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Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Sagebrush posted:

The little community credit union where my parents banked had such terrible loving security. One time in high school my sister needed money and walked in and said "I'm so and so's daughter but I forgot my bank card" and the manager recognized her, or thought she did, and said oh sure, here's fifty bucks from your dad's account. Dad was understandably livid.

Anyway yeah even if there isn't money involved you don't ever gently caress around with revealing PII just because you think it's not a big deal! You have no idea how big a deal it might turn out to be!

I don't have any HIPAA stuff in my job but we have the academic equivalent, FERPA. This act makes it illegal for any university worker to give any student record information, including grades, class schedules, financial information, etc, to anyone the student has not specifically authorized. When I first started working at the university we had a "situation" with an exchange student from Saudi Arabia. This student's parents called the main office trying to get in touch with her, saying she was ignoring her phone. The desk worker helpfully said "well, I've just looked up her schedule and she's in class right now, so maybe she's just got her phone on silent." They asked her which class it was, and the desk worker them it was a class in human sexuality.

A couple of days later several family members arrived in the USA, abducted this (adult!) student, and took her back to Saudi Arabia. That was the end of her academic career in America as far as we know.

I used to do work at a University, and the Iraqi intelligence services used to try and pull this poo poo for all their expat students. Everyone got very careful training not to give any info out to anyone calling in.

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Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

VanSandman posted:

Hmm, I might be the weird one here, but if I'm getting absolutely smoked at a game of skill, it's not fun for more than a few rounds. Like one race or even a circuit, hahaha, good fun, I will lob blue shells all race and still never come close. You ask me to sit down and do that for an hour and play competitively? I'm not interested. Submissive types? Hella interested in continuing to get wrecked.

The scenario ends with someone naked, what is hard to understand about what a red blooded person might enjoy about it?

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I (22F) am planning to hike the Appalachian Trail and my boyfriend (22M) cannot stand it.

She should definitely dump this passive aggressive boyfriend, but I think I'd be a little pissed if my unemployed girlfriend decided she was going to take a 6 month holiday.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

GF is definitely a bundle of red flag, but in all fairness obnoxiously loud mechanical keyboards are pretty stupid, especially if you're streaming or sharing a space, and it's definitely an rear end in a top hat move to have one so loud it annoys your partner.

In any kind of healthy relationship bf would just buy a quiet mechanical keyboard and sell the old one to a solo living nerd.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

HugeGrossBurrito posted:

Fake or not the boyfriend has every right to be pissed and I don’t understand how anyone is defending someone who stole from their significant other

I don't think anyone is defending the girlfriend? I commented that the boyfriend was a bit of a dick ignoring her being bothered by the noise, but that's not a defence of theft.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Edit: nvm wrong thread

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for telling my sister that she was dating her cousin?


I don't think this kid understands that all posts in AITA are quoted in the comments.......

That's a quiet sit down chat, kid, not a Thanksgiving table drama bomb.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Ghost Leviathan posted:

The idea of your mother being someone you instinctively call for in times of crisis and can rely on has always been so weird to me.

It's pretty common in wartime that a guy that's just had his limbs blown off will call for his mother. With enough stress and pain, you regress right back and your brain reachs for the one thing that solved all your problems back then. Childbirth can be just as traumatic.

I was the one taken into the delivery room, but I made sure that my wife knew I would happy for her to take her mother in if that helped her more. The idea of putting your own insecurities over your wife's comfort is just just mind boggling to me. I think that marriage wouldn't have lasted even if the husband hadn't blown it up over this.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

VanSandman posted:

I can see where you're coming from, and I'm not looking to spawn a multipage derail so I'll leave it at this.
Fathers get left out a lot of the birthing process. We're present at conception and then optional for everything else. Seeing my daughter born and being there for my wife was a memory I will never lose. I desperately needed to be there to hold my little one and to cheer on my wife. Honestly, I didn't do much, I was there as moral support. These are people I have lifelong commitments to, people I love more than I love myself.
Part of being a serious couple is saying 'This is who I will lean on from now on.' If my wife had told me she didn't want me around for this precious moment, it would have made me doubt the foundations of our relationship. If she wanted her mother then, would she ever want my help in future stressful situations? It's a matter of trust.
If, as a mother, you have the kind of relationship with the father of your baby that he wants to be there and you trust him to be supportive? It's really cruel to take that away. It's not like you get a do-over.

It's an extraordinarily painful and dangerous thing she's doing. If you can't put your ego aside for her benefit, you're failing her as a husband. Being in the delivery room felt great for me, but if it would have made things easier for my MiL to be there instead I would have changed places without hesitation because that's what a good husband should do.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

MAKE NO BABBYS posted:

Short of an abusive relationship or something truly awful, as the partner that would be the one giving birth, I would NEVER ask my partner to not be present at the birth in favor of someone else because that’s not what a good partner would do. Frankly, that’s super, super hosed up and horrific to me.

