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Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

She has definitely already shitted in the food, right?

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:32

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# ? Jun 2, 2024 19:16

Doc Hawkins: Jun 15, 2010; Dashing? But I'm not even moving!

I know many of the ways that Dan Savage is Problematic but I stand by his intolerance of the poo-people

"but but but, in the past people justified persecution of male homosexuals with similar claims that their sexual acts were necessarily dirtier and riskier!"

I'm content being on the wrong side of history on this one, even if its long arc does bend towards poo poo.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:32

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Hellblazer187 posted:

She has definitely already shitted in the food, right?

ozymandius_watchmen_30_minutes_ago_poop_in_food.png

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:35

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

Hellblazer187 posted:

She has definitely already shitted in the food, right?

They eat de poo poo!

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:40

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

value-brand cereal posted:

Keyword search: Peen. Unfortunately no penis here, just a bad person who happens to have a son.

28/M, 27GF never takes responsibility for her actions, horrible with money, need advice.Relationships
submitted 3 months ago * by Anomandert22

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/7rlk98/28m_27gf_never_takes_responsibility_for_her/

I added a few paragraph spaces because this guy loves run on sentences. Jesus christ, how does this lady survive?

Beautiful people can afford to be stupid because other people want to have sex with them. That poor kid, though. I hope he survives having a lovely mom.

La Brea Carpet posted:

They eat de poo poo!

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:43

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Bogus Adventure posted:

Beautiful people can afford to be stupid because other people want to have sex with them. That poor kid, though. I hope he survives having a lovely mom.

Hell be fine, his moms hot.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:45

Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

Barudak posted:

ozymandius_watchmen_30_minutes_ago_poop_in_food.png

I have no idea how to explain to my wife why this is funny.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 02:57

Ride The Gravitron: May 2, 2008; by FactsAreUseless

value-brand cereal posted:

Congrats! How many open relationships have you joined, and what was your favorite thread derailment?

Guess the buried lede.

I [30F] can't stand my Ex's [35M] girlfriend [23F] and his lovely lifestyle...and we have a child together....Non-Romantic
submitted 1 year ago * by part_time_dilemma

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5tciuz/i_30f_cant_stand_my_exs_35m_girlfriend_23f_and/

If you guessed 'it's everything involved with the Ex boyfriend please proceed to page 204 for your prize!

Choosing to have a child with an alcoholic can lead to negative outcomes? :confused:

# ? Apr 24, 2018 03:25

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

Bored posted:

Yeah. My roommate no-call-no-shows all the time. I had no clue that just not going to work was an option when you're hot.

Not in my shop :black101:

# ? Apr 24, 2018 03:28

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

fruit on the bottom posted:

Like the Gorilla Mindthet?

My [20M] housemate [20M] is seemingly trying to show me that he's the dominant one of the house.

Hey try hitting him with a hammer.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 03:35

Jezza of OZPOS: Mar 21, 2018; GET LOSE❌🗺️, YOUS CAN'T COMPARE😤 WITH ME 💪POWERS🇦🇺

Hellblazer187 posted:

I have no idea how to explain to my wife why this is funny.

but because I can�t stop laughing every time I read it

# ? Apr 24, 2018 03:37

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

Bored posted:

Yeah. My roommate no-call-no-shows all the time. I had no clue that just not going to work was an option when you're hot.

I have people in my office like this. It�s terrible and our manager has no spine to fire people it�s really annoying and frankly my own work ethic has suffered because if no one else gives a poo poo why should I and another thing

# ? Apr 24, 2018 03:38

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Doc Hawkins posted:

I decided to search for "gorilla."

How do I [26M] get rid of my girlfriend's [28F, 1yr] mustache?

quote:

She turned that down because she said it would grow back thicker (this isn't true, but whatever).

Dump her because she's a moron.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 04:08

PetraCore: Jul 20, 2017; 👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

Admiral Ray posted:

Dump her because she's a moron.

