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Arian_Samurai posted:Most grow up after graduating high school and eventually develop a personality. Others just complain on the internet. 
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notZaar posted:I think basically every description of a frustrated loser posted itt is dead on me. You're in luck I posted a step by step guide to stopping
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Aug 2, 2016 16:08
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Sintax posted:I think some really early-in-life rejections or cruelties build a pattern of distrust in a brain, then certain people already disposed to recieve negative social feedback just continue to get it through their teens. A lot of people don't know what to change about themselves because the same social structure that failed them early in life leads them to having perhaps only a small group of friends to give useful feedback. Overwhelming frustration is the end-point in plenty of these cases, and it's not entirely unjustified given that society's tendency to talk-around things is deceptive to someone with autistic thought patterns. Yeah, this is why I try to be very friendly and patient with everyone who isn't manipulative. Generally speaking I end up liking people as long as they're honest and not malicious. A lot of people are really gun-shy because of experiences in their teens and early 20s. I wasn't popular as a teen, but I cleaned up my act and do fine now. But I acknowledge how stressful it can be, there are certain circumstances that can make me so anxious I'll faint. (Basically any situation where I feel I'm up against a preceding bad reputation, but need to change their minds  .) I was only able to learn how to be friendly because other people were patient with me.PallasAthene posted:It was the other way around, at least in my experience. A lot of them had sort of become bitter assholes, but the most heartbreaking ones were the friendly, likeable old guys who had never had time for a family for whatever reasons and they outlived their siblings and ended up completely alone.
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Aug 2, 2016 16:18
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Pick posted:Yeah, this is why I try to be very friendly and patient with everyone who isn't manipulative. Generally speaking I end up liking people as long as they're honest and not malicious. A lot of people are really gun-shy because of experiences in their teens and early 20s. I wasn't popular as a teen, but I cleaned up my act and do fine now. But I acknowledge how stressful it can be, there are certain circumstances that can make me so anxious I'll faint. (Basically any situation where I feel I'm up against a preceding bad reputation, but need to change their minds  ) and patient with them but they'll only remember the one who wasn't.
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Aug 2, 2016 16:22
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CarForumPoster posted:You're in luck I posted a step by step guide to stopping Thanks for the offer.
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Aug 2, 2016 16:27
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Golluk posted:The second step is not telling them how to hang on right. Most just wrap themselves around you. Of course you're stuck as the little spoon, and god help your wrists if you have to brake suddenly. What are you talking about? Braking is the fun part.
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Aug 2, 2016 17:10
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darkhand posted:I'm not sure it's really lack of confidence because a lot of these guys have no problem waking around with really cringey stuff in public. Seems more fear of rejection. They don't ask a girl out they just do "nice" things. They don't try to initiate anything flirty because they see it as douchey. And they hate "douchebags" that ask girls out. Confidence isn't falling over yourself to do favors for other people then getting butthurt and pouty when they don't reciprocate. The don't initiate anything flirty because they are terrified of rejection, and the being mad at douchey dudes thing is the lie they tell themselves to justify it. They don't really care about the woman so why would they care if someone was being a douche to her? Hell they become a douche to her the moment she doesn't go their way. They're just mad someone else is getting what they want and being sour grapes about it ('she's just a dumb ho anyway').
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Aug 2, 2016 17:22
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theres no way to get girls to like you, it's impossible
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Aug 2, 2016 17:25
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a hole-y ghost posted:yeah but I feel like with a lot of these guys there could be a thousand people who are nice ( Severe nice-guy-ism is just depression or another mental disorder, which are usually underdiagnosed in men for a variety of cultural reasons. That's all.
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Aug 2, 2016 17:25
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Carmant posted:theres no way to get girls to like you, it's impossible Agreed
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Aug 2, 2016 18:59
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true human connection in any form is a lie. doesn't exist. you can't pick up or touch or feel or eat friendship, or love. it's not a thing. bam
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Aug 2, 2016 19:10
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Carmant posted:theres no way to get girls to like you, it's impossible -be handsome -be attractive -don't be unattractive
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Aug 2, 2016 19:55
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naem posted:-be handsome That didn't work
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Aug 2, 2016 20:18
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notZaar posted:That didn't work Post pics. People who dont think theyre ugly are usually the ugliest of all
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Aug 2, 2016 20:30
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My self esteem can't take the vicious trolling of gbs posters.
