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Slaan
Mar 16, 2009



ASHERAH DEMANDS I FEAST, I VOTE FOR A FEAST OF FLESH
Butt stuff. The answer likely involves butt stuff

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trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!
It always does

sebzilla
Mar 17, 2009

Kid's blasting everything in sight with that new-fangled musket.


"Phwoar, you've got lovely bangers and that. Let me put it in your poo poo pipe."

- Romance

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!
“These are my sex jeans. I wear them before I gently caress you in the butt”

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

terre packet posted:

My spouse has told me they want to feel like they're being seduced, which I don't have very much experience with. Are there any books that talk about seduction in the context of a long-term monogamous relationship?

I remember this, I think you point at the door, right?

Masonity
Dec 31, 2007

What, I wonder, does this hidden face of madness reveal of the makers? These K'Chain Che'Malle?
You could always pull out the old reliable "five in the pink, five in the stink" move. Nothing says seduced quite like a double fisting.

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!

purple death ray posted:

I remember this, I think you point at the door, right?

Yes. First you insult them, then you tell them to get out, then you run after them crying “I’m sorry I’m sorry I’m sorry I’m sorry”, then you pull your pants down. Bonus points if you’re still in the driveway

After all make-up sex is the best sex

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!
and if another person sees you with your pants and underpants down in this public space address that person loudly with “you see something you like, pal?” and then wink at them because it is always good to keep your options open

Qubee
May 31, 2013




-edit-

Xiahou Dun
Jul 16, 2009

We shall dive down through black abysses... and in that lair of the Deep Ones we shall dwell amidst wonder and glory forever.



So I started dating a new girl who's really into the whole dom/sub thing, but that's pretty alien to me outside of some scary experiences in the past (cool job random hook-up from years ago who wanted to go straight from light bondage to needle play and I basically just Looney-Tunesed through a wall). I'm not opposed and she's actually got me kind of interested, but I'm basically making this up as I go along.

Does anyone know some good intro resources on this? I don't trust random googling and want something a bit better recommended.

PittTheElder
Feb 13, 2012

:geno: Yes, it's like a lava lamp.

Does she want you to be a sub/dom specifically, or are you both switching it up periodically?

Bollock Monkey
Jan 21, 2007

The Almighty
I like these educational comics as a starting point.

You should have an open and honest chat with your partner about likes, dislikes, interests, boundaries, etc. All kink is different between different people, so getting on the same page - and noticing where your interests may diverge - is an important first step.

Laci Green is also an absolute gem.

whydirt
Apr 18, 2001


Gaz Posting Brigade :c00lbert:
I thought Green turned chud-curious?

Lead out in cuffs
Sep 18, 2012

"That's right. We've evolved."

"I can see that. Cool mutations."




The alt.sex.bondage FAQ is getting kinda old (it's from the 90s!) but still a good resource:

https://www.datapacrat.com/True/BOOMFUN/ASBFAQ_1.HTM

Things have moved a lot further in terms of active consent since then, but it's good for background.


Seriously, though, just talk to your new partner about what she's into, and what of that you'd be into. Maybe what she wants/needs is stuff you'd be into, or at least willing to indulge her in.

If needle-play freaks you out, then reading about the full depth and breadth of the BDSM world may not be a recipe for good mental wellbeing.

Xiahou Dun
Jul 16, 2009

We shall dive down through black abysses... and in that lair of the Deep Ones we shall dwell amidst wonder and glory forever.



She wants me specifically to dom.

And we have really good communication, I’m just looking for supplemental resources.

Like if nothing else I gotta find my old Boy Scout manual for these god drat knots.

mllaneza
Apr 28, 2007

Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952




terre packet posted:

My spouse has told me they want to feel like they're being seduced, which I don't have very much experience with. Are there any books that talk about seduction in the context of a long-term monogamous relationship?

One cool thing is: walk up behind them, quietly but so they know you're there. put one hand on their hip and one on their shoulder. Whisper sweet things in their ear and nuzzle a little. That should be a very effective low-key "hey you !" for a wide range of types.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Xiahou Dun posted:

She wants me specifically to dom.

