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Over the holidays my nephew's wife pointed out no one in my family says I love you to each other. I don't say it to my folks, my younger sister or my two nephew's, which is all the family I actually care about and go out of my way to see. And none of them say it to me. Is this strange? Is my family hosed up? Am I hosed up?! (yes)
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Saalkin posted:Over the holidays my nephew's wife pointed out no one in my family says I love you to each other. I don’t love you either
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My family is protective, but not nurturing. My family will make sure no one affects anyone else in the family, but they won't say anything nice. My wife has let me know that my mother says nice things about me behind my back, but she'll never say them to my face.
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If I told people I love them as much as I tell my pets I love them, it'd be creepy.
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Worf posted:I don’t love you either everyone on SA is aware you aren't capable of love. Das Boo posted:If I told people I love them as much as I tell my pets I love them, it'd be creepy. truth, i tell my dog i love him none stop.
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it’s because of the implication E: but yeah I say that and other affirmations of love to my dog all the time. I gotta make sure he remembers, you know?
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Saalkin posted:everyone on SA is aware you aren't capable of love. Guess you can just call me mommy then
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I don't say I love you to your mom either op
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I love you op
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My dad never said that he loved me, only talked about things I'd done or could do. My sister apparently had the same experience. After she came to visit me a few years back, and after a quite a few drinks, we agreed that we would change that, and tell each other we love one another. I don't get to talk with her all that often, I live in Germany and she lives in San Francisco, but we still stay true to it and are better for it. It's never too late to change family dynamics if you want to.
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I don't love my original family so it sounds like you should just find a new one.
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kntfkr posted:I love you op I love you too kntfkr
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Grey Cat posted:I don't love my original family so it sounds like you should just find a new one. You can find anything on Craigslist!!
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I tell the wife and kid that I love them. I tell my parents I love them. I don't tell my brother I love him, we have kind of a strange bond.
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Sounds like you’re an adult child of emotionally immature parents, op
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real families communicate feelings solely through telepathy
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well some families love each other others disapppint each other
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It’s most important for the children to be told they are loved.
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My family isn't a nurturing, protective or connected type of family. We're more antagonistic. If I ever heard anyone in my family say "I love you" I'd immediately assume they're trying to "borrow" a large sum of money I don't have for something loving stupid. A lot of families have the saying "the only people you can count on are family", my family has the motto "you can't count on anyone, not even family. Especially family". Anyway therapy has been good, A+ would recommend.
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Your family tells me they love me all the time
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I'm one of five kids in a family that also never mentioned loving each other, despite us actually loving each other. A few years back I decided to change that and now I hug mum and dad hello and goodbye whenever I see them and I hug my brothers and sisters too. I don't tell them I love them every time but I do every now and then. I think at some stage we have to take control of our relationship with our families. I regret nothing. Feels good, man.
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Saalkin posted:Over the holidays my nephew's wife pointed out no one in my family says I love you to each other. It's only weird if you actually do love eachother
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kntfkr posted:I love you op Ew
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I hate you milkman smugworth
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Oh yeah, I forgot we say "Love you." in my family every time we end a phone convo. Followed by "Mwah!" in place of "Bye." I used to be embarrassed by it, but my sister-in-law was offended when we didn't say it to her so now I just assume people think it's a good thing and covet the "Mwah!"
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I'd always felt it kind of a chore to constantly reassure your immediate family that you love them. If your family dynamic is close and loving already, then reassuring one another that you love them all the time seemed more like an empty platitude than a genuine statement. Then I lost my dad in 2021 and that feeling changed. I wish I could have told him I loved him more, and I didn't even get the chance to tell him on his deathbed, either. He knew it, but still, y'know? I try and say it more now.
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My birth family told each other I love you, but in retrospect, I don't think I believed them. It was less a family and more a hostage situation with kids, and saying I love you was required to keep the situation from escalating. I tell my wife and children I love them on a multiple times daily basis, and try like hell to do it under all kinds of circumstances. I want them to be able to say "I always knew he loved me" when they grow up. I just told them I loved them, just now. They said it back. All good over here, goons.
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Some people show their love without words while sitting in a room watching Blue Bloods and you aren’t sure they’d notice if you left op
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my mom said it often, my dad only begrudgingly on rare occasions where it was expected of him in a quietly ashamed manner like hank hill
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You know you've got a lovely family when the general attitude is "well everyone laughed at it so it's okay to do"
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kntfkr posted:It’s most important for the children to be told they are loved. gently caress yeah I make sure I tell my kid I love her at least once a day and make sure I mean it every time
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Bad Purchase posted:my mom said it often, my dad only begrudgingly on rare occasions where it was expected of him in a quietly ashamed manner like hank hill Not a fan of the "I'm a man I can't admit I love things" dingdong school of masculinity. Man up and admit you love your loved ones
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If someone has to say they love you so you think they love you. Do you think they actually love you?
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I only ever say "I love you" to coworkers and customers.
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i tell my children and partner that i love them daily, otherwise i don't express it, despite feeling it. i love my friends, for example, like you op, but im not telling you that every time you leave my house i do not love my (remaining) parent
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My parents divorced when I was 5, leading to a critical break in my conception of, and their demonstration to me of what 'love' is, and/or means. We say it to each other, sometimes, but it seems perfunctory or otherwise nebulously defined.
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Bonerland Hitman posted:My parents divorced when I was 5, leading to a critical break in my conception of, and their demonstration to me of what 'love' is, and/or means. We say it to each other, sometimes, but it seems perfunctory and nebulously defined. Does it seem transactional? Because my family went through the same thing about the same time. And in my family, if you are given something there is an expectation that strings are attached, and they want something in return.
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I definitely love my father, and younger sister. And my nephew's. My nephew's are more like brothers though because they're not much younger then me. We just never say it My mother, older sister and brother suck poo poo.
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i tell my partner i love them often, multiple times a day. my family does not say it unless there's some kind of seriously negative event going on. otherwise it's all "ill see you in a few days" and that's about it. but we always help each other with anything from manual labor to venting without hesitation.
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# ? Feb 7, 2025 22:16 |
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Jesus loves me. Jesus loves you too op.
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