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The Washington Post has a good recent long article about the economics and lack of affordability of senior care. It's US-centric, but the same basic issues likely arise in many places. The entire article's copied below, but the main points are: -assisted living is comically not affordable for normal working people, check out the graph below for the US situation -the infirm elderly are uniquely vulnerable yet there's usually no real social safety net and family members struggle to pick up the burden -costs are increasing, both individually and society-wide, not helped by profit-seeking in the care industry One thing the article doesn't really mention is the abysmal level of care most non-rich elderly receive in assisted living or nursing homes. You really do not want to end up in the lower-priced range of nursing homes, but that's where even people that "do everything right" likely end up because good-quality care is completely unaffordable for non-rich people. A lot of people on this site are around the age where their own parents might be dealing with these issues, so insights or experiences are relevant. There's a lot to be said about how society got to the point that treating the elderly well is a largely unobtainable luxury, or what that says about our society. People may also like to discuss the solution proposed in the "Hurling Day" episode of the ahead-of-its-time television series "Dinosaurs". Generational conflict/warfare discussion is probably better here than the economics doomsday thread, but isn't super welcome. Look at these numbers, these are monthly The article quote:A CRISIS OF CARE
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# ? Mar 18, 2023 20:02 |
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# ? Apr 28, 2024 21:43 |
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This thread pairs well with "Rejected Parents" https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3893726
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# ? Mar 18, 2023 22:24 |
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we should recycle them
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# ? Mar 18, 2023 22:33 |
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXVjhSNcqww
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 00:39 |
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I didn't read that whole article but do you really need a qualification to wipe an old nutters arse? Just get a nice illegal immigrant to come and stay with you or something. Anyway I live in a country where the government does things so it's illegal to charge more than $800 a month for rest home care.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 01:52 |
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Weka posted:I didn't read that whole article but do you really need a qualification to wipe an old nutters arse? Just get a nice illegal immigrant to come and stay with you or something. yeah and depending on their duties they may need several certs
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 01:55 |
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I rode backup on a family member's charity visit to a publicly funded hospice facility once and it was one of the most acutely morbid experiences of my entire life. the hardest "tu fui ego eris" experience I've ever had
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 02:40 |
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Al! posted:yeah and depending on their duties they may need several certs I don't mean legally, just practically.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 03:33 |
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Weka posted:I don't mean legally, just practically. well i mean theoretically if someone is wiping her rear end and mee maw starts having a seizure theoretically i'd want someone who has put some effort into proving they would know what to do
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 03:40 |
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my grandma just got out of the hospital with COVID and Pneumonia. She's coming up on 90 soon and seems to have lost a lot of joy from her life, she basically constantly talks about how she was ready to die in the hospital and kind of expected to. kinda sucks that she can't just choose to OD on heroin in a safe way imo.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 03:47 |
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Weka posted:I didn't read that whole article but do you really need a qualification to wipe an old nutters arse? Just get a nice illegal immigrant to come and stay with you or something. The article is definitely long, and doesn't even really get into what's driving costs. Any non-trivial amount of care will be expensive, as it can easily require a full time worker which already makes it effectively unaffordable for the large majority of retired people. This isn't even getting into cases with medical issues requiring specialized care. Also as a practical point underpaying the people doing thankless and difficult care work may not work out well for the person receiving the care. Which country is that out of interest? It would be interesting to hear how this issue is handled in different places. In Canada and the US it's very much on individuals to pay for senior care and there's only limited social support available at low incomes. It's sort of like everyone just ignores that they can't actually afford to pay for a good nursing home for themselves or their parents unless they're wealthy. In this respect it's like the US healthcare experience, where people just have to hope they don't develop a significant medical issue because it can easily become unaffordable even with private insurance.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 03:57 |
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seems bad to discuss problems with elder care and not mention medicaid clawback - even after spending down all your assets (no cash to give to your kids) to get on medicaid, after you die, they are coming for your house.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 04:02 |
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amazing that even spending $120,000 a year, the standard of care is just dreadful.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 04:04 |
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lobster shirt posted:seems bad to discuss problems with elder care and not mention medicaid clawback - even after spending down all your assets (no cash to give to your kids) to get on medicaid, after you die, they are coming for your house. That stuff needs to go in to a trust I'm guessing. Nocturtle posted:Which country is that out of interest? New Zealand, which is supposed to be expensive.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 11:45 |
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Pepe Silvia Browne posted:my grandma just got out of the hospital with COVID and Pneumonia. She's coming up on 90 soon and seems to have lost a lot of joy from her life, she basically constantly talks about how she was ready to die in the hospital and kind of expected to. kinda sucks that she can't just choose to OD on heroin in a safe way imo. for me, when i'm permanently unable to wipe my own rear end, it's time to go into the abyss. i can't think of many living scenarios less enjoyable, humiliating and embarrassing than having some underpaid nurse wipe my rear end multiple times a day for the remaining years of my life and just sit there stoically lusting for death.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 11:54 |
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Al! posted:well i mean theoretically if someone is wiping her rear end and mee maw starts having a seizure theoretically i'd want someone who has put some effort into proving they would know what to do They call 911and maybe put them in a rescue position to stave off asphyxia. U think a home health aide can do much else?
