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Hating children? That's pretty extreme to say the least. Given the tidbits you dropped regarding your childhood, you might want to consider seeing a psychiatrist because it sounds like there's a lot of stuff tangled up in your psyche. That isn't to say there's anything wrong with not wanting to have kids, especially when you're young.Shoe of all Cosmos posted:I have tried to speak to the boyfriend about this at least twice, and both times he got visibly uncomfortable and upset and asked me to be quiet. So no progress yet. This is a problem. Your boyfriend has this dream-- no, that's being dimissive-- an aspiration toward a picket fence and 2.5 kids, and unsurprisingly he wants you to be a part of that. Telling him that you don't want children is understandably upsetting, but refusing to discuss it isn't helping either of you: consciously or not, he's banking on you changing your mind or having an 'unfortunate' accident (and not marching down to your local fertility clinic). We had a thread here a year or so ago, with a woman whose situation could be yours in ten years. Her husband assumed that she'd eventually want children, and become distant, or argumentative when she consistently refused to consider having kids. Eventually she filed for divorce because they were irreconcilable. It's entirely possible that you'll change your mind about kids, sure. Planning and hoping for it like your boyfriend is, refusing to consider the alternative, is a toweringly bad move because he's only going to get more anxious about it as time goes on.
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