She's not wrong in effect, even if she's wrong in technicality. Shaving creates a blunted end instead of a tapered one, which makes the whole hair look thicker. Still, it seems easier and less painful to do a few swipes once a week than it does to pluck or wax.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 04:18

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Be kesh a.f. and just let it roll

# ? Apr 24, 2018 04:21

Bunni-kat: May 25, 2010; Service Desk B-b-bunny...
How can-ca-caaaaan I
help-p-p-p you?

PetraCore posted:

She's not wrong in effect, even if she's wrong in technicality. Shaving creates a blunted end instead of a tapered one, which makes the whole hair look thicker. Still, it seems easier and less painful to do a few swipes once a week than it does to pluck or wax.

Are you saying Gillette�s commercials lied to me? They said the first blade lifted while the second blade cut at an angle!

# ? Apr 24, 2018 04:22

PetraCore: Jul 20, 2017; 👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

Bunni-kat posted:

Are you saying Gillette�s commercials lied to me? They said the first blade lifted while the second blade cut at an angle!

That's still waaay more blunt than the alternative.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 04:25

Bunni-kat: May 25, 2010; Service Desk B-b-bunny...
How can-ca-caaaaan I
help-p-p-p you?

My trust in commercials is shattered. :sigh:

# ? Apr 24, 2018 05:02

cock hero flux: Apr 17, 2011

Pick posted:

I dont taxidermy. I collect taxidermy.

all the weirdness that comes from having a home filled with the lifeless staring eyes of dead animals but without the hunting ability or technical skill that this normally implies

# ? Apr 24, 2018 06:42

andrew smash: Jun 26, 2006; smooth soul

Dude she hunts with webs and desiccates the corpses of her prey. Not really conducive to taxidermy afterward. Try to be a little understanding

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:23

Multilake: Dec 11, 2016; If you're in a jam, a crayon scrunched under your nose makes a good pretend moustache.

Hellblazer187 posted:

I have no idea how to explain to my wife why this is funny.

Just start at the beginning, be patient and leave space for questions she may have. And oh boy, she will have some.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:26

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

[24 M] found out the girl I wanna marry [24] loves someone else, but she supposedly would still marry me?

quote:

I've loved this girl for a few years, and I know she at least liked me as well. We're in uni but we study different majors. We've been good friends for 6 years. We didn't date because she has this belief that the only relationship she wants to have is that with her future husband. She has not dated anyone else during this time. She always claimed she's never exactly loved anyone else.

Throughout our relationship she has told me things like how whenever she thought about her wedding, she thought of me as being her groom (early on) and that she knows nobody cares about her or understands her better than I do, etc, and most recently she told her family about me and how I wanna marry her. In September she told me that she's thought it about it a lot and came to the conclusion that if she were ever gonna marry anyone it should be me, and told me that if I still felt the same way by the end of the (academic year) I could ask for her hand, basically.

Last week, I find out from my best friend that she actually loves someone else who's a year younger than her. According to my best friend, she keeps getting in arguments with this guy and they keep stopping talking and then talking again and she's even blocked him at some point, but she still loves him. She has told my best friend "I can't wait for (the other guy) for 3 years, though I totally would, but if "OP" asks for my hand and my parents like him then I can't exactly say no and keep waiting for another 3 years". My best friend says she probably fell in love with this other guy between September and now - after she told me she thought I should be the one to marry her.

I don't know how long she's had these feelings for this dude, and I don't know why she hasn't told me about it - my assumption is that she figured she could have me as a safety net or something.

I haven't confronted her about it yet, but my plan is to do so after we're done with our ongoing finals, because I don't think I can focus on my graduation exams if I were to get into this at the moment.

I think the logical answer is to talk to her about it and just let her go and get over her, because that's what I would advise anyone who's in my position, but I'd like to hear what you think. I must say I'm quite angry and I'm mad at her for not telling me she's in love with someone else. She's never lied to me as far as I know, but hiding this from me is huge. Would she really have married me while in love with someone else and she would've been OK with that? Anyway, despite all my anger, I keep thinking about all the memories and all we've gone through and all I've done and I feel like it's a huge waste, that it's a shame this has turned out to be the case.

Mind you, this is not my first relationship or the first heartbreak I've had, but this one especially stings, since I really was thinking about settling down with her.

