Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for being disgusted that/embarrasing my boyfriend for jerking off at work?

La Brea Carpet posted:

Birthday planning drama between a bunch of women nearly 30 years old.


Burlesque, not even once

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burlesque dance/cake sitting

MagusofStars posted:

Older sibling gifts are usually given for siblings who are like 6 years old or whatever, too young to know anything about where babies come from except whatever bullshit stork/prayer/mailbox/etc story your parents tell you. The purpose is just so that the older kid doesn't get jealous and resentful when nobody gives a poo poo about you any more and all the attention is on the baby.

DemoneeHo posted:

WIBTA If I created an autobot to reply to my girlfriend?

Licarn posted:

I [20M] do not understand why every girl I try to speak to ignores me

Pirate Radar posted:

It took me a moment to realize that you meant a debutante ball, not a party where you stand up and say “i’m gay”

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not letting my husband go to the funeral of the baby he conceived with his Mistress?

This is extremely difficult to talk about with anyone I actually know, and is a secret from a lot of friends and family members. Posting on an alt in the hope that people here can give me an honest answer.

My husband of 10 years had an affair that lasted approximately 6 months. He cut it off when I found out, we went to couple’s counseling, etc. Turns out the woman was pregnant though and intent on keeping the baby. I understood that if she gave birth, my husband would have to do his part in supporting that child (at the very least, financially).

Tragically though, the baby was stillborn. I wasn’t looking forward to this baby coming but I didn’t wish for this either. My husband’s former mistress has sent details about the funeral. I don’t think he should attend. He never got to meet this child and wasn’t even there at the hospital when everything happened. If this was a child he knew at all, of course my opinion would be different. But as of now, I don’t feel comfortable with him going. He (bizarrely) said maybe I should go with him. That’s a no. I obviously am not going to attend this funeral and make the woman and her whole family uncomfortable. Despite my disdain for her, I am not going to disrupt her mourning.

There are a few people in the family that are aware of the situation. My husband’s sister, my MIL, and my mother. His sister thinks he should go to the funeral. My mother says if he goes I should divorce him. MIL refuses to comment on the situation at all.

So I’m at a loss, really. Am I in the wrong, given the circumstances?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for calling a girl who said she doesn’t pay for first dates because she is “ traditional” a hypocrite?

teen witch posted:

I need a smoke after this post, holy poo poo it’s like Carrie but with red cloth

sweet thursday posted:

Both her marriages ended in twisted metal

Propaniac posted:

Behold, the perfect rebuttal to those who think r/r tells people to get divorced too often. Turns out divorce doesn't solve all your problems!... If you continue to stay in the terrible marriage after getting the divorce.

I (F26) got upset at my husband (37m) over sex.

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In the last couple of months, we’ve been going through a serious rough patch. During said rough patch there was a really bad fight one night. R broke up with me and said that if I slept with someone on our “break” that he would “never forgive [me].” We mutually agreed to not sleep with other people. Fast forward a week and a half of living together, parenting together, and still having sex, and we officially got back together.

UltraRed posted:

“(R word) your teacher and then beat up your classmates”

Really want to know what the R-word is that makes this sentence make sense.

Licarn posted:

troublesome roommate

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for telling my wife that we shouldn't be spending $1100/mo on groceries? No kids, just us.


someone who is good at the economy please help me budget this
my family is dying

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Together, we spend about $400/mo on clothing, when you average out a 3 month period. I think maybe $150 is mine, the other $1050 is her.

Chomp8645 posted:

How is babby mourned?

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I'm a European so I'm used to paying for my food and tipping based on service. The issue is that I now live in the US, and have to follow all these "optional but not really optional" tipping rules. I know that a lot of these employees have lower wages and depend on tips, but I believe it's not my problem the entire system is broken. Because of this, I tip based on service, often leaving a very small tip if I feel the service wasn't very good. AITA?

Edit:Thank you for your feedback, I will be more courteous to my servers from now on.

Noslo posted:

My gripe was that it's lovely to knowingly feed a drunk person more booze

Regardless, this whole conversation has spiraled into semantics so much that I'm going to drop it

Noslo posted:

I said I was done... but I lied

I just can't pass up dunking on this many dipshits in one sweep

https://www.abc.virginia.gov/licenses/retail-resources/mixed-beverage-overview


Some bars put 2 shots in their rum and cokes, some put 1, and some bartenders with a shred of decency put a dab when the patron is obviously wasted. not illegal.

Not only is it ethical to not feed someone intoxicated more booze, but if I can prove you wrong with 30 seconds of googling then what the gently caress does that say about you and your vocation

Please feel free to prove me wrong with whatever documentation you have, I'll eat my own hat.

And if mods want to give me a 6'er for being sassy then go nuts because I'm just a hot little potato right now

SpaceSDoorGunner posted:

On the opposite side of the pendulum Americans refrigerate bread which is super weird since that makes it go stale too.

HMS Beagle posted:

Girlfriend (21) showed me (25M) up in an escape room.

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I've always had an infinity for storytelling

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Here me out, before you all throw the misogynist card. I'll keep it as short as possible.

As background information, my girlfriend is very high-maintenance. She doesn't wear makeup or do fancy things with her hair, but she's always spending money on creams and oils and masks or whatever to put on her face and skin. She says it helps moisturize and keep her skin and pores healthy. Honestly, I say that anything from health stores and brands is a waste of money but it's her money so I don't say much.

She is also very controlling when it comes to me and my apartment. My housemates and I are very busy and we hardly have guests over to entertain them. It's not like there are dead rats in the corners of the place but she doesn't like the occasional sweater thrown on the floor or dishes in the sink and she's always telling me to stop doing that.

On to the story, we were invited to my friend's wedding and because I live much closer to the venue, she stayed the night (cue the complaining about dishes, paper on floor, etc.). I had a long day so I decided not to shower, which again she complained about but let it go since I told her I'd shower in the morning.

In the morning when we were getting ready, I decided not to shower because I overslept and thought that washing my face and putting some cologne and deodorant would be more than sufficient. My girlfriend obviously protested saying that I was gross, so I got pretty annoyed and told her that it's gross that she doesn't shave her legs because it's a huge turn off and it's disgusting. It's bad enough that she doesn't wear makeup or heals or normal things girls are supposed to do. I know I can't force her to do anything but it's expected, you know? We're going to a drat wedding.

Things escalated and she got mad, saying that not showering was not the same thing as not shaving, especially is guys are not expected to shave. But society has already made that call. She then changed her clothes from slacks and a blouse to a dress that went to her knee, making her legs even more obvious. My mom says that I'm TA and is siding with Sabz.

This is ridiculous, AITA?

EDIT: I want to point out that, besides this issue, everything with my girlfriend is great and we're compatible on honestly every other aspect of life. I don't often comment on her legs, but this was a WEDDING!

Licarn posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend to get her own copy of Animal Crossing?

The Bramble posted:

I [18F] went to college out of state because my now ex boyfriend slept with my mom

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for "flaunting my wealth" at work, and refusing to stop?

Knobb Manwich posted:

Completely kicked out for sleeping on the couch without a ultimatum. It's toss up on who is insane, I'm assuming OP is because they probably would've included why the brother/SIL is insane if they had something.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for not cooking dinner as soon as my husband was home from work?

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Sunswipe posted:

She offered the DNA test in the first place.

Why the gently caress is your mom not apologising for opening someone else's mail?

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He will ship packages, sometimes labeled in my mom's name, to her doorstep