- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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Hello ladies and gents! This is version [REDACTED] of r/relationships. The previous thread is a little bloated so it's time to start things anew. It also allows for a jumping in point for people who are intimidated by length of the last one.
Despite being named r/relationships thread, the purview of the thread has extended past just that subreddit; even so there are a few things to remember just like the last thread:
1) Don't touch the poop.
2) Try not to go on pages long derails about your superior sex life.
3) Don't talk about how cool your relationships or sex life is; no one cares.
4) Don't defend pedophilia. Just don't.
5) Don't post rape/abuse stories.
If you don't like the thread title ask a mod to change it.
Here's a big ol list of stories collected from the thread.
Last few stories:
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I [43F] declined to be my friend's [41F] MoH or bridesmaid and it's causing issues.
I'm someone who is planning to be single for life. I've realized I am not really cut out for long term relationships as I like to do much own thing a little too much. I'm fine with that but my core friend group at the moment are generally other single men and women my age so it's not as if I'm lonely or feeling left out.
I am also an organizer and I have a bit of a reputation in my group as an excellent Maid of Honor- I have done it 7 times now over the last decade and my spreadsheets and Trello boards are something equally laughed and and revered (yes I know I'm ridiculous and a bit extra but they really do help keep track of things) but in the end, the people I spend effort on have always shown me how much they appreciate it even if they think I'm a bit extra.
I have had a high school friend who I've known for awhile now. She's never been happy single but it's taken her awhile to fine the one (she's been seeing this guy for about 2.5 years).
Anyway immediately after she met this guy, she predictable cut back the time she was spending with me quite dramatically. I don't blame her, it's the normal thing to do but I went from seeing her once a week to maybe once a month at best or once every 3-4 months over the last few years and it's always with me initiating a meetup.
A year into her relationship, I stopped initiating meetups at all so our interactions have been occasional texts like once a month or her liking my social media posts. In the meantime, I turned to other friends and networks and life moves on, at 43, it's not the first or last time this has happened, this sort of thing really hit it's peak when I was in my late 20s to mid 30's so to avoid being lonely, I have a wide network of people and social hobbies.
However I got a phone call from her saying that she was engaged so I congratulated her and did all the usual "how did he propose?" and the ooohing and ahhing over the picture of the ring etc.
She then asked me to be a MoH. I was honestly not expecting this because we haven't talked in person or on the phone in over a year and half and she hadn't bothered to reach out to meet up at all. I don't feel close to her anymore and honestly I was only expecting to be invited as a guest (if at all, normally the older you get, the smaller your wedding gets).
I guess my problem is that I was diplomatic, I told her I didn't have the time to take on MoH duties as I was very busy (which is true but I would have made time for a closer friend). She then asked me to be in the bridal party and I again mentioned that I didn't really have time.
She's gotten upset with me because I've been a mutual friend's MoH last year for a friend and helped a lot with the wedding planning and stuff in general because my friend and her fiance faced a family emergency + illness at the time, to the point where even the groom was singing my praises at the thank you speech.
But my friend, even though she was in relationship, still met up with me twice a week and we'd have nice phone calls at least once a week. She was present and showed she valued the relationship so I stepped up for her when she needed help. And helping her did take a lot out of me for the 6 months when things were critical but I don't regret it. I feel like with this particular friend, there wouldn't be any payback really for any effort that I would put in.
But I didn't want to get into all of that with this individual because I knew it was just giving her ammunition and opening up a can over worms that wasn't going to be easily resolved. I know from enough experience when I've brought issues of not spending lots of time together up, "friends" have thrown my single status in my face as a derogatory thing so now I let people who want to be in my life make the effort and I understand if people put their partner's first but when I have a set of friends who will spend time with me frequently and regularly irrespective of relationship status, I will focus my energy and affection there.
I offered to give her my spreadsheets and Trello board to help her out with the wedding planning because I was started to get a sense that she just wanted a free wedding planner in the guise of a MoH rather than me in particular. The conversation kept revolving around how good I was at planning things etc not "I really want to share this experience with you".