TL;DR: girl wanted to marry me in September, but in April I find out without her telling me that she has been in love with another guy for God knows how long, but she supposedly would still go through with marrying me.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:26

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

fruit on the bottom posted:

[24 M] found out the girl I wanna marry [24] loves someone else, but she supposedly would still marry me?

Ouch. The right answer is to just :sever:

because he's young enough to find someone else and avoid her bullshit, but I'm sure marrying the woman who finds the arrangement convenient albeit not ideal will totally turn out fine. :pwn:

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:31

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

There's a lot here, figuratively and literally.

I [F/19] live with my boyfriend [M/29] and I don't know whether I want to break up with him or not [NSFW]

quote:

I'm really confused on what I want in my relationship. I feel like I know what is the right decision in the long term, but it's not the right decision for my happiness in the short term.

So I met my boyfriend at the end of 2016. I had just turned 18, I was about to graduate from high school however due to some crazy family drama at home, I decided to pretty much leave home (and essentially almost give up on school as I was too mentally drained to even focus or care about school). I left home, and I didn't have a place to stay. I started hanging out at the casino very regularly and my entire life was pretty much at the casino, I was there almost 24/7 and I either slept at friends houses or booked hotels every now and then to sleep. I had a major gambling addiction (though this issue is kind of a side issue and doesn't really have anything to do with my relationship issues). The casino was also where I met my boyfriend, who I'll call J (28 years old at the time) who was there just for drinks.

He lived in another state but was moving to my city, but hadn't found a place yet. He was just living in hostels temporarily while just pretty much chilling in the city with no work/no permanent accommodation. J looked extremely young for his age (like in his early 20s) and he also acted young, whilst I looked older for my age and was a lot more mature for my age, so the age difference between us was never really an issue because it kind of all balanced out.

We hit it off the first night we met, and about a week later, I hung out with him again while he was with some friends at their apartment. After the hang out, I stayed with him at the hotel he was staying at for the night and for the next month and a half or so, we never left each other. We were both alone at the time, didn't have a place to call home, and just stuck by each other while we were just out and about around the city homeless for nearly two months. Oh - he was also a drug dealer before I met him, however he only dealt once whilst with me as he never found the time to take a night off during a weekend as he was with me 24/7.

Eventually, at the end of the year, towards Christmas 2016 (so almost two whole months of being homeless with my now boyfriend J), I reconciled my relationship with my family (somewhat) and moved back in with my parents. He stayed for the first night and eventually well, kind of like our first meeting, never left. So he basically moved in with my parents and myself.

Also, from the period of us first meeting til like March, we both had no jobs. So we were together 24/7. Since we first met til the end of March, we had been living together essentially for five months now. During the period of February-March, his meth addiction got problematic (he had done meth every now and then before that but I never found it an issue, but that was also because I was extremely uneducated about drugs prior to his addiction becoming a problem). He'd spend large amounts of money on meth, was smoking it all the time and was doing some pretty crazy poo poo on it.

I gave him an ultimatum multiple times regarding his meth usage - but it never got anywhere. Once I hid the meth to resell because he had promised to quit, and it had turned out that he had found it and consumed it in secret. Another time I gave him the ultimatum when I saw meth in his possession that if he was going to smoke meth, he was going to leave the house. He chose meth. To see him literally choose meth over me again, and then once I tell him to leave the house, he's asking me if he could have the bag of meth that I had in my hands, broke me. He was leaving the house, leaving me, he hosed up and all he could care about was the bag of meth in my hands. However after that, I still forgave him [as usual] but told him that if I find him smoking meth again, he's out. Eventually, something else happened, and I basically had to reveal that due to medical reasons, I was unable to have children. The guilt of this made me push him away, as I wanted him to be with someone who could have his children in the future and I pushed him towards dating others. He used this opportunity as a way to smoke more meth and because of my guilt, I told him yes.

