- Silly Burrito
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Yeah, unless this turns to a mormon style situation I think the green dragon will eventually rear its head
Sounds like the purple-headed warrior already has.
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- Silly Burrito
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But when a doctor suggest a depressed woman that she just needs a good dickin' people get all up in arms.
Take two dicks and call me in the morning.
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- Silly Burrito
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Not the Vitamin D the doctor meant.
No, that's vitamin O.
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My (25m) girlfriend (24f) have been going out 3 years and she now she doesn't like me seeing her body as we have different views on female bodies. What should I do?
quote:My gf struggles to have sex or let me see her naked because of the ways we view female bodies. In our relationship I've passed comments like thinking kendal jenner has a good body or that a certain person is fat (not my finest moment).
However my gf wants me to think that her body is the slimmest body that I would be attracted to. I've told her that I have a scale and that I'm attracted to bodies slimmer and bigger than her, and that I love her body. She can't seem to get her head around this and wants me to view her body like she views her own body (that she is the slimmest a girl should be).
I've told her that my view on this probably won't change. Does anyone have any ideas on this or thoughts/opinions?
tl;dr My gf can't get past the fact that I don't view her body the same way that she views it, even though I've told her I love her body
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Mar 26, 2021 21:26
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- don longjohns
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My (25m) girlfriend (24f) have been going out 3 years and she now she doesn't like me seeing her body as we have different views on female bodies. What should I do?
Exhausting to read, even with the brevity.
"I (25f) just found out my fiancé (27m) hooked up with my older sister (27f) when they were in HS. I can't get the image out of my head. Is this me being insecure or a legit problem? posted:
I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years. He proposed last summer with the idea of having a small wedding this summer when things get back to normal. He is a great, great guy and I have never even slightly suspected him of cheating or doing anything that would make me question his commitment to me. Maybe that's why this has rocked me so much.
Since my sister is involved in this as well, she has always been a great older sister. We've had our ups and downs but I really do love her. I guess one of the reasons this bothers me so much is she had quite a reputation at our school and right or wrong I always held it against her because I felt like I suffered for her mistakes in that guys automatically thought I would sleep with them and when I didn't they accused me of being a stuck up prude. My sister is a great person now and has an amazing husband, I love my 1 year old niece and I hang out with all of them a lot.
Now that things look like they will be open enough for us to have our small wedding in july, I confirmed with my sister that she would be my MOH. She said yes.
I went out to lunch with a girl that I knew from HS because she had just moved back into town. She and I always had a thorny relationship because I felt like she was a gossip but when she got in touch I figured why not. Keep in mind that this girl hasn't lived in town for probably close to 6 years and is probably unaware of how my sister has changed...but maybe that doesn't matter...maybe she was just trying to cause trouble anyways.
I was filling her in on details and she was both surprised at who my fiance is (even though she lived out of town, I'm not sure how she didn't know this) but she was really surprised that I'd "allow" my sister to be MOH after their history together. I asked her what she meant, she was surprised I didn't know and went into fill me in that they were hook up buddies during their junior year. I was beyond shocked to hear it.
I was even more surprised because my fiance had a very steady girlfriend who died in a car crash that spring and if my dates are right, my sister was pregnant at the time. At first I didn't believe it. Then my "friend" told me to go look at the yearbook from that year and there was a picture in the "embarrassing moments" where my sister and now fiance were caught on camera coming out of the wrestling room and the entire school knew they'd just had sex. I know the picture but decided to verify for myself and sure enough the caption says "are these 2 on the wrestling team? we aren't sure!?!??!?"
I asked my fiance if it was true. He said to please keep in mind how long ago it was and he had talked to my sister when we started dating and they agreed that the past was the past and no reason to bring it up to me. I called my sister and she said the same thing.
I mean what this means is my now fiance was a serial cheater and was cheating on a girl that everyone loved who died. My sister was pregnant with another guys baby and was still stupid enough to be screwing around with another guy...another guy she knew had a boyfriend.
I mean it's so much for me to wrap my brain around I can't get it out of my head. It also means that me as a freshman was likely doing PE in their secret sex spot in the wrestling room. I mean I know that room, the smell, the lights...and now I can't get the image of them going at it in that room. The whole thing makes me want to throw up.
I'm at such a loss here. Is this worth leaving him over? Is this worth hating my sister all over again? Is this something I need to and maybe can get over?
My head is racing a million miles a minute and I would love any help.
tl;dr: I just found out my now fiance and sister had a fling when they were in HS. They were both cheating on another person and having sex in school. I can't get the image out of my head and don't know what to do.
