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http://nypost.com/2015/04/27/hey-millennials-here-are-5-easy-ways-not-to-act-entitled/ A few years ago, Jill Rigby Garner received an email from a graduate student asking for her help with a book he had written. After reading the entire manuscript, Garner thought the subject matter held a lot of promise but that the book wasn’t ready for publication. She wrote him back, explaining what he’d need to do to draft a book proposal for an agent. “I spent a considerable amount of time explaining the process, sent a detailed document on how to write a nonfiction book proposal, and offered help along the way in his preparation of the proposal,” says Garner, author of the book “Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World” and founder of Manners of the Heart, which teaches children, parents and business professionals how to increase respectfulness in daily communication. His response: “Oh, I understand. You don’t want to really help me. You want me to do all the work.” (Mike drop.) Garner was speechless. But due to her line of work, she’s about 150 percent more polite than the average person, who would have likely fired back an expletive-filled response. (Garner opted not to respond.) Whether they’re hoping to get a job, some advice or help on a school project, many younger millennials seem to have missed the memo on how to network without irritating the people who are in a position to help. After all, it’s only networking if you’re successful at it. To be fair, any younger generation is always going to be subjected to a certain degree of “Kids these days!” muttered by their workplace elders. Millennials are notoriously bad at making eye contact, a key networking skill. Photo: Shutterstock.com Still, there’s a lot of truth behind these stereotypes. And millennials seem to have helped themselves to an extra portion at the entitlement buffet (which is all-you-can-eat, obviously, because it’s your right). A recent survey found 71 percent of American adults consider millennials “selfish” and 65 percent find them “entitled.” “They’ve grown up in an atmosphere of instant gratification, instant information, and one that’s very child-centered,” says Garner. “There’s an expectation on their part that of course you’ll respond to them.” As college graduation and the real-world job market beckon, here’s your handy guide to networking successfully, Millennial Edition. E is for Experience: Others have it — you don’t. Your time in the sun will come. But right now, you and the person you’re contacting are not equals — chances are they’ve worked hard to get to where they are. Show some awareness and respect for that, and things should go really well. E is also for Eye Contact: Millennials often have a hard time with eye contact — an absolute deal-breaker in an interview. “The reason this is an issue is because we live looking down [at our devices],” says Garner, who says she is often approached by business owners who ask, “How can you teach my 20-something employees eye contact?” Garner will have young employees conduct staring contests with each other, forcing them to look at each other without laughing. “It’s a silly thing, but it’s amazing how it works,” she says. A handwritten thank-you note goes a long way. Photo: Shutterstock.com G is for Gratitude: Gratitude goes a long way — and costs absolutely nothing. When you’re thankful for the time someone gives you in answering your questions, they’re more likely to help you out down the road because they’re well-disposed toward you. It’s a mercenary way to look at it, but it’s true. And call it passé, but nothing stands out like an old-fashioned thank-you note. “Follow-through is everything,” explains Garner. “It takes more time to craft a handwritten note. The least you can do when someone has given you their time is take five or 10 minutes to express gratitude and respect.” R is for Request: Read over your email before you send it and ask: Does this sound more like a request — or a ransom note? Avoid the term “ASAP” at all costs, and make sure your message contains a please and thank you (seems like a given, but you’d be surprised). And take care that your message is properly formal, even if you’re sending it over social media. Sites like Facebook make powerful people easier to get in touch with, but that doesn’t mean it’s OK to approach them like a stranger at a rowdy bar. T is for Time: Remember that the person you’re contacting isn’t your parent or your teacher. In other words: They have no good reason (other than courtesy or generosity) to respond. So make sure any email or phone call comes from a place of respect for their time. “Keep an understanding that everyone’s busy today, and [you’re] asking someone to give up their time,” says Garner. And for those millennials not making these mistakes? Keep it up — you guys have no idea how much you stand out!