So for the next few weeks, he's regularly doing meth and while most of it is a blur, I just remember crying and being depressed all the time (and note - when you're living together 24/7, have no other friends and have no jobs, a week 24/7 together in one spot is a LONG time). Another time I remember having a mental breakdown because of his meth addiction and what it was doing to our relationship, because he'd just spend so much time watching porn and masturbating on his own and doing other crazy stuff. I was having a breakdown in the lounge room, and he knew I was, but instead went into the spare bedroom and had his earphones in so he could watch a documentary about swingers. Around March or so, my dad got J a job at his warehouse, which required them both to leave the house around 5am as it was a bit of a drive and they started early. By this point, we had rekinkled our relationship (though meth was still a problem). I wasn't pushing him to date others anymore, our relationship was solid again.

When he arrived at work around 5am, he told me he was taking a nap as his shift didn't start until like 7 or so. At 7:05am, my dad texts him on his whereabouts and he says he's in the toilet and will be coming. 7:15am or so, he was "missing". He wasn't found anywhere and my dad was getting pissed off because he was the manager and it made him look bad when his 'son in law' ditched work, even though everyone knew he was supposed to be at work. His phone was switched off.

When I hear this from my dad, I kind of know exactly what has happened considering he had meth in his hands, and I know what he's like. When I hear this, I'm upset and take the bus and train to their workplace. I'm constantly ringing his phone (sometimes it was on, it rang, but he never picked up). I arrive around 8;30am and finally, I manage to be able to get through to him via phone. I demand that he meets up with me wherever he is, and he tells me that he's going to the doctors and he'll bring a medical certificate, and that he'll talk to me soon. He turns on 'do not disturb' on his phone again.

I spend the entire next 2-3 hours via public transport going to every medical clinic in the area to find him, and am unable to find him or anywhere of him. So he lied - but that was obvious considering how suspicious he was acting. I spend the next 2 days, nearly 48 hours, in the city by myself trying to find him. I contact every single hostel to see if he's checked in, walk through every main spot in the city, I even pay to go inside sex cinemas and strip clubs to see if he was there because clearly he was on meth, doing something dumb and stupid. I never give up trying to look for him, I don't sleep, I didn't drink or eat anything. I remember the next day, I collapsed because I was walking so much to the point where I had blisters all over my feet and I was getting dizzy from dehydration. I'm constantly calling him (I had over 4,000 calls in the first 24 hour period, trying to get to him) and I'm constantly texting him asking for him to come home. I eventually decide to go home, to try again the next day, and I sleep for like 3 hours before I wake up and decide to head straight for the police station to file a missing persons report. I then continued my search for the rest of the day for him in the city, to no avail. Eventually at the end of the day, while using Google Maps to try to find the route to a certain location to try to find him, I notice there are search results - one to a pawnbroker. With the help of the police, we find out that he has exchanged his iPhone 7 Plus (which I bought for him as a Christmas present that I spent all my savings on for him just 3 months prior) for like $600 cash (as a loan I guess for the phone). I remember having to hold in my tears at the police station. My boyfriend who I loved so dearly, knew I was deteriorating mentally and physically, spending days non-stop looking for him, and did not give a gently caress, and just essentially sold the phone that I spent all my savings on (I was a high school student and unemployed) to buy for him for Christmas, a month and a half into meeting him so that he could get money to do something incredibly stupid, which I knew was sex related as he was on meth and that was the kind of person he was. That night, I decide to give up and catch the train home. I remember rocking asleep because I was so exhausted, and then on the train, I get a call from him. He tells me that he's sorry and he wants to come home. I'm crying, and I ask him to meet up with me. We eventually meet up, I see him with a cheap disposable phone and he tells me this story (and note -- this story took A LOT of social engineering to get out of him. He pretty much tried to lie about what he was doing from the very first line that came out of my mouth, until I used certain tactics to make it seem like I already knew the truth but was waiting for him to spill it out himself).

