Vim Fuego posted:

trickybiscuits posted:

Am I wrong for canceling my order at this coffee shop?


The answer that you are not an rear end in a top hat for canceling your order, get out

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I am seeing a man whose home is less than ideal in the cleanliness department. It is actually very bad. There is food caked on the outside of the microwave, his cookware is so caked with gunk that it is impossible to tell if the pans are no-stick or not, and the final straw was the other night when I sat down on the couch to find a toe nail trimming next to me. I already know that if I say something, I am going to come across like a complete a$$hole, but I don't think I can preemptively post in the AITA thread. How do I tell this man to clean his home?

Breetai posted:

I mean, there's a good chance given he's played a game for 50 hours a week for the last couple of weeks that he is a Gamer Boyfriend^tm and doesn't actually listen to her/is genuinely uncommunicative/doesn't listen so she's at her wit's end, but the lines



kinda suggest to me that there's also a chance that she can't make a simple request without turning it into a production and coaches extremely simple requests that only warrant a 'hey couldja do this' -> 'sure thing honey' in the most convoluted and exhausting way possible.

Verdict: sentence both of them to a lifetime of each other. *bangs gavel*

Vim Fuego posted:

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I'm not religious at all, didn't grow up religious and have no interest in all of this. My boyfriend knew that and I knew that his religion is important to him. We accepted each other and it was never a topic between us.

Some weeks ago, we had a conversation about something where he basically admitted to be a flat earther. I wasn't really surprised as he spends quite some time on TikTok and apparently, this whole flat earth bs seems to spread on this platform. I don't know much about TikTok since I don't use it (or any other social media). First I thought he was joking, sadly he wasn't.

He ended up making fun of me and insulting me for believing the earth is round. Saying "you probably learned that in school" and kept making fun of me. I went to google, showed him different pictures, even from a plane. He managed to blame the window in the plane for the curve.... whatever I showed him, he found a reason to make it "invalid". Asked him to fly somewhere with me so he can see it for himself, he also denied that offer. At the end, he said "NASA just made the earth look round somehow". He said I know how to google and should find evidence for a flat earth myself. I ended this conversation then because it was way too stupid and honestly, I was shocked and sad that my boyfriend turned out to be one of those fools.

Now we just had another argument where he exposed himself as absolute fanatic person. He openly denies science and claims that, for example, mental health issues are linked to the devil and being "possessed" rather than some actual medical problem. In this argument, he kept calling me dumb, stupid and that I shouldn't dare to talk about things I "don't know". When I mention doctors and science, he goes "and now you're a doctor and know everything?", acting like I'm a smartass while I just say that there is science and evidence. Whatever I say, it is wrong and I am the stupid, uneducated person. I asked him, why he insults me, he replied "because you insult me by being ignorant" followed by "classic western leftist" and "classic news watcher".

He comes from a very religious family and I feel like he was failed by every single family member. He can only attack me and never prove any evidence for anything he says. But whenever I prove something, it is invalid, fake and I'm just a fool for believing those "lies", I'm deluded, I'm dumb and "westerners are depressed by birth".

I love him, but I don't know how to deal with this. Is that a sign to end this relationship? We have been together for a year now.

TL;DR: Boyfriend denies science, doctors, education, thinks mental health issues are linked to the devil and the earth is flat - insults me for saying otherwise.

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My boyfriend of about 2 years and I have been living together for over 7 months now. We met on a dating app. Our 2nd anniversary is coming up and I wanted to put the screenshot of our first ever conversation to a cake and make something funny.

I installed and opened our chat only to see that he has updated his profile with new pictures. The latest from November 2023 from a vacation we took together. He has been traveling since the past three weeks, so I had to call him and ask what was it about.

He says he was out drinking with his friends one weekend when I was away on some family duties, and he created it for a “stupid bet”. It’s not that I don’t trust him, but earlier, just after that week I was away, I also found him sliding into a girl’s DM on Instagram saying something like “hey, we met last week. Remember me?” His excuse was again that it was a bet. I had to stalk that girl’s profile to find that she hasn’t been in the city for months, and let it slide.

The friend who supposedly made him do it also texted him about 6 months ago saying there’s some girl who finds him cute and he wants to set him up with her. He declined as far as I know.

I really do think that my boyfriend can’t be trying to cheat on me because we spend a lot of time together and it’s really hard to talk to someone else or meet them without raising suspicions.

But I feel disrespected and honestly, disgusted. To even imagine that when he’s around his friends, he feels like it’s alright to behave like I don’t exist. I want to break things off but I’m also not sure if I’m overreacting.