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Mar 26, 2021 21:29
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- RenegadeStyle1
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Baby Come Back
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Uh what school is this?
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Mar 26, 2021 21:33
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- titty_baby_
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Exhausting to read, even with the brevity.
The only way to make it even is to cheat on your fiance with his brother. Or your sister.
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Mar 26, 2021 21:43
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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I mean what this means is my now fiance was a serial cheater and was cheating on a girl that everyone loved who died. My sister was pregnant with another guys baby and was still stupid enough to be screwing around with another guy...another guy she knew had a boyfriend.
condolences on your impending amnesia and/or evil twin, OP
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Mar 26, 2021 21:51
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- Tarkus
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Exhausting to read, even with the brevity.
hmm, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Og7-6YubuS4
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Mar 26, 2021 22:11
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- Evil Willow
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Bored now...
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AITA for moving out immediatly after my terrible sister signed the lease only in her name?
quote:Throwaway because I don't want my clients to see.
A bit of background: my (23F) mom was always kind of abusive growing up, it was bit less heavy on my sister (18F) but not by much. Saving from summer jobs I got a tablet, started selling art and moved out as soon as I hit 18.
I haven't had much contact, but I guess in this 4 yrs mom changed, because she offered to pay for sis' college. Sis wanted to move in with me to save and I agreed. She was wait-listed, so she ended up moving in after the lease was already renewed (in my name only).
The room she moved in was small (my ex-art studio), and knowing the job she got had few hours, we agreed on splitting rent+expenses 70/30. She was a bit iffy about my job, but I explained it's all done legally, I pay taxes, save for retirement etc.
It all went to poo poo when she came in my room without knocking, saw me drawing furry porn, and freaked out.
She immediatly called mom (sis has much more contact than me since mom is sending her an allowance and money for bills, which she has never even offered to do for me). I tried to calm her down but she refused to talk to me 'till dinner, when she snarked about my job. I pointed out it was hypoctritical when she was eating food bought with that job's money. She didn't reply.
Things escalated, she was very dismissive, her and mom kept saying she was the only one "lawfully employed" and made jokes. I explained again it was all legal but that wasn't the point. Sis started to do nothing, she was "the only one with a job" so she didn't have to cook/get food/clean. Mom stopped sending money (which I had assumed would happen anyway). The running commentary just went on and on.
Once, I snapped and replied that when we signed the lease we'd be equal at least in that, she looked confused and went research about leases but I thought nothing much of it.
In February, she sits me down, mom on speaker, and they started going off on how since she was the only one "with a real job" sis should be the only one on the lease. Once again I explain about my job, I have savings, I afforded this place for 5 yrs. They just kept making jokes and I give up.
I call a good friend, explain the situaion and that at this point I'm not comfortable here. We decide that on march 1st (when sis signs) I would move with her instead.
Where my friend thinks I'm the A: I didn't tell sis. I was so exhaused I just didn't wanna deal with it. If she wants all the authority she can take the risk too. I still paid for march so she had 30 days to find a roommate/break the lease (college town, you just pay a month of rent to get out). She could even move back home since all her classes/work is on-line. March 26th and she has done nothing but call me DEMANDING I go back.
My friend understands but thinks I should have let sis prepare, I think that if you want me to have no legal rights I don't have o pay 85% of the expenses WHILE being ridiculed for it.
So AITA for leaving my sister with a lease she can't afford?
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Mar 27, 2021 00:14
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- don longjohns
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Crazy nowhere school from the Venture Bros. I assume.
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We we discussing something about our relationship and my boyfriend fainted, fell, hit his head and got stitches
Paragraphs added for readability.
quote:Yesterday I [22F] told my long distance boyfriend [22M] of two years that sometimes I feel pressured to go further while we are having virtual or real sex than I would like to and that even after saying like a 100 times that I am not comfortable with butt stuff, he still tries to do that every time. He said he did not want to talk and was crying and slept that night while I was trying to get him to talk it out. We were discussing consent the next day, he told me understands where I am coming from, apologised and would like to do better in future and I told him that educating him about consent is my responsibility and he should learn by himself and I sent him a online article about the same from healthline.
While talking I asked him if there was anything that I did wrong and if he wanted to talk about something that is bothering him. He said he will think about it and brought up an incident in 2019 when we had just started dating(2-3 months) when I ghosted him for some time (I did not even remember the reason and why I did what I did ) and told me that he worries that it’s gonna happen again and I asked him if he was saying this just for the sale of saying something and I was a little upset he brought something up that happened two years ago when we had just started dating then and we did not talk for a few hours. All of this happened in afternoon.