Before work, he was in the toilets smoking meth and watching porn/masturbating. Eventually, he decided to leave to go to an internet cafe or something and spent the entire day ("allegedly") looking at nude cams and going through sex ads to message/call girls to hook up with him. At some point, he books a hotel to smoke meth. I am clearly distraught and I'm ready to end things, however I decide to stay with him at his hotel for one last night. On the way there, I've kind of made up m mind that this was it. However, through certain methods, I eventually make him admit that he had paid for an escort over, however by the time she's arrived, he pays her and he tells her he's not interested ("allegedly"). At his hotel, there's a blanket on the ground that reeks of his sperm. I don't know the full story, I think it's almost certain that what he's told me is not the full story. But regardless, even the short, altered probably 40% true was already heartbreaking enough. Especially considering he knew I had been spending days looking for him and loved him. The next morning, it's time to check out of the hotel and after hours of talking about our relationship and him making promises to quit meth, I decide to take him home. I give my mother a fake story about what happened but because of what he did, we decide not to tell my dad. My boyfriend then lives with me at my house - in secret. For months.

A lot happens and eventually, the entire family rekinkles. Everything is out. I have major anxiety issues that pretty much continue to this day. I'm constantly having nightmares due to my anxiety from what he did. By around October/November, we both find full time jobs.

Our relationship as a whole was pretty great though. We were extremely close, we genuinely loved each other, and we were there for each other through a lot of poo poo that we had to go through involving our families. We had pretty much spent an entire year, 24/7 and we were unemployed - so when you're around someone for that long, you grow really close, real fast. We were never apart for more than 6 hours besides before we started dating and when he had a meth bender. We would fight a lot though, because we were both firey people, but we'd always get back together really fast (which happens so fast because we live together, and we don't really leave our bedroom, so we're forced to talk, cuddle, etc).

However, over the next few months from towards the end of 2017 until now (March, 2018), a few things started to make me rethink the relationship. He smokes a lot of cigarettes, and he knows how much I dislike it and am worried about his health but he has made no effort to quit. He lashes out at me when I don't buy him cigarettes. If he really cared and saw how much it affected me and that I wanted him to quit out of love and care for his health, then why wouldn't he make an effort to quit? He's not even trying, he just doesn't care. He once said that for me to tell him to quit smoking is like him telling me to lose weight (I'm 58kg and 5'7.... so I'm nowhere near overweight but I always was insecure about my weight, as girls are). I would constantly be excited and talk about the future of our relationship. I would always talk about our marriage, our wedding, make jokes about what stories we'd tell during our wedding and who we'd invite. Always talk about "our kids one day". I don't think he ever once talked to me about marriage, kids, or anything. It was always me, and it always made me wonder if he was just in the relationship because without me, he'd be on the streets alone and just needed me for financial and emotional support. In the past few months since the year has started, we'd fight a lot too. Just over random things most of the time, but he'd get very angry and always throwing tantrums. The biggest thing is how he viewed his actions during what I call "the most traumatic experience of my life". I still have nightmares to this day from what happened during that month period from him choosing meth over me, him abandoning me and my family to cheat on me, and I still forgave him instantly (once again) and took him home. When it first happened, he was extremely apologetic and cried and didn't understand why he did what he did but he was sorry. As time has gone on, and everytime that period gets brought up during our rights, it's clear that he isn't sorry for what he has done. He doesn't think what he did was bad. What he did was a mistake, but it was in his words, "water under the bridge," and that he "didn't even cheat on [me]" (allegedly!!!) There are a few other things as well. He's become increasingly bratty, probably due to the fact that he lives a pretty easy life where all his meals are cooked for him and he gets driven everywhere because he doesn't drive. Once he threw a major tantrum, slamming doors, etc because he saw that there was no food cooked. He is nearly 30. My mum isn't his maid. And he threw a tantrum because there wasn't breakfast ready to go in the kitchen one morning when he woke up (he was unemployed, at home doing nothing but play video games).

Since working full time for the past few months, he's got a new hobby. He plays a video game - League of Legends, that I introduced him to and now he's really into it. He'd work from 10-6, then he'd come home and get straight on the computer just to play League until like 12-1am. I wish he spent more of his free time with his girlfriend, but that wasn't that big of a deal. Something that I had become increasingly uncomfortable with was that he'd always be messaging girls on the game to play games with him, and they'd voice chat for hours on a voice chat gaming platform (Discord) while playing. The age demographic for this game is teens. I remember once he was in a voice call with four girls while I was out (but I could check via the app on my phone), their ages ranging from 14 to 16. He is a 30 year old man in a voice call playing games with 14 year old girls, which I found to be really strange and made me so uncomfortable.

