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Another Bill posted:My 7 year old is confused about racism. She gets that it's really bad but calls anyone being mean a racist. We've corrected her a few times now but it's becoming a thing. We're working on it... Let's be real, as simple algorithms go this seems pretty accurate.
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Another Bill posted:My 7 year old is confused about racism. She gets that it's really bad but calls anyone being mean a racist. We've corrected her a few times now but it's becoming a thing. We're working on it... How did you manage it though? I'm thinking it would be fun to use "capitalist" as a generic slur, but I don't know how to achieve it.
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Jan 18, 2022 20:33
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BonHair posted:How did you manage it though? I'm thinking it would be fun to use "capitalist" as a generic slur, but I don't know how to achieve it. Just start using it whenever you would use a cuss word. They'll pick it up!
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Jan 18, 2022 20:39
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BonHair posted:How did you manage it though? I'm thinking it would be fun to use "capitalist" as a generic slur, but I don't know how to achieve it. Well we've had some serious talks about Black Lives Matter and police racism with our children in the past year and I think they went well, but truthfully my youngest may not have been mature enough yet. She's smart enough to understand but she's also realized she can get a rise out of people by using the word wrong. Usually it's not a big deal with other words, but calling people 'racist' is over the line.
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Jan 18, 2022 20:46
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the other day my son was playing BOTW and he was saying "take that you blackies!" (because he was fighting the black variant of an enemy) and we paused the game and I told him "you can't say that because that term (among others) has been used as a slur against black people." and he angrily responded with "WELL HOW WAS I SUPPOSED TO KNOW THAT???" and I said "dude I don't expect you to know that. that's why I'm telling you now. all we can do is learn and be better people."
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:the other day my son was playing BOTW and he was saying "take that you blackies!" (because he was fighting the black variant of an enemy) and we paused the game and I told him "you can't say that because that term (among others) has been used as a slur against black people." I took my four year old to birthday party at Chuck E Cheese over the summer. This was a terrible mistake, CEC sucks rear end and no one was wearing a mask. Never again. They had the latest Transformers shooty-game that is similar to the arcade classic LA Machineguns only worse in every possible way. Later, he's telling Mom about the game and how he had to SHOOT THE BLACK GUYS. And then I remembered that, yes, most of the Decepticons in the game are a black metal color. Very cool game design by Sega Ent.
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Jan 18, 2022 21:28
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never trust a rat with a middle name
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Jan 19, 2022 05:36
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Folks - I told my 4 year old she couldn't roller skate in the house on Monday and she returned 15 minutes later with a handmade protest sign. I have never been prouder of anyone in my life.
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Jan 19, 2022 16:47
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tadashi posted:Folks - I told my 4 year old she couldn't roller skate in the house on Monday and she returned 15 minutes later with a handmade protest sign. Nice work, this is some good parenting. I have a kid who retreats to her room and writes us letters about how upset she is when she loses at board games, a protest sign would be much more fun.
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Jan 19, 2022 17:10
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That signs a keeper, also the kid.
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Jan 19, 2022 17:11
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LonsomeSon posted:never trust a rat with a middle name In hindsight maybe having the kid's birthday dinner at a casino run by a rat was a bad idea.
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Jan 19, 2022 17:41
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One year ago today we were still in the hospital with the baby after she was born at 2:32 a.m. I don't get it, this kid is still in diapers and hasn't moved out yet, it feels like it has been 20 years
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Jan 23, 2022 16:35
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ive been very strict about not saying negative stuff about things my 4 year old cant really yet understand, but in casual conversation with her I have determined that she absolutely loving hates the cops. i guess when she first somehow learned about them she picked up on the arresting and putting people in cages part... we were talking about people being bad and how sometimes people can do really bad things, but that i think most people are by and large good and nice...and she corrected me to tell me "except the police"
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Jan 23, 2022 16:45
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i usually couch it in terms of "maybe in other countries or cultures the police are (or could be) good but not in America."
