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wife and I have a 16-month old, it's amazing and has changed me for the better I just wish I hadn't waited until I was in my mid thirties to do it
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# ¿ Jan 16, 2021 16:48 |
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2024 21:20 |
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KOTEX GOD OF BLOOD posted:not having kids until i'm in my late 30s and only if I can afford childcare I'm gonna real talk for a second - stop waiting - there will never be a right time - your babymomma will re-enact her upbringing, guaranteed. Don't kid yourself into thinking otherwise, and be sure you're OK with everything that means. Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 01:27 on Jan 17, 2021 |
# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 01:05 |
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:what's up mid 30s dad? actually it's good because my friends had them a couple of years in advance so a) we got to extend our 20s into our 30s with respect to irresponsible levels of drinking and b) we've been given poo poo loads of baby clothes and useful stuff, like who knew babies need a special bath? Not this guy! these are all good points, we got p. much everything for free as a hand-me-down, including a $600 carseat/stroller thingie that we'd never have bought
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# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 01:17 |
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President Beep posted:-don’t bother getting a diaper genie ours was a free hand-me-down - aside from needing stupid custom bags, it's way better than the regular trash-can we have downstairs
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# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 01:22 |
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my homie dhall posted:why's that The pregnancy was harder on my wife, and we're having trouble getting a second one to stick. The risk of birth defects is statistically higher. But we want our son to have a sibling to grow up with. Also I'll be in my 50s before my kid goes to college, and probably in my sixties before I ever see a grandkid. I could be dead before I ever see a great grandkid. Plus I'm the oldest in a bunch of parent-group situations. Also I like having my kid, it's fun and rewarding - why not start something good as early as possible Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 15:43 on Jan 17, 2021 |
# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 02:34 |
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but anyways, computer good
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# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 02:48 |
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Words of wisdom from an old-timer: broke rear end people have kids all the time, and nobody is happy if they're old and alone
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# ¿ Jan 17, 2021 03:20 |
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Displeased Moo Cow posted:what the gently caress is a diaper genie I ain’t even gonna google that poo poo if you get a diaper get full enough, you can rub it and a cursed being will come out it will offer you three wishes if you can get past the smell monkey paw twist: every wish will be spent trying to make the diaper disappear that or it's an overpriced-but-effective odorproof garbage can that takes proprietary bag cartridges
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# ¿ Jan 19, 2021 07:32 |
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth ugh, that sucks, sorry to hear it :/
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# ¿ Jan 25, 2021 21:19 |
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:no implantation this month so we're gonna go eat the poo poo out of some lox to commiserate protip: if your lox has poo poo in it, you should consider throwing it away instead
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# ¿ Feb 15, 2021 23:53 |
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KOTEX GOD OF BLOOD posted:as my friends start having kids ive been increasingly appreciating how certain things in my life would straight up not be happening with kids around There's some truth to that for sure, also there are benefits though. A heart can hold as much love as you allow. My kid means everything to me, and I'm OK with putting aside my own desires for him to grow up happy. There are no words that describe how I felt when he took his first steps, when he fed himself for the first time, when he said his first word. If he comes running over in a great mood, it brightens my day every time. You can also re-live a whole swath of things. Sledding down a hill, playing on a playground, mud puddles, fruit snacks, naptime. I get to see babyman explore them, and I can be a part of it. Also my parents and sister are my friends for life. More than friends - blood is thicker than water. I want that, and I want more of it. When I'm old and gray, I want to have grandkids in my life. Family can help ensure that you won't die old and alone. Parenting is a shitload of work, and I'm still only at the beginning of the journey. But so far it's been worth it for me 100% Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 23:29 on Feb 16, 2021 |
# ¿ Feb 16, 2021 23:27 |
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computer thing good
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# ¿ Feb 16, 2021 23:33 |
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:So my wife is participating in a fertility study, which has been pretty nice because we get a bunch of the various test strips for free. She also made me enroll in the male portion of the study and yesterday a box showed up in the mail containing what I can only describe as a Cum Centrifuge take a picture of it, assuming it's still unused
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# ¿ Mar 18, 2021 18:05 |
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shoeberto posted:Pirate Babies of Silicon Valley Pirate Babies! They make their dreams come true Pirate Babies! They'll do the same for you When your world looks kinda weird and you wish you weren't there, just log onto the internet and you can be anywhere
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# ¿ Apr 12, 2021 02:24 |
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lament.cfg posted:my wife is 7 weeks pregnant congrats! is it your first? protip from somebody who's been on the other side - don't tell anybody until like 12 weeks or so, to be sure that the baby is definitely cooking (and doesn't have Downs or something) my wife's due in Sept with our second kid. Before that though, we had a couple of week-8/week-10 miscarriages where the fetus didn't implant for whatever reason. It happens, not the end of the world - but we made the mistake of getting everybody spun up and then we had to tell them. Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 06:04 on May 7, 2021 |
