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I had a miscarriage and since it was uncomplicated I started trying again right away. I got pregnant that same cycle and now have a 4.5 year old son  Generally the notion is changing to "if you don't have complications or issues arising out if a first trimester miscarriage, you can start trying again whenever you'd like"
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teacup posted:Just as an update, we went in for a follow up hcg test and they plummeted down and then later that day my wife had bleeding like a period again. Frustrating, in the same year an ectopic and a miscarriage. I'm so sorry that you guys are going through the second loss in a year. It's important to remember that after one miscarriage the most likely outcome in the next pregnancy is a normal pregnancy. You don't have to wait to start trying again - once the miscarriage is complete you are in the clear. She should start ovulating again within 4-6 weeks.
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There's no reason to wait unless your care provider explicitly tells you to do so. After my miscarriage I was told that they used to tell you to wait a cycle to make it easier to date a future pregnancy, but ultrasounds are so accurate at doing that that you don't need to wait.
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Sab0921 posted:I looked through the OP and the last few pages, but am looking for a couple of good resources of what to expect from Pregnancy. My wife is pregnant (not a surprise because we did IVF after 2 years of no luck) and I want to not be a moron on her pregnancy related issues as we move forward. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Not specifically pregnancy (arguably), but I'm a fan of preparing for the birth ahead of time if you can- Birthing From Within by Pam England is imo a great book. I'd try to browse it first before buying though, not sure if it's entirely to everyone's 'style'. Same deal with anything Ina May Gaskin. I've got Michel Odent on my reading list too.
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Hello thread! After 2 chemicals back to back this year, this one looks like it might be sticking at almost 6 weeks. I'm cautiously optimistic anyway. SquirrelFace posted:I think The Expectant Father might be the one I got my husband. He stopped reading when the guy suggested that you demand to see your wife’s cervix during a prenatal pelvic exam... Yeah, I got this book for my husband because I saw it recommended around here, but once I looked though it, I couldn't stop rolling my eyes. Stick to the Mayo Clinic book. I think my in-laws have guessed already. I turned down beer blaming heartburn, but my mil was like "Or maybe I'm going to be a grandma????" . At least I'll get to do a cute surprise for my mom over Xmas.
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Husband didn't mention that cervical exam thing from The Expectant Father, it was mainly how the finances part (of most baby books) didn't apply as we're in Canada. Neither my husband or I had any baby handling experience before we had ours, and found the YouTube videos from Howcast on baby care to be helpful. Short bites, covering everything basic for the parents of a newborn. Having never changed diapers we never would have known to make sure the leg ruffle was not tucked in, for example.
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Frikkin leg ruffles, how do they work?! We live in a socialist paradise so diaper and bath training was mandatory before our 1-week discharge. I made my husband do it again with #2.
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Have any other parents dealt with IUGR? I'm 28 weeks pregnant with our second, and our babe is measuring at 4.6%. They've scheduled weekly sonograms now to keep at eye on blood flow, but I'm still pretty scared. Our first was born at 39+6 and weighed 8lbs 4oz, so I know I'm capable of having a big ol' full-term baby. Just wondering if any of you have any encouraging stories.
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Forums user Miranda works in an NICU, and she knows all about IUGR and tiny babies. https://forums.somethingawful.com/member.php?action=getinfo&userid=71814
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Maybe this is still a long shot but I’m still wondering and hoping the best for dogfish 
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If she went to term her baby would be seven months old now nearly. She said she had some health issues that complicated things so who knows  Hope she's ok too.
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Hey thread, I haven't really looked this way in the last 14 months but I guess it's time to check back in. My wife had a positive test last week, and after a dr visit yesterday it looks like we are going to have a second baby (though it is still really early, probably only 4 weeks in). Main reason I'm checking in is because my wife had pretty bad PPD, and has been on Zoloft this last year. Her OB said that she isn't a candidate for going of the meds since her last pregnancy was so difficult. She said the risks of zoloft are pretty low, but that there is a higher chance of the baby having to go to the NICU to 'detox' for a few days after birth. I know there are some NICU folks around here so was wondering just how common that really is?
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Zoloft is safe for pregnancy. It's one of the SSRI's that Mayo clinic recommends for pregnant women. This are some rare birth defects that could happen, but they are rare. This is better discussed with a doctor than the internet if you guys have concerns.