It's now causing issues in my friend group because other mutual friends have agreed to be bridesmaids but no MoH and people assumed that I would be it.
A lot of my friends are completely understanding of the time commitment and the distance and support me but now if I get tagged in a FB post doing an escape room or something - on someone else's wall, I get a passive aggressive comment like "OMG Decent_Moose you look like you had a great time!" from her when she's never bothered before
Recently, I got a wall of text from her saying she thought we were better friends that than and that she thought I'd be there for her. I haven't responded so I got another wall of text about how she missed our friendship and she wonders why I never kept in touch. I commented back with a neutral "Life happens doesn't it?"
She's then gone and told other mutual friends that I have tendency to cut friends off once they get into a relationship because I'm bitter or jealous and I'm single. At this point, it was kind of predictable that my single status would come up but it still hurts every time.
Luckily, my friends have completely had my back on this and one even threatened to drop out of the bridal party but I'm at a complete loss here on how to proceed. I've never had someone do this do me, usually if we drift apart, we drift apart, I've never had someone come back and try to make me part of their bridal party.
What do I do here?
TLDR: Friend who didn't put effort into our friendship after she got into a relationship wants me to be MoH. I declined and now she's bad mouthing me.
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My (21m) roommate is becoming extremely obsessed with my (f21) feet and it’s becoming a problem. What do I do?
Hi guys.
I’m using a throwaway for obvious reasons. So to start let me tell you about the backstory to all of this. About a year ago, me, my boyfriend Ricky (21m) and his two friends Jack and Ryan all moved out of our college dorms into like a apartment type of deal in a college town kinda. We are all currently in our third year of college. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 years. I have known both of his friends for about 6 years as well.
Jack is who this post is about. (I changed all names for privacy). Now, we were all freshman and I actually met Jack first and we dated for about 3 or 4 days. We met at a party and hooked up and he asked me to be his girlfriend later in the night and I drunkenly said yes. The next couple days I hung out in his garage with him, Ryan and Ricky. I realized that I had made a huge mistake and I really really liked Ricky. Long story short I ended up breaking it off with jack and started dating Ricky pretty soon after. We broke up for about 3 months when we were seniors. And I hooked up with Jack again but in my opinion it was because Jack pressured me into it. I really only see Jack as a best buddy and that’s about it. Then Ricky and I got back together and have been since.
Anyways. So this all started the first time we hooked up. I was on top and Jack kept gripping my feet and rubbing them while we were having sex. I thought it was weird but thought nothing of it. The second time we hooked up he did it again.
Around 10 or 11 months ago we were alone in the house for the first time after moving in. (We never hangout alone before we lived together it was always all 4 of us in a group) my boyfriend doesn’t really like me hanging out alone with him because of our past and he doesn’t really like me alone with any guy. Anyways, we were hanging out and watching tv on the couch and I was laying down and my feet were right by him and he was sitting up. He grabbed my feet and put them on his lap and started rubbing them. I didn’t think much of it or care. If my boyfriend walked in at the time he’d probably have screamed at me later but I just saw it as innocent and kinda brushed it off i didn’t really question it I guess.
So that happened a few more times and it kinda just became like a thing when we were home together which is a lot because of both of the other guys work a lot more than me and him. I would just kinda put my feet in his lap and he’d rub them. We didn’t really talk about it or anything. My boyfriend never wants to rub them and I love foot rubs so I didn’t care.
Then about 6 months or so ago I walked into my room and caught him smelling my sneaker. I instantly freaked out and a million things flashed into my head and I realized this guy has a foot fetish. I immediately freaked out on him and told him to never let me indulge his fetish without even letting me know etc etc. I told him to stay away from my feet and feet related items. I probably wouldn’t of cared either to be honest. I take really good care of my feet and I think they look nice and I don’t think I’m a bad looking girl. I wouldn’t of cared if he had just asked. He can go smell my shoes and rub my feet if he wants to it doesn’t harm me. But the fact that he did it without telling me made it a no.
Then, about 4 months ago we all got really drunk one night and I passed out and I woke up to him sucking on my toes. I was too tired at the time to do anything about it but I screamed at him later.