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Aug 2, 2016 20:31
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lack of self-esteem is very unattractive, have you tried not being unattractive Just Be Yourself, unless you're naturally really cringey and ugly
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Aug 2, 2016 20:32
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darkhand posted:lack of self-esteem is very unattractive, have you tried not being unattractive Unfortunately his lack of self esteem comes from the bullying he received for being hideously ugly, so there's nothing he can do about it.
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Aug 2, 2016 20:37
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i feel bad for women who have to put up with this type of guys i pestered a girl in high school for like a year and a half and she finally agreed to go out with me and neither of us were happy the entire relationship so I learned to wait for ladies to show am interest first and it's worked out well I had some sex in my early 20s and I've been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years now
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Aug 2, 2016 20:56
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Confidence doesn't go the whole way, I think the most important thing is to develop yourself as a person and be passionate about things
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Aug 2, 2016 20:56
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If you're ugly, get rich.
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Aug 2, 2016 21:01
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The easy thing about confidence is that you don't need to have it, you just have to pretend to have it. And that's pretty easy really; just think you're the king poo poo and no one else's dumbass opinion really matters. Be cool and aloof. Don't be a braggart, that also indicates you give a poo poo about the opinions of others. Just channel the GBS nihilism thread as hard as you can, it really does work. No one knows how you feel on the inside so you can be just as squirmy and unsure as ever. Just act a role. Eventually it will come natural.
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Aug 2, 2016 21:02
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Moridin920 posted:The easy thing about confidence is that you don't need to have it, you just have to pretend to have it. And that's pretty easy really; just think you're the king poo poo and no one else's dumbass opinion really matters. Be cool and aloof. Don't be a braggart, that also indicates you give a poo poo about the opinions of others. People aren't stupid, if they see that you have nothing to be confident about they aren't going to let you get away with being confident. Just look at GBS fat people threads where the goal is to beat down what little confidence overweight people have been able to drum up.
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Aug 2, 2016 21:06
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Carmant posted:People aren't stupid, if they see that you have nothing to be confident about they aren't going to let you get away with being confident. Just look at GBS fat people threads where the goal is to beat down what little confidence overweight people have been able to drum up. lol you fat oval office
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Aug 2, 2016 21:07
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Also, it's much easier to get dates if you stop watching anime
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Aug 2, 2016 21:10
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Moridin920 posted:The easy thing about confidence is that you don't need to have it, you just have to pretend to have it. And that's pretty easy really; just think you're the king poo poo and no one else's dumbass opinion really matters. Be cool and aloof. Don't be a braggart, that also indicates you give a poo poo about the opinions of others. Pretending to have confidence is just having confidence.
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Aug 2, 2016 21:10
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Carmant posted:People aren't stupid, people are stupid as gently caress and what's more they want to believe lies if the lie appeals to their sense of the way things 'should be' (which is hella easy to exploit) People pick up on social cues and body language well, but that doesn't make them smart. And that poo poo is easy too; look people in the eye, speak clearly and with purpose (say what you're gonna say in your head first and slow your speech so it isn't riddled with uhms and ahs), keep your physical actions deliberate and almost slow (stop jittering around with that drink in your hand, stop fidgeting!). You want to channel a lion just chilling on his rock and being lazy. It's not nervously glancing around, it's not nervously tapping it's foot, it's just chilling there and gently caress you. Carmant posted:if they see that you have nothing to be confident about they aren't going to let you get away with being confident. if you're being aloof and uncaring then why are they getting details from you that they can slam you on? If you're obviously a fat sack then yeah but even a fatty dressed well with a good attitude can be cool. besides real life is not GBS. people aren't going to be at the bar waiting to pounce on the slightest mis-step notZaar posted:Pretending to have confidence is just having confidence. Effectively sure but you gotta baby step it for people because it's one thing to say 'just be confident drat' and another to explain to them that they can just act and pretend and get better and better at filling the role and let them realize on their own one day that they aren't just filling a role anymore. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 21:26 on Aug 2, 2016 |
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Aug 2, 2016 21:21
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A man who focuses on he own self and lets no woman get him down cause this man has bigger loving fish to fry than no one single attractive lady, he a attractive man. Sometimes you just gotta let them go for them to come back *spends every waking hour getting pussy whipped and yelled at by wife*
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Aug 2, 2016 21:23
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Moridin920 posted:
Yeah it's usually not strangers, normally its your friends who do that. But unless you're going out to bars or meeting new people completely alone you cant avoid that. It's best to just know your place and act out your role..