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SpaceCadetBob posted:Hey thread, I haven't really looked this way in the last 14 months but I guess it's time to check back in. My wife had a positive test last week, and after a dr visit yesterday it looks like we are going to have a second baby (though it is still really early, probably only 4 weeks in). I'm an OB and not a pediatrician, but I'll take a crack at this. We have a lot of data showing that sertraline is very safe in pregnancy - doesn't cause birth defects, etc. With regards to newborns, exposure to the class of medication that sertraline is in (SSRIs) during the third trimester can cause an increased risk of poor neonatal adjustment (things like irritability, agitation, etc). However, most of the time this is very mild and only rarely do we see severe symptoms requiring specialized medical treatment. These symptoms are going to be things that usually get better on their own and go away quickly. As stated by one of my medical references: "supportive measures such as maternal reassurance, frequent infant feeding, and encouragement of skin-to-skin contact between mother and infant are usually sufficient to manage poor neonatal adjustment." It's important not to decrease the dose or stop the medication in the third trimester, however, since late pregnancy and the early postpartum period are the times when women are most vulnerable to severe psychiatric symptoms, and there's no data that changing dosing of the SSRIs can help prevent poor neonatal adjustment.
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I’m now 29 weeks pregnant and am on school holidays (paid) for 6 weeks. We are getting furniture sorted out and it is really nice to have some time to put my feet up. I had a nap for a whole hour, it was incredible. My in-laws stayed on the weekend and before they left, did furniture dismantling, vacuuming and shifting so now we can really get the nursery organised. Not too much longer now!
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Does anyone know much about twins, and a size difference in the womb? My husband and I received a giant shock on Friday that we seem to have twins coming! One is measuring 6 weeks, 3 days (where it should be), and the second is 5 weeks, 1 day. We are to go back in a couple of weeks for a follow up scan, but for now I'm not sure whether this may mean #2 isn't likely to survive. Still trying to process all this and I'm not wanting to google for what it may mean as I'll likely get overwhelmed with stories where the outcome has gone either way and not feel any better. But any knowledge or advice is much appreciated!
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BlueCat posted:Does anyone know much about twins, and a size difference in the womb? Did you get to talk to your doc or midwife after the ultrasound? At this point in pregnancy, we'd expect the measurements to be much closer together, so I'm afraid you are probably looking at the early loss of one of the twins. I can't say that for certain, as there may have been technical issues, etc with the ultrasound study. Your ultrasound was very early, and in studies looking at this, we've seen that there's loss of one twin (vanishing twin) in approximately 25% of pregnancies that start out with two sacs. If this does represent a loss, there was nothing you did or did not do that contributed to it, and the most likely outcome for the other embryo is a healthy pregnancy that goes to term.
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superbelch posted:Did you get to talk to your doc or midwife after the ultrasound? At this point in pregnancy, we'd expect the measurements to be much closer together, so I'm afraid you are probably looking at the early loss of one of the twins. I can't say that for certain, as there may have been technical issues, etc with the ultrasound study. Your ultrasound was very early, and in studies looking at this, we've seen that there's loss of one twin (vanishing twin) in approximately 25% of pregnancies that start out with two sacs. If this does represent a loss, there was nothing you did or did not do that contributed to it, and the most likely outcome for the other embryo is a healthy pregnancy that goes to term. We only got to speak with the ultrasound technician (?) after, who said that we'll need to come back in a couple of weeks. I've been having some pretty crappy abdominal pain on and off too (which is what lead to the early ultrasound initially), so we're really just biding our time for now. We have our first appointment with an obstetrician on Monday. Don't have a midwife or anything as yet to speak with, so no real option for reassurance I can go to currently. Thanks for the information though, very appreciated. It's my first time going through all this so I feel very in the dark!
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BlueCat posted:We only got to speak with the ultrasound technician (?) after, who said that we'll need to come back in a couple of weeks. I've been having some pretty crappy abdominal pain on and off too (which is what lead to the early ultrasound initially), so we're really just biding our time for now. The waiting game in early pregnancy is the hardest part. Let me know if there's anything else I can do to help.