Then about a month ago is when I caught him taking pictures of my feet when I was asleep. Now he has been asking me every single day for the past month to sell him foot pics or to let him touch my feet for money and a whole bunch of stuff. He said he wants me to findom him and I don’t even know what that is. I just signed another year lease here and I can’t tell my boyfriend because he will try to fight him and it will cause tons of drama. What do I do about this situation?
It’s gotten to the point where I’m uncomfortable around him and stuff. My friend told me I should cash in on him and get all the money I can. I would’ve loved to do that and I probably would have if he hadn’t been a creep but now he just gives me the creeps and I feel like that’s not what I wanna do anymore.
I also noticed a lot of my dirty socks go missing lately and I’m sure he took them. I put them on in the morning and wear them all day at school then if I work wear them to work and then to the gym and then on my run and then home. So they’d be perfect as they stink. I just feel creeped out in my own home and I don’t like this at all.
tl;dr my roommate is obsessed with my feet and is sniffing my shoes and possibly stealing my socks when I’m not around and I don’t like it
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AITA for taking my birth control in public?
I’ve been taking oral contraceptives for about 6 years now. When I first started, I was worried about what other people would think (I was raised in a pretty “sex-is-taboo” household) and hid that I was taking them very well. Now, however, I’m in my mid twenties and I’m comfortable enough in my skin that I don’t really mind if people know I’m on the pill.
Anyway, I was out on a double date with a couple we know last night and the alarm on my watch started going off (vibration). It was time for me to take my pill. While we’re all chatting, I reach down into my purse that’s beside me in the booth and get my pill, put it in my mouth, and take a drink of water. Whole thing probably took 30 seconds.
My friend didn’t comment, but her boyfriend made a face and said “did you just take something?”
I said “yeah, my birth control.”
He made another face and said, “that’s inappropriate don’t you think?”
I just kind of exchanged a look with my boyfriend who seemed as lost as I was. I mumbled an “uh, ok” cause I hate confrontation.
He went on, “you should probably go to the bathroom to do that. It’s really not polite to take that kind of pill in front of a group of people. We get it, you have sex.”
I really had no idea what to say, so my boyfriend changed the subject to the game that was on over our heads at the bar and the night carried on.
I was pretty much floored. Wtf? I had been doing this for a while now, any time I’m out and my alarm goes off, I’ll just take my pill and go about my day. Wouldn’t it be like taking any other medication? Or Advil? I don’t really see the problem. AITA?
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AITA for nicknaming my blind mother-in-law Roomba?
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She lives with me and my wife and our children. She's completely blind but knows our house well and finds her way about, in part, by lightly bumping into things and then changing directions.
She has a great sense of humor and thinks the nickname is funny, as do our kids. (I don't call her Roomba all the time, only sometimes when she is navigating around the house.)
But my wife hates it, and says I am being an A-hole.
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- Gaunab
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AITA for 'outing' my ex as a father?
My ex, Josh, and I have a five year old son, Alex. We split when Alex was a year old, and we decided I'd have primary custody because he moved in with a bunch of roommates, but he asked to have Alex every other weekend.
Well, Josh paid child support, but he kept making excuses every weekend as to why he couldn't have Alex overnight (roommates having a party, his friend needed help moving, roommates having guests, his sister was in town, etc.) and after the first six months or so, I just stopped bugging him about it and he just stopped even making excuses. He didn't see Alex at all from ages 2-4.
Last year, his roommate situation changed, he distanced himself from his toxic friend group, and his parents were putting pressure on him, so Josh asked if he could have Alex for one weekend a month. After setting up some playdates to make sure Alex was comfortable with him (since he was basically a stranger at this point), we went ahead with that plan. And it's been great, Alex loves his dad and they have a great time together, and Josh expressed interest in having him over more weekends now. It's also been nice to have some 'time off' being a single mom. Great. Good news.
Except... I'm not a big social media person, but I checked Facebook in December and noticed that Josh has been posting a lot of pictures of Alex over the last year... and he never indicated that Alex was his son. He keeps calling him his 'friend' or 'his little buddy.' Someone even asked who Alex was and he said, "He's my little bud!" Something about this rubbed me the wrong way. I feel like I've been incredibly 'chill' about this process, maybe moreso than I should have, but the fact that he isn't even claiming Alex as his son is really lovely. I was worried he wasn't even telling his friends that this was his kid.
