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Ebola Roulette posted:^^^ Honestly I think you'll be a lot happier once you just stop making the effort with your mom. Put in as much effort as she does (which may mean you end up estranged because her effort turns out to be none). PinheadSlim posted:Ugh, this part kills me. You were so close to severing her from your life and then some Colonel for reasons only known to high-ranking officers and other similar small brained reptiles forces you to re-establish contact. I genuinely hope you don't have to deal with her anymore. Devils Affricate posted:Holy poo poo dude, loving sever. Remove this gremlin from your life. If not for yourself then at least for your children. meat no potatoes posted:I've had a couple of lawyers, which I was paying for, tell me that I'll only ever have one mother and that this will blow over or settle down after a while. Older, well travelled types who seemed to have life sorted out. That military moment definitely got her back in my life. I didn't really expect these types of responses. I'm pretty conditioned to just rolling over and ignoring her bullshit apparently. She and her husband are definitely still around. They pretend like they're super successful people despite not making much money (barely what we make) and working dumbfuck jobs (we don't even work yet). She teaches 7th grade and he's a low manager at a Target distribution facility in addition to owning their surf shop. All our children's and ours gifts come from this surf shop. They couldn't even live in our house without making lovely comments under their breath to us almost daily about whatever it was they didn't agree with. We live in a basically brand new mini-mansion. I'm not trying to brag about this because I don't care when it's not pertaining to them. I only mention it to illustrate how little of a leg their criticism has to stand on. There's going to be a bunch of super-crazy if I try to sever but honestly I think we're about to that point. My wife read what I wrote and said, "That's at least the tip of the iceburg." My first reaction was that we should move to another state before realizing that I don't need to run away from her any more. I didn't even mention when I cut her off in 2013. My wife and I had been having problems and I left the house for almost a year in my unmedicated and crazed state to get sober and get help from the VA while my wife did the same at home. My mother had just gone through her own divorce and was renting a cheap apartment. I had no money, no way to make money and no support network except for her. I was on her couch for 3-4 days, making GBS threads myself with the DT's and having seizures, before she became so intolerable I left and didn't talk to her until 2014 when I moved back in with my family. In the meantime I lived in basements, on couches and on the good graces of other people in AA. I haven't attended meetings in a long time but I've been sober for 6 years this January. My mother and her husband still love to drink in front of us (my wife quit too) as often as possible. This summer they insisted they take our 3 kids for a few days. Our daughter spent the whole time at the trash neighbors house playing with their borderline mentally disabled daughter. The type of 'disability' that happens from severe neglect. She put the two older ones in the loving riptide at the beach despite us both telling them not to ever, ever do that. My mother sent our daughter into the rip to pull the weirdo neighbor girl OUT. They own a surf shop nearby so they think they know everything about said beach despite a medical doctor dying in said rip this summer because he couldn't figure out what to do to get out. Our middle son sipped some beer that was left out and they laughed at us when we told them we were not ok with this. Then they left our middle son for a whole day with my mom's only 'friend' out at the beach who's had the cops called on her BY MY MOM for being a loving crazy. We're to the point that we both haven't really talked to either of them in months. Her husband has taken lately to calling both our phones for her to tell her we need to do what she says. The last time was because they wanted us to go to a big graduation party for his two early-twenties daughters who just graduated. The one with a BA from a poo poo university and the other with an AAS from a community college after she failed out of the school my wife graduated from last year and I graduated from this year. These two clowns are helpless. The older dropout got married and pregnant and they live on the husbands parents property. The younger one graduated and moved back in with her mom to get ready to go all around Europe with her fiance. We got badgered into the first wedding and baby shower. My mom's husbands ex-wife is always there talking poo poo to and about us. Here's the best part, no one ever threw us any sort of graduation party. We didn't even have a wedding. We signed paperwork while I was in Mosul, Iraq and she was in a Texas courthouse right outside Ft. Hood. We'd have had no family to show up. My wife's father passed away the year we met and she had to estrange her own mother for much worse reasons. Instead they like to all pretend that nothing happened in the military to either of us. It sure as gently caress did. Furthermore, my wife and I are both about to start PhD programs but they all just scoff at us because they don't like the fact that we get free school being 100% disabled combat vets. She's in school to become a loving state-certified Psychologist. We're both tattoo'd beautifully, fully and colorfully. They cannot stand this. Through the whole double sleeve process on us both they have bagged on us and talked poo poo the entire way. When I had both hands/fingers completely covered my mother just completely stopped texting/calling me and took all communication to my wife's phone. It's like they have no interest in any of us as people but just as meatbags to fill their lizard-family slots. We don't ever say anything about any of them to them or to our children. They talk poo poo to our children about us while we're not there or sometimes when we are. Thank you for listening my friends. I know GBS isn't a serious place but this is proving hugely cathartic to me and I don't want to let my baggage cause me to make rash decisions. It's very helpful to be able to reflect this off people who relate. If it was just her and I we'd just walk away but because our kids have always known them it's going to be hard and needs to be final. At the very, very least there are going to be some very harsh boundaries set forth from here on out. Bruce Boxlicker fucked around with this message at 17:08 on Sep 8, 2019 |
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:She put the two older ones in the loving riptide at the beach despite us both telling them not to ever, ever do that. My mother sent our daughter into the rip to pull the weirdo neighbor girl OUT. Holy poo poo she could have killed your kids. You need to sever. You said if it were just you and your wife you would walk, but you need to walk for your kids. Think about all the poo poo your mom has done to you. Now imagine her doing it to your kids, because she will. And also because she absolutely cannot be trusted to even keep your kids safe. Even if you don't sever, never ever leave her alone with your kids.