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SpaceCadetBob posted:Hey thread, I haven't really looked this way in the last 14 months but I guess it's time to check back in. My wife had a positive test last week, and after a dr visit yesterday it looks like we are going to have a second baby (though it is still really early, probably only 4 weeks in). I have been on Zoloft for a long time and was on it during my pregnancies. My oldest was born at 36 weeks and had no issues at all. My second was born at 35 weeks and did have some mild symptoms of withdrawal, though there was a lot going on with him being early and meconium in my fluid. He had 16 day NICU stay but is now a giant sassy 3 year old.
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Had my follow up scan yesterday. We've lost twin #2, no cardiac activity. Twin #1 is growing in line with expectations though, which is nice. Not the best pre-christmas news, but it is a relief to not be wondering any more. Still trying to wrap my head around it all.
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Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. You still have a few months to sort out your feelings.
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I'll be 8 weeks pregnant on the 31st. I'm still being cautious about getting too excited about it. I had a miscarriage in April. It didn't quite make it to 8 weeks, but I didn't know I was loosing it till I was like 10 weeks a long. We had already told our son and he was super excited. Trying to explain to him what happened the best that you can to a 4 year old was heartbreaking. I'm having major nausea issues. I've only thrown up a couple of times, but I feel crappy all day. This isn't going to go well when I start back up work in January (I'm a college professor). Based on the doctors recommendation, I started taking B6 3 times a day and a unisom at bedtime. The nausea is gone, but I am SO loving TIRED I feel like I am in a fog when I wake up. I drank half a cup of coffee today and it kinda helped me get enough of a push to get going. I am super paranoid about drinking coffee though since caffeine can cause you to have a miscarriage.  As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I went off coffee immediately. I use to drink 5 - 6 cups a day. I feel like I'm chasing symptoms to find the most manageable feeling with the least potential harm.
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SpaceCadetBob posted:Hey thread, I haven't really looked this way in the last 14 months but I guess it's time to check back in. My wife had a positive test last week, and after a dr visit yesterday it looks like we are going to have a second baby (though it is still really early, probably only 4 weeks in). Well, looks like this one wasn’t meant to be. We had our 8 week ultrasound two days ago. Yesterday the Dr called back saying it didn’t look very promising with the embryo very low in the womb. We were told to call back if any bleeding happened. Well this morning we got just that and now a few hours into it, we seem to have lost it. Just posting to vent I guess, trying to keep on a strong face for my wife, but in pretty sad about it myself.
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Oh Bob, I'm so sorry for you and your wife. I'll be thinking of you both.
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Alterian posted:I'll be 8 weeks pregnant on the 31st. I'm still being cautious about getting too excited about it. I had a miscarriage in April. It didn't quite make it to 8 weeks, but I didn't know I was loosing it till I was like 10 weeks a long. We had already told our son and he was super excited. Trying to explain to him what happened the best that you can to a 4 year old was heartbreaking. Are you taking a full Unisom? I felt like rear end on a whole tablet, but was actually functional once I started cutting them in half. Was able to take 25mg B6 and half a Unisom 3 times a day and still commute an hour+ each way for work. I hear you on the coffee, I'm still drinking it for that commute, but I make it weaker and measure out 8 oz to stay under the safe limit.
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Coffee 50/50 with milk, for health! Sympathetically for everyone struggling with loss and uncertainty right now. There is no easy season for this.
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We're exactly 8 weeks on the 31st too  . I haven't cut out coffee completely but I don't tend to drink much, maybe one or two cups a day. We had a scare with bleeding though a few weeks back so we've been on edge about it ever since. We've never had a miscarriage before. A quick look yesterday though and I think there's virtually no sign of the bleed anymore and embryo is measuring bang on track and heart rate is good so I want to hope things will be ok. I think I could deal with a miscarriage if it passed quickly, I don't want to have to seek help to hurry it along if it takes weeks because that means getting work people involved and I'd rather they didn't know. There's been a few unfortunate pregnancies amongst the crew over the last couple of years and I don't want to join that club if I'm brutally honest. It's awkward when you work in the only ultrasound place for ~50km, and the only other place after that distance still has people who used to work with you working there! Small world. I'd be tempted to travel to Melbourne, but it would still involve organising time off. We're planning on doing an early blood draw at 10 weeks for NIPT testing which we didn't even know about last time, even though it's fairly expensive. For a couple hundred more they'll fly my blood to California to test for more intricate issues like 22q10 deletion and whatnot which I don't know much about. I get the impression it's super rare so I'm debating whether to cough up the extra $200 for it. Having said that we absolutely would terminate on confirmation of a chromosomal problem, (we absolutely don't have the resources to support a special needs child, especially not in this rural area) so I'm leaning towards going the whole hog while we can. On the positive side against all this hand wringing I have different prenatals this time and no constipation yet! touch wood. Gonna eat a kilo of prunes every day if I have to this time around, so help me glob.