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 12:08 |
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Pepe Silvia Browne posted:my grandma just got out of the hospital with COVID and Pneumonia. She's coming up on 90 soon and seems to have lost a lot of joy from her life, she basically constantly talks about how she was ready to die in the hospital and kind of expected to. kinda sucks that she can't just choose to OD on heroin in a safe way imo. You can, it’s called “withdrawal of care” or “comfort measures only”. Next time she goes to the hospital bring it up and they’ll put her on a morphine drip and let her die of thirst. Duke the nurse an extra $500 to have them ‘help’ her along or else it’ll take days
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 12:11 |
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There's a tension between wealth-sheltering shenanigans for people trying to leave their kids something and the reality that the level of senior care that can be afforded with just social support programs is hugely inadequate and not compatible with a good quality of life. Especially this:bedpan posted:amazing that even spending $120,000 a year, the standard of care is just dreadful. This situation is not totally unique and part of the solution would be universal long-term care insurance program, ideally run by the govt. Doesn't seem likely in the US though. Cross-posting from the econ megathread: anime was right posted:yeah multigen households are good. theyre denser with all the benefits that come of that, and make things like childcare and eldercare much cheaper and more manageable as a society. its just our housing environment is built entirely for like two specific generations to live independently and to kick their kids out and not for three-four generations to live together
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 15:24 |
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Weka posted:That stuff needs to go in to a trust I'm guessing. yes but there is a five year lookback period so you have to create the trust well in advance of when you actually want to go on medicaid, and it can cost more than 10k in fees. the grim reality is that people whose real asset is their house dont think about estate planning and therefore dont think about needing to put their house into a trust, if they can even afford to do so. just another way this country punishes anyone who isn't extremely wealthy.
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# ? Mar 19, 2023 18:53 |
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I wonder how much assisted suicide is going to cost once it's legalized?.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 20:10 |
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my elderly, disabled mother currently lives in a crack den after being evicted from her apartment last year. america is the greatest country on earth
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 20:13 |
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Is there a Catholic Worker house near her?
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 20:59 |
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War and Pieces posted:Is there a Catholic Worker house near her? yeah she's got a case worker there. there's just nothing better available around here right now, she's on waiting lists for everything even with an active housing voucher. something will come through soon, maybe. I do what i can to help (a bit more than she did as a parent tbh)
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 21:21 |
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My parents are rich and own a bunch of rentals. Sucks for you though OP
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 21:24 |
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Pepe Silvia Browne posted:kinda sucks that she can't just choose to OD on heroin in a safe way imo. Xaris posted:yeah at some point someone has the right to say "alright, it's been fun yall, thanks for all the fish" and be an accepted thing. america has a very unhealthy attitude in general. Didn't Canada try medically assisted suicide recently only to have it go wrong in exactly the way everyone feared it would? As in, people using it to escape poverty and debt instead of illness and poor quality of life. Edit: ‘Disturbing’: Experts troubled by Canada’s euthanasia laws quote:Some disabled Canadians have decided to be killed in the face of mounting bills. wash bucket has issued a correction as of 21:51 on Mar 20, 2023 |
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Honestly it seems tane if they're merely executing debters rather than saddling their relatives with their debt AND the cost of excecution
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 21:54 |
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McCracAttack posted:Didn't Canada try medically assisted suicide recently only to have it go wrong in exactly the way everyone feared it would? As in, people using it to escape poverty and debt instead of illness and poor quality of life. I don't even think it's about morality, it's just the logic of the economic system taking hold over something that should be used to help people who want a way out of extreme chronic pain or untreatable conditions. Unfortunately "being poor" got added to the latter. To tie it in with this thread, it's going to get worse because much like in childcare, there's a serious labour shortage of personal support workers and nurses who could provide support for people who need it, but surprise they're paid like poo poo for extremely demanding work and people move on to other careers. I need to dig up some articles to do a small effort post, but things are only going to get worse when it comes to senior poverty. France isn't the only country that's kicked the can down the road on old age pensions and how they're funded -- most of Europe and China are facing the same problem because of demographics and how they've chosen to fund their systems. Macron obviously did it in the dumbest way possible and there are other ways to address the issue instead of raising the retirement age, but this has been a problem that's been known about for decades. Demographics don't sneak up on you, just no one wants to do anything about it. It's going to lead to a pretty interesting situation where you have a politically active and dominant elderly population that needs the younger working population to work as much as possible in order to support them, while the younger cohort will be mostly politically disenfranchised with their only form of leverage at all is to withhold their labour. should be a blast Dreylad has issued a correction as of 22:22 on Mar 20, 2023 |