So, next time he posted Alex, I commented basically saying, 'I'm glad Alex is having a great time with his dad!' and proved my hypothesis; everyone was like, 'You have a kid???' 'This is your kid???' 'You never mentioned having a kid!'
Josh was furious at me, deleted the post when he saw it, and basically said it's his business to tell his friends and social circle about his life. My sister also said I was being petty, but she said I have an excuse because he's been so absent. Was it an rear end in a top hat move to 'out' him like this?
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My girlfriend [27F] got upset with me and said that she can never depend on me [27M] because I refused to do something for her that is potentially illegal
Spoke to my girlfriend this morning who says she is suffering from a sinus infection and asked if I could call in some antibiotics for her and pretend it's for an animal (I'm a veterinarian). And I told her I wouldn't do it. That would be committing prescription fraud and I wouldn't want to risk losing my lisence or even potentially going to jail if found out.
She gave me the silent treatment the rest of the day and was ignoring my calls and texts. I spoke with her and then she told me she was upset and feels like she cant count on me and brought up some stuff from a year ago when she had told one of her friends that I would sign some papers for her dog to fly on a plane, but then I told her I wouldnt do to not having a doctor patient relationship with the dog and another instance in the past where she asked if I could help her out with some rent money and if I could download venmo to transfer it. I said I wasnt comfortable using venmo (I guess I'm just cautious) but that I could give it to her in person a few days later and she got all upset and give me the same speech then.
Am I being unreasonable here? Just want some 3rd party opinions
TL;DR - Gf wanted me to prescribe her antibiotics under a fake 'dog' and I refused to. She said she cant depend on me.
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AITA for not going to my brothers wedding over 'politics'?
My brother and his fiancee love Gambia, they have been there many times, they love the people there, the vibe etc. This is their absolute dream wedding, with a very small amount of family and friends in a guesthouse of friend they met on their travels there.
Me and my long time girlfriend are both female, so we do not want to attend because of the anti lgbt laws in Gambia (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGB...s_in_the_Gambia).
My brother assures us there is no problem if we go, the laws are aimed mostly at gay men and that all Gambian people they met were not homophobic at all. He and his fiancee have met many other travellers there that were gay, and they never had problems as long as they were careful. I do believe this, and we aren't a couple that is into PDA anyway, so it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be friends.
I still do not want to go to this country and frankly think it's wrong that my brother chooses to celebrate his love in a country where mine is illegal.
Our parents are very angry at me for this. Their view is that nothing would happen to us, so they cannot believe I would miss my brothers wedding over 'politics'. They point out many gay people travel to Gambia every year just for a holiday and so why can't we do it for my brothers wedding?
My brother is more understanding, but very upset as they honestly never anticipated this because of their very positive experiences there. They were very excited to be able to share this place they love so much with the people they love the most.
WIBTA for staying with my original decision of not going?
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AITA For being upset that the girl I’ve been seeing let herself into my place and did my laundry and dishes?
I’ve been seeing a girl for just over a month and things have been really good! She is generally good with boundaries. Always asks if she can stay the night, etc.
Enter yesterday. It’s my mother’s 60th Birthday and I’ve spent the whole day setting up this party. It’s finally midnight and we are leaving the hall. I turn on Spotify and I get notified that I am listening on my Xbox. I live alone in a studio apartment and haven’t been home since 9am.
Turns out she decided to surprise me. Let herself in and did all my laundry and washed all my dishes.
I live in a studio apartment and have virtually no privacy and after the hellish day that was my mom’s birthday-I was just exhausted. That last thing I wanted was for her to come to my place unannounced and do my laundry.
AITA for being annoyed? She just said her peace and was upset I didn’t do a good job acknowledging how much work it was.
