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go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


i've been living with a girlfriend for almost a year now who has 2 kids, 7 and 10. liking the dad vibes and teaching them about life. the other day the 10-year old wanted to make animation so I got him pencil2d and he made a stick fight. thought it was cool

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go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


i just don't tell my kid about deleting internet browsing history and check his phone every once in a while. if I see something weird or porn-y one day i'll just talk to him about it

then again I had a computer in my room when i was 12 and watched a lot of porn. it was just a bit harder to get to than it is today

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


my kids just taught me you can find pirated anime and such on Instagram. drat i must be getting old because i never thought to look lol

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


so, we moved to a new place with my girlfriend and her two kids 3 weeks ago

our life has been a living hell ever since. why? because our downstairs neighbor is batshit crazy.

over the course of 3 weeks she has:
- threatened to call the cops on us for "making noise" on the second day
- threatened to call cps and actually wrote them a letter saying our kids were abandonned, living in physical and psychological violence, ammoral conditions (think watching porn with the kids)
- insulted, threatened and harassed us, writing to me and my so over messenger

so, poo poo is hosed. we already filed a criminal complaint to the police and have written 2 letters to the property management company, saying we are consigning our rent until they get rid of the problem. we also plan to ask for money for the psychological harm she has caused us, and all the time I've spent writing letters and making calls. got in touch with the previous renter who told me he left because of that loving bitch, they didn't tell us anything or do jack poo poo

i am so glad that my best friend has a master's in law and is a licensed property manager

i just want to vent here because we've been going through difficult times. now that cps is involved we'll likely have to defend ourselves for no loving reason at all, and pretty sure the kids will be scared they will be taking their mom away

how can a person be so awful and evil? it drives me crazy. and the law in switzerland is heavily biased towards people like her who get money from the government, and makes it really hard to kick them the gently caress out

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


remember my crazy neighbor story?

well, yesterday she started screaming and hitting the walls and poo poo, so i called the cops. she went on the roof, and after a couple hours of screaming and throwing poo poo, she fell to her death.

i feel pretty awful. that's not how i wanted this to end

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


my girlfriend is now deadly afraid of what crazy neighbor's 16-year old son is capable of doing... revenge, who knows... i just can't even process what happened and she's already telling me changing cities was the biggest mistake of her life, she wants to move ASAP, etc. this isn't e/n and what the gently caress am I expecting from a dead gay forum? but I just feel completely stuck.

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Powerful Two-Hander posted:

Yeah it sounds like she was having "issues" before, didn't you say the previous occupant moved out because she was harrassing them or something?
yes, precisely. talking with our other neighbors, seems like her son has called emergency psychiatric services several times before. wondering why the cops didn't just gently caress off and let professional medical/psychiatric staff take care of this. they were beyond useless yesterday. just saying "please get down" and her screaming "I'll jump if you don't leave"

it was a real mess.

quote:

I think leaping to "16 year old is going to John Wick me" is a bit of an overreaction that'll just make you feel worse.
I agree but I can't shake that thought out of me

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


devmd01 posted:

being hungover and still having to parent is hell

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


girlfriend just got the green light from her rheumatologist to conceive. time to get busy!

how did you all deal with the expectation of the sex of the baby? i can't help but want a little baby girl, but i know the odds are more or less 50/50, and I'm worried I'll be disappointed if it's a boy (we have 2 boys already). does that make me a bad person?

go play outside Skyler fucked around with this message at 22:35 on Jan 7, 2022

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Well well well... my so's pregnancy test came back positive after less than a month of stopping the pill. Guess I should strap in for the ride now! I'm going to be a dad! :aaaaa:

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Fart Sandwiches posted:

powerful sperms

powerful sperms are nothing without efficient ovaries

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


MrQueasy posted:

Kid just got the xbox series s in a state where it won't queue anything for download after deleting Minecraft because it was taking a long time to update.. We're in for a truly excellent rest of Spring Break.

minecraft is the reason i had to give my kid "the talk" about bad software

no, there is nothing wrong with your switch lite. it's minecraft.

no, your playstation is working just fine. it's minecraft you should be complaining about

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


what is the difference between a 300$ stroller and a 1000$ stroller?

my so really likes the 300$ one because it's light and compact, but seeing the prices of all the other strollers makes me suspicious that it might be really low quality. except stupid poo poo like bigger wheels and leather grips i honestly don't see much of a difference.

the prices i'm mentioning are all including the 3 different parts (bed, seat, car seat).