In evening I got a call from him telling me that he had fainted from all the emotional pressure that he was under, fell and hit his head. It was bleeding and he had to be rushed to hospital where he got stitches. He later told me that he doesn’t want to fight because he can’t handle that, comes under a lot of pressure and then something like this happens. Now I feel trapped and pressured. Like can I not ever say something that might upset him in the slightest and what if I want out? What happens then? P.s. My boyfriend has a history of seizures.
TLDR; when we were discussing consent, he felt accused, came under pressure and fainted, told me we can’t fight because it doesn’t go well with him now I feel trapped, what if I want out or just want to discuss something? What happens then? How do I handle the situation?
Do you ever faint after your girlfriend asserts her boundaries about butt stuff
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Mar 27, 2021 00:50
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- Malachite_Dragon
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Weaving Merry Christmas magic
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Best make sure he's already laying down when you tell him you're leavin', then. Because you should. Preferably quickly.
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- big dyke energy
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Football? Yaaaay
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That motherfucker is lying so hard
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- Evil Willow
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Bored now...
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AITA for firing an employee in the group text?
quote:I'm the GM of a store that sells home-good items (kitchenware, bath and body products, pet and baby, toys, etc). We have a group text that we use to keep in touch with everyone on staff.
About a week ago I was on my day off and running errands at a couple of stores in the same plaza as the store I manage. As I was leaving the parking lot I saw one of my employees hurrying from the store, in uniform, mask pulled down, holding two of our shopping bags and one other large item that was too big for a bag. It was a bit odd but because it was my day off I couldn't deal with it. Next day when I came in I spent the better part of three or four hours pulling the Electronic Journal from that day, reviewing it, speaking to other employees while remaining vague, and weighing all of the info. Based on the information I found I can only conclude the employee was stealing from the store.
I'm disappointed because she and I previously got along well and she was a reliable employee. I spent the next couple days rearranging the schedule to fill in the shifts this employee will no longer be working but there is now coverage for the loss. The employee in question has had the last five days off and was supposed to work this afternoon closing the store. The employee text the group yesterday asking for coverage for today's shift because she was very sick and didn't anticipate being well by this afternoon. I responded to her message with, "don't worry about finding coverage, we're good, and don't worry about future shifts either because you are no employed at our store due to your actions on (date)."
A few minutes later she text with, "I don't know what you're talking about, can you call me or text me privately?" I text back, "I can't and we have nothing further to say. Your final paychecks will be direct deposited into the account in your employee file." The employee text back, "this is incredibly unprofessional and childish. I will be filing a complaint with District Supervisor." I sent back, "Go ahead and do so and I will inform him that you have been fired because I caught you stealing store merchandise, while on-shift, with my own eyes. You will be removed and blocked from the group chat now." One of the ASM's responded to the chat, "probably could have said this in a private text." Another ASM said, "??? Not sure what's happening but can we all go private with things like this, please?"
In the group chat I have with just the ASM's and myself the ASM's all voiced their dissatisfaction at what had happened in the larger group text. The consensus seems to be that I should have fired her privately. Personally I have no sympathy for people who steal from their place of business and see no problem with having let everyone know what kind of person this employee is. Edit: because the issue has popped up in each of the first comments: my investigation was thorough, I have sent my records to corporate and the district manager, and the parties in those departments have signed off and approved on the termination. There is no legal issue here. It was a clean termination.)
Was I an rear end in a top hat?
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- ikanreed
- Sep 25, 2009
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I honestly I have no idea who cannibal[SIC] is and I do not know why I should know.
syq dude, just syq!
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AITA for firing an employee in the group text?
So... Because she was carrying bags, she was stealing?
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Mar 27, 2021 01:34
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- RocketLunatic
- May 6, 2005
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i love lamp.
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Jumping back to the grave soak, the crazy evangelical mega-church in Redding, CA called Bethel believes in this stuff. And they are so influential the mayor of the town is a member and they have their own police force. It’s something. I wonder if that Reddit post is about Bethel.
https://www.latimes.com/california/...ut-the-election
If you need to waste some hours, just Google bethel church cult and enjoy tons of blogs and various sites taking about that cult.
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Mar 27, 2021 01:40
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- Evil Willow
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So... Because she was carrying bags, she was stealing?