And we have really good communication, I’m just looking for supplemental resources.

Like if nothing else I gotta find my old Boy Scout manual for these god drat knots.

Those can actually be dangerous and shouldn't be used. Start here:

https://www.theduchy.com/safety/

Edit: we generally use these because it's faster and the safety hooks can fasten on a variety of things, as well as each other.



Beachcomber fucked around with this message at 05:46 on Nov 21, 2019

Xiahou Dun
Jul 16, 2009

We shall dive down through black abysses... and in that lair of the Deep Ones we shall dwell amidst wonder and glory forever.



Beachcomber posted:

Those can actually be dangerous and shouldn't be used. Start here:

https://www.theduchy.com/safety/

O yeah, sorry, I knew that but was being super sarcastic. I wear cowboy boots most of the time ; I'm so hella ignorant about knots.

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!
Yeah- go on extreme restraints, and get like two sets of cuffs like the ones shown above. Then get a starter bed strap set for like $40. Then leave them aside because you will not be using them yet.

The first thing you need to do is talk to this lady during an intimate setting and figure out what shes actually into and what she isn’t into. BDSM *for 99% of people* (ie “safe/sane, zero blood, etc) can still incorporate an entire ocean of diverse elements that people may or may not be into (and some of the stuff they might really hate and get super turned off by), and that’s without even touching the more extreme stuff:

There’s of course the dominance and submission aspect- but how so? Does she want to be disciplined? Does she want to simply be held down and hosed really hard? Does she want to be forced to orgasm multiple times or does she want to have touch withheld?

Does she like rope and restraints or hate them? Are they the point of the experience or merely a means to an end? Window dressing or the main event? Some people really like ropework and suspension while I just find all of that painfully boring, myself.

What about pain? Believe it or not a lot of BDSM’ers don’t actually do pain. Spanking? Hitting? Hitting across the face? Choking? What about belts/floggers or paddles? Is she more into stingy pain or thuddy pain? Does she want to be sent to Home Depot to make her own paddle? Or tickling? Or ice? Is she into being tormented or titillated lightly or does she just wanna get whaled on from the beginning? And what about other types of sensation play?

And is she into kayfabe? Does she want a scene built? Does she want you to interrogate her? What about humiliation or exposure? Does she want to eventually take you to a club?

Saying “she’s into BDSM” is like saying “she’s into music”. Well what kind? There’s still a ton of detail that needs to be added here.

Do you like porn? Do you know if she likes porn? Have you seen any of it or of stuff that reflects her fantasies/interests? If I were you, I’d consider educating myself on bdsm a bit by maybe finding stuff that appeals to you/ticks your boxes. That will give you an ‘in’ to start working from so you don’t just feel like an outsider doing stuff for her.

Kink.com stuff is really popular with women I’ve known and there’s a lot of variety and breadth in there without going into extreme and legitimately disturbing/questionable places. They’re not perfect by any means but they have generally abided by doing good work and doing mostly right by their performers.

Xiahou Dun
Jul 16, 2009

We shall dive down through black abysses... and in that lair of the Deep Ones we shall dwell amidst wonder and glory forever.



Electric Bugaloo posted:

If I were you, I’d consider educating myself on bdsm a bit by maybe finding stuff that appeals to you/ticks your boxes.

Not to be flip, but that was literally what I was asking for a resource for?

We're in open communication and working on it, but I feel like I'm missing a lot of broader context. Like, hell, I barely have the vocabulary to discuss things.

Edit : I don't mean to come off as lovely if I did. I appreciate what people have said. I'm just coming at this from the standpoint of vanilla with maybe some spanking sex, and now we're transitioning to like scenes and full dom play and stuff and I'm just lost.