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


thanks for all the advice and opinions. we got the 300$ one since we don't plan to go jogging in the mountain with our baby and i went back to the shop to try folding it with one hand and succeeded.

for anyone interested, it's this:
https://www.manor.ch/de/p/10000478179?gclid=Cj0KCQjwl92XBhC7ARIsAHLl9ank_4m511X9mPAYku2hm5ZKauQCSZSgIw18th-6nl8Kr_6s3vqKuWYaAlYlEALw_wcB

both salespeople told us that they were really good value and actually recommended against buying a more expensive one.

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


devmd01 posted:

the 5yo twins have been in full rumble mode all day lmao

*someone gets hurt/upset*
*they both go back to wrestling, etc in like a minute*

lord help me this house is so loving loud

my boys are older but when they start wrestling for fun i just tell them they're on their own now, and i won't care if any of them come crying or if one of them complains that he did this or that. i'm no wwe referee

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


baby is due in 3 weeks. i'm cooking 4kg of curry chicken, next weekend 5kg of bolognese. this is following the advice of some people in the thread.

i can't believe there's only 3 week-ends to go before she sticks her nose out! i'm excited as ever!

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


echinopsis posted:

well other night we all kind of had a sitdown chat, and it's challenging because my 11yo is straight up saying that his mother is lying in front of her. I don't believe him though

well, to be clearer, I don't think his perception of the situation is very accurate, but this is challenging because he's perceiving the situation to be that she yells and screams at him all the time over little things, but I believe she's just running low on patience with his poor attitude that he has when he's unhappy. I want to show him as much support as possible, but I do believe his mother more than him

I wonder if it's just pre-puberty, hormones, and just who he is as a person. when he's emotional he is just so fully in that emotion, and is too immature to see that it's a temporary thing that'll pass.


he does NOT cope well when things are going normally, if he perceives things are unfair, or can't see a way through something. definitely needs some resiliance.

idk. one day at a time

pre-puberty is a hell of a phase. mine is 11 also and he takes absolutely everything as criticism. he's the world's most misunderstood and the biggest victim. forget people dying in ukraine!

ask him to finish his plate? "i was gonna finish it!!!"

ask him to brush his teeth? "i was gonna do it!!"

ask him to finish his homework? "uggggh come on!!!"

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Stringent posted:

something that's been bugging me is that my kids (10 & 7), watch a shitload of youtube now (@2-3 hours a day).

i've got a whole string of conflicted opinions about this, because i basically do the same poo poo. if i'm not actively doing work or outside of the house for something then i'm watching cooking videos or posting or w/e.

one thing that worries me is they don't read for fun, but i can't fault them for that because they don't need to. i mean, i read a shitload when i was a kid, but i did it because i was bored not because it was good for me.

i honestly don't know how to provide an enriching way for them to spend their spare time, or if it's even something i should be doing. i mean they do well in school, no problems getting their homework done or practicing piano or whatever.

can't tell if this is a problem or if it's just me being old?

i have the same problem and i can finally say i found a satisfying solution

if you have iphones, use screen time to limit the amount of time on each app. i think youtube is better than tiktok so i limit their tiktok time to 20 minutes a day. gently caress that poo poo.

during the week, they get 1.5h of screen time per day on mondays, tuesdays and thursdays. here in switzerland wednesday afternoons are off so they get a free pass. they first need to show me that they did their homework, and do something else until 1.5h before bedtime. then they can use screens. these rules are not enforced by screen time btw, just good old parenting. oh and video games are only on "allowed days".

honestly i'd much rather they watch tv than spend time on youtube. i feel like public broadcasters are doing a better job at "keeping kids safe" than youtube.

ever since i did that, they started going out with friends, playing outside, etc, a lot more. it's made a huge difference.