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Dreylad posted:I don't even think it's about morality, it's just the logic of the economic system taking hold over something that should be used to help people who want a way out of extreme chronic pain or untreatable conditions. Unfortunately "being poor" got added to the latter. Well that's the root cause of most of our problems. We leave everything to be handled by for-profit corporations which are just systems built to make money in the near term. How do we make money off providing care? By providing as little care as we can get away with. But yeah, this is going to be a huge problem and it's going to get worse every year. Like you said even the good care facilities can barely staff themselves and most folks can't afford them anyway. Edit: Well now that I say all of that maybe Canada's medical suicide system is actually working as designed. wash bucket has issued a correction as of 22:45 on Mar 20, 2023 |
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Medical suicide laws in Canada and other places are a complex topic. They probably weren't crafted with the intent of killing off the old and disabled. As others mentioned the underlying problem is people requiring assisted living or 24/7 care for themselves or their loved ones could look at average care prices and easily conclude that it is too expensive for them to live. In Canada's case this kind of situation was given the spotlight when people started applying for medical assistance in dying (MAID) because they couldn't afford the care they needed. However it's not like this kind of situation is unique to Canada, the article in the OP is filled with examples of people in the US confronted with this same dilemma. On the other hand people who have spent time in the dementia ward of a nursing home can understandably not want to end up in the same situation. It's for this reason I originally thought the assisted suicide process was a good idea, but I'm ignorant and didn't understand that in practice it would be disproportionately applied to the disabled poor. Dreylad posted:To tie it in with this thread, it's going to get worse because much like in childcare, there's a serious labour shortage of personal support workers and nurses who could provide support for people who need it, but surprise they're paid like poo poo for extremely demanding work and people move on to other careers.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:18 |
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lobster shirt posted:yes but there is a five year lookback period so you have to create the trust well in advance of when you actually want to go on medicaid, and it can cost more than 10k in fees. the grim reality is that people whose real asset is their house dont think about estate planning and therefore dont think about needing to put their house into a trust, if they can even afford to do so. just another way this country punishes anyone who isn't extremely wealthy. It’s like $1-2k on average to set up a trust, and I think there are cheaper options available. The alternative is spending a year and about 20% of the estates value to go through probate court I agree with your 2nd & 3rd sentence
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Nocturtle posted:On the other hand people who have spent time in the dementia ward of a nursing home can understandably not want to end up in the same situation. It's for this reason I originally thought the assisted suicide process was a good idea, but I'm ignorant and didn't understand that in practice it would be disproportionately applied to the disabled poor. of course balancing the "i'm poor, *roy batty voice* time to die" versus "i'm poor, being an undue horrible burden on my relatives, rapidly losing my memory and ability to function by myself, kill me pls" is very very easily resolved by making people not poor, but very tricky otherwise.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:37 |
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Not that it will do any good for folks in the US, but what are some countries that are handling this correctly? Or at least better? I mean, I know it's silly to ask because the answers will involve healthcare systems and social safety nets we can only dream of.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:37 |
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cool part about dementia is you're too far gone to know when you're too far gone. pretty epic for me and half my living and dead relatives. ive read all kinds of stories about "assisted suicide pacts" between parents and children dealing with dementia and they make me very sad. soon this burden will inevitably fall upon me, and then to my kin. pretty based. great disease.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:44 |
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Simply removing the suicide laws wont do any good. Those people are still in a desperate situation. Either there is a complete top to bottom reform of society which i would not bet on or we help them die with as much dignity as can be managed or we let each induvidual organize their own exit (or abandon them to suffer alone). It`s better to have publicly funded euthanisia programs than to have nothing at all.
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:46 |
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Good thing there's no generational animosity in the US from a lifetime of economic vampirism. I'm sure all the zoomers and millenials paying off their student loans into their 50's are going to be well equipped to support their parent's poor retirement planning. Even people who want to probably can't really afford to bail out their parents, I guess maybe people who nailed a computer related career or such maybe. My wife and I are doing better than average for our generation and don't have kids but it's still gonna be a bit of a coinflip on whether we'll be able to save enough to handle notable medical expenses. PoundSand has issued a correction as of 23:56 on Mar 20, 2023 |
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Age caps
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# ? Mar 20, 2023 23:55 |
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have the olds tried voting?
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# ? Mar 21, 2023 00:37 |
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Nocturtle posted:
Yeah I have no doubt. COVID devastated these places. In Ontario they had to call in the army to help in a few residences. Privatization meant that old people were left in bed for over 24 hours without any check-in. I heard a few stories from a couple of relatives who work in the industry and it's terrible. My mother-in-law currently works in a nursing home and I'm convinced she's immune to COVID because she's been exposed like a dozen times because residents are transferred on to her floor and no one tells her or the other staff that the new person tested positive for COVID.
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# ? Mar 21, 2023 00:51 |
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Multiple visits per week are your grannies only hope she's in a mid nursing home. And they took those visits away during Covid lmao
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War and Pieces posted:Multiple visits per week are your grannies only hope she's in a mid nursing home. And they took those visits away during Covid lmao I can assure you they brought back the visits in 2021. And the covid.
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