Xiahou Dun fucked around with this message at 07:01 on Nov 21, 2019

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
Huge grain of salt on kink.com. https://www.mic.com/articles/129866/what-s-going-on-at-kink-com-the-studio-at-the-center-of-the-james-deen-allegations (nsfw obv)

Also, talking purely about the content, a lot of videos do get extreme and include stuff that most people would find off-limits and even a lot of kinky people find disturbing.

There's probably some stuff that you guys can watch together, but just a heads-up that you definitely have to do some vetting if you don't want to watch someone almost drown a woman in piss, for example.

Xiahou Dun
Jul 16, 2009

We shall dive down through black abysses... and in that lair of the Deep Ones we shall dwell amidst wonder and glory forever.



Anne Whateley posted:

Huge grain of salt on kink.com. https://www.mic.com/articles/129866/what-s-going-on-at-kink-com-the-studio-at-the-center-of-the-james-deen-allegations (nsfw obv)

Also, talking purely about the content, a lot of videos do get extreme and include stuff that most people would find off-limits and even a lot of kinky people find disturbing.

There's probably some stuff that you guys can watch together, but just a heads-up that you definitely have to do some vetting if you don't want to watch someone almost drown a woman in piss, for example.

Yeah, no. We talked about that.

We actually talked about specifically that kind of stuff and I bounced off really hard, cause I'm just a giant teddy bear. I want to make her happy, and we're working on meeting in the middle and slowly getting me more comfortable with more kink stuff.

I guess I have three things :

1) I can hold her down and push her and pull her and grab her hair and stuff. I'm fine with that. That's sufficiently adjacent to sex I've had in the past that it's fine. But then she wants me to hit her with a closed fist and I just shut the hell down. (Personal problems with violence.)

2) She wants to do the whole dom/sub thing but until it gets going I just feel profoundly awkward. Like, not sexual awkward. More as if I'm starting a really lovely improv exercise. I feel like I should do something more exciting than just telling her to get naked/maybe then put on stuff that makes me hot, but I have no idea what that would be. Past experience has been "and then we have sex", so this is totally novel. I'm not used to constructing a narrative about this.

3) No seriously, apparently I have to learn a whole new skillset based around ropes and ties and stuff.

I really like my new girlfriend, but she's super kinky and my idea of kinky up until now has been "she wears heels during sex". I'm prettying okay at sex, but this is uncharted waters and I want this to be a lasting relationship cause we click really well. Halp. :(

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!

This exact story is what was in my head when I said ‘mostly right.’

They seem to have taken some good steps afterward and I remember reading an interview with their, at the time, new director about it. They also seem to have fallen off the map a bit in recent time, but maybe I’m wrong. I haven’t really looked into them in forever.

WRT their content- yeah, watersports and play with *actual* water were never my thing but if they’re showing the stuff you describe then I retract my “they’re relatively tame” classification.

Xiahou Dun posted:

Not to be flip, but that was literally what I was asking for a resource for?

We're in open communication and working on it, but I feel like I'm missing a lot of broader context. Like, hell, I barely have the vocabulary to discuss things.

Edit : I don't mean to come off as lovely if I did. I appreciate what people have said. I'm just coming at this from the standpoint of vanilla with maybe some spanking sex, and now we're transitioning to like scenes and full dom play and stuff and I'm just lost.

I did give you a resource. I said think about the different and varied directions and scenes that “BDSM” encompasses. Don’t waste your time researching tickle torture play or orgasm denial if she isn’t into those things (Ask her to elaborate on her kinks).

Look for adult material that might potentially interest you (or not- but don’t watch anything you’re not into, clearly) as an avenue into kink and also into understanding her wants. Get into kink by getting a bit into kink. That’s honestly gonna be the best way to go. If you’re not actually turned on and interested you’re gonna make a piss-poor dom. And *I can’t believe I’m saying this about anything at all, much less this* I’ve been around the scene enough to see what it’s like when the dom isn’t feeling it.