also, one of them plays soccer and the other is in the boy scouts. this keeps them busy on saturdays though it does take me a bit of effort to go with them to games or bring them some other place. it does take a bit of effort but as a parent it's super rewarding to tell yourself you're doing something good.

sundays are basically free-for-all. sometimes i wanna be lazy and not do poo poo, so they get to do the same thing. sometimes we'll go as a family some place nice.

i think we also need to accept that the times, they are a-changing, and that now kids like endless scrolling through short format vertical video. at their age i was spending a lot of time on pokémon websites and in front of the tv.

to be honest i was exposed to porn and horrible poo poo at like, 12, and that doesn't make me such a bad person. in the end i feel it's about creating an environment of caring about what they are doing and encouraging good, creative behavior.

go play outside Skyler fucked around with this message at 07:00 on Sep 28, 2022

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Stringent posted:

i'm hoping maybe now that it's not so hot out kids will start showing up again, but until then vOv.

funny you're saying this because my worry is the exact opposite. we're getting well into autumn now and i think they'll star to favor staying inside rather than going out in the cold and rain :geno:

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Powerful Two-Hander posted:


buy them forums accounts

(Obviously do not do this!)

the forums are a lot "safer" nowadays than when i discovered them at the age of 13!

as long as you stay out of the weird forums

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


at the maternity leave since 4 in the morning. SO got the epidural and feeling a lot more chill.

you can come out any time now, baby, we're all very tired and it would make everyone's life easier if you just showed up! love, -dad

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


At 15:12 little baby Anne was born with 10 fingers, 10 toes, and all the right amount of stuff in between, and I am now a dad!

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


holy loving poo poo it's been only like 10 hours how can i love something so much.

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


i love that youtube channel and the book looks real nice.

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


friendly advice to future parents in this thread:

make sure people who come to visit your newborn baby wash and disinfect their hands properly. our 14-day old got the RSV virus and is now in the hospital. apparently no risk to her life but this is still the most anxious i've ever been

i did not expect i would miss the crying and gooking after just one night without my little anne :smith:

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


baby is now on oxygen since last night. her breathing keeps getting worse. now we are feeding her through a tube. the good side of this is that my SO could finally go home and sleep properly, since she can now just pull milk out and i can give it to her.

i am scared shitless to see my little baby girl with a breathing apparatus and am worried they need to transfer her to a beefier hospital to put on a beefier machine :smith:

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


thanks for all the support everyone

didn't want to jinx it but now i can say that she's getting much better since yesterday. they are slowly reducing her oxygen and letting her eat directly from the breasts again. if everything goes well tomorrow or monday we are out

of course the doctors have been reassuring the whole time and even if i know RSV has basically a mortality rate of 0 in developed countries, there's always that thought floating around...

i can't believe how much i miss having my infant daughter sleeping on my chest. man that's the best feeling ever

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


echinopsis posted:

something i am not really sure how to deal with is my 11yo boredom

he’ll just lie on his bed crying that he’s bored. there’s only so many ideas you can suggest

the hardest part is trying to encourage him to see if his friends are doing something. it’s challenging how they seem to want to put so little effort into making anything happen. I have a suspicion that modern pc games or whatever set such a high bar for easy entertainment that anything else just seems too difficult. not that I want to blame games but don’t think it helps

idk

as much as we like to have some time to ourselves doing jack poo poo, unfortunately the only solution i've found which works 100% of the time is going on a family activity

go for a walk, go to the beach, go to a museum, go do some sports, etc

i also sometimes just "kick my boy's rear end out of the house" and force him to go outside and not come back before a certain amount of time. sure they'll complain and try and come home before the set time, but you have to force them a little. they're kids, they'll figure something out.

e: as a stepfather to these 2 boys i guess i have the advantage of not being so overly protective i guess

go play outside Skyler fucked around with this message at 10:06 on Oct 23, 2022

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


we are now finally home with baby anne

i think we will spend the next 3 days in bed. gently caress that was exhausting

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


baby girl was fine until 4 days ago now she's got colics or something because she cries for 4 hours non-stop in the evening.

only thing that works to calm her down is to carry her and move her up and down like in some kind of amusement ride. this is very exhausting

any other ideas?

