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Collateral Damage posted:Guy's an idiot. He and gf were both having a laugh at the friend projecting hard enough to light up an imax screen, why not just leave it at that? Alcohol.
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MarcusSA posted:She definitely values the friendship with the trash fire of a friend over the 4 year relationship with her BF. We aren't told how old the friendship is. Friend and boyfriend both acted maliciously (most of that text was entirely unnecessary); boyfriend was far more pompous. I'd be appalled if someone I loved sent that text to anyone, let alone my friend.
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May 24, 2021 08:57
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Oh dear me posted:We aren't told how old the friendship is. Friend and boyfriend both acted maliciously (most of that text was entirely unnecessary); boyfriend was far more pompous. I'd be appalled if someone I loved sent that text to anyone, let alone my friend. A friend who had the entire night been sending you pictures of your BF strongly implying that he could be / would be cheating?  Like a certain point people can just gently caress off and can be told to gently caress off when they are garbage people. I don’t think any decorum is needed. Like if the girl had sent one picture ok yeah dude went off the deep end but like how many is enough for someone to be able to tell a person to gently caress off?
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May 24, 2021 09:17
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MarcusSA posted:Like if the girl had sent one picture ok yeah dude went off the deep end but like how many is enough for someone to be able to tell a person to gently caress off? I have no problem with him telling her to gently caress off. It would be much better if he had said 'gently caress off', instead of delivering a pompous lecture about her other sins.
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May 24, 2021 09:42
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Idk, I'm so loving whipped, but I'd probably just send a "Can you stop trying to convince my girlfriend I'm cheating on her? It sucks and I'm loyal," and leave it at that if she's important to my partner. I'd probably avoid jeopardizing that relationship, even if I hate their loving guts. But that's because I would die for this chick if she asked me too in the right tone of voice. E: like maybe it's toxic, but I try not to mess with my partners friends without at least giving her a heads up I feel like being lovely. E2: how would she have reacted if he just told her like an adult "this made me feel awful, your friend hurt me." Sometimes just being open and honest about your feelings is the right move. I don't drink though, so idk how that effects the situation. Boba Pearl fucked around with this message at 09:48 on May 24, 2021 |
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May 24, 2021 09:45
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Oh dear me posted:We aren't told how old the friendship is. Friend and boyfriend both acted maliciously (most of that text was entirely unnecessary); boyfriend was far more pompous. I'd be appalled if someone I loved sent that text to anyone, let alone my friend. Friends come and go and pays not to get too hung up on that and anyway, I would much rather get a text telling me why someone thinks I am a cheating bastard then three messages sent to my partner strongly insinuating I am cheating and that my partner is being naïve for not intervening. He and his partner might have been laughing but the friend is actively trying to get the partner to break up with OP. Plenty of strong relationships would be wrecked with three snap chats like what was described I bet.
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I dunno, if someone I knew was stalking me and trying to undermine my relationship, and I knew that A. they were a homewrecker and B. that they felt some kind of guilt about it, I'd feel comfortable and fully justified in dumping all the salt in the world on that wound. If then my partner took the stalker's side, I'd wonder if the relationship was such a good fit if my partner felt more loyalty to this nasty stalker than to me.
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May 24, 2021 09:49
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Like, why would you want to be friends with someone who is capable of that kind of duplicity, anyway? Seems like a ticking time bomb.
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May 24, 2021 09:52
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Yeah, I don't think you guys are wrong, but that just wouldn't be me. Sometimes your relationship is more important than doing the morally justified thing. E: some people stick with toxic people because of the length of the relationship, and because they feel like the person will get better. E2: like if stalker was going to therapy I'd give her some time to see if she shakes out alright.
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May 24, 2021 09:52
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Boba Pearl posted:Yeah, I don't think you guys are wrong, but that just wouldn't be me. Sometimes your relationship is more important than doing the morally justified thing. I think the latest incidence indicates that she is not shaking out alright.
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Sodium Chloride posted:I've never heard of maize being used as a colour Not a University of Michigan football fan I take it then
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May 24, 2021 10:07
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What’s the German word for “horrifyingly cute”? The woman [27F] I [28M] have been seeing for the past 2 months keeps sending me unsolicited feet pics. Is this... a thing women do, or did she somehow uncover my foot fetish? quote:I have a foot fetish. It's not a huge part of my sexuality, it's one of many fetishes I have, and while I don't broadcast it I also don't want everyone to know about it. I also know it's a meme that horny foot fetishists constantly harass women online for feet pics- with the impression that, well, women don't want to be sending them.