What's right for you isn't right for everyone, just let mother's pick whoever will give them the most comfort and don't be judgemental about it.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

MAKE NO BABBYS posted:

Not at all and I’m not a dude. Both parents, barring abuse or something extremely hosed up, deserve to be present at birth, particularly during COVID where one person only is allowed. Since it’s one person allowed, were my husband not allowed in during the whole process, there’s a good chance he wouldn’t see his child until day 2 or 3 of its life and that’s with zero complications. Were there complications and the child died or needs to spend time in say, the NICU, that would be even more EXTREMELY hosed up. The fact that I might want my mommy doesn’t mean anything in the face of the fact that my husband is entitled to be there for the birth of his child. Choosing to have a child is a two way street that involves two people and it’s extremely weird to act like that’s not the case.

You get how you're being sanctimonious toward mother's who make a different choice, right? Other people have different methods for handling this, and that's ok.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

kimbo305 posted:

"So you're telling me Marc Antony commissioned these coins and had Cleopatra and himself depicted like that? Sheesh, show me the Cleopatra side."

"That is the Cleopatra side. This is the Marc Antony side"


I've gotta assume that drawing realistic portraits on mass produced coins was probably really tricky in 20BC or whenever, so I'm going to cut the coin smiths some slack. We've got proper busts of Mark Anthony and he looks fine in them.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Sisal Two-Step posted:

Might gently caress around, try to bring 'doll' back.

Usually when I'm talking about people, I stick with non-gendered slang terms like 'pals' or 'folks' or 'bastards'.

The in thing is 'cowards'

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

welcome to hell posted:

AITA for suggesting my daughter skip Hanukkah gift this year?

Here's four loving dreidels, kid. Have fun with BC Beyblades.

I'd have probably been a brat and tried to scam an extra four presents out of my parents as well at that age, so I only blame the kid a little. Problem is clearly the father raising a golden child.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Odd posted:

Crows and other corvids absolutely will do stuff like this. There was some university that did a thing where people wore Nixon masks and were mean to crows and they started dive-bombing anyone in a nixon mask. They sent a few people out with the masks like 20 years later and the crow grandchildren or whatever STILL KNEW and started attacking them.

I had a lecture from this guy, or someone who replicated it. They used a caveman mask to be mean to the crows ( by catching them with a net gun ), and used a Dick Cheney mask as a control. I challenged him that he'd missed an opportunity to train crows to attack Dick Cheney.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

How did that moron manage to spend restaurant meal prices on the ingredients? I feel like that's some kind of red flag.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

I could feed a whole village with bean chili in baked potatoes, or a giant vat of curry. As long as you've got access to spices cheap food is delicious.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

ikanreed posted:

They're a charity, not a government that can print money or fairly tax Jeff bezos, and their donations are down.

There's a finite amount they can do, given that our country is on the war path to murdering poor people, and they're faced with the legitimate moral dilemma of letting children go hungry or denying poor people a temporary grasp at dignity.

The guy's an rear end for thinking it's a "simple" "solution", but it's a terrible question to have to ask in the first place
I think the problem is that they're not focusing on making the food cheaper, they're focusing on making the food worse.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

BMI is kinda irrelevant to the story. Does anyone seriously believe the woman literally falling out of her top has the build of an Olympic athlete?

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

sullat posted:

If we need a new thread title for the new year, "I ended up deciding that the best option would be lying to my wife" seems like a strong contender.

This one has to be the winner. Sure, Gregnog and the PS4 are funnier, but they rely on insider knowledge. Lying to my wife is the quintessence of the thread. It elegantly gets across everything we love, it's timeless, and anyone jumping in will know right away what the thread is about.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Barudak posted:

Can afford a surrogate and is pressuring his wife to have a child for him, punishment is to put his hand in the box

Saline syringe is actually the Gom Jabbar.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Sounds like the lady legit does have PTSD about fireworks, but projecting or proxy-munchausening it onto the kid, or else he's just learning to react from the parent.

In either case, dump the boyfriend. They can't have been together long, and he's already ignoring her wishes and treating her with contempt.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

HazCat posted:

Anorexia kills 1 in 5 people diagnosed with it. 1 in 4 patients attempt suicide at least once. It's the most deadly mental illness you can have. He's wrong and you're wrong. The sacrifices being asked of him are basically nothing and his parents are absolutely correct to prioritise their daughter's mental health over their son's desire to bulk efficiently.

My sister had anorexia as well, and I can tell you none of what the mom is doing has any resemblance to how we were advised to help.

Edit: not to mention that the brother kinda also has the right to bodily autonomy as well.

Bug Squash fucked around with this message at 09:44 on Jan 8, 2021

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Why can't any of these people just block the mom's number?

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

pentyne posted:

what about quadroon?

but seriously on a less amusing note, it seems like Europeans were obsessed with being as specific as possible to define how "mixed" a mixed race black person was.