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Jan 23, 2022 18:08
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welp our 2 year old learned how to open doors, guess she decides when naptime is over now lol
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Jan 24, 2022 23:40
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There's kid gates, kinda like pet gates? that you can use to keep em in their room. Ours worked for a bit. He didn't get heavy enough to open the mechanism, he learned how to disassemble it.
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Jan 24, 2022 23:46
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:welp our 2 year old learned how to open doors, guess she decides when naptime is over now lol We have toddler door knob wraps on stuff. They work ok but he'll pry it off sometimes. Most of the time he just realizes it's time to sleep and goes to bed after 5-10 minutes.
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Jan 25, 2022 00:10
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We've have the doorknob things on doors leading outside for months (I was a little escape artist as a kid and apparently once David Blaine'd myself out of a supposedly secure house at 2am when I was 3) so putting them on inside doors is no biggie, but on the other hand I would like her to have the option of leaving her room if she really needs to for whatever reason. We have a couple pet/kid gates but she's already learned (accidentally) she can just pull those off with her bodyweight lol
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Jan 25, 2022 00:18
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my 2 year old learned how to lock doors we now have small flat head screwdrivers stashed strategically around the house to open them
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Jan 25, 2022 15:54
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mine could always yank those wrapped doorknob things off. It was more of a visual reminder not to gently caress with this or that door. we did the robotic pick up \ put back thing if they wandered out until they get tired of trying. Robotic in that you aren't rewarding attention seeking behavior. I think it's a later part of the Ferber Method stuff. That all said we abandoned naps around year 2 for both of them when the battle became more trouble than just having a cranky kid at 5-6pm. They get that from me. I know parents who kept naps going 5+ somehow.
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Jan 25, 2022 18:22
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we have pocket doors, and if it’s open even a cm, our 13 month can get it open, so that sucks.
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Jan 25, 2022 19:54
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You could get a cheap eye hook and put it out of reach to hold it shut
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Jan 26, 2022 02:53
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my 14 year old today was complaining to a friend that the show she checked out (Death Class or smth?) was disappointing: “I thought this might finally be the Netflix series that explores class consciousness” then she laughed loudly at a poop joke from the 12 year old parenting is a land of contrasts
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Jan 26, 2022 03:01
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The babby said thank you for the first time today, unprompted. I gave her a bowl of orange slices and she went "tenk ooo" 
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Jan 26, 2022 03:09
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I put our 5 year old into a ski clinic. Outdoors, many instructors, lots of kids. She can't do it and got booted, and it's pure pandemic poo poo: more or less, she's fine with the kids, she's fine with some of the women, but she freaks out around men and especially beards. This is totally unsurprising to me, since we've taken great care to make sure she's gotten some decent normal socialization around kids through all this, and her (mostly outdoor) preschool is run by 2 women. Her exposure to unknown men is very limited because it's not like we've been hosting dinners or even going to big backyard BBQs through this. I'm not freaking out about it, and I am doing my best to not make her feel bad: the plan for skiing is, we're switching to solo lessons with a single female instructor that will be the same from lesson to lesson, and even if the same amount of money spent that way only gets her ~6 hrs of instruction instead of 20, it's gonna be a lot more useful. And frankly, if she can't do that, then I'll have to just keep working with her myself. The thing is, she WAS able to engage a bit with the group during the first week and she made more progress in an hour than she does in 5 hours with me, so I'd like to try to get her working with a instructor even if it means initially accomodating her anxieties. Has anyone else dealt with this, and do you have any productive advice? I'd rather her be dealing with this now than have had COVID three times in the past 2 years, obviously, but at the same time I think this is a real issue we're going to have to find a way to address. The plan is public school in the fall; that'll all be women teachers, initially, but it's gonna be a whole lot of new adults. (Small school, maybe 4-5 teachers total).