Now—Other people know more than I do, but I’m not sure that there’s a ‘bdsm book’ out there that can be the all-encompassing intro to kink that you seem to want. There are a lot of great bdsm books that will teach you rope skills and aftercare and how to best spank, but I don’t know that there’s one specific book that can teach you what all the different kinks and fetishes are. You just kinda gotta build your understanding from a broad array of sources.

Listen to/read old Dan Savage stuff. Maybe jump off the deep end and join Fetlife (maybe don’t do that. You will see stuff that you won’t like and a lot of people with really bad/toxic/dangerous ideas and opinions). Maybe try reading some erotic fiction that has a bdsm bent.

Do you like rough sex? And spanking? Great! You’re three quarters of the way to a bdsm already- now try pinning her hands down. Next, maybe try adding stuff like restraints/cuffs (or not- an ex and I started with cuffs and ended up just always going for manual restraint because it suited our play style better). What about gags? Does she want something in her mouth while getting hosed? Lots of options there...

my point is that you have ins, way more than you think. So stop over thinking it.

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!

Xiahou Dun posted:

Yeah, no. We talked about that.

We actually talked about specifically that kind of stuff and I bounced off really hard, cause I'm just a giant teddy bear. I want to make her happy, and we're working on meeting in the middle and slowly getting me more comfortable with more kink stuff.

I guess I have three things :

1) I can hold her down and push her and pull her and grab her hair and stuff. I'm fine with that. That's sufficiently adjacent to sex I've had in the past that it's fine. But then she wants me to hit her with a closed fist and I just shut the hell down. (Personal problems with violence.)

2) She wants to do the whole dom/sub thing but until it gets going I just feel profoundly awkward. Like, not sexual awkward. More as if I'm starting a really lovely improv exercise. I feel like I should do something more exciting than just telling her to get naked/maybe then put on stuff that makes me hot, but I have no idea what that would be. Past experience has been "and then we have sex", so this is totally novel. I'm not used to constructing a narrative about this.

3) No seriously, apparently I have to learn a whole new skillset based around ropes and ties and stuff.

I really like my new girlfriend, but she's super kinky and my idea of kinky up until now has been "she wears heels during sex". I'm prettying okay at sex, but this is uncharted waters and I want this to be a lasting relationship cause we click really well. Halp. :(

Some thoughts, in no particular order because I’m getting tired of phoneposting essays.

-If you have a hard line, don’t cross it. The closed fist thing is completely valid and you shouldn’t feel like you have to “evolve” on it. If it’s a big enough deal for her she should find someone ok with that. Otherwise, find ways to compromise or try other fun sex activities that don’t cross a line. It’s like anal (you should do anal, btw)- if somebody doesn’t wanna do it, it doesn’t matter if it’s the other person’s fave.

I had an ex who wanted me to choke her hard and slap her across the face and that specifically was a hard no for me, and the sex was still awesome for five years because there were tons of other similar things that I was okay with.

- Learning rope- ok there is actually a ton of material out there for this. Like tons, just loving google it instead of whining at some goons. I hear there’s a book called something something-Show You The Ropes? Idk, but they sell literal starter kits for Pete’s sake.

In any case, this should be a fun pair bonding activity, done by you two while in bed. Don’t do it late at night- pick a lazy Saturday or Sunday afternoon, and just spend a couple hours messing around in bed. Practice rope ties and make out and just have a frisky fun time. Maybe burn one while doing it. If she knows way more than you then encourage her to teach you. You make it sound like it’s work- do you know the phrase GGG? Generous, Giving, Game? You don’t sound super game right now. You’re an academic and a Boy Scout, if you decide the rope poo poo just isn’t for you then break up with her, but for now the least you can do is give it a shot.

- scene poo poo. “lovely Improv.” Yeah, it’s annoying. I’m sorry, it takes practice and it’ll feel super awkward. You might spend weeks getting better, but you will get better if you keep trying it. Here’s a place where watching or reading some erotic material can actually help, but I’ll leave that up to what you’re comfortable with.

Lead out in cuffs
Sep 18, 2012

"That's right. We've evolved."

"I can see that. Cool mutations."




I think it's good, giving, game.