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


had a really lovely ex-wife too who tried to steal everything from me and we didn't have kids. can't even imagine how much worse it would have been if we did.

godspeed goon. ex-wives suck

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Asymmetric POSTer posted:

im going to be a dad :shepface:

congrats. witnessing the birth of your child will be the single most amazing emotional experience of your life
:getin:

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Shifty Pony posted:

I could see that, but that hasn't really been my experience.

for me being a parent just makes everything so so much more complicated than it was before which makes even the basic necessary tasks of living draining. even something as simple as going for a walk around the block is no longer a matter of "I would like to walk, where are my shoes?" but instead "I would like to walk. would kiddo be up for a walk or is he super into something? when did he last use the toilet? should I offer the stroller or wagon? what shirt (if any) does he have on? which shoes will he want? will he want to push the stroller to the end of the street? will he get mad when he has to get in? when we get back will he demand to stay outside and play bubbles? would I be ok with him playing bubbles or handling a meltdown? and where the gently caress are my shoes?"

pretty much all of my parental angst comes from my mental energy gauge sitting solidly on E with no foreseeable future opportunity to even attempt to fill it back up. I don't miss hitting up bars on a whim, I miss not staring at tomorrow's blank grocery list for three minutes because the deciding part of my brain no worky right now.

maybe it is an ADHD thing since making decisions can be quite hard even without parent brain. idk.

have you thought about getting a sitter for one night and just doing a lot of drugs at a party?

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


evil_bunnY posted:


Is this true for most people? My most vivid memory of the day is the little human falling asleep on my chest.


that is awesome too

but for me what really sticks in my memory is seeing the little thing for the first time. this is the tiny human you've been interacting with in the belly. 5 seconds ago you did not know that person, and now you love it instantly, with the most powerful feeling ever.

but i guess, i've heard some dads need a few weeks or months to start actually loving the thing

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


absolutely random but if your baby won't stop crying what has worked for ours is white/pink noise and a bouncy hamac. unless she's really hungry or her tummy is hurting, that poo poo works every time... and it requires so little effort. after 10 minutes of slightly bouncing up and down with noise she's asleep.

there's even a control center thing on iOS that allows you to generate different kinds of noises, ocean sounds, etc

here is the hamac we have. it's amazing. all i had to do was screw a hook on the ceiling and tie some rope. sorry for the swiss e-commerce site but i'm sure you can find this brand anywhere. be sure to get the optional spring for it: https://www.galaxus.ch/de/s10/produ...cB&gclsrc=aw.ds

i am happy to hear your theories on why rocking babies up and down and white noise works so well to calm them down

go play outside Skyler fucked around with this message at 00:12 on Dec 10, 2022

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


echinopsis posted:

my son wants to have a sleepover at a girls house with 2 girls and apparently the mother of the house doesn’t mind. i’m unsure what to think tbh. imma talk to the mother of the household and see what they think

drat, your son fucks

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


bagging and washing aren't useful because iirc head lice don't survive long without a human host.

get a proper head lice shampoo with the super thin brush. brush the poo poo out of your kids' hair with it. you'll see lice trapped in there (it's gross af).

repeat the treatment a few days later (read the package instructions) and you're good.

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


scabies on the other hand, boy let me tell y'a

go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


SpaceAceJase posted:

Hey guys I ejaculated back in October and there were consequences. 11 weeks preg

don't worry, it's only a lifetime of responsibilities

but they're soooooo loving cute

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go play outside Skyler
Nov 7, 2005


Kernel Sanders posted:

help yospos! my 10-year old just said “two girls one cup” and i don’t know what/if I should do anything. he said it in a weird rhyming rhythm so maybe he heard it in a song? he watches a few gaming youtubers but we try and vet what he watches to get rid of the worst rabble.

have you considered the fact that as long as he has access to the internet and the knowledge such a video exists, he will see it? no matter what you try and block or firewall off, he will eventually end up at a friends house and watch it.

my philosophy on this is to make sure your kid feels okay to talk to you about what he sees without judgement.

humans have sex. some like poop. it's part of life.

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