EDIT: Thanks everyone for the advice. I think part of the problem is she still lives with her parents and it isn’t as big of a deal to her. We talked. She cried but ultimately I’m not breaking up with her over this. Going forward she knows that I need my personal space and I’ll for sure be locking my door no matter what going forward.
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AITA for absolutely refusing to pay my ex girlfriend and her child after I came into money?
My ex girlfriend of 7 years cheated on me and initially led me to believe the child was mine when she was pregnant. Shortly before giving birth her father asked me to meet him where he told me he had reason to believe I wasn’t the father.
I was obviously devastated being as I wanted to marry this girl and she was my life. We were each other’s first everything’s. The reason she gave for cheating on me is that technically we were broken up (we weren’t.. we had an argument and she moved to her parents house for a few days to calm down) and that she had never been with anyone apart from me.
Regardless I broke up with her. Apparently she has been heartbroken for the past year and has never moved on, she gave the kid the name I chose when I thought the baby was actually mine, etc. I’ve heard from friends back home she asks after me and how I’m doing. She’s been diagnosed with depression which is sad for her but not my problem.
My dad recently won a good amount of money from a legal dispute (that has been dragging on years...) and he gave me some money that let me buy two homes outright one to rent one to live in.
She found out because my dad and her dad are friends and she called me begging for a loan. She said she would pay me back blah blah but if I could please help her out because she was struggling.
I told her to F off and lose my number. Literally every single person I know is telling me I’m a bad person because we were together so long and I have basically left her to fend for herself. To make it worse my mom and dad are actually on her side and are trying to encourage me to do the ‘right thing’. They want to give her the money but wont out of respect for me but they are pressuring me. I just feel like I’m in goddamn crazy land here.
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Dating my taken ex and the most jealous/toxic argument and situation you’ve probably heard about
TL;DR - WE KNOW WE ARE TOXIC WE WANT ANSWERS NOT TO TELL US SOMETHING WE ALREADY KNOW No judgements we know we’re terrible just looking for answers (PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THING DOWN BELOW) Me and ex are still in love. She’s super jealous, tells me to drop a platonic friend but she won’t breakup with the boyfriend she’s been cheating on with me. She wants me all to herself. Who should drop who and is it fair for her to keep her bf if i can keep my friend.
Me [18M] and my Ex [18] dated for a good 9 months. We’re still madly in love hardcore to the point where we can’t be separated and always crawl right back to each other. She’s found a boyfriend, i have not been in a relationship since. We have been cheating without his knowledge throughout their entire relationship and once he found out recently my ex faced social consequences even after her bf forgave her. It’s been about a week and we’ve gone right back to cheating. We’re both heavily jealous, me of her boyfriend and her of any girl that isn’t family. She’s dating him to preserve her social life which was minimal to begin with. She’s forcing me to drop a platonic friend because she doesn’t want another girl to be talking to me. I said I won’t drop her because she hasn’t done anything wrong and won’t even consider it until she breaks up with her boyfriend. She refuses to break up with him because it’s “different”. She harasses my platonic with mean dms and i say that if she doesn’t stop I’ll let her bf know we’re still talking as he wanted her to block me on everything and is like a prison guard having her check her phone for messages and everything. If i message him he will break up with her and have her social life pretty much torn to shreds as she is involved with a lot of groups her bf is involved with or completely stop contact between the two of us. We’re not looking for judgement we just want a clear answer on who’s more in the wrong for all of our horrible actions as terrible people.
I hate you both but you are nowhere near the most toxic. What you describe is also not love.
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I (F31) live with my ex of ten years (M30) after he came out as gay a year ago. I’m trying to date someone new.
If you’re anything like my friends your initial reaction will be “girl get the heck outta there!!” But it’s not so simple. I work full time but my wages are not enough to live alone. At this age all my friends are married with kids and can’t take me on. I have no family here as I live in a different city. I could flat with University students but at my ripe age I know it wouldn’t be good... So - I live in my own bedroom/lounge in the house me and ex hubby rent together.
The thing is I’m finally hitting the dating scene. The guy I’ve started seeing knows my story and seemingly doesn’t mind. But deep down I feel like it may be damaging things. He can’t ever come here, and I have to drive out of town to see him.
