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why did he do that when i was patient and thoughtful? why would a person be cruel to someone else like that to no benefit of their own? thanks
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We live in a fallen world, OP
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Aug 19, 2017 04:38
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Oh no
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Aug 19, 2017 04:39
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Did you give him the backdoor?
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Aug 19, 2017 04:39
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I don't know why, OP. But I know what you should do about it.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:40
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I thought you took a forums vacation and got better
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Aug 19, 2017 04:41
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NomChompsky posted:I thought you took a forums vacation and got better traffic was bad on my way home from work because of the upcoming eclipse weekend so google maps drove me directly by his house and past literally every major place where we had good memories
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Aug 19, 2017 04:42
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he wasn't the right person
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Aug 19, 2017 04:42
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Plant poo poo seeds, get poo poo weeds Might as well grow yourself some shitapples
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Aug 19, 2017 04:43
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Smoke weed instead OP
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Aug 19, 2017 04:43
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it probably depends on how attractive you are
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Pick posted:traffic was bad on my way home from work because of the upcoming eclipse weekend so google maps drove me directly by his house and past literally every major place where we had good memories its a sign
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Aug 19, 2017 04:44
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also it took 2 hours so i had a lot of time to think about the good memories and how they dont exist any more and how all i ever wanted was to understand 
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Aug 19, 2017 04:44
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Sometimes its just not meant to be, friend.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:44
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Back when I believed in a concept like "the one," the one who I thought was "the one" dumped me and I cried real hard. Like harder than I have ever cried. The next day I was basically fine. It probably also helped that I started smoking dope and drinking a lot and going out with friends like every day for a long time.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:44
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Ex-Priest Tobin posted:it probably depends on how attractive you are Not if there's the sweet honey of anal
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Ex-Priest Tobin posted:it probably depends on how attractive you are smokin
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Aug 19, 2017 04:45
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Piiiiiick stoooooop
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Aug 19, 2017 04:45
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Pick posted:why did he do that when i was patient and thoughtful? why would a person be cruel to someone else like that to no benefit of their own? thanks why did she do that when I was considerate and honest? why would a person ostracize someone else like that just for their own benefit? thanks
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Aug 19, 2017 04:46
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Pick posted:why did he do that when i was patient and thoughtful? why would a person be cruel to someone else like that to no benefit of their own? thanks Short answer: him dick. Long answer: A certain type of person feels like being kind and considering other people's feelings is a burden the world is trying to force upon them, rather than the baseline expected from friendships and positive interactions. They'll bitch and moan when people stop being considerate to them, but see no reason to return the kindness people give them. Hugh was under no obligation to return your feelings, this is true, but there is an obligation of basic loving decency to not be a huge loving prick about it, which by all accounts he failed repeatedly. But he didn't tell you to just gently caress off, not because you were 'a scary person imposing on him' like some people have suggested, but because even if he didn't care about you as a person, he cared that you made his life more comfortable. I'm sorry. You can't pour enough love into a person like that to get even basic decency back, because basic decency is something people give to other people and some people don't see others as people.
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Pick posted:also it took 2 hours so i had a lot of time to think about the good memories and how they dont exist any more and how all i ever wanted was to understand Your brain reconstructs memories from scratch using a grocery list sized set of details so the memories you treasure never existed as you recall them.
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Dinosaurmageddon posted:why did she do that when I was considerate and honest? why would a person ostracize someone else like that just for their own benefit? thanks There's a difference between not reciprocating and actively milking another person for their time and emotional labor while not giving anything in return. I doubt Hugh was so terrified of Pick he couldn't tell her to gently caress off.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:48
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Some people are narcissists and sociopaths I was in a textbook abusive relationship with one and then was doxxed on this very forum as punishment for breaking off from them. You did what I did which was project our own good traits onto others but some people have no empathy because of a Cluster B personality disorder and you cannot save or change them
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Aug 19, 2017 04:49
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You've got to be kidding me. I've been further even more decided to use even go need to do look more as anyone can.
