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Roosevelt posted:when i was a kid my parents and their friends would throw "over the hill" birthday parties for each other when one of them would turn 40. they had like black balloons and old person jokes for this person who was clearly decaying in the throes of old age. i wonder if anyone still does that any more, or if 40 is too young for that now i havent heard of anybody doing one since my parents turned 40. i think it's only "too young" bc people are too vain to admit that they're 40, and that 40 is old. that is, i think "over the hill" still applies, but that there's a way higher percentage of people who would get super pissed about it than there were a few decades ago, so people don't do it as much
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# ? Nov 9, 2021 23:47 |
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one weird thing i didn't plan to do but just started mentally doing when i turned 40 is i started to countdown how many years away i am from the age my dad died (23 years to go)
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# ? Nov 9, 2021 23:50 |
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Cold on a Cob posted:one weird thing i didn't plan to do but just started mentally doing when i turned 40 is i started to countdown how many years away i am from the age my dad died a friend of mine did that but the age was 32
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# ? Nov 9, 2021 23:57 |
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normal humans have parties every weekend
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# ? Nov 9, 2021 23:59 |
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Roosevelt posted:when i was a kid my parents and their friends would throw "over the hill" birthday parties for each other when one of them would turn 40. they had like black balloons and old person jokes for this person who was clearly decaying in the throes of old age. i wonder if anyone still does that any more, or if 40 is too young for that now
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Cold on a Cob posted:one weird thing i didn't plan to do but just started mentally doing when i turned 40 is i started to countdown how many years away i am from the age my dad died the coolest thing i saw was a guy who figured out how many weeks he had left given his avg life expectancy and bought that many 3x5 cards and every sunday he picked a blank one off the pile, wrote down what he did that week and put it in the other pile my wife wont let me do it because she thinks its morbid but i think its awesome.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:17 |
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rotor posted:the coolest thing i saw was a guy who figured out how many weeks he had left given his avg life expectancy and bought that many 3x5 cards and every sunday he picked a blank one off the pile, wrote down what he did that week and put it in the other pile that's actually a neat idea and i like it but probably not a good idea for people with mood disorders vOv
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:19 |
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different people take it different ways which is why i didnt make a fuss about it with the wife. I can see how it's upsetting for her, but for me it's more of a "make the best of what u got" type deal
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:22 |
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rotor posted:different people take it different ways which is why i didnt make a fuss about it with the wife. I can see how it's upsetting for her, but for me it's more of a "make the best of what u got" type deal plus if you're still alive when you run out of cards you get to go buy a new pack and write "conquered death" on the first one
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:25 |
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Cold on a Cob posted:one weird thing i didn't plan to do but just started mentally doing when i turned 40 is i started to countdown how many years away i am from the age my dad died uhhhhhh 19 here. or something. idk. rotor posted:the coolest thing i saw was a guy who figured out how many weeks he had left given his avg life expectancy and bought that many 3x5 cards and every sunday he picked a blank one off the pile, wrote down what he did that week and put it in the other pile this is actually the worst thing i've ever heard of in my life. and i have seen faces of death films
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:26 |
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Cold on a Cob posted:plus if you're still alive when you run out of cards you get to go buy a new pack and write "conquered death" on the first one BONUS TIME
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:33 |
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Jonny 290 posted:this is actually the worst thing i've ever heard of in my life. and i have seen faces of death films Everyone dies, jonny. But not everyone ... truly lives! [yosposts for 5 hours straight]
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:34 |
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rotor posted:Everyone dies, jonny. But not everyone ... truly lives! [yosposts for 5 hours straight] c weekend project s: filling my nas with media i'll never have time to enjoy drat that's maybe more morbid than the index card thing
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:41 |
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rotor posted:the coolest thing i saw was a guy who figured out how many weeks he had left given his avg life expectancy and bought that many 3x5 cards and every sunday he picked a blank one off the pile, wrote down what he did that week and put it in the other pile I think it's great. It's pretty well established that practicing gratitude is good for your mental health. Seems like a good way to at least try to remember the good poo poo that happens in the context of your own mortality.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:47 |
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Kenny Logins posted:*james franco at gallows* raised by boomers huh Bruh I remember some of the gag gifts at my uncle's over-the-hill party ca 2001. One of them was a knit sweater for his cock and balls. It was loving weird. Things Boomers Love: spending real money on mass manufactured gag gifts that are going to immediately be shoved in a box in the attic, if not thrown away outrigbt
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:49 |
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shoeberto posted:I think it's great. It's pretty well established that practicing gratitude is good for your mental health. Seems like a good way to at least try to remember the good poo poo that happens in the context of your own mortality. when you frame it like that, this reminds me: a non-morbid thing my partner and i do is every night before we go to sleep we ask each other "what was your favourite part of the day?" even on the worst days too, because even on the worst days it's good to find perspective you could do this on your own if you don't have a partner too, that's what my partner used to do when she first started doing it.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 00:52 |
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when my dad died we found this bag of small journals in his stuff. my grandfather wrote down stuff that happened to him every day for years. it's all basic description too, like "went to the diner with tony for lunch. chicken salad" absolutely no thoughts or emotions of any kind which im told was extremely on brand for him
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Cold on a Cob posted:
aww ima try that