You don't get it. She had her mask pulled DOWN! Clearly she's in the wrong! /s
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Mar 27, 2021 01:42
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- wizardofloneliness
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So... Because she was carrying bags, she was stealing?
I'm confused as to why an employee leaving the store carrying some shopping bags is suspicious. Like, that seems incredibly normal. I'd be real curious to see what exactly his evidence for her stealing is, especially considering he didn't even bother to consult her for proof before publicly firing her.
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Mar 27, 2021 01:43
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- titty_baby_
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I've had classmates from redding and they all complain about them. 10% of the town is bethelites but others feel like they've infiltrated and taken over. There was a scandal during one of the big fires when they wouldn't let people shelter in their facilities which was a big PR hit.
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Mar 27, 2021 01:44
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- ArbitraryC
- Jan 28, 2009
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Pick a number, any number
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So... Because she was carrying bags, she was stealing?
Sounds like the OP submitted all the stuff specifically related to theft through proper channels and it was generally agreed on so while it's lame they didn't share what their smoking gun was, they were probably right about that at least. My guess is they're they're being intentionally vague because they know they're right about this one thing and if they can get enough people to focus on that then they have a gotcha they can dump at any point.
Hopefully they get fired for how they handled it though, that's the real issue here.
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- SneezeOfTheDecade
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gettin' covid all
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AITA for moving out immediatly after my terrible sister signed the lease only in her name?
On the one hand, definitely not the rear end in a top hat. On the other hand, if she's still the one on the lease, she's on the hook for it if the sister bails. She needs at the very least to talk to the landlord.
We we discussing something about our relationship and my boyfriend fainted, fell, hit his head and got stitches
Paragraphs added for readability.
Do you ever faint after your girlfriend asserts her boundaries about butt stuff
This guy is manipulating her, plain and simple, and - I hate to confess this - I know this because I pulled similar poo poo when I was younger, dumber, and much, much more awful. (It's weird to say, but beyond years of therapy and medication, and frankly the fact that I'm twenty years older now, Something Awful has been really, really good with helping me to improve my behavior and outlook.)
AITA for firing an employee in the group text?
Not only an rear end in a top hat for firing her in the group chat, but an rear end in a top hat for not conducting a full investigation. What if she'd been able to produce receipts? This person has not only created a hostile work environment for every other person in that group chat - since their despotism may induce other employees to quit in retaliation - but they've made themselves a vector for a wrongful-termination suit. You hosed up, kiddo.
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Mar 27, 2021 01:52
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- its_my_birthday
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Retail workers steal from their place of employment all the time. Loss prevention can end up watching employees more often than customers. It’s probably pretty obvious if she stole when you have a camera directly behind every cash register. Stores can also have their own internal way of doing employee transactions, like maybe a manager has to be the one to ring it up, and or maybe loss prevention needs to look at the receipt and in the bag before they exit. It doesn’t take like a detective to see if something is off lol. I guess goons didn’t get stuck working in retail in college.
lol at the group text though. Not just for outing her but for loving retail workers having to put up with getting messages on their hours off. That’s already a sign things are hosed before the even outing her in it
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- SneezeOfTheDecade
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gettin' covid all
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Retail workers steal from their place of employment all the time. Loss prevention can end up watching employees more often than customers. It’s probably pretty obvious if she stole when you have a camera directly behind every cash register. Stores can also have their own internal way of doing employee transactions, like maybe a manager has to be the one to ring it up, and or maybe loss prevention needs to look at the receipt and in the bag before they exit. It doesn’t take like a detective to see if something is off lol. I guess goons didn’t get stuck working in retail in college.
lol at the group text though. Not just for outing her but for loving retail workers having to put up with getting messages on their hours off. That’s already a sign things are hosed before the even outing her in it
I worked retail as an employee and as a manager, and it's really loving stupid for a manager to fire someone in public because they "come to the conclusion that" someone is stealing if you don't have actual evidence. Good on you for stanning for the big box corporation, though, they need more defenders from their minimum-wage employees as they count their billions of dollars!
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Mar 27, 2021 03:28
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- betaraywil
- Dec 30, 2006
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Gather the wind
Though the wind won't help you fly at all
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AITA for not wanting a "Colin the Caterpillar" cake?
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This sounds ridiculous, but my boyfriend has been sulking over it so I'm keen to verify that I'm not in the wrong...