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i like that posted:Some people are narcissists and sociopaths I was in a textbook abusive relationship with one and then was doxxed on this very forum as punishment for breaking off from them. You did what I did which was project our own good traits onto others but some people have no empathy because of a Cluster B personality disorder and you cannot save or change them Yeah this. I believe everyone deserves basic decency and I believe therapy can help plenty of people with Cluster B disorders but there's also people therapy won't help, because they don't want to change. You can lead a horse to water, etc.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:51
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Pick posted:also it took 2 hours so i had a lot of time to think about the good memories and how they dont exist any more and how all i ever wanted was to understand    PetraCore posted:I doubt Hugh was so terrified of Pick he couldn't tell her to gently caress off. Actually, there was this time when Hugh crawled under a truck...
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Aug 19, 2017 04:53
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drink till you cant feel OP!!!!!!
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Aug 19, 2017 04:54
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fruit on the bottom posted:Your brain reconstructs memories from scratch using a grocery list sized set of details so the memories you treasure never existed as you recall them. This has actually been an important realization, that I don't have access to any record of the world as it really exists, only my own demented version, and he has his demented version, and it probably intersects at few if any junctions
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Aug 19, 2017 04:54
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Dinosaurmageddon posted:Actually, there was this time when Hugh crawled under a truck... Almost immediately after that trip he agreed to go with me on my "dream" camping trip and anyway the tale of how that shook out is way worse and incredible (as in hard to believe) than any other tale I've ever told and honestly I'm fine not telling it.
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Aug 19, 2017 04:56
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you let him. maybe not the first time, but every time after. move on
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Aug 19, 2017 04:58
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i like that posted:Some people are narcissists and sociopaths I was in a textbook abusive relationship with one and then was doxxed on this very forum as punishment for breaking off from them. You did what I did which was project our own good traits onto others but some people have no empathy because of a Cluster B personality disorder and you cannot save or change them Yeah I think I am still trying to come to terms with the idea of people who can't be helped because it seems so pointlessly cruel of the world to make people like this and in total violation of my most basic ethics 
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Aug 19, 2017 04:59
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I mean I think this is moving on. Emotional processing is part of moving on. Maybe not usually on a comedy internet forum, but...
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Aug 19, 2017 04:59
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Yeah, he's just a stupid dick that was using you. I've known a lot of people exactly like that, you'll never be able to help them.
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Aug 19, 2017 05:00
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Humans are complicated pick.
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Miserable Maid posted:Yeah, he's just a stupid dick that was using you. I've known a lot of people exactly like that, you'll never be able to help them. I don't think he meant to and that's why it hurt so bad. I've never let a conventional shithead use me, but he was like mr magooing all up in my feelings and beliefs 
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PetraCore posted:Yeah this. I believe everyone deserves basic decency and I believe therapy can help plenty of people with Cluster B disorders but there's also people therapy won't help, because they don't want to change. You can lead a horse to water, etc. People on the autism spectrum struggle with empathy and I believe Pick mentioning Hugh having Asperger's. There are certainly similarities between those individuals and those with Cluster B when it comes to being able to put themselves in another's shoes. Both Asperger's and cluster B's are stuck on a juvenile level of emotional development while (Ironically) conceiving themselves to be more self-actualized (than everyone else) because they don't have to deal with pithy 'feelings' i like that fucked around with this message at 05:07 on Aug 19, 2017 |
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PetraCore posted:Yeah this. I believe everyone deserves basic decency and I believe therapy can help plenty of people with Cluster B disorders but there's also people therapy won't help, because they don't want to change. You can lead a horse to water, etc. He didn't seem to understand the concept of thirst or drinking or other horses or the notion of "leading" as a gesture that another entity would attempt.
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i like that posted:People on the autism spectrum struggle with empathy and I believe Pick mentioning Hugh having Asperger's. There are certainly similarities between those individuals and those with Cluster B when it comes to being able to put themselves in another's shoes. Both Asperger's and cluster B's are stuck on a juvenile level of emotional development while (Ironically) conceiving themselves to be more self-actualized (than everyone else) because they don't have to deal with pithy 'feelings' Doesn't cluster B also include BPD? Which is like, extra feelings with no emotional protective shell so everything hurts extra hard and you (are naturally inclined to) lash out disproportionately?
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Pick posted:He didn't seem to understand the concept of thirst or drinking or other horses or the notion of "leading" as a gesture that another entity would attempt. Could be a really big theory of mind failure if that's true. I'm on the spectrum but I distinctly remembered realizing that other people had their own internal landscapes with their own limited information and perspectives and acted due to their own emotions and desires when I was in like... elementary school. If he's never gotten to that point then idk what to tell you.
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