# ¿ May 7, 2021 05:48 |
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lament.cfg posted:my wife is 7 weeks pregnant As for how to not raise a yosposter, idk - my first kid's 18 months old and I feel pretty good if he goes through a meal without dumping his drink all over his food. This is a spicy take, but you might consider doing a church thing with your kid for a few years. Even if you're not super into it and you all eventually lapse, the morals are good for a child to learn. Also the community can benefit you a lot as a new parent, if you find one with a bunch of other parents. Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 05:53 on May 7, 2021 |
# ¿ May 7, 2021 05:50 |
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shoeberto posted:So uh. congrats! Parenting is a crazy ride. I've really enjoyed it so far. Babby changed my life in a very positive way, hopefully that'll be true for you too. I love that little shithead more than I ever thought I would. out of curiosity, what does "oops" mean? broke a condom? Or just got into the moment and said "whatever happens, happens"? my sister-in-law went camping with her boyfriend, split a bottle of tequila with him, and then it was "oops the birth control pills must not have worked" from her Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 20:44 on May 17, 2021 |
# ¿ May 17, 2021 20:40 |
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MrQueasy posted:soon to be 9yo wants a guitar for his birthday. Is the 3/4 strat a good option? I’m a piano player so I’m a little lost. get a 3/4 size acoustic guitar
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# ¿ May 23, 2021 20:19 |
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suffix posted:how much sand is too much sand thank you for coming to my slam poetry recital *snaps*
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# ¿ May 31, 2021 13:35 |
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shoeberto posted:Almost rounding out the first trimester. We're starting to think pretty seriously about how we'll handle everything once the kid is actually here. If this is any comfort - lots of super poor people have a bunch of kids, and they manage to get by. You can always scale back your expenses - cook at home, eat less (or cheaper) meat, drink less (or cheaper) booze, buy things second-hand. At the end of the day, you just have to make sure you're a loving and responsible parent. Your kids can grow up broke as poo poo, and they'll turn out fine as long as you raise them right.
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# ¿ Jun 24, 2021 05:54 |
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We do a tricky dance with formula. It's 100% true that mother's milk production ramps up in response to child's demands, and formula does change the set-point of that feedback loop. But on the other side, my wife isn't a functional human unless she gets at least one uninterrupted 4 hour block of sleep per day. So she pumps, and I top off whatever she pumps with some formula to get enough for a 9:30 PM and 11:30 PM feeding. Maybe it's interfering with her milk production, IDK. But I can't juggle our toddler and a baby and the house and still keep my job. Not without help that I don't get if she doesn't sleep enough.
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# ¿ Dec 1, 2021 10:40 |
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best of luck, my dude!
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# ¿ Dec 3, 2021 21:17 |
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lament.cfg posted:22 hours of labor, 11 minutes of pushing, and we got ourselves a babby congrats, my dude! I tell every new dad this advice: if your wife's breastfeeding, it's OK/normal if she doesn't produce much milk for the first couple of days. As long as the baby's nursing often enough, it'll come in. Babies usually lose a little bit of weight during this time, and that's OK. If you already knew all that, then congratulations: you're more prepared than I was. Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 22:46 on Dec 4, 2021 |
# ¿ Dec 4, 2021 22:36 |
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shoeberto posted:So once the baby is here I'm guessing everything is going to be just a blur of sleep deprivation/taking care of baby/taking care of wife for a while. Do any of you guys have tips for that? Like anything I should do for myself ahead of time? If you have the space, consider sleeping in a different room than your wife for the first couple of months. And make a third place where the baby can sleep, if you have space. We had great luck with this schedule: wife goes to bed at 21:00. I feed baby at 21:30 with pumped milk or formula if needed, then again at 23:30. Then I turn on the wife's baby monitor and I go to bed for the night with earplugs. When we don't have a 3rd room, I move the bassinet into her room with baby in it. For how to recharge when wiped: I had good luck with bourbon Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 17:14 on Dec 13, 2021 |
# ¿ Dec 13, 2021 17:06 |
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Milk pumping protips from your local human dairy farmer: Read the manual and make sure you're using the right size breast-shields. It's painful/bad with wrong size shields. Some pumps are better than others. Watch some youtube reviews and pick one that you like. My wife hated the one we used with our first kid, and eventually gave up on pumping. For the second kid, I picked a nice one and it's been going way better.
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# ¿ Dec 14, 2021 02:04 |
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Our good one is a Medela Freestyle Flex, it's nice because it doesn't weigh 8000 pounds and doesn't sound like a rhinoceros vibrator. It's also got a built-in battery and a usb-c charging port.
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# ¿ Dec 14, 2021 04:43 |
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Also it's small enough to wear on a lanyard instead of being a fuckin lunchbox
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# ¿ Dec 14, 2021 05:06 |
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this image tells you all you need to know about why it's worth shopping around for pumps. These are two competing products within $150 of each other.
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# ¿ Dec 14, 2021 06:41 |
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2024 21:20 |
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shoeberto posted:We decided to just host an au pair. Not directly as expensive as a nanny or daycare, though I'm sure the indirect costs of room and board will compensate. We're just lucky that we have the space. (Also they don't arrive until late spring so can't really speak to the experience of hosting an international guest, though the person we matched with seems like a lovely person) How do you intend to pay them? Under the table? We don't have space for an au pair, but have been nanny shopping. A shitload of them are undocumented and want cash. Would we have to worry about the IRS getting on our dick about employer taxes?
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