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I’ve posted a bit in the other thread but what a way to cap out 2017 My wife and I found out in late January she was pregnant only for some bleeding to occur then a scan then finding out it was ectopic. This was after having tried for 6 months. She needed two doses of methotrexate but luckily they said nothing that causes lasting damage. Couldn’t try again until around May due to her cycle and by October she was pregnant again! Except she was lightly bleeding the entire time or the pregnancy. HCG levels didn’t improve enough and at about 8 weeks ish they went backwards and she started bleeding more. They checked due to the ectopic but just a “normal” miscarriage. Anyway we were so excited to find out she was pregnant just before Christmas again as the other two times it took so long. Third time the charm right? Well before we even were able to get an appointment at the hospital she started heavily bleeding again. Going in tomorrow just in case but her symptoms (sore boobs, nausea) all are gone now and she’s got bleeding like a regular period and the pregnancy test she did she did another one of and it didn’t pick up anything. We were only excited for a few days but still. 3 failed pregnancies in a year. We are in Australia so luckily heathcare is good and free and we are being referred to a clinic here in Melbourne that specialises in recurrent miscarriages. We are both 32/33 and don’t drink or smoke and are healthy. And we’ve gotten pregnant 3 times so we think we are fertile? It’s just so frustrating. I just never thought that it would be this difficult. And I don’t know what to say to my wife as I think she’s starting to blame herself in a weird way. She’s a paramedic so she knows enough about medical stuff to know it’s not her fault but has expressed a lot of frustration in it still about how it makes no sense. I guess this is just venting. I’m just trying to figure out what we need to do next
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All the best to everyone on the various stages of their journeys. It’s a highly emotional and difficult time. I was in hospital for two hours yesterday strapped to a monitor to make sure bub was ok because her movements had slowed down a lot over the last two days. All seems well, she perked up when confronted by her own heartbeat and kicked up a storm. Having an ultrasound in a couple of days just to confirm all is ok.
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Is there a generally accepted number of weeks to wait to announce to your friends and family about the pregnancy? We just found out my wife is pregnant and while we're both happy I'm concerned because we're in our mid 30's and this is our first pregnancy (no miscarriages that I'm aware of). I'd hate to tell people and have to follow up a few weeks later with "oops...never mind  "
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12 weeks (end of first trimester) is typical but it's understandable if you need to explain due to excitement, sobriety, work restrictions or horrific undeniable morning sickness.
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Welp, checking in here with a "well poo poo, it's twins" We went in for an 8w ultrasound today. Turns out there's two of them in there, heartbeating away. I was extremely not prepared for this
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GamingHyena posted:Is there a generally accepted number of weeks to wait to announce to your friends and family about the pregnancy? We just found out my wife is pregnant and while we're both happy I'm concerned because we're in our mid 30's and this is our first pregnancy (no miscarriages that I'm aware of). I'd hate to tell people and have to follow up a few weeks later with "oops...never mind We always waited until after the results of the CVS test just in case.
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GamingHyena posted:Is there a generally accepted number of weeks to wait to announce to your friends and family about the pregnancy? We just found out my wife is pregnant and while we're both happy I'm concerned because we're in our mid 30's and this is our first pregnancy (no miscarriages that I'm aware of). I'd hate to tell people and have to follow up a few weeks later with "oops...never mind Congrats! We told immediate family at Christmas (just past 10 weeks) with the strict understanding that it was still early and if they tell anyone and something happens, they have to untell. I mostly wanted to tell my mom so I could get a heads up on how her pregnancies went and any possible complications to think about. Spoiler: small kids, still tore Yeah, 12 weeks is usually considered "safe," but I just needed to tell someone because we're pretty much alone here and all our support systems and friends are in different states. I'm not telling work until I absolutely have to. Public Serpent, double congrats!
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