Edit: Yep, I see how dumb I can be when I’m in love. He’s an ex-boyfriend now.

Shanghaied posted:

Get married, get a mortgage, get pregnant. If that doesn't solve it, I don't know what will!

Shanghaied posted:

By the bed? loving why lol?

"Hmm, what time is it?"

"Go back to sleep, baby, I'm just snacking on some peanut butter."

Just loving eating it straight from the jar at four in the morning.

Ghost Leviathan posted:

I looked up that one and wow, the comments. A lot of people are apparently very offended by the idea of 'if you want someone to do a thing, ask them to do the thing' for some reason?

Vim Fuego posted:

Biplane posted:

Eating in bed is disgusting and I get all riled up by the freaks who do it

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one partner has a snacking bed.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one partner has a snacking bed.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one can be used exclusively for fuckin'

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

snacking bed

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one partner has a snacking bed.

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So me (49M) and my wife (48F) have three kids (20M, 17F, 12F). Now our son is a uni student but is currently at home for the Easter holidays. My son is really into something called “BL”, I didn't really know what it was, he had mentioned it a few times but never went into detail. I still don't really know but found out a bit more a few weeks ago as I went to visit him and we went to a manga store and I said I would buy him one.

The cashier asked for his ID but he forgot to bring it, she correctly assumed I was his dad and explained that the book was 18+, my son looked really embarrassed and quickly told her that he's 20 (he does look younger than he is, often mistaken from anywhere between his actual age and around 14ish), and I nodded in agreement. I didn't really bring it up and just left it at that.

Fast forward to now, he's home and brought a few books back with him, some regular books, and some in the same vein as the one I bought him. His youngest sister loves to read as well, and when she saw the stack of books on his side she went to grab one, he quickly stopped her and told her shes not allowed to read those, She was confused and asked why, and he told her that she's too young, and I thought that was it.

Well, today I came home from work for lunch only to be greeted by my wife yelling at our son, apparently while he was out with some friends, his sister had gone up to his room to look for the books (he had put them away after she tried to read them the first time) and my wife found her reading a section that definitely earned the book its 18+ rating.

She completely blamed our son for even owning books like that and was talking to me about what kind of punishment we should give him. I was taken aback and told her that he did nothing wrong, he's an adult so he can own and read books like that, and he moved the books to a more hidden spot after his sister found them the first time.

This has now caused a massive argument, as she's adamant that our son needs to be punished while I don't think so and have said I will not support any punishment she gives him as it's unfair and he did nothing wrong. My wife is now saying that I don't care about our daughter and that im manipulating her and undermining her authority as his mother, so AITA?

EDIT: my wording seems to have confused a few people, im sorry, this situation concerns my younger (12) daughter, not my 17 year old

Shanghaied posted:

I do wonder if the mother's reaction is at least in part from realising that her son is likely gay. Cool dad though.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one partner has a snacking bed.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

i know a couple who will get 2 queen bed hotel room over a single king so that one partner has a snacking bed.

Wii Spawn Camper posted:

This is actually a brilliant idea when combined with room service.

Totbot posted:

Man, some of y’all really care about the weirdest poo poo. I can’t imagine getting upset about people eating in their own bed and I really can’t imagine caring about how many beds people get in a hotel room.

mystes posted:

no it's loving not

mystes posted:

People can have 500 beds for all I care, they just can't eat in any of them

mystes posted:

People can have 500 beds for all I care, they just can't eat in any of them

the holy poopacy posted:

what about rear end

Totbot posted:

People can feel free to be comfortable and eat in their own bed. Its super weird to make this into some moral high ground.

But I guess getting super weird over benign behavior is a staple of this thread.

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

My master bedroom was the living room before the original owner did some expansion work, so the trip from my bed to the front door is around six steps. I can't count many times I've ordered Doordash, put on a bathrobe to pick it up, then brought the food back to eat while watching stuff on TV, never even moving more than 15' from the bed. Truly I am a monster. I hope the no-shoes-indoors mafia never find out that if I come home with shoes on, I'll probably wear them until I'm heading into bed. (To eat, of course).

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

My master bedroom was the living room before the original owner did some expansion work, so the trip from my bed to the front door is around six steps. I can't count many times I've ordered Doordash, put on a bathrobe to pick it up, then brought the food back to eat while watching stuff on TV, never even moving more than 15' from the bed. Truly I am a monster. I hope the no-shoes-indoors mafia never find out that if I come home with shoes on, I'll probably wear them until I'm heading into bed. (To eat, of course).