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Oh and let me tell you about all the rivers I grew up swimming unattended in. Or getting left alone on the bunny hill for half a day at a time by 4, lift and all. Frequently. Man I could just keep on going. Like her lack of assistance landing me in a warzone. It wasn't really my first choice. I'm pretty lucky I survived her. I'm a good skiier/swimmer at least? Yea. I just sent her a long text message. It's bad when you're breaking up with your mother in your mid-30's and she's in the end only worth a text.
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You're a real life inspiration. When military life grinds people down they all too rarely build themselves back up to the extent that you are. It sounds like to me that you have a lifelong partner who really understands you, children which you've failed to say even one bad thing about, and "free" higher education (although I struggle to call anything you get after becoming 100% disabled "free"). The only problem I see in my extremely limited view of your situation is your mom, so pardon me if I'm extremely out of line when I say I really really really hope your kids don't have to deal with her too much because if she's even only half as hosed up around them then it's not worth it.
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:My mother and her husband still love to drink in front of us (my wife quit too) as often as possible. quote:Life here has been up and down eta: "took them to see the largest tree in the area"
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trickybiscuits posted:Just start reading this site. And think about what you're going to tell your kids when they figure out that you knowingly left them in the care of people like this. Ha I was literally about to post that and I guaranfuckingtee all they did was sit around her house. This woman is legit insane and nothing her son does will ever make her happy. If she's half as exhausting in real life as she is online I can see why someone wouldn't want anything to do with her. Here's some more of her posts: quote:I just was talking to a friend of mine who knows the whole story with my son- she calls it a “continuing pattern” over the years. We have been friends since our sons were in kindergarten so a long time. Oh your son never thanks you for any gifts? Oh wait what's this quote:After a lot of thought my husband and I decided that our GS is not to blame for ESs attitude. We decided to pick out a gift for GS and have it sent to him. Birthday not for several days but sent it to arrive on time. Jesus loving Christ not only did her son actually thank her but he let her see her grandkid and she's still unhappy. Then she has the balls to post on Facebook whining that she doesn't see her grandkid so they offer to come see her for Thanksgiving and she doesn't want them to come visit (per trickybiscuit's post) Like wtf does she want from her son exactly
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Oh, to continue with that insane woman's history, I found a post where a friend of hers severs for talking mad poo poo about her son's fiance while kissing up to her in public:quote:I have been trying to reach someone I am friends with for some a few months now. We were friends when we lived in another state- I gave her many things when I was moving as I moved before her and thought we were friends. We have not seen each other since she moved to our state 2 years ago but talked on the phone quite often. She as my facebook friend and suddenly she was gone off so I was worried about her. I like the spin she put on it. I lost a friend for being nice! No, like your friend said, you lost a friend for being a two faced bitch.
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"She does not need to try and be nice to anyone to see her grandkids- I do." Oh lord . . .
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I heard an ad that today is 'National Grandparents Day'. I'm curious if there's going to be an influx of incoherent rants that these posters' demonic daughter-in-law maliciously withheld a visit with their grandchildren on such an important day!