The french had unique terms for 7/8, 3/4, 5/8, 1/2, 1/4, 1/16, 1/32, 1/64

The last one would be you had a single black ancestor 4 generations back (I think not sure on the math) and every descendant that lead you had child with exclusively white people. still means you lost rights and legal protections written in for white people.

say what you will about racists they really loved being as detailed as possible in order to justify their prejudices.

The US system by contrast was the "one drop" system, where if you had any black ancestor you were legally black. Interesting they also had much more intense anti race mixing sentiments, but I'm not sure if that is because of that rule, or that culture lead to it.

The legal history of defining race is amazingly variable between cultures, and every time amazingly stupid.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Batterypowered7 posted:

Just gotta start selectively breeding the long lived rats until they outlive turtles, ezpz.

Error check my DNA?! Those calories could be spent dragging piss every goddamn where. Goodday sir.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Lt. Danger posted:

I am prepared to forgive the one child for outing the other child in desperation

Same. Situation is pretty sad, but the brother basically outed himself by stealing. Maybe there was an ideal combinations of words and deeds for the sister to take to navigate the situation perfectly, but it's unreasonable to expect that from a teenager that just had their trust and privacy violated.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

The Chinese are decades ahead of us on cool rhyming names. We need to close this gap now!

Alternatively give yourselves a cool new surname.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

My guess would be late life conversion to a fundamentalist sect, or fertility issues (that would also explain why their going crazy about babies). Hypocrisy is probably a big part of their lives though.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

I think it's an rear end in a top hat move to buy your kid a flash car as it has a 100% percent chance to turn them into an rear end in a top hat. Get in your second hand Ford Fiesta and be happy. :colbert:

Step-daughter wouldn't have learned anything at college anyway, so the money is better spent teaching her a lesson in responsibility. If she actually learns it, she can go to community college and learn a decent trade. Buy her own Ford Fiesta that way.

Ford Fiestas for everyone.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Pirate Radar posted:

Dear Prudence,


You see, it was the rabies that made me so horny

:pseudo: rabies does in fact cause hypersexuality, priapsis and spontaneous ejaculation in many cases :pseudo:

Unfortunately you wouldn't be in much of a state to write a Reddit post about it, and dead shortly after.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

If you give my partner a seizure through negligence you can get your day's pay out of my cold dead hands. Maybe don't give them a seizure next time.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Such a petty thing to tiff over, when it's such a bigger flex for a Brit to crack open a cold can of insulin and chug it without going bankrupt.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Kicking a bunch of families out of their homes during a pandemic so you can have a mansion to yourself is peak rear end in a top hat behaviour. Probably near the top of what the thread has seen short of the actual negligent homicide cases.

No-one other than a few terminally online dipshits who only have meme based opinions is going to give them grief for being a landlord if he's providing it at low cost. The reason people hate landlords is due to them gouging tenants for all they're worth and kicking people out of their home, like this guy is doing.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Are we really saying that landowners have to personally subsidize rents for tenants now?

His options are basically
(a) Run a charity by renting below market rate
(b) Raise rents to market rate for the existing tenants
(c) Sell the property, which would almost certainly result in rents going up to market rate for the existing tenants
(d) Don't be a landlord and live in the property

The first option is the most virtuous, sure, but just opting out of that is a reasonable choice. And if his government wants to raise taxes to provide housing subsidies to lower income families, good.

So you see, I had to make those families homeless in case the goberment raised taxes! Were they going to raise taxes? Well I don't see how that's relevant, sir. Anyhoo, let's all have a chuckle at those homeless children whilst I pontificate on why that was my only moral choice.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

I can forgive someone being dumb enough to forget that plantations were built on evil, because we'll all do something monumentally dumb one day.

Doubling down on it and acting like your black fiancée has no right to be upset? That's the rear end in a top hat.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Propaniac posted:

Wife (29) and I (31) did a role play where I was a rich businessman and she was an escort. I set $3000 on the nightstand as part of the fantasy, she kept it and frivolously spent it.

:golfclap:

I would 100% support people making fake posts if they all had a little ending like this that gave us a little wink and a nod.

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

quote:

Extremely tall for a girl- about 5’8 and a half.
:confused:

This is two inches shorter than my wife, who is a completely normal height. Is this insecure baby living in Lilliput?

Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

Batterypowered7 posted:

Average heights for men and women in the US are 5'9" and 5'4" respectively.

WTF? Apparently I am a fairy tale giant and didn't notice. In my defense that average is going to include earlier generations that are naturally shorter.

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Bug Squash
Mar 18, 2009

I had a friend that worked for an unsuccessful bookkeeper, and they told me the owner would stamp and shout behind the scenes if someone had a big win, so I can absolutely believe it. Smart casino owners know a big win is going to go back into their pockets eventually, and draw in more punters, so of course Trump would do the the opposite and wreck the business.

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