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May 24, 2021 10:46
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teen witch posted:What’s the German word for “horrifyingly cute”? This is weirdly heartwarming. I hope they stay together. It's like Prince Charming finally found the girl whose foot fits the glass slipper, except the slipper in this instance is "being enthusiastic about sending him feet pics, possibly because she also has a fetish".
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May 24, 2021 11:03
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:4 years ago. The only mistake he made was texting her before the friend whose husband she was loving.
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May 24, 2021 12:00
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Boyfriend won't let me in his homequote:I am a 34 f and bf is 40 male. For any regulars around here you might remember a post from about a month or so ago about similar to this. I eventually deleted it bc I had a lot of details that could give my identity away and commenting had been turned off anyway. A small summary is that I've been with my bf for three years and have never been allowed inside his apartment. The first 2.5 years was bc of his dog that he said would bite (it passed away) and now it's because he said he needs to clean. I know all of his family and friends and have been to the apartment, just not inside of it. Absolutely do not suspect cheating.
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May 24, 2021 12:07
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Evil Willow posted:Boyfriend won't let me in his home Oh honey. There's no danger on him cheating on you with someone else. He's cheating on his family with you.
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May 24, 2021 12:15
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Cythereal posted:Oh honey. There's no danger on him cheating on you with someone else. He's cheating on his family with you. 99% this, 1% he's an absolutely loving disgusting hoarder. The "you are the side piece" scenario is better tbh.
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May 24, 2021 12:19
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AITA for asking from my mom and not my dad?quote:I (m23) met my beautiful wife (20) just under seven months ago. After our second month, before our engagement, we moved in together with my father who doesn't work and collects unemployment. We already lived together, so my now wife was okay with moving in.
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May 24, 2021 12:31
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Boba Pearl posted:E2: how would she have reacted if he just told her like an adult "this made me feel awful, your friend hurt me." Sometimes just being open and honest about your feelings is the right move. I don't drink though, so idk how that effects the situation. Yeah that is where he actually went wrong (on the assumption that staying on his girlfriend's good side is a desirable end). He sent that whole screed to the cheater instead of talking to his girlfriend about it. You do not ever pick a fight with a third party to tell them to stop talking to your partner. If you have issues with the way someone interacts with your partner, you talk to your partner about it. If I was seeing someone who started picking fights with my friends over me, I'd need to reevaluate that relationship pronto. Like this friend is a trash fire and he dodged a bullet there, but the actual conversation should be with his girlfriend about why she humors someone obviously trying to break them up. E: Strawman posted:The only mistake he made was texting her before the friend whose husband she was loving. This is also a correct course of action. Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 12:41 on May 24, 2021 |
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May 24, 2021 12:38
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for asking from my mom and not my dad? wife doesn't work because she's trophy? what does this even mean, it can't mean she's a trophy wife if this guy's on the verge of losing power and working for his mom's failing business with such tight margins that they can't afford a 600 dollar bill
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May 24, 2021 12:38
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Evil Willow posted:Boyfriend won't let me in his home Seriously, how does OP even type that sentence without mentally comparing it to her own experiences having, y'know, cleaned her own room/apartment/etc?
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May 24, 2021 12:39
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Mr. Lobe posted:wife doesn't work because she's trophy? Some people are the stanley cup and some people are Alibaba $1 per unit 10 unit minimum order, but the important thing is they're all trophies
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May 24, 2021 12:51
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Evil Willow posted:Boyfriend won't let me in his home He's back. He's back! Apartment dude is back! Still no conclusion on bargain bin Bluebeard???
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May 24, 2021 12:53
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MagusofStars posted:Five months to clean an apartment? Definitely nothing suspicious there, seems like a totally reasonable timeframe to clean like 1200 square feet or whatever. There was a case in the Aussie news recently where a hoarder recently passed away and was smelling up his house enough that the neighbors called in the cops to check on him. It turns out that some time after removing the body of the hoarder, they found another dead fellow in the house who had been listed as missing 15 years earlier. Evidently this other fellow had gotten out of goal, tried to break in on the hoarder who shot him and then the hoarder used a heap of air freshener to mask the smell. I dunno if I would let my GF use the toilet if I still hadn't gotten around to getting rid of the body of the robber I shot either. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-05-20/mummified-body-inquest-finds-man-was-shot-dead-by-hoarder/100152642
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Mr. Lobe posted:wife doesn't work because she's trophy? "I'm too pretty to work!"  ?