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meat no potatoes posted:Since it's often the small, seemingly insignificant posts that others relate to: I got the opposite -- My mom was always harping after my sister and I about our weight, even though we weren't overweight at all. Looking back at photos growing up, I was actually a pretty skinny kid, but I didn't realize it. The slightest thigh jiggle, and I would be subject to anger and criticism. She said it was because her own mom was fat and she was ashamed of her. (Looking at photos of her mom, she might have been overweight by 1940's standards but wouldn't warrant a glance at Walmart today.) She would criticize, and then go sit on the couch after dinner munching on jellybeans and potato chips. She even encouraged our older brother to tease my sister and I. Holy poo poo somehow I didn't develop an eating disorder. After I became an adult and moved a state away, every phone call she would ask, "How's your weight?" She ended up losing a bunch of weight in her 60's, and ended up developing anorexia herself.
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trickybiscuits posted:Just start reading this site. And think about what you're going to tell your kids when they figure out that you knowingly left them in the care of people like this. Boy howdy this dredged up a lot of memories of "fun" visits with my awful grandmother, right down to attempting to buy my affection with random completely thoughtless gifts afterwards. Personally my favorite bit was her husband being stabbed in the heart by a mildly critical comment about dinner. I'd loving love to live in a world where that's the most hurtful thing your family can do.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I heard an ad that today is 'National Grandparents Day'. I'm curious if there's going to be an influx of incoherent rants that these posters' demonic daughter-in-law maliciously withheld a visit with their grandchildren on such an important day! Here we go! quote:Yes it is really a day ,I saw it on my calendar!!! guess I was the only one! Well I got permission to spend the day with my 7 yr old gd..my es started texting me at 7 am” when are you gonna pick her up”, I walked into his house and said Thank-you for letting me spend Grandparents Day with Gd, Es said huh I didnt know and dil shot me a look . So gd and I spent a nice day mostly in the pool at my condo..I called es to say she fell asleep he texted be right there. In my crazy head I thought maybe he will bring me a card??? Flowers??? Ok just acknowledge the day…Well no surprise he walked in woke gd told her to say thank-you He mumbled thanks gotta get going . I stood there thinking to myself let it go,where is my gratitude , I know but he at one time never forgot the day !! no matter how far I think i have come I still think Who the Heck is this person ? Where did My Son go and will he ever return . I know if i shared this thought with him he would say ” there you go being Toxic again! I had to share right now so I dont text him to say You just needed a babysitter I am your mother
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The amount of emotional weight these people put on greeting cards is mind-boggling. Also, the eternal goalposts-moving of "I just want to spend time with my grandchildren!" -> spends time with grandchildren -> "you're just using me as a babysitter!" I felt a little bit of residual sympathy for the woman who Facetimed with her one-year-old grandson and realized she didn't feel the overwhelming joy she was expecting, because it seemed like a potential breakthrough for her (although it obviously didn't take), but "I begged you to let me spend the day with my 7-year-old granddaughter, spent the lowest-effort day possible with her, and feel used because you didn't shower me with gifts and cards" lady is just obnoxious.
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It's because these parents/grandparents don't actually want to spend time with their children/grandchildren. The physical acts of spending time with, and/or enjoying their company is not what they are after. They are after either 1) the IDEA of having a wonderful time as a family together. And the IDEA of a smiling cute grandchild saying "I wuv you nanna", as everybody smiles warmly. which leads to 2) or they want to bask in the unconditional love and adoration, and respect they feel they deserve for existing as grandparents. So they can say to themselves and others. "look at how good a grandmother I am". Which is why the lady who got a , (pretty thoughtful if you ask me), facetime and a "thank yuo for the gift", from her son and grandkid felt so flat. She got actual human emotion and interaction, as opposed to the idealized golden radiance she expected. And why the lady who spent Grandparents day with her granddaughter was angry that nobody made a fuss about her.