My ex has been dating since July. He has a steady boyfriend and to my disgust a girl he fools around with too. I’m over being upset about that... but I know I’m never going to truly get over it while I’m stuck here. Rent in this city is madly high, I could live in a small turd box with no money left, or I can live a comfortable life here in this emotional prison. I can’t weight it up.
I know I’m not moving on the way I should be while I have to see the ex every day. And, if I was my new date I’d be slightly uncomfortable knowing he lived with his ex - even if she were gay...
Financial ruin or never moving on??
I’m trying to get promoted at work but it’ll take time and a bit more of my soul. I could move back to my home city but all my friends and my new date are up here... and my job is the first job I’ve ever liked going to and I don’t want to lose that.
I don’t know if advice will help... but any is appreciated.
TL;DR: I live with my ex due to difficult circumstances and am anxious about dating and stuffing it up.
Hi, this is my gay ex that I still live with. This is his boyfriend and this is the girl he is also fooling around with. He is totally gay though. Are you a character from a really bad soap opera?
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Jan 13, 2020 05:58
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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With a name like Pnurtis you know he gets pussy!
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Jan 29, 2020 05:43
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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A nice way to ruin a relationship. OK back to work now.
Partner [m21] of a little over 1 year accused me [f24] of cheating. I am PISSED.
Really need to improve Sex education
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Feb 14, 2020 20:31
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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It sounds like because his wife and the other lady get along so well and also mainly focused on each other that he doesn't like the emotional connection they have. He's an idiot for opening up the relationship.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:48
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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And two more updates:
(2nd update)Me [25 M] with my wife [23F], she informs me at sisters wedding she had slept with best man (long)
(3rd update)Me [25 M] with my wife [23F], she informs me at sisters wedding she had slept with best man
This guy must be in a constant state of self-hatred.
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Mar 25, 2020 00:50
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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Update: I caught my (31/F) G/f of 5 years cheating on me (32/M) with my bestfriend(31/M)
Was the first part of this posted upthread?
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Apr 11, 2020 01:23
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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Fox news isn't the news.
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Apr 13, 2020 14:38
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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AITA for not wanting my fiance to get a co worker as a stripper for her bachelorette party?
Bolding mine. She's setting up for a night that "just went too far" imo.
His fiance works with male strippers?
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May 5, 2020 17:48
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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Could you guys move the conversation about the intricacies of anime porn and organizing gangbangs to another thread?
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May 11, 2020 21:13
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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I (27M) told my gf (28F) we could introduce roleplay and it's become a nightmare
This is the opposite of a problem.
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May 13, 2020 21:04
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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I’m talking to some friends trying to think of an American figure who’s disliked enough that you could say “the most hated person in America” and people would start getting it immediately. Best we can come up with is Andy Dick?
Donald Trump didn't pop up?
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May 16, 2020 14:52
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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I (M29) am pretty sure this girl (25) I hooked up with is trying to get pregnant
Wow this dude is a scumbag.
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May 24, 2020 02:47
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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AITA for telling my bf to do a redo after he 'proposed'?
So my boyfriend and I were having a really lazy day and spent it all in bed watching series off Netflix. We eventually got bored and both took a nap and when we woke up we just played with each other's faces (just something we do). We started talking about life and out of the blue he said I was amazing. We joked around with each other and finally he just said he wanted to marry me. Said something like "You know? I love you. You love me. Let's get married". Of course I thought he was joking and agreed that we should do it (I would've said yes anyways).
We joked around some more and he grabbed his phone and took a picture of us and said he was going to post it with the caption "She said yes". I told him not to because people will think we're being serious. He just looked at me and said he was being serious. After asking a couple more times if he's serious and him saying yes, I told him that it was a bad attempt and that he should redo it and then I'll say yes. He got upset and said he was' taking the proposal back', took the duvet and went to the living room. Was I an rear end in a top hat to tell him to do it again?
Most people think she's not the rear end in a top hat. Surprising for reddit.
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May 25, 2020 19:21
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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Let's try not to bring up the lowtax stuff in this thread. It's already being discussed in another thread. Just want to put that out there because I can see it potentially derailing this thread.