Generous and giving are kinda redundant. The good is to imply "spends some time working on skills".

trilobite terror
Oct 20, 2007
BUT MY LIVELIHOOD DEPENDS ON THE FORUMS!
You’re right, it’s good.

Liquid Communism
Mar 9, 2004


Out here, everything hurts.




Like any relationship, it's all communication and trust. You need to do a lot of talking with your partner to figure out what she wants out of this, and some reading up to see if it appeals to you and in qhat way.

One thing that might help your confidence to be a little more dominant is to remember that really, the sub in a consensual D/S scene is the one with all the power.

Discuss safe words with your partner and arrange something before trying anything out of the ordinary. Probably three somethings, one for 'keep going', one for 'stop immediately' and one for 'hold up and check in, something's too intense/not right'. Red/green/yellow are popular for this.

Safe words are an excellent thing because they let a sub relax into an act while trusting that if it gets too intense, they can stop it at any time, and let you top trusting they will stop you if something's not good.

Liquid Communism fucked around with this message at 09:43 on Nov 21, 2019

Hyperlynx
Sep 13, 2015

whydirt posted:

I thought Green turned chud-curious?

Well, not actually trumpist, but happy to date an antifeminist gamergater (as in, that's his schtick), to "open a dialogue" with alt-right fuckos, and to equate deplatforming with censorship. https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Laci_Green#View_of_Trump

Shwqa
Feb 13, 2012

Hyperlynx posted:

Well, not actually trumpist, but happy to date an antifeminist gamergater (as in, that's his schtick), to "open a dialogue" with alt-right fuckos, and to equate deplatforming with censorship. https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Laci_Green#View_of_Trump

Opening dialogue about relationships with that sort crowd is how a black man, who was a relationship specialist, accidentally helped create the white supremacy group "proud boys".

Bollock Monkey
Jan 21, 2007

The Almighty

Hyperlynx posted:

Well, not actually trumpist, but happy to date an antifeminist gamergater (as in, that's his schtick), to "open a dialogue" with alt-right fuckos, and to equate deplatforming with censorship. https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Laci_Green#View_of_Trump

Huh. Can't say I've invested in following her very much, just recalled that she seemed like a good egg a while ago.


Xiahou Dun posted:

I want to make her happy,
Great start, because experimenting with some of the stuff she's into will make her happy and she will make all those sexy "I'm having a great time" faces, which you will also enjoy. My husband likes me to be a little bit dominant sometimes, and that was never my bag - but seeing how much he enjoys himself piqued my interest and now it's a role I'll bust out from time to time and genuinely enjoy. Because how can you not enjoy something when your partner is squirming and gasping and having a great time!

Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, but consider trying out stuff that you are neutral towards. If you're already happy with spanking then talk to her about whether open-handed hitting will work for her. I wouldn't want to punch a partner either and that is a-okay.

Getting into the dom headspace is weird and does feel a bit uncomfortable. Find out which aspects she likes (as others have said) - is it about physical bossiness? Ordering her around? Calling her names? Once you figure that out you can try out different things and see which feels the least weird, and get comfortable with that for a while before trying more things. If anything makes you feel actively unhappy though, stop, discuss it, and try something else. Maybe you really hate calling her a bitch but it's alright to call her a slut, maybe you don't mind putting your hand over her mouth but you hate the way a gag looks. There is such a lot of depth to kink and there are heaps of options that can amount to a similar effect for both parties without crossing personal boundaries. It takes time to work it out though.

Qubee
May 31, 2013




Hey, it's me, the dude who was having heaps of trouble climaxing. Wanted to put this out there for any other circumcised dude who was having the same issues as me. I was basically beating myself up with regards to this issue and putting the blame on myself, getting advice to stop masturbating, not to use death grip, not to watch porn etc. It all pointed to me doing something wrong, so I tried everything, and nothing helped. I'd just be hornier than usual but still unable to climax. Thought it must be my girlfriend's technique and she wasn't good at giving handjobs / blowjobs. Thought my dick was broken and my testosterone was out of whack. Thought her vagina was loose. Literally every paranoid thought under the sun, I thought it.

