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I want to start by acknowledging that gyms and exercise classes are not always financially accessible, never mind fat-friendly. Trainers and fellow gym goers can make the experience of exercising in public totally humiliating. I personally no longer go to a gym because I had too many classes where the trainer singled me out to shame me. One time, I was in a yoga class, and I was unable to do a particular position as deeply as other members of the class because I have a severely injured knee. Rather than work with me, the class instructor singled me out as a demonstration of how to do the position wrong, forcing my body into the “right” position that exacerbated my injury – all because she felt it was just my being lazy. Frankly, whether that lack of flexibility had to do with my fatness or injuries shouldn’t matter. When we see fat people in the media, we’re almost always eating fast food, lounging on a sofa or in front of a television – the symbol of gluttony and laziness. Consider Jabba the Hutt, Fat Bastard, or almost every role Melissa McCarthy is ever allowed to play. That constant message comes through in how society treats fat people in real life, including in the names we’re insulted with with: pigs, whales, and heifers. Fat people often end up feeling like we need to justify our existence by saying “But I’m active! Here’s how much I do in terms of exercise each week.” It’s like we owe people some sort of breakdown of our activity in order to be considered valid.
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Revenants Return posted:Deadlifts Some of us are able to be active – and some of us want to be active – but not all of us are capable, and not all of us want to be. Slender people are allowed to enjoy video games as much as going to the gym, and their bodies aren’t considered indications of how healthy they may be. Not only that, but only being “acceptable” in your body because you’re seen as active and healthy is ableist. Only finding a body that is “fit” as beautiful or valuable, and fetishizing the ability to exercise, tells us as a society that people with disabilities, people with health conditions, people who are not capable of running a six-minute mile, aren’t worth being respectful to, too. And that is total bullshit Revenant you human scab.
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antitroll posted:Ha, ha, you're fat. I wasn’t born fat. I came into fatness as a teenager – in part because of medication that increased my water retention drastically, and in part because puberty gave me huge breasts, with a belly and thighs to match. And I was lucky, in some ways. My mother was also fat, and my father didn’t shame us for it, so I wasn’t raised with a disgust of my padded curves. Still, I’m not immune to the messaging on television or on the street, where my body taking up space was always seen as a threat and something to be ashamed of. So I learned, over time, how to perform the dance of the “Good Fatty” – the fat person who can never be socially acceptable, but at least publicly flogs herself for the sin of excess pounds. The Good Fatty comes in many guises, though the one I encounter the most often is the performative, apologetic, trying-not-to-be-fat Good Fatty. The Good Fatty is the one who acknowledges and accepts their Othering, both by the people in their personal lives, and the professionals they interact with. The Good Fatty is influenced by the medical profession, the corporate world, the advertising that seeps into our lives. We laugh at the image of the fat plumber, bending down and exposing his butt crack, but we know that finding jeans to fit wide hips often means running into the same problem. I used to wear cardigans in the summer because I was afraid to show my upper arms. It’s not just our own self-confidence that holds us back, either. We’re told that our bodies are unprofessional, that we smell weird, that we’re disgusting for wearing a bathing suit. I’ve been violently threatened for posting a photo on Instagram that showed my belly. But when I’ve chosen to wear baggy clothes to cover up, as I’m told so often to do, I’m accused of being frumpy and “not trying hard enough.” Strangers delight in our apparently imminent death by heart attack while simultaneously sexually harassing us. It’s a cruel loving world, especially when other women are the ones to tell us we should lose weight to be attractive to our husbands. Then I became a porn star, and made money for being naked – and now I’m out of fucks to give on whether I should wear a tight skirt or not. It also gave me a platform to feel like the sexualization of my body needed to be on my terms, and it needed to pay me for the privilege. The adult industry may not be good for everyone’s confidence or boundaries, but it definitely helped with mine. Hope you can be more tolerant in the future antitroll. Peace.
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Apr 27, 2016 21:53
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JessicaDupre posted:It's like Christmas came early this year. I take sole responsibility for this thread because I'm a narcissist. I would stay here but I have to go to the gym and then brag about it to my out-of-shape friends. Btw, how many people on here can run a mile under, say, 9 minutes? Just curious. Being a female-identified “good fatty” often means living your life to please others, striving to gain approval and love by being the right thing at the right time. I’ve stopped pushing myself so hard to be an acceptable fatty. To make a point about the absurdity and body policing of the “good fatty/bad fatty” archetypes, I did a photoshoot where I ate fried chicken with candy all over my body, embodying the “bad fatty” in lingerie and horns. It’s become one of my favorite photos Jessica.
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Apr 27, 2016 22:28
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Jerry Mumphrey posted:i can deadlift a gorilla getting out of bed doesnt count as exercise also turn your monitor on
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Apr 27, 2016 22:44
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Minimalist Program posted:GBS is so incredibly bad and getting worse to the point that 2016 is the worst GBS year I've ever seen, and basically it's due to Nooner, DGSW, Enfield and like, 4 other guys who post none stop in all threads and are all horrible and should be banned, and I am also one such poster.  also 
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Apr 27, 2016 23:00
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Pththya-lyi posted:So this is you? no doxxing, doxxer!
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Apr 27, 2016 23:05
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JessicaDupre posted:Everyone should watch this, then Frosty Flakes can start a thread trashing it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fat_Girl i cant click that...im too.... fat...
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Apr 27, 2016 23:19
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are we starting up the Town Hall thread again? oh goodie
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Apr 27, 2016 23:35
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JessicaDupre posted:I've been living a lie this whole time in the name of social progress. So it's okay for me to make fun of awkward people at the gym now? You're all fat cows for not being able to run a 6 minute mile. I feel so much better now. Awww, someone thinks I'm going to leave now because they replaced my avatar with a (gaaaasp) fat girl. your posting module needs adjustment. wait here brb
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Apr 28, 2016 02:17
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Fishy Joe posted:how do you trick a fat girl into loving you??? i cant ask my mom shes dead tell her she reminds you of your dead mom <3
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Apr 28, 2016 02:31
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JessicaDupre posted:No one worry. I'm here to offer support and acceptance for people with all kinds of problems, including those who feel personally offended by obesity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8D8YjgnGR4
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Jerry Mumphrey posted:i'm jerry mumphrey - a wisecracking crawdad who is the prince of the moon  the moon is made of cheese, just like your posts!
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