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Aug 2, 2016 21:31
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Moridin920 posted:besides real life is not GBS. people aren't going to be at the bar waiting to pounce on the slightest mis-step It was me. I was the GBS in real life.
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Aug 2, 2016 21:33
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Carmant posted:Yeah it's usually not strangers, normally its your friends who do that. But unless you're going out to bars or meeting new people completely alone you cant avoid that. It's best to just know your place and act out your role.. well yeah I guess. I feel like a good friend would see that you're trying to improve your sadbrain situation though and support you even if they had to go along with some fibs... but I'm not even saying lie to people about what you do or anything, I'm just saying stop caring about their opinion. Tell them with a grin on your face that you're a professional poo poo shoveler and this is your 1 day a month off that you decided to spend at the bars rather than jerking to anime and I promise the average person's reaction is gonna be to laugh not to cringe and move away. The point is to go out and just do you not worry about whether or not some stranger is gonna like you. gently caress them anyway. Incidentally that's a really great lying technique; tell the truth about a flaw or something bad but just couch it in humor and people won't take you serious. Like hell I could tell people I love crossdressing and sucking down fat dicks but as long as I do it with a half grin they'll just laugh and assume I'm joking even if I'm not. Alternately if you have sad sack friends dragging you down it might be time to recognize that and cut some cord idk. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 21:39 on Aug 2, 2016 |
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Aug 2, 2016 21:36
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good advice, elliot rodger was funny as hell and he really did have a shot in the end.
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Like, you don't need to be an olympic athlete to get a little exercise. A light regular workout goes a long way. The other day I went for a jog after not going for a week due to crunch time at work, was super stiff, and tripped over my feet and biffed face first into decorative mulch and slid down a drainage slope. It was hilarious. I had dirt in my mouth, my arm was bleeding, it was great. Some dude helped me up, I was laughing dirt out of my face, a bunch of girls were like "are you ok??" Like, I didn't go home and write an angry diatribe about the evils of garden mulch or "you think you're bettre than me chad because I MEANT to fall in the ditch" and never ever jog again The same goes for socializing?
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Aug 2, 2016 22:33
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Not quite Nice Guy, not quite /r/relationships, but this has to be seen  
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Aug 2, 2016 22:35
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Nobody's going to ostracize you for falling down. But people definitely will tell their friends that you're some weird definition of "creep" that they just made up if you're not good at socializing.
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Aug 2, 2016 22:37
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Sentient Data posted:Not quite Nice Guy, not quite /r/relationships, but this has to be seen online dating is hard, especially if you're ugly or a minority
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Aug 2, 2016 22:40
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darkhand posted:Nobody's going to ostracize you for falling down. But people definitely will tell their friends that you're some weird definition of "creep" that they just made up if you're not good at socializing. source ur quotes
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Aug 2, 2016 22:41
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what you guys aren't getting is that maybe that's a literal copy paste from The Secret and she gets that 10x a daydarkhand posted:Nobody's going to ostracize you for falling down. But people definitely will tell their friends that you're some weird definition of "creep" that they just made up if you're not good at socializing. refer back to rule 1: who gives a poo poo and no, they won't. Not if you're just awkward and bad at socializing. People call you creepy when you don't understand obvious social cues like a girl trying desperately to end a conversation while you continue bulling through it because she's too polite to just say 'gently caress off already.'
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Aug 2, 2016 22:41
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only ugly dudes get tagged as creep
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Aug 2, 2016 22:43
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darkhand posted:Nobody's going to ostracize you for falling down. But people definitely will tell their friends that you're some weird definition of "creep" that they just made up if you're not good at socializing. I mean they'll laugh at you for waddling along fattly when you first start jogging but that goes away when you get less fat as you keep at it, eventually you can get all the way un-fat. Also weezing and sweating are fun and good
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Moridin920 posted:what you guys aren't getting is that maybe that's a literal copy paste from The Secret and she gets that 10x a day That's what I'm saying. Failing down gives you a source for your problem that you fix, you hit some gravel and slid. People bad at socializing don't even know they're being a creep or even what it means, they have no course for correction. Which to be fair is probably incredibly rare situation and sad. The really heinous nice guys are people who should know better, they have resources to have learned but didn't because their narcissism
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