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Are you constantly plagued with regret for past actions? At night, when you try to sleep, do you constantly remember your failings? Do you go about your business, before suddenly remembering something mean or embarrassing you did many years ago?
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Aug 9, 2024 13:48
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Can't do nothing about it except learn from it.
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Aug 9, 2024 13:50
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Nocheez posted:Can't do nothing about it except learn from it. this, quiote frankly, op. life is about learning, and growing
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Aug 9, 2024 15:25
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sah7NvCSO9Y
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Aug 9, 2024 15:28
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I sold Amazon stock in 1999 OP. I was 13. What are you gonna do? Just gotta keep twerking.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:32
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No, OP.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:33
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Yeah, I regret. Regret deez nuts.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:34
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What’s done is done op. It is what it is.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:34
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BAGS FLY AT NOON posted:What’s done is done op. It is what it is. It is what it is.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:35
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The past is a place we go sometimes when we forget to remember the future. The trick is to not.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:37
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I don’t know if grad school made that much sense for me, it does look good on a resume
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Aug 9, 2024 15:42
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I regret posting in this thread.
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Aug 9, 2024 15:52
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Nocheez posted:Can't do nothing about it except learn from it. yea basically there are things i wish i hadn't done or things i didn't do i wish i had but the only thing to do is to have those regrets inform your future actions so that you become a better person
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Aug 9, 2024 16:01
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I'm constantly plagued with ragweed
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Aug 9, 2024 16:02
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Cyril Sneer posted:I'm constantly plagued with ragweed 
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Aug 9, 2024 16:02
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Some Plague Regrets
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Aug 9, 2024 16:03
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Grey Cat posted:Yeah, I regret.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:05
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BAGS FLY AT NOON posted:Some Plague Regrets 
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Aug 9, 2024 16:08
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Good way to have your spirit haunt the earth forever mourning and regretting your deeds and misdeeds, op
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Aug 9, 2024 16:08
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Don’t be so self-important, OP; everybody is more concerned with their own dealings and doesn’t even remember what you said/did. Except that one time; whooo boy we’ll never forget get that one or ever let you live it down…
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Aug 9, 2024 16:08
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i had someone ask me a few weeks ago, if i could redo my life but keep the knowledge and experience ive gained so far, would i do it? the answer is no, i wouldn't. sure there's lots i could have done differently, and perspectives and insights i wish i had at certain times, but what if i did it all again only to not have my wife, or have a different family... feels wrong and it seems fruitless and lame to dwell on what life could have been like
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Aug 9, 2024 16:09
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I am consistently plagued with down syndrome
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Aug 9, 2024 16:09
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naem posted:I don’t know if grad school made that much sense for me, it does look good on a resume sucker
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Aug 9, 2024 16:09
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Yes I too have anxiety
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Aug 9, 2024 16:09
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Donglepuss posted:I am consistently plagued with down syndrome it hasn't gone unnoticed
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Aug 9, 2024 16:10
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I think part of it is some kind of expectation that if you replay that horrible regretful situation in you mind again you can reframe or interpret it in a different and more positive way and that will make you feel better about yourself. That expectation of relief/reward releases dopamine and motivates you to replay the scene in your mind again and again. But there is no reframing, no reinterpretation of what happened. No relief. You hosed up and as long as you replay the scene in your mind you will continue to feel bad. Dopamine is a liar. Never trust it. Basically, you fix what you can fix and you let the rest go. If there ain't nothing to be done about it ain't even a problem. It's just an aggravation.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:11
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ChubbyChecker posted:it hasn't gone unnoticed lol
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Aug 9, 2024 16:19
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I used to be, OP. I started therapy at 27 and regularly maintain it at 41 now. I accept the parts of myself that I consider ugly or unpleasant and work to muting my self-talk when those parts rear start shouting in my mind. We're complicated beings and our personalities more or less lock in around adolescence. It's been stated upthread and in fewer words - accept what you dislike about yourself or your actions, cause they are a part of yourself whether you like them or not. All we can do, to parrot earlier goons, is learn from our actions and do our best to improve on them.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:29
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no but i'm constantly plagued with the plague
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Aug 9, 2024 16:32
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No, I am a man of constant sorrow. You want regrets, two doors down.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:36
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Yeah. Most of my regrets are about stuff I didn't do but should have. I have very few about dumb stuff I did that I wish I hadn't. One of my regrets is that I didn't do more dumb stuff when I was younger.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:37
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Mozi posted:yea basically there are things i wish i hadn't done or things i didn't do i wish i had but the only thing to do is to have those regrets inform your future actions so that you become a better person Yup. Often a decision about what to do in any given situation can come down to "what outcome will I regret less" and past regrets can help inform this choice. Because regret sucks, it's not just that a bad thing happened, but that you know you could have done something differently and changed the outcome. Bad feels, gotta learn from them.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:42
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Presto posted:One of my regrets is that I didn't do more dumb stuff when I was younger.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:50
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Plenty of “What if…?” and “If I only…” scenarios had poisoned my mind for years. I’ll be turning 45 in a few months and I ain’t got time or energy for that poo poo anymore.
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Aug 9, 2024 16:50
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midnight77 posted:Are you constantly plagued with regret for past actions? At night, when you try to sleep, do you constantly remember your failings? Do you go about your business, before suddenly remembering something mean or embarrassing you did many years ago? You are connecting yourself to your past self. If you are completely different, that’s almost like connecting yourself with someone else that did something as regretful as your former self. You’ve grown past it, which is something people fail to do all the time, and they are stuck with a less improved self. You are a different person now.
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Aug 9, 2024 17:02
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midnight77 posted:Are you constantly plagued with regret for past actions? At night, when you try to sleep, do you constantly remember your failings? Do you go about your business, before suddenly remembering something mean or embarrassing you did many years ago? I have a structured settlement and I need cash now
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Aug 9, 2024 17:14
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You might find comfort in the idea of determinism
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Aug 9, 2024 17:19
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Yes
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Aug 9, 2024 17:22
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I regret never having sex. Being a 35 year old virgin is rough….
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Aug 9, 2024 17:23
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I was until I started taking Lexapro, yeah.
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