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Apr 28, 2015 06:08
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Apr 28, 2015 06:08
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i'm gonna murder everyone born before 1985. This is a specific threat.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:08
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lol its true most millenials are bitches that just makes it even easier for foreigners to come in and take american jobs because americans are now objectively worse
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Apr 28, 2015 06:08
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agh gently caress
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Apr 28, 2015 06:08
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Oh look, lame poo poo im not going to read from a lovely poster. This should be interesting. *click
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Apr 28, 2015 06:09
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Photo: Shutterstock.com
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Apr 28, 2015 06:09
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rofl tooled on by psyopmonkey
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Apr 28, 2015 06:10
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gently caress you op you entitled gently caress posting on the internet with your loving computer device. *maintains eye contact*
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Apr 28, 2015 06:13
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Stuff that happened, the article.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:13
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Pity reply. I'm not reading all that poo poo mang.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:14
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Big fuckin' talk from the generation that gutted the minimum wage, destroyed the social safety net, and sucked Reagan's dick because taxes were a bummer.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:15
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It's true that Millennials are bitches but it's p. funny to watch Baby Boomers continue to poo poo on them as they start to enter the early stages of death.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:16
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Humanity needs to die. Not go into space, not breed any more crotchspawn, just flatout die off.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:22
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"millenials" - some retard
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Apr 28, 2015 06:22
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90s kids will remember this! (porn version of Aaahh!! Real Monsters)
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Apr 28, 2015 06:26
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Brk in my day, I had to work a part time summer job to pay for next year's college tuition AND next year's rent. Kids these days with their Iphonys.
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thanks for the lovely apocalyptic planet morons, good scam getting out of the driver's seat just before we hit the fuckin wall
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Apr 28, 2015 06:31
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5 Ways You Should gently caress My rear end in a top hat RIGHT NOW.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:31
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A recent survey found 71 percent of American adults consider millennials “selfish” and 65 percent find them “entitled.” what a good premis to work frome loma
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Apr 28, 2015 06:32
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give me a list of the best Lists
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Apr 28, 2015 06:32
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Old Man Yells at Amazon Cloud
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Apr 28, 2015 06:34
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more millenial j9b hunting tips:
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Apr 28, 2015 06:35
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*posts angry rants about how millenials are lazy shitheads for entirety of middle age* *gets put into retirement home by millenial children*
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Apr 28, 2015 06:37
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Pomp posted:i'm gonna murder everyone born before 1985. This is a specific threat. But we're stronger than you, and bitchier. Men get "dad-strength" when they hit 30, and women can give you a complex with their laser-focused bitchiness skills.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:42
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If I'm not posting, then it's like I don't even exist!
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Apr 28, 2015 06:42
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my parents are failures, so i don't have to hear any young people sass.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:44
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3Rb9mIOivI
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Apr 28, 2015 06:48
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"(Mike drop.)" Who the gently caress proofreads these articles?
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Apr 28, 2015 06:51
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Eye contact signals aggression in Millenials. If you make prolonged eye contact with anyone under-30 they will rip your throat out. Don't say you weren't warned.
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Apr 28, 2015 06:53
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a handwritten note? shall i cross stitch my thank you into a little sampler as well, you irrelevant dinosaur column man
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Apr 28, 2015 06:54
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this article is loving hard to read 
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Apr 28, 2015 06:55
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drr, do weird anachronistic poo poo like hand-write a letter in your wretched chicken scratch and maybe hand deliver it on a penny-farthing. make everyone real uncomfortable about you. im a columnits, durr
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Apr 28, 2015 06:56
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lol rethuglicans
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Apr 28, 2015 06:56
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nevermind turns out I misread the name, it's Jill not Jim okay carry on also this article is loving stupid
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Apr 28, 2015 06:58
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I hate millennials but I also hate stupid feel good pieces written by baby boomers trying to pretend they're not the worst generation. anyways gas thread ban the op I'm gay cuck gokus pants.
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Apr 28, 2015 07:02
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"Millenials Are Entitled" Says Woman Who Will Soon Yell At A Cashier For Not Taking An Expired Coupon
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WanderingMinstrel I posted:baby boomers are the worst generation.
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