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Jun 24, 2020 13:25
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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I don't think any popular thread is going to escape the fallout discussion from this, and I honestly don't think any thread should ignore it like it isn't happening
This is the thread where posting about tipping turns into a 20 page derail, and the owner of the forums is now officially 100% for sure a serial abuser; that taint will fall over all threads on the forums at this point and nothing will stop it.
I'm not saying ignore it because it is a big deal which is why i linked the main thread about that brought it to the forums attention. I can't enforce it and I know it's going to come up but I don't think this thread is an appropriate place to discuss it.
But like I said I can't enforce it so it's up to you.
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Jun 24, 2020 19:54
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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AITA for not telling my fwb's (friends with benefits) brother he couldn't afford what I was drinking?
OP is the rear end in a top hat because anyone who pays $322 for a shot of whisky is an rear end in a top hat.
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Jun 29, 2020 22:55
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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AITA For making the only woman at our job quit?
What a piece of poo poo.
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Jul 3, 2020 06:03
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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I added that Google doc with all the stories to the first post for you guys.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:24
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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I (32F) told my boyfriend (30M) that I slept with our weed dealer before and that we had a threesome. He is now disgusted with me and wants me to cut him off.
quote:Before I started dating Mike, I knew this guy Arvin, he was a weed dealer that I got from a friend. Arvin was a weird, but sweet, guy, he was from Albania and didn't speak english too well, but he was very, very, very handsome and clearly worked out, and after a few times buying weed from him we ended up hooking up. It was nothing really special or anything, it was very casual. We had sex 3 more times over the span of a few months or so. I knew that my friend (the one who gave me his number) also was having sex with him, and I had had sex with her before, so we sort of organized a threesome. Or it wasn't really a threesome, it was more just us hanging out with each other all day, but with sex occasionally. That was also when I realized Arvin is incredibly awkward conversationally, and it was sort of the end of our hooking up after that.
Eventually, we stopped having sex. I suppose I just stopped smoking pot as much and we werent as willing. There was one point where I kind of wanted to, and we ended up just doing a blowjob, but it was just so awkward that we sort of both knew it wasn't really gonna continue. After that, I bought weed from him maybe once every month or two, and for about 10 months we didn't have sex, and then I met my current boyfriend, Mike.
Arvin will still sell weed to us. And my boyfriend said he didn't like him, right off the bat, saying he came off sketchy and weird. And to be fair, he did come off a bit weird when they first met, he was shirtless and riding a bike that was wayyyy too small for him. But I also got the vibe that my boyfriend was a bit jealous or uncomfortable by Arvin being quite a bit more muscular than him. I didn't say this to him. I also didn't mention that we slept together before. Frankly we didn't really 'discuss' him much at all, but my boyfriend did say he was weird and sketchy, that was about it. They first met around a year ago. Since then we have bought from him 4 times, usually outside but one time he came in and my boyfriend looked a bit skeeved out. Nothing about Arvins appearance is strange, he is a very generically handsome meditteranean looking guy. But my boyfriend said, once again, that he thought he was weird and sketchy and he didnt like him, which once again gave me the vibe of jealousy.
2 days ago, me and my boyfriend were pretty drunk, and we were talking sexual pasts. He mentioned our friend Ava (the girl mentioned before) off hand and I told him that I had slept with Ava a bunch in the past, in which he just acted surprised and laughed, and I also mentioned that me, Ava, and Arvin had a threesome. And he just looked completely shocked like he had seen a ghost. I honestly don't know why I said it, but at the same time, I had no reason to hide the truth. He right away was like "with loving Arvin? you've had SEX WITH ARVIN?" at me. He just looked... very disturbed and grossed out at the idea of that. He then sort of freaked out at me, saying it was gross, and that he is a sketchy drug dealer, and that the thought of us having sex is 'disgusting' in his mind. He just looked like he was in a bit of a crisis honestly. He then said he doesn't want me to see him, ever, and that he cant believe I never told him I have slept with him, considering we still see each other. I was like, still see each other? I've seen him 4 times since we started dating, every time was for like 5 minutes, and usually right outside the apartment. I was also upset at the idea that I cant even BUY WEED from him now. Like, socializing I get, but not even buy weed? Its not like it would be such a massive deal, but its the principle of it. That this is such a brief, minor encounter (buying weed) and he still wants to restrict it? Come on.