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Armitag3 posted:Theories: The apartment is also a meth lab?
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Midnight Voyager posted:He says the best part of sleeping is... uh, falling asleep after being woken up? Which is the world's most alien concept to me. I sort of get it. If you have 0 responsibilities and obligations, knowing that and going back to sleep when you need it is pretty sweet. Obviously doesn't apply to most adults.
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MagusofStars posted:Five months to clean an apartment? Definitely nothing suspicious there, seems like a totally reasonable timeframe to clean like 1200 square feet or whatever. I have seen a lot of hoarder houses/apartments and it’s a mix of: The actual process of dealing with whatever is making them hoard slows down cleaning significantly and sometimes the best they can do is a kind of break-even And Yes it absolutely is that bad. I’ve been in apartments where the smell literally made me vomit, or where there was a sheen of grease all over everything, or where the floor had rotted from years of Mountain Dew drippage to the point I almost went through a spot. Like, there’s houses out there that I think can only be properly cleaned via burning them down.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:Pretty much this. However I will say I won't share a bed with someone that needs more than 2 alarms in the morning. You get one hit of the snooze and that's it. This one has a  updatequote:First and foremost, I wanted to thank everyone who provided me with sound advice. I realized that my husband and his BIL were underplaying my SIL's behavior. Cutting someone's hair while they sleep may be understandable if you are a toddler who does not understand, but from a 38 year old woman??? quote:It is clear to me that he is a spineless doormat who lets his sister walk all over him.
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I helped clean out a flat where the four occupants had smoked approximately 200 cigarettes a day between them for ~30 years and didn’t seem to have taken any rubbish out in all that time. When we started moving stuff off the kitchen worktops we found the cabinets had long ago disconnected from the walls, but hadn’t fallen because the stuff wedged underneath just kept them there. Think how many takeaway menus and empty loo rolls you need to support a wall cabinet literally stuffed full of crockery, heavy enough to have pulled out the screws. It was madness. One of the interior walls just fell down, within about twenty minutes, when we moved all the boxes stacked against it. Hoarder houses are terrible and scary.
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PhysicsFrenzy posted:This one has a pretty sure cutting hair is a felony assault, hope she presses charges
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Mr. Lobe posted:wife doesn't work because she's trophy? in this case "trophy" is short for "atrophy"
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May 24, 2021 14:29
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PhysicsFrenzy posted:This one has a The lack of self-awareness in this is incredible: quote:At this current moment in time we have separated. My husband does not understand and said to me the other day "now you are acting like Lucy!" which I was astounded by. I am very certain that I will be filing for divorce.
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There was an E/N thread once where the OP was a hoarder (I wanna say "CPS took my kid away"), who was eventually talked into posting pictures of his home, and it was just piles of garbage everywhere except a small zone around the OP's gaming rig, which cost more than the trailer in which they lived. I am still haunted by the description of the floor having "soft spots," where the wood had just surrendered to the years of neglect, mold, and whatever fluids, and would just sort of squelch down if stepped on. I wonder what happened to that guy; it was an E/N success story at the time because he actually wound up admitting he was a hoarder and to seek therapy instead of suing the CPS.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:There was an E/N thread once where the OP was a hoarder (I wanna say "CPS took my kid away"), who was eventually talked into posting pictures of his home, and it was just piles of garbage everywhere except a small zone around the OP's gaming rig, which cost more than the trailer in which they lived. IIRC he and his wife had their kid taken away by CPS, which acted as a real trigger for them to turn their lives around. They cleaned up their acts (and housing), and after a few months got their daughter back, having realised that they'd been terrible parents and resolving to do much better. It was quite heartwarming, actually.
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Collateral Damage posted:Guy's an idiot. He and gf were both having a laugh at the friend projecting hard enough to light up an imax screen, why not just leave it at that? Probably the part where the "friend" was literally stalking him? I would absolutely feel unsafe if I found out a crazy person was following me and want to put a stop to the whole thing.
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FoolyCharged posted:Probably the part where the "friend" was literally stalking him? I would absolutely feel unsafe if I found out a crazy person was following me and want to put a stop to the whole thing. Also it's completely fair to think that being accused of cheating repeatedly is not a funny joke
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Damnit I looked for the trophy wife post because I had the beginnings of a good participation trophy joke brewing but its gone.
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