I also found out that he once worked as a manager at a cafe where he was suspended because twelve female employees had made complaints about him for sexual harassment (though why am I not surprised, he's in a position of power and he abuses this). This makes me wonder constantly and it doesn't help with the anxiety I have on what the hell he does at his workplace. Does his coworkers even know he lives with his girlfriend?

A few weeks ago, I stay over at my best friend's house for the first time just to have some "me-time" for once because I was bored at home doing nothing while he played video games (we both didn't have many friends, we were each other's best friends). I ended up staying another night, and I did LSD with her. I come back home and I'm crying, admitting to what I did (drugs) without him and I'm extremely apologetic over not coming home. He reconsiders the relationship, and the next day I end up calling off the relationship. I lied, but I told him the truth the next day and he doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore. He abandoned me and my family, cheated on me, and I took him back into my own home the same day. I tell him this and he says things that make it clear that he doesn't think what he did back then was wrong, he says he didn't cheat on me, etc. So I was like OK, if that's how you think about the most traumatic experience of my life, then I'm done. And considering he's never talked about children or marriage or anything with me, and nothing about our future really, I found it pointless to continue dating.

For the next month or so, we are 'broken up" and I constantly remind him that now we are just friends. However, we live and sleep together, we cuddle eachother when we sleep and we kiss still, tell each other we love each other still, so it kinda feels like nothing has changed. A few weeks later after the break up, I decide to go out with a guy and I stay over at his place. I tell him this in advance and he wishes me good luck. The next day and stuff, he asks me about the date, etc which I eventually tell him and he's hurt. The entire night we're about to sleep he keeps asking me to have sex with him when I didn't want to. He tells me that he wants to date again but I refused. He said that the reason on why he's never talked about marriage was because he had no plans for marriage anytime soon, not for another 5-6 years. As for kids, he had no plans for kids until he's at least 40 and because I couldn't have kids with him anyway, he never said anything. He says that what happened the previous year was because I kept telling him to join Tinder, which isn't a valid excuse considering we were completely back together for weeks before he did what he did. And to make excuses about what he did rather than acknowledging how traumatising his actions were for me, was the final straw for me.

During the night, he's crying in the toilet or something and before work (our workplaces are nearby so my mother drives us both to work on her way to her workplace) he is teary. He's texting me that he's been so sad all day because he loves me and wants to be with me. And at this point, I don't know what I want. Or what I should do.

I really do love him. Since I first met him, I had already decided that I wanted to marry him and spend my entire life with him. We have a lot of crazy but amazing memories together, we understand each other, we're there for each other. But I don't know, I don't think I can handle some of his flaws. His lack of effort to quit smoking. How he views him cheating on me in the past. His constant tantrums about really dumb stuff. Spending all his free time, weekends on a video game with 14-15 year old girls instead of spending it with me. I don't think I can continue dating someone like that.

I'm also so young. I was 18 when I met him and he was my first boyfriend. I never "dated" as a young adult, I want to be able to go out and date again. But I also know that besides his few flaws, he's probably the best partner for me for life. So I don't know. I always give him ultimatums to change, he says sorry and seems like he will for like a few days and once he realises that I'm not going anywhere, he doesn't change. He's back to his usual self. And I don't know what to do. He is really great for me, but there are so many things he does that makes me uncomfortable that he doesn't seem willing to change. I don't know what I should do. Let myself live my life as a late teen, or continue being with the person who could potentially be the person I end up with for the rest of my life? I'm scared I'm going to make the wrong decision and lose him. But I'm also scared of staying with him, and finding out the hard way later of realising that I should have left him and that I had wasted my entire late teens/early 20s with him.

tl;dr: I love my boyfriend, but he's done some bad things and he has so many flaws that he isn't willing to acknowledge or change. He's nearly 30 and I'm almost 20, I feel like I'm wasting my time and youth but I'm also scared that if I break up with him, that later on I'll regret doing so. What should I do?