Again, I suspect heavily this is jealousy. And I try not to take that to heart, because I have done irrational things based on jealousy as well. But the way he described it as 'disgusting' and was almost seemingly attacking me for sleeping with him really, really upset me. And the way he said I couldn't even buy weed from him? Who does he think he is?
I really do love Mike, don't get me wrong, but this is just extreme in my opinion. What am I supposed to do? We mostly left the argument at that. Largely because I was very sleepy. He was at work all day today so we didn't discuss much today. But its bound to continue again tomorrow.
TL;DR - - Boyfriend is mad at me for previously sleeping with our drug dealer. He said he finds it disgusting and wants me to never talk to him again.
My fiancé [26/m] & I [27/f] can’t seem to find a compromise on weed & masturbation
quote:Hello,
My fiancé & I have been together almost 8 years & our reoccurring arguments are weed & masturbation. He regularly partakes in both & early on in our relationship, I asked him to not smoke or masturbate when I am home.
When I first brought up masturbation, he had consistently been saying no to sex but walked in on him masturbating multiple times. I brought to his attention that him wanting to masturbate but not have sex made me feel unwanted & fed into a lot of my insecurities. I made sure to clarify that I don’t mind if he masturbates when I’m not home (because everyone has urges) but asked if he could try not to when I was.
My fiancé isn’t a heavy weed smoker & I used to smoke in high school & early college days as well. The last few times I got high before we started our relationship didn’t go so well for me. I tried both indica & sativa but lost cognition, got violent, & ultimately passed out. When we started dating, I tried smoking a couple times with him & his friends with the same reaction. I mentioned that the smell of weed sometimes triggers those reactions in me & gives me headaches & asked if he could avoid smoking if I was home as I didn’t want to associate him, my loving partner, with any of the dark thoughts I have when I’m high.
With both cases, he said he appreciated me being open & vulnerable with him & would make an effort to not smoke or masturbate when I’m home.
Despite our amazing sex life now, I have regularly walked in on him smoking & masturbating (&sometimes both together) since. In an effort to compromise, I have finished him off or initiated sex when I found him masturbating. I tried getting high with him again. When he told me that he likes how masturbation feels when he’s high, I tried having sex while he was high & even tried having sex while high too. Every compromise was met with, “well I like these things, there’s nothing wrong with them, I’m not going to stop.”
TLDR: My fiancé smokes (the smell trigger bad reactions in me) & masturbates while I am home with him & despite attempts at compromise, he says he’s doing nothing wrong & has no intention to stop. Any communication tips or compromise suggestions?
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Mar 27, 2021 03:52
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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Me (38) M with my wife (35) F of 17 years, had a 3-some with our (30) M friend of 8 years. Some stuff happened that I am not comfortable with and am having a hard time getting over it.
Why would you have a threesome before going to work?
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Mar 28, 2021 03:49
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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Pretty sure if this dude had any intention of banging the GF, she wouldn't have just "tried" twice. Also who forces a relationship open without prospects in mind? What was his thinking?
I think he was just a naive dumbass.
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Mar 30, 2021 20:26
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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How does a hair style run in your family
They were the first people to wear their hair long. It's how their family accumulated their wealth.
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Apr 5, 2021 15:05
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
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Get less trash jeans, I guess?
They feel fine to me, not as comfortable as sweats/shorts, but a lot of situations don't allow for those. They're also durable as hell go with basically any shirt.
Look all jeans are the same so I'm not paying $50 for a single pair of Levi's when I could get 2 pairs of wranglers for $20 at Walmart.
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Apr 25, 2024 20:50
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- Gaunab
- Feb 13, 2012
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AITA for not asking my dad for something of mine when he purposefully hid it to bond with me?
Sort of feel bad for that dad. It's obvious he's got trouble communicating. Hope he tries to find another therapist.
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