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Jan 26, 2022 15:55
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my 2 year old got her face scratched up by some kid at daycare 
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Cabbages and Kings posted:
We haven't been going anywhere that would involve new faces besides the playground, but I guess now I'm worried about it! Seems like you're doing the best possible.
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Jan 27, 2022 04:23
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bitmap posted:my 2 year old got her face scratched up by some kid at daycare Ah sorry. My son luckily hasn't had that happen but I'm not sure how I will react when something like that does. My job has me going to lots of different schools and I don't see or hear about much bullying but I have about the same amount of anxiety over it as I do with covid.
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Jan 27, 2022 20:51
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I was just looking a picture of my son from when he was in preschool and I had completely forgotten about the four months of his life where he had a giant scratch on his cheek from some rear end in a top hat kid who hosed him up at school.
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Jan 27, 2022 21:38
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:I was just looking a picture of my son from when he was in preschool and I had completely forgotten about the four months of his life where he had a giant scratch on his cheek from some rear end in a top hat kid who hosed him up at school. my kid, but it was his little sister, with a metal rake helpfully that was the weekend before fall pictures
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Jan 27, 2022 21:54
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bitmap posted:my 2 year old got her face scratched up by some kid at daycare my little girl got bit several times. there was a biter in her daycare class. she wasnt the only one. we got reports, but you know they dont disclose the names. but i know his name. motherfucker's name is Coby. i know that because i picked her up one day and she said, "Coby bite!" so i got your rear end Coby. wherever you are.
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we had a biter in my younger son's class and one day his mom was picking him up and they handed her a stack of "incident reports" to sign and as she's signing them the kid bit her on the leg.
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Jan 28, 2022 01:14
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:we had a biter in my younger son's class and one day his mom was picking him up and they handed her a stack of "incident reports" to sign and as she's signing them the kid bit her on the leg. lmao
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Jan 28, 2022 01:28
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:we had a biter in my younger son's class and one day his mom was picking him up and they handed her a stack of "incident reports" to sign and as she's signing them the kid bit her on the leg. haha ... yes
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Jan 28, 2022 03:18
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Fat-Lip-Sum-41.mp3 posted:my little girl got bit several times. there was a biter in her daycare class. she wasnt the only one. we got reports, but you know they dont disclose the names. but i know his name. motherfucker's name is Coby. He's probably acting out because his parents were too poor to name him Sony.
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PerniciousKnid posted:We haven't been going anywhere that would involve new faces besides the playground, but I guess now I'm worried about it! great news! I'm here at the mountain, and kiddo has been working one on one with a young woman instructor for more than an hour. we had to warm up with a meet and greet, we brought some photos of stuff from home for her to show the instructor as an ice breaker, and looking down on her from the lift she seems to be both trying, and sometimes suceeding at skiing. we'll worry about bearded men later, right now if she will let a stranger teach her to ski i am loving ecstatic.
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Jan 28, 2022 17:43
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PerniciousKnid posted:He's probably acting out because his parents were too poor to name him Sony.
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:we had a biter in my younger son's class and one day his mom was picking him up and they handed her a stack of "incident reports" to sign and as she's signing them the kid bit her on the leg. I had to sign one of those too, as the aggrieved party. makes sense but it was pretty weird to sign off on my little girl getting cut up for a toy telephone.
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Jan 28, 2022 19:18
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bitmap posted:I had to sign one of those too, as the aggrieved party. makes sense but it was pretty weird to sign off on my little girl getting cut up for a toy telephone. yeah we had to sign them as well (this was a corporate run daycare so they had all their own forms and carbon copies and such). I just thought it was funny how clear it was that her kid was the one doing the biting since she had to sign like 8 of the drat things at once.
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For the past few months I've had this nagging guilt about my son in preschool. We had to move across the country in June but he absolutely LOVED his old school, his teachers, and the kids there. He started at his new school in October and while he never really has a problem going, he's only recently started enjoying it. Today he told me that it was fun because a girl was chasing him and he had to run really fast. I'm so relieved that I had to share it here.
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