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:09 |
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rotor posted:Everyone dies, jonny. But not everyone ... truly lives! [yosposts for 5 hours straight]
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:17 |
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shoeberto posted:Things Boomers Love: spending real money on mass manufactured gag gifts that are going to immediately be shoved in a box in the attic, if not thrown away outrigbt imo a real turning point in our culture was when they started making intentionally ugly christmas sweaters instead of people going to the thrift store to find one. I’d guess at this point there’s enough of those to fill a rack at goodwill but people still buy new ones, it’s horrifying if you think about it too much nowadays I pretty much only give people food or booze as gifts unless they ask me for something specific
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:42 |
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My wife's brother, back when they were on speaking terms, would give people lottery tickets as an Xmas gift. I always thought that was the ultimate in lovely gifts. It's basically the same as giving nothing but he still spent money on it.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:47 |
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i'd honestly rather receive a lotto ticket than half the poo poo i've received over the years and immediately donated to goodwill :\
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:49 |
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normalize just giving someone $20 in an envelope
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:49 |
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the following people get me good gifts: * my partner * yospos secret santas, when i take part, have been pretty good * this one really good friend who doesn't give me gifts during xmas or birthday but if he just sees a random thing he knows i'll like he'll buy everyone else needs to stop buying me stuff
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:50 |
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rotor posted:normalize just giving someone $20 in an envelope this is what we do for any nieces and nephews > 10 years old except more like $50 each
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:52 |
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I keep it classy by just giving people a note saying that I emitted 2 tons of CO2 in their honor.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 02:52 |
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I’d be pretty excited to get a pile of scratch off tickets for Christmas. Better than getting something off my list that I actually wanted to buy in November but put on my list so people could have presents to give.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 03:28 |
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I would rather receive nothing than scratchoffs. You're ending up with nothing either way but at least no one wasted their money.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 03:49 |
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qirex posted:imo a real turning point in our culture was when they started making intentionally ugly christmas sweaters instead of people going to the thrift store to find one. I’d guess at this point there’s enough of those to fill a rack at goodwill but people still buy new ones, it’s horrifying if you think about it too much I think about how there is surely a layer in landfills across the world made out of trucker's caps.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 03:56 |
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my mother in law gave me a bunch of scratch & win tickets for my birthday and I was pretty stoked. won 27 bucks and bought some new swim trunks
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 03:57 |
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My grandmother likes to give me $20 by palming it to me like a mob boss paying for a favor Or did when I would see her on the holidays, been a long while
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 04:01 |
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my grandma did that move too grandmas rule
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qirex posted:imo a real turning point in our culture was when they started making intentionally ugly christmas sweaters instead of people going to the thrift store to find one. I’d guess at this point there’s enough of those to fill a rack at goodwill but people still buy new ones, it’s horrifying if you think about it too much Same. I demand consumables. The only ugly sweater party I have gone to was nothing but Amazon purchases. I didn't even realize it was A Thing. My wife and I hit the racks at Goodwill and took what we could find. The whole thing was disheartening in a weird way.
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 04:13 |
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Roosevelt posted:when i was a kid my parents and their friends would throw "over the hill" birthday parties for each other when one of them would turn 40. they had like black balloons and old person jokes for this person who was clearly decaying in the throes of old age. i wonder if anyone still does that any more, or if 40 is too young for that now i havent seen one since my moms
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 04:47 |
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rotor posted:the coolest thing i saw was a guy who figured out how many weeks he had left given his avg life expectancy and bought that many 3x5 cards and every sunday he picked a blank one off the pile, wrote down what he did that week and put it in the other pile in how to with john wilson he reveals that he;s a big weirdo that writes down a few sentences about what he did & ate every day and he keeps all the records in a bunch of books at home. cant find a clip of that scene online but i thought it was neat
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 05:59 |
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Kevin Spacey’s character in Se7en kept lots of journals. Now there was a man with a plan
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 06:03 |
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the last ugly sweater thing someone wore a ugly sweater with BUILD THE WALL and a knit representation of the border wall. it was ugly inside and outside
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# ? Nov 10, 2021 06:05 |
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fart simpson posted:in how to with john wilson he reveals that he;s a big weirdo that writes down a few sentences about what he did & ate every day and he keeps all the records in a bunch of books at home. cant find a clip of that scene online but i thought it was neat I remember everyone being really excited about the Andy Warhol Diaries book then it turned out to be like hundreds of pages of that. quote:June 21st. Took a cab to Studio 54. $3.17 with tip. Saw the Halstons. Ate at Chez Whatever, had the salmon. $45 with tip. Talked to Mick and Jerry for a bit, he had a sesame seed in his teeth. Home by 1am. Like hundreds of pages of poo poo like that.
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rotor posted:I remember everyone being really excited about the Andy Warhol Diaries book then it turned out to be like hundreds of pages of that. yeah the john wilson scene was basically like that, but he used it to help make his films i guess
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rotor posted:I remember everyone being really excited about the Andy Warhol Diaries book then it turned out to be like hundreds of pages of that.
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