It was recently my birthday. In my family, it's a tradition that my mum bakes cakes for everyone's birthdays. When I was a kid, these would be fancy themed cakes (shaped like a princess castle or a teddy bear or whatever I was into at the time). Nowadays they're usually a little less extravagant, but she still likes to spend time baking them, and it's become a part of what makes birthdays special for me.
In my boyfriend's family, on the other hand, they always buy "Colin the Caterpillar" cakes for every birthday. If you are unfamiliar, this is a chocolate cake shaped like a caterpillar, sold by a British supermarket. My boyfriend, his parents, his grandparents etc: all of them celebrate their birthdays with a Colin.
A few days before my birthday, my boyfriend started mentioning about how much he was looking forward to eating a Colin cake. I explained that my mum would be making my cake like usual, so I wouldn't be buying one. We've been together for a few years and I've never bought Colin for my birthday, so I was slightly surprised that he mentioned it, but didn't really think much of it.
Unfortunately, though, this wasn't the end of the Colin conversation. The day before my birthday, he brought it up again, saying that it was against his family tradition not to have Colin. My mum had already called me to say she was baking me a cake so I told him this, and explained that this was my family tradition and I wasn't getting a Colin cake. But he just couldn't seem to accept it.
On my birthday, he wouldn't shut up about Colin for pretty much the entire day. I had taken the day off work to spend it with him, and he mentioned Colin cake at least 12 times ("aren't you disappointed you won't be having Colin today?" / "it's not a proper birthday without Colin" / "what cake is your mum making? It won't be as good as Colin"). I just wanted to relax and enjoy the day, not listen to him going on about loving Colin the entire time. So, after about the thirteenth comment about Colin, I told him that the constant Colin comments were ruining my day, and requested that he shut up about it. He said I was mean and sulked a bit (then later refused to eat any of the cake my mum had made).
I figured that'd be the end of it, but it's now a few days later and he's still being a bit sulky and saying that I'm 'mean' for snapping at him and not buying Colin.
I think the whole situation is a non-issue, and he should be willing to respect that I celebrate my birthday differently to how he celebrates his. He's in his 30s, so it seems insane to me that a caterpillar cake can be such a big deal. But maybe I'm missing something. AITA for not buying a Colin cake?
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Mar 27, 2021 03:37
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- Ches Neckbeard
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You're all garbage, back up the truck BACK IT UP!
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BF wanted to hide a ring box in Colins buttle
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Mar 27, 2021 03:43
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- wizardofloneliness
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I did in fact work retail in college and I still don't get why this guy, upon pulling into the parking lot of his store and seeing one of the employees leaving with some shoppings bags, immediately went all "Suspicious Behavior Alert! Probable Theft Underway!" Maybe he did actually do a thorough investigation and had real proof she was stealing, but it honestly sounds like he just went to straight to assuming she was stealing for... some reason. In my experience, retail managers who actually treat their employees like human beings and not just disposable bodies are pretty rare, and based on the rest of his behavior he does not seem like one of those people. Either way, he's still definitely the rear end in a top hat for how he fired her.
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Mar 27, 2021 03:44
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- Sodium Chloride
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Colin is pretty great but that guy has brain worms (brain caterpillars?). You can buy that cake all year round.
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Mar 27, 2021 03:50
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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I (32F) told my boyfriend (30M) that I slept with our weed dealer before and that we had a threesome. He is now disgusted with me and wants me to cut him off.
quote:Before I started dating Mike, I knew this guy Arvin, he was a weed dealer that I got from a friend. Arvin was a weird, but sweet, guy, he was from Albania and didn't speak english too well, but he was very, very, very handsome and clearly worked out, and after a few times buying weed from him we ended up hooking up. It was nothing really special or anything, it was very casual. We had sex 3 more times over the span of a few months or so. I knew that my friend (the one who gave me his number) also was having sex with him, and I had had sex with her before, so we sort of organized a threesome. Or it wasn't really a threesome, it was more just us hanging out with each other all day, but with sex occasionally. That was also when I realized Arvin is incredibly awkward conversationally, and it was sort of the end of our hooking up after that.
Eventually, we stopped having sex. I suppose I just stopped smoking pot as much and we werent as willing. There was one point where I kind of wanted to, and we ended up just doing a blowjob, but it was just so awkward that we sort of both knew it wasn't really gonna continue. After that, I bought weed from him maybe once every month or two, and for about 10 months we didn't have sex, and then I met my current boyfriend, Mike.