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:40

Khazar-khum: Oct 22, 2008; Cat Army
2nd Battalion

Bogus Adventure posted:

Ouch. The right answer is to just because he's young enough to find someone else and avoid her bullshit, but I'm sure marrying the woman who finds the arrangement convenient albeit not ideal will totally turn out fine.

She should marry both of them and then...Berth Ell Pup.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:44

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

dudeness posted:

There's a lot here, figuratively and literally.

I [F/19] live with my boyfriend [M/29] and I don't know whether I want to break up with him or not [NSFW]

quote:

(I had over 4,000 calls in the first 24 hour period, trying to get to him)

quote:

I also found out that he once worked as a manager at a cafe where he was suspended because twelve female employees had made complaints about him for sexual harassment (though why am I not surprised, he's in a position of power and he abuses this).

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:51

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

Khazar-khum posted:

She should marry both of them and then...Berth Ell Pup.

Lol

dudeness posted:

There's a lot here, figuratively and literally.

I [F/19] live with my boyfriend [M/29] and I don't know whether I want to break up with him or not [NSFW]

Suggestion: Try sharing your boyfriend's hobby with him. Smoke meth, flick the bean to some nudie cams, and just chillax in an Internet cafe.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:51

Doc Hawkins: Jun 15, 2010; Dashing? But I'm not even moving!

fruit on the bottom posted:

[24 M] found out the girl I wanna marry [24] loves someone else, but she supposedly would still marry me?

tired: getting married without ever living together
wired: getting married without ever dating each other

quote:

she told me that she's thought it about it a lot and came to the conclusion that if she were ever gonna marry anyone it should be me

look, just look at this busted-brain christmas cake MS degree bullshit

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:55

Theophany: Jul 22, 2014; SUCCHIAMI IL MIO CAZZO DA DIETRO, RANA RAGAZZO

2022 FIA Formula 1 WDC

fruit on the bottom posted:

[24 M] found out the girl I wanna marry [24] loves someone else, but she supposedly would still marry me?

"We didn't date because she has this belief that the only relationship she wants to have is that with her future husband."

Run. Run and never look back.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 07:56

Ziv Zulander: Mar 24, 2017; ZZ for short

dudeness posted:

There's a lot here, figuratively and literally.

I [F/19] live with my boyfriend [M/29] and I don't know whether I want to break up with him or not [NSFW]

jesus god drat

e: codependency is seriously a hell of a thing, and it's only worse when one of them is a raging tweaker. meth, not even once

Ziv Zulander fucked around with this message at 08:04 on Apr 24, 2018

# ? Apr 24, 2018 08:01

Khazar-khum: Oct 22, 2008; Cat Army
2nd Battalion

Ziv Zulander posted:

jesus god drat

e: codependency is seriously a hell of a thing, and it's only worse when one of them is a raging tweaker. meth, not even once

Jesus would tell her to run away.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 08:17

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Darkrenown posted:

Does he do that or is it just reddit being reddit? Admittedly all I've seen of him was a lecture saying not to be manbabies and an interview where the reporter/host seemed keen on badly paraphrasing him, but he seemed sane in both.

quote:

Jordan Peterson is also a right-wing internet celebrity who has claimed that feminists have �an unconscious wish for brutal male domination,� referred to developing nations as �pits of catastrophe� in a speech to a Dutch far-right group

That's just a taste of his bullshit.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 08:33

mllaneza: Apr 28, 2007; Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952

Khazar-khum posted:

Jesus would tell her to run away.

Jesus would tell her to :killing:

# ? Apr 24, 2018 08:50

Palpek: Dec 27, 2008; Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.

[31M] am worried about my wife's [25F] new "weird" behaviors

quote:

Hey guys Never would have thought I would have to post here one day. This is a throwaway...

So Aurora (not her real name obv.) and I have been married for almost 2 years, and had been dating for 3 years before that. Up until recently everything has been so perfect, it just had to be too good to be true.

I honestly believe that she is the love of my life. Which is why I am more than desperate to find out what has been happening with her during the last few weeks.