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My Estranged Son (who I see weekly and who let me babysit his child)
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Thanks to everyone who confirmed my assumptions about how parents' wedding anniversaries are celebrated in normal families trickybiscuits posted:What do you want to bet the "vacation" consisted of sitting in the house silently watching television nine hours a day? Okay, the estranged parent in this case is definitely a crazy lady, but I've learned from having such an experience with my parents (wife and I silently watching TV there), and also with a close friend of ours that just happened to be sick when we we visited, to make your own plans. "Sorry you're not feeling well today, we were thinking we might go see the smallest tree, and if we don't do it today we probably won't be able to fit it in since we're going to see the biggest tree with you tomorrow and we definitely want to share that with you [okay, maybe not the last bit]. Want us to pick anything up on the way back?" Or if there's nothing as exciting as big or small trees, "there's this highly-rated burger joint up in the hills" or "we were hoping to go for a drive up the coast, since you're not up to walking to see the median-sized tree, are you up to just sitting in the back of the car for a while [the answer will be "no"] and we'll stop at this cafe we read about?" Worst case: "I think we've all seen this before, but I brought a DVD of something I'm sure you haven't seen before, it's a short film called Doom House." I haven't tried any of this yet and I'm sure my mother will somehow try to guilt us out of doing anything by saying she gets to see me so rarely and it's so nice to have me home but I'll try to come up with some plans, run some scenarios in a war game and see which ones don't end in nuclear winter.
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Plant the new smallest tree in their front yard, ask them to nourish it with their love, and then go in at night with some roundup and kill that sucker dead. That's what they'll say you did anyway, might as well get ahead.
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Cerebral Mayhem posted:I got the opposite -- My mom was always harping after my sister and I about our weight, even though we weren't overweight at all. Looking back at photos growing up, I was actually a pretty skinny kid, but I didn't realize it. The slightest thigh jiggle, and I would be subject to anger and criticism. She said it was because her own mom was fat and she was ashamed of her. (Looking at photos of her mom, she might have been overweight by 1940's standards but wouldn't warrant a glance at Walmart today.) She would criticize, and then go sit on the couch after dinner munching on jellybeans and potato chips. She even encouraged our older brother to tease my sister and I. And when these people become adults, they can still struggle with food issues even when their parents are completely out of the picture because they spent so many formative years dealing with all the bullshit that it really gets imprinted on your brain. I think at least some picky eaters went through abuse during mealtimes. If the way to try to get their kid to eat broccoli involves screaming at them and making them sit at the table for hours, it's no wonder they don't want to eat anything other than chicken tendies - there's so much anxiety about trying something unfamiliar or unusual that when you finally have full control of what you want to eat, you don't branch out in that case.
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BrigadierSensible posted:It's because these parents/grandparents don't actually want to spend time with their children/grandchildren. The physical acts of spending time with, and/or enjoying their company is not what they are after. Anyway, I think Google News is profiling me. Narcissists don't think as critically as they think: UW study
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Well. I did it. My wife and I cut ties with my mother and her husband. Thank you for the support. It's pretty weird coming out of the FOG in real time. I weirdly feel a lot better after that decision and not worse. Starting to see the exact same rage and confused depression in our children after each visit with her was getting way too familiar. Reading in to the matter all day today has made me realize I really need to get her away and start taking better care of myself and our family. Weird tangential question: Did anyone else's narcissistic parent's abusively and publicly call them "spoiled" all the time? Mine did. I still get twitchy thinking about it. Bruce Boxlicker fucked around with this message at 00:26 on Sep 10, 2019 |
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Congrats on doing the right thing
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:Well. I did it. My wife and I cut ties with my mother and her husband. Thank you for the support. It's pretty weird coming out of the FOG in real time. I weirdly feel a lot better after that decision and not worse. Starting to see the exact same rage and confused depression in our children after each visit with her was getting way too familiar. Reading in to the matter all day today has made me realize I really need to get her away and start taking better care of myself and our family. This is the mother that is going to become a psychologist right?
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My (non-estranged) parents moved recently, and they claim their new backyard has the biggest tree in town. Next time I visit, I'm gonna have to find the smallest and median-sized trees, for a proper survey
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I would blow Dane Cook posted:This is the mother that is going to become a psychologist right? That's my wife. My mother has taught 7th grade literature arts for 20 years.
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:Well. I did it. My wife and I cut ties with my mother and her husband. Thank you for the support. It's pretty weird coming out of the FOG in real time. I weirdly feel a lot better after that decision and not worse. Starting to see the exact same rage and confused depression in our children after each visit with her was getting way too familiar. Reading in to the matter all day today has made me realize I really need to get her away and start taking better care of myself and our family.
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:That's my wife. My mother has taught 7th grade literature arts for 20 years. Oh good I was really worried that the mother was going to become the worst psychologist in the world.
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Sarah Palin and her Husband Todd are finally getting divorced. I can't help but wonder if we'll ever see some posts from her about being estranged from her children Bristol, Trig, Flap, Willow, Groot , Piper, Keg and Track.
