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Haifisch posted:I can't remember her leaning on me for emotional support or venting until I was an adult(and even then that didn't really start until I was out of college); all the support flowed from her to me, not vice-versa. Hell, same, from another lurker that really doesn't belong in this thread. My dad died when I had just turned 13, almost in my mother's arms (cerebral thrombosis, but he had a cancer in late stages anyway). I know she struggled for emotional support in the next months, not being really a sociable person. My grandma while not abusive could feature a bit in this thread so no support there either. It was some years ago I really grasped how the thing got, and she never ever leaned on me or gave me some "we are equals" bullshit, and I respect her all the more for it.
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Can I ask the normal-parent-havers in the thread a serious question? Does your parent(s) tell you you owe them your life because they birthed you? Is that normal/healthy up to a certain point, and it's only bad if it gets "...and you are my indentured servant and my only friend, good thing I had a kid to look after me"-level, or do you think any "I brought you into this world, therefore you literally owe me your life" is weird/not okay? Good parent haver here: no, not ever, and I am sure that thought didn't even cross their minds. I don't think that kinda attitude is healthy, at any grade, kids ain't your property and that sounds manipulative at hell tbh.
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