Germany, btw.
After the divorce he got every other weekend. Which were filled with as much fun as the "every-other-weekend-parent" can put into it. It was a poo poo system. At least I learned a lot about trading. Because sometimes my parents traded days of "having us".
After me and my sister were old enough to decide on our own where we want to be, the contact to my dad broke down.

So after reading this again, I think I can imagine why your dad became weird and distant. He tried too hard to make you love him in the short time he was given, and then you explicitly turned your back on him. It's understandable on your end why you did that, but equally so that he'd break off contact. You accuse him of being unemotional, but how's the guy supposed to handle something like that? Your wife leaves you, that stings real nasty, but at least you got your kids every other weekend - oh, the kids don't want to come anymore. Think about how that must have felt before you go off half-cocked and drunk as hell accusing a guy of being unemotional when you're telling him you don't care that he dies of cancer, the fucker that he is.

I'm not trying to be hostile here, but man... You've clearly got some kinda mental poo poo going on, same as me, so consider that it's probably at least partially genetic. My parents were both poo poo in far worse ways than being distant, but since I can see myself having those same impulses I can feel empathy towards them and at least understand why they did the things they did. I think if you look at yourself and your dad, and the way you handle stress, you'll probably find a lot of similarities. And I think you should do this before he dies.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 18:51

Pewdiepie: Oct 31, 2010

I love my parents!

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:06

Bardeh: Dec 2, 2004; Fun Shoe

My Dad had an affair and hosed off when I was about 4, and then only made the barest minimum of effort after that. Nowadays we have a cordial relationship, talk on Facebook a couple of times a week, but we're not particularly close. It seems odd that you have such a big amount of hate for your Dad when he's just sorta...indifferent. Be indifferent too, you'll feel better.

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:06

unpleasantly turgid: Jul 6, 2016; u lightweights couldn't even feed my shadow ;*

Waltzing Along posted:

Have you considered that maybe you were a tremendous disappointment and he wanted nothing to do with you?

every day

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:14

ClamdestineBoyster: Aug 15, 2015; Can't post for 10 years!

Moon Atari posted:

Here is my last parental phone interaction lol

Such an obvs mommas boy lol. :negative:

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:18

Kazak: Jan 10, 2012

RabbitWizard posted:

Well, i grew up in a big house. And yes, he was able to support a family of four. But then my parents got divorced. Oh, this happened in Germany, btw.
After the divorce he got every other weekend. Which were filled with as much fun as the "every-other-weekend-parent" can put into it. It was a poo poo system. At least I learned a lot about trading. Because sometimes my parents traded days of "having us".
After me and my sister were old enough to decide on our own where we want to be, the contact to my dad broke down.
We sued him because he stopped paying child support. I contacted him during that. Everything worked out! No Lawsuit! We met on Christmas and poo poo. Then he stopped again(!) contacting us.

I really had nothing but disgust for him today

ok it makes sense now, you're the pos

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:19

Chinatown: Sep 11, 2001; by Fluffdaddy; Fun Shoe

Nooner posted:

I guess you could say the OP has some

Daddy issues

Nooner!!!

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:19

klapman: Aug 27, 2012; this char is good

Pewdiepie posted:

I love my parents!

*sighs, draws a single tally mark on the board*

# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:20

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# ? Apr 25, 2024 11:03

unpleasantly turgid: Jul 6, 2016; u lightweights couldn't even feed my shadow ;*

I'm kind of torn on this whole situation. on the one hand it seems like op's father was a lovely guy b/c he hosed off and was a deadbeat, but on the other hand it seems the rest of the fam bailing on him, squeezing him out and threatening him with a law suit created apathy.

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# ? Nov 21, 2018 19:50

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