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:Well. I did it. My wife and I cut ties with my mother and her husband. Thank you for the support. It's pretty weird coming out of the FOG in real time. I weirdly feel a lot better after that decision and not worse. Starting to see the exact same rage and confused depression in our children after each visit with her was getting way too familiar. Reading in to the matter all day today has made me realize I really need to get her away and start taking better care of myself and our family. Good on you, you did the right thing
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Disclaimer: long, e/n, may have posted the short version already Took us 20 years but my mother finally realized in May how incredibly wrong and abusive and gaslighting my stepdad was, after my 19-year-old son punched him in the teeth It took her until August to use the word "abusive", and until last week to finally crack and rewrite her statement to the court (because of course the cops blamed my kid and not his abuser, because rear end in a top hat is over 65) to include the times he hit her and talk about his abuse. She still thinks my son should apologize so rear end in a top hat will "make it go away". is more important than standing your ground against abuse. Not a loving chance. Even after he's lost his marriage and his "grandson" - who refuses to use his name now, and has PTSD symptoms and panic attacks, thanks fuckbag, 19-year-old me is so grateful you were there to "help" my mother raise him when I had a massive breakdown, all I wanted was for y'all not to gently caress him up worse than my crazy rear end would have - he still thinks he deserves an apology for being an abusive fash that got what he deserved. Boy, luckily, flat out refuses to do any such thing and both of us are on the "if I see his face again he's not leaving under his own power" train. I love my mother and she's amazingly supportive and helpful and really genuinely cares about people, and that's the problem, she believes everyone has good intentions. rear end in a top hat may have had good intentions but until they lead him into hell where he belongs he's getting bashed like the loving fash he is on the bright side Boy went from echoing "haha TRUMP" in 2015 to surprisingly full-fledged comrade courtesy of Fash Granddad so as usual, the kids are in fact alright I just wish I'd had the balls to punch that fuckhead 20 years ago, but even I didn't know how deep the roots of this poo poo were until the fight brought everything bubbling to the surface. I always kept the faith by assuming, and being told, that Boy had such a good life there with them in their big house with the dogs and the yard, and that's what I saw when I was with them, because like most career assholes, rear end in a top hat is very good at appearing charismatic and personable to people who don't have to live with him. I saw through him on some level at 17 and bailed, but y'know, inherently I'm a coward I guess and I always thought the way he treated me was personal dislike for being a mouthy teenager when he married my mom. Been doubting a lot about myself lately after all this came out though. How do you reconcile being loving gaslit and lied to for years with the knowledge that you allowed it based on the premise that it was obviously better than you could do as a single broke teenager. How do you come to terms with feeling responsible for it?
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TheKennedys posted:Disclaimer: long, e/n, may have posted the short version already This all sounds good, but I'm having trouble following the events. You had your mom raise your son, and at 19 he punched your stepdad in the face because he's a Nazi? What was the argument? Then there's some court stuff with too many pronouns which I can't decipher who does what. If it's just me, that's ok too.
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Bruce Boxlicker posted:Well. I did it. My wife and I cut ties with my mother and her husband. Good! I hope things improve from here out. Best wishes on everything that happens from here out. Bruce Boxlicker posted:Weird tangential question: Did anyone else's narcissistic parent's abusively and publicly call them "spoiled" all the time? Mine did. I still get twitchy thinking about it. I have cousins who dealt with that, and I feel like I should check in with them now that I think about it. Similarly, I had a boyfriend who called me "selfish" all the time, which...I dunno who here has met me, but no one else has ever called me that? So...it took a while to realize he was projecting his ex-wife's attitudes onto me, but in between was a lot of time spent in therapy going over my own actions before my therapist finally called me out and said, "Why do you believe him?"
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TheKennedys posted:How do you reconcile being loving gaslit and lied to for years with the knowledge that you allowed it based on the premise that it was obviously better than you could do as a single broke teenager. How do you come to terms with feeling responsible for it? I dunno friendo but let me know cuz boy howdy... you and I are up the same poo poo creek right there.