Arvin will still sell weed to us. And my boyfriend said he didn't like him, right off the bat, saying he came off sketchy and weird. And to be fair, he did come off a bit weird when they first met, he was shirtless and riding a bike that was wayyyy too small for him. But I also got the vibe that my boyfriend was a bit jealous or uncomfortable by Arvin being quite a bit more muscular than him. I didn't say this to him. I also didn't mention that we slept together before. Frankly we didn't really 'discuss' him much at all, but my boyfriend did say he was weird and sketchy, that was about it. They first met around a year ago. Since then we have bought from him 4 times, usually outside but one time he came in and my boyfriend looked a bit skeeved out. Nothing about Arvins appearance is strange, he is a very generically handsome meditteranean looking guy. But my boyfriend said, once again, that he thought he was weird and sketchy and he didnt like him, which once again gave me the vibe of jealousy.
2 days ago, me and my boyfriend were pretty drunk, and we were talking sexual pasts. He mentioned our friend Ava (the girl mentioned before) off hand and I told him that I had slept with Ava a bunch in the past, in which he just acted surprised and laughed, and I also mentioned that me, Ava, and Arvin had a threesome. And he just looked completely shocked like he had seen a ghost. I honestly don't know why I said it, but at the same time, I had no reason to hide the truth. He right away was like "with loving Arvin? you've had SEX WITH ARVIN?" at me. He just looked... very disturbed and grossed out at the idea of that. He then sort of freaked out at me, saying it was gross, and that he is a sketchy drug dealer, and that the thought of us having sex is 'disgusting' in his mind. He just looked like he was in a bit of a crisis honestly. He then said he doesn't want me to see him, ever, and that he cant believe I never told him I have slept with him, considering we still see each other. I was like, still see each other? I've seen him 4 times since we started dating, every time was for like 5 minutes, and usually right outside the apartment. I was also upset at the idea that I cant even BUY WEED from him now. Like, socializing I get, but not even buy weed? Its not like it would be such a massive deal, but its the principle of it. That this is such a brief, minor encounter (buying weed) and he still wants to restrict it? Come on.
Again, I suspect heavily this is jealousy. And I try not to take that to heart, because I have done irrational things based on jealousy as well. But the way he described it as 'disgusting' and was almost seemingly attacking me for sleeping with him really, really upset me. And the way he said I couldn't even buy weed from him? Who does he think he is?
I really do love Mike, don't get me wrong, but this is just extreme in my opinion. What am I supposed to do? We mostly left the argument at that. Largely because I was very sleepy. He was at work all day today so we didn't discuss much today. But its bound to continue again tomorrow.
TL;DR - - Boyfriend is mad at me for previously sleeping with our drug dealer. He said he finds it disgusting and wants me to never talk to him again.
My fiancé [26/m] & I [27/f] can’t seem to find a compromise on weed & masturbation
quote:Hello,
My fiancé & I have been together almost 8 years & our reoccurring arguments are weed & masturbation. He regularly partakes in both & early on in our relationship, I asked him to not smoke or masturbate when I am home.
When I first brought up masturbation, he had consistently been saying no to sex but walked in on him masturbating multiple times. I brought to his attention that him wanting to masturbate but not have sex made me feel unwanted & fed into a lot of my insecurities. I made sure to clarify that I don’t mind if he masturbates when I’m not home (because everyone has urges) but asked if he could try not to when I was.
My fiancé isn’t a heavy weed smoker & I used to smoke in high school & early college days as well. The last few times I got high before we started our relationship didn’t go so well for me. I tried both indica & sativa but lost cognition, got violent, & ultimately passed out. When we started dating, I tried smoking a couple times with him & his friends with the same reaction. I mentioned that the smell of weed sometimes triggers those reactions in me & gives me headaches & asked if he could avoid smoking if I was home as I didn’t want to associate him, my loving partner, with any of the dark thoughts I have when I’m high.
With both cases, he said he appreciated me being open & vulnerable with him & would make an effort to not smoke or masturbate when I’m home.
Despite our amazing sex life now, I have regularly walked in on him smoking & masturbating (&sometimes both together) since. In an effort to compromise, I have finished him off or initiated sex when I found him masturbating. I tried getting high with him again. When he told me that he likes how masturbation feels when he’s high, I tried having sex while he was high & even tried having sex while high too. Every compromise was met with, “well I like these things, there’s nothing wrong with them, I’m not going to stop.”
TLDR: My fiancé smokes (the smell trigger bad reactions in me) & masturbates while I am home with him & despite attempts at compromise, he says he’s doing nothing wrong & has no intention to stop. Any communication tips or compromise suggestions?
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