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i have friends and a long term gf its easy you just have to talk to people and if they like hanging out they'll hang out with you most people do this at work and your coworkers will eventually get other jobs but you can keep contact and chill out and see movies and go out to dinner. you also can keep in contact with your friends from college or just go to a shared interest meetup in the place you live.
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Feb 24, 2020 03:55
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I still see childhood friends infrequently. Most of them are married and have kids so we see each other on long weekends or important dates like birthdays, but most of my contact with them now is in text/groupchat My main circle of friends I hang out with now I met by going to a local dog park regularly. I used to go almost everyday when my dog was a puppy for socialization and met other people who had similar aged dogs. We eventually started doing weekend hikes and even now that I'm too busy to go to the dog park everyday, we still hike with our dogs every weekend and usually go for dinner once in a while. I also have work friends who are basically the class/batch I got hired with and started a group chat with them so we could talk poo poo about the company and help each other out, but we ended up liking each other enough that we go for drinks once in a while after work. It's fine, It's OK. I like hanging out and/or talking to the people above but sometimes I like to just turn off my phone and do as much drugs and alcohol as possible while not having to talk to anybody. Being social feels like a chore at times. But maybe I'm just brokebrained. Oh it's time for work again.
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Feb 24, 2020 04:06
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I have a few friends. Most of them are from my college days, though some are either my or or Mrs. Genesplicer's coworkers. If I were define "friend" as "somebody who we would call to see if they wanted to go to a movie with us", that is limited to about 6 people.
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Feb 24, 2020 04:13
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Twat McTwatterson posted:Like, don't get me wrong, I had plenty of friends as a youth and while in college. But as an adult- aka, having a job, house, car and spouse, I can instantly recognize the fact that I have no friends. And I'm ok with this. In fact, I prefer it. I text no one, have zero social media presence, never interact with other humans except in cases of necessity, and I'm happy. Same.
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Feb 24, 2020 04:40
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There's a really strong societal bias that views extraversion as good and introversion as bad, and that forms a fair amount of background prejudice. It's kind of like the positivity bias, where if you aren't happy then there is something wrong with you - it's often harmless but veers easily into hosed up and judgy poo poo. I'm introverted as hell, and not in the terminally-online "10 signs you're an empath" sort of bullshit way. Like in terms of personality trait introversion, which is actually a thing. I'm fine with people, but even people I like can just be exhausting to be around sometimes. It's enough to deal with work and family - having another layer of "friends" who also demand my time and attention is not something that sounds appealing to me.
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Feb 24, 2020 06:51
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also weird how a bunch of posts assume everyone is married or otherwise in a LTR as an adultCaptainSarcastic posted:There's a really strong societal bias that views extraversion as good and introversion as bad, and that forms a fair amount of background prejudice. It's kind of like the positivity bias, where if you aren't happy then there is something wrong with you - it's often harmless but veers easily into hosed up and judgy poo poo. i mean i get needing alone time, i do too. after enough time around others i want to be by myself for a bit. that said, how much time are you putting in on the job? are you clocking 40 a week or are you getting ground down extra hard by your job?
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Feb 24, 2020 07:47
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Rutibex posted:for the safety of others please do not make any more friends. I'm fine with this. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bLMWYcQ1fAo
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Feb 24, 2020 08:04
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:also weird how a bunch of posts assume everyone is married or otherwise in a LTR as an adult I do roughly 40 hour weeks, although admittedly I have other things going on which make everything more draining. I am actually really happy with my job - it's stressful to some extent but low on my list of worries. But even with more energy and if other stressors were lower I still tend toward needing a lot time to myself. I'm pretty self-contained, which I probably inherited to some extent from my Dad - he is practically a hermit at this point. I do sometimes feel I should make more of an effort to be connected with people, but holy hell it also feels like so much effort and so nerve-wracking to have further demands on my time that it has remained on the back burner and likely will for some time.
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Feb 24, 2020 08:07
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