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tuyop posted:Yeah, you're right. I've talked to lots of smart people in monogamous relationships who express the exact same feelings about their relationship that I do about mine, minus the "monogamy is poisonous bullshit". The difference is that they don't play all these power politics with each other and they're respectful and trusting. So obviously it's not a categorical thing. So have either of you screwed other people? It's not really an "open marriage" until that happens. If so, and you guys are as strong as you say, then great. I couldn't do it, but I won't judge.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2015 18:25 |
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nomadologique posted:but honestly if you told someone in 1990 that in 25 years nobody would give a poo poo about gay people anymore except the old and insane, they'd have laughed in your face Even just in the 2000s. I remember there was a gay character in a movie in like 2002 (something about baseball), and it was this huge controversy. Also in Crocodile Dundee (1986) there was a lot of gay jokes and crossdress jokes. They even called a gay tranny "fag". That would never fly now.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2015 18:27 |
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I'm trying to see a perspective where I'd be OK with it with my wife, but I just can't. For me it's not "control over genitals", it's I'm the one who fucks her and vice versa. Something special between us. Plus sometimes we end up sharing toothbrushes sometimes and I wouldn't want other weiner on there.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2015 21:48 |
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Mr. Stingly posted:Any arguments in favor of open relationships and the kind of anecdotal evidence supporting them usually boil down to a description of 3 or more people who don't really give a gently caress about each other and lack the kind of intense emotional connection people think of as Love or whatever. This is then said to be much more ideal than traditional monogamy because it lets the participants orgasm much more frequently, which of course is the entire purpose of a romantic relationship, satisfying one's cravings. Like a microwave cooking hot pockets for your all night game sesh, except for your genitals. Mm are you agreeing that the entire purpose of a romantic relationship is to satisfy a craving? I can't tell if you're presenting that argument as a third party, or espousing it.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2015 21:50 |
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Arian_Samurai posted:You are confusing being monogamous with being a rapist I wouldn't go that far, but yeah "my wife is a pussy to gently caress whenever" is way off base. Moridin920 posted:yeah See I can see this. I could do it without the emotional attachment (and toothbrush sharing). Again not trying to isolate tuyop here, as it's an interesting perspective, if at their core they're both totally cool with it.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2015 22:01 |
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Your Dead Gay Son posted:Good posts buy me one
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# ¿ Sep 12, 2015 00:07 |
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Zidrooner posted:There exists this myth that if you are in a relationship with someone, having another relationship (casual or not) with someone else, you are automatically doing them an injustice, you filthy cheating adulterer. This discounts not wanting penis on my wife's toothbrush, and also the very real issue of STDs that could very well lead back to the other spouse. Like I get what you're saying, but monogamy is a pretty good way to stay disease free. tuyop mentions taking care of another's baby, but what if that baby was accidental, and the father bails out? What if it happens more than once? What if the baby's mother/father totally isn't down for the whole multiple partner thing and uses that against them in a custody battle? I think there's absolutely the potential for drama. An honest monogamous relationship will guarantee those problems aren't problems.
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# ¿ Sep 12, 2015 00:17 |
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tuyop posted:Maybe you should reconsider your unhealthy level of codependency? Yeah that's not unhealthy codependency. That's relying on the person you love.
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# ¿ Sep 12, 2015 00:28 |
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Horniest Manticore posted:and that orange was albert einstein
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