A month ago she started acting strange. Let me try listing all of the things I've noticed:

She used to love massages, now she just tolerates me giving her a massage. All physical touch in general. She hasn't said it out loud, but I can tell she doesn't actually enjoy it anymore. I haven't changed the routine of my massages or anything, it's just weird all of a sudden.

She is humming all the time. This might sound strange, but I've noticed that she has started humming unconsciously like all the time, seemingly without noticing, especially when I talk about anything negative. She just seems to be spaced out a the time.

She hasn't spoken to some of her friends for weeks, she needs a lot more time for herself and she doesn't call her mom, ever.

Her entire demeanor has changed Idon't even know how to explain this. She is just different. She used to be bubbly and love to talk about weird stuff. She used to be confident and unafraid and now she is just different. She is ao quiet. She reacts to everything I say, but she never instigates.
I am crushed. I love her so much and I want nothing more than for her to be happy. But she's just not. I know, that I'm not perfect, but I don't know what I could have done to change her so much. I am scared for our marriage, I don't want to lose her, but I don't know how to approach this at all!

So my question is: Do you have any experiences with anything similar to this? Did I maybe do anything wrong? Does she not love me anymore?

Please help me, I am devastated.

Tl;dr: wife has been behaving weirdly, I cannot wrap my mind around it.

my dude, you're clearly not mentally equipped to handle anybody or anything.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:02

Jeza: Feb 13, 2011; The cries of the dead are terrible indeed; you should try not to hear them.

Palpek posted:

[31M] am worried about my wife's [25F] new "weird" behaviors

my dude, you're clearly not mentally equipped to handle anybody or anything.

*hums aggressively over you talking*

Jokes asides, there are some potentially serious reasons that can cause a u-turn in a person's demeanour, even if some of those reasons seem ridiculous. Hopefully it's something regular like "I'm checked out of my relationship with my dweeb husband." rather than "Something terrible happened to me/I have a brain tumour."

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:12

womb with a view: Sep 8, 2007

mllaneza posted:

Jesus would tell her to

According to her one other post she's also trans and upset that her parents make a combined $230k but waste it all gambling so they can't pay for her to transition.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:13

Palpek: Dec 27, 2008; Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.

OP posted:

I haven't directly confronted her about all of it, but with some stuff, she just seemed to be like "Oh, I guess I'm just feeling weird today" or similar answers she usually gives to avoid further discussion

reddit posted:

She's the right age for schizophrenia to show up. Early symptoms include withdrawal from social activities and friends, as well as dissociation (often described as "spacing out").

reddit posted:

my first thought was Brain Tumor

reddit posted:

Could she have been sexually assaulted??? Just asking since she no longer likes massages and is secluding herself.

reddit posted:

Does she have any history of depression? Isolating herself from friends/family, quiet demeanor, not enjoying something she used to, spacing out...this all sounds very much like depression to me.

reddit posted:

Surprised no one has said this: but this could be a neurological problem affecting her brain function.

lmao this is like a self-parody at this point.

How about you TALK to your wife you absolute moron.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:17

Jeza: Feb 13, 2011; The cries of the dead are terrible indeed; you should try not to hear them.

i am one with the reddit hive brain, excellent, my metamorphosis is complete

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:21

Darkhold: Feb 19, 2011; No Heart❤️
No Soul👻
No Service🙅

dudeness posted:

There's a lot here, figuratively and literally.

I [F/19] live with my boyfriend [M/29] and I don't know whether I want to break up with him or not [NSFW]

eventually, something else happened, and I basically had to reveal that due to medical reasons, I was unable to have children.

Thank you sweet Jesus. I realise a post that long is skippable but you can just go to any part at random and read him being some kind of peak shitbag waste of life. What's more he's totally cool with his dirtbag status literally picking a bag of meth over her.

Not that her 'ultimatums' really matter as she always forgives him instantly.

# ? Apr 24, 2018 10:33

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# ? Jun 2, 2024 19:16

Moridin920: Nov 15, 2007; by FactsAreUseless

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Our relationship as a whole was pretty great though.

lol

# ? Apr 24, 2018 11:02

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