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Beachcomber posted:This all sounds good, but I'm having trouble following the events. I'm not good at writing all of it out yet, I'm sorry. It's all really fresh still. Boy lived with my mom for most of his life for reasons mostly related to me being a crazy person, and then because I got convinced I was basically useless by my stepdad so he could minimize my "bad influence". I live close by, less than five miles, and have for more than half of that time. Once Boy wasn't a minor anymore, he started standing up to my stepdad and finally punched him, which led to the court case (for elder abuse). Ultimately it came out that rear end in a top hat had been every form of abusive that whole time, and now my kid has PTSD and panic attacks even though we're in the process of memory holing rear end in a top hat (and lots of therapy). My mother is more concerned with decorum and keeping everyone happy than taking Boy's cracking mental state seriously Idk, I wasn't going to post because I'm a coward and it's a clear "already NC obviously" situation, but someone mentioned abused kids having memories bubbling up like they're happening right now, because the kid never processed them, and it's happening to Boy. This thread has been a safe place for a lot of people and idk, I just wanted to get it out there out loud I guess
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TheKennedys posted:I'm not good at writing all of it out yet, I'm sorry. It's all really fresh still. Boy lived with my mom for most of his life for reasons mostly related to me being a crazy person, and then because I got convinced I was basically useless by my stepdad so he could minimize my "bad influence". I live close by, less than five miles, and have for more than half of that time. Once Boy wasn't a minor anymore, he started standing up to my stepdad and finally punched him, which led to the court case (for elder abuse). Ultimately it came out that rear end in a top hat had been every form of abusive that whole time, and now my kid has PTSD and panic attacks even though we're in the process of memory holing rear end in a top hat (and lots of therapy). My mother is more concerned with decorum and keeping everyone happy than taking Boy's cracking mental state seriously It's good that you're finding this out and getting him help as soon as you can. I hope you and Boy can start healing soon.
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someone posted:one day we planned to drive to Olive Garden but knew that we needed to be there by 4 PM to avoid a LONG wait as snowbirds wereback- baby slept past that time so we did not go- cooked in house- they seemed annoyed at us. A perfect example of "OK, we'll do the thing you want to do, but only if we compromise by doing it in a way you'll hate so that no one's happy."
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Babies just don't appreciate Olive Garden i guess.
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TheKennedys posted:I'm not good at writing all of it out yet, I'm sorry. It's all really fresh still. Boy lived with my mom for most of his life for reasons mostly related to me being a crazy person, and then because I got convinced I was basically useless by my stepdad so he could minimize my "bad influence". I live close by, less than five miles, and have for more than half of that time. Once Boy wasn't a minor anymore, he started standing up to my stepdad and finally punched him, which led to the court case (for elder abuse). Ultimately it came out that rear end in a top hat had been every form of abusive that whole time, and now my kid has PTSD and panic attacks even though we're in the process of memory holing rear end in a top hat (and lots of therapy). My mother is more concerned with decorum and keeping everyone happy than taking Boy's cracking mental state seriously Thanks for clearing it up. Good luck with getting past all this.
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I would blow Dane Cook posted:Babies just don't appreciate Olive Garden i guess. I mean they can't eat enough salad and bread sticks to really make it worth it. Having them just spit on that Italian generosity is a huge embarrassment.
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Tiggum posted:This is one of those rare cases where there's actually enough information to figure out what actually happened. The children want to go out for dinner. The parent won't go anywhere but Olive Garden. Kids reluctantly agree. Parent says "Oh, but we have to be there by 4pm to beat the crowds." Kids, entirely understandably, don't want to have dinner at 4pm, especially not if their young child is sleeping at that time. Parent still refuses to consider any other restaurant. Parent, who has clearly lost all touch with normal human society, can't figure out why they wouldn't just wake the baby up to go have dinner at a crappy chain restaurant in the middle of the afternoon, especially when they were the ones who wanted to go out so badly! It's depressing. They apparently live right by the ocean, but something like a dolphin-watching cruise or snorkeling doesn't occur to them. What kind of lives do these people lead? Why even pay to live by the beach when you could live the same life on an isolated house in the wilderness, fifty miles from everything else around you, with a paper bag on your head so you never see anything? Do these people even really exist? I feel pretty bad for the son and daughter-in-law who traveled so far with a baby to sit in a house staring at the wall with people who can't be bothered to find a decent seafood restaurant AT THE BEACH.
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# ? Sep 10, 2019 17:17 |
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# ? Apr 28, 2024 03:22 |
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Dirt Road Junglist posted:It's good that you're finding this out and getting him help as soon as you can. I hope you and Boy can start healing soon. Unfortunately, Boy and Kratos still have many battles ahead.
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# ? Sep 10, 2019 17:21 |