I went and got myself a Manhood cover. It arrived in time to start wearing it on the 1st of October. I've worn it religiously every day since then. I moisturize every couple of days too. It's no big deal, super easy and stays put (if you get the right size). I'd say towards the end of October, I started noticing a difference. I was able to climax much easier, especially from oral. My girlfriend and I went from me taking over 4 times out of 5 to me taking over 1 time out of 5. That alone did wonders for the relationship, it made me feel great because she was able to take care of me, and it made her feel great because she felt sexy / good enough to take care of me without my involvement. My dick became noticeably smoother too, and it was shocking just how conditioned I was to seeing my dick so dry and leathery looking and never thinking much of it, the smoothness stuck out. If I didn't wear the Manhood for 30 minutes, my skin would start looking very dry and dark and leathery, to the point where I thought it'd peel off. Orgasms went from 30 minute arduous ordeals to me finishing in about ten minutes. This alone took a lot of stress out of the equation, it started making me feel less like a horrible chore that my girlfriend would have to put aside an hour of time for. She didn't need to hammer away at my dick for me to maintain an erection, or give tiring oral for 30 minutes for me to maybe come close.

Fast forward to now, I managed to orgasm during sex last week for the first time ever. Celebratory dance happened in bed, we both high fived, it was great. I wasn't needing to thrust super hard and fast to feel anything, slow movements felt just as nice as fast movements. We were in reverse cowgirl and she was moving slowly and I still climaxed, which was unexpected and surprising, seeing as up til that point, it had always been a hard and rough thing for it to even feel close to happening. We had sex again on Sunday and I climaxed during sex again, two for two. More high fives, her noting how quickly and easily it happened, the word progress getting thrown around a lot. Another shocking outcome of this is my previous handjob / blowjob advice is now redundant. She's having to change her technique up because the old method is just too overwhelming and sensitive. Now, it's a case of me feeling too much, not too little. But all in all, I'm incredibly thankful I stumbled upon that website and decided to give it a go. It has changed so many things for the better. We're happier and more fulfilled, I no longer feel like half a man. I can initiate stuff without feeling guilty and thinking I'm robbing her of time, cause now I know it's done in about ten minutes. It's also insane how easier it is to actually have sex, my dick won't suck the moisture out of her in one minute, so we're using less lube and I'm not causing her discomfort or pain or anything. Sometimes in the past, we'd have to stop as either myself or her could feel things getting a bit too dry, so we'd reapply lube and then need to repeat after a couple of minutes.

Another side effect of wearing this hood is my scar line has become much harder to notice, the skin colour transition is much more subtle. I've also noticed a penis smell that I never used to have before, and for a few weeks I was washing religiously and it'd just be back after an hour or so. I kept telling my girlfriend about it and saying I worried it was dirty, but she told me it's totally normal? And everything seems to indicate it is, especially since it's not a bad smell, it's just noticeable. I have three Manhood covers that I rotate regularly, and handwash them. I never use the bathroom without washing with water, and it's not the smell of stale piss. If I'm out in public and need to pee and can't wash myself properly, I'll take the cover off as soon as I'm home, wash, put on a clean one and wash the dirty one. She said it just smells like penis. I didn't think that'd be something I'd ever deal with. So I guess the hard keratinized skin is breaking off on my glans and exposing the mucous membrane thing, or??? I don't know. Is this something you guys have?

Final note on progress: I used to be able to roughly dry with a towel after a shower, and I'd be able to run my nail along the head or shaft and it wouldn't hurt. Now, I need to dab with a towel otherwise it's painfully sensitive. I've also accidentally clipped it with a nail whilst swinging my hand and it's painful when that happens, whereas in the past, I wouldn't even register it.

Qubee fucked around with this message at 12:56 on Nov 25, 2019

Johnny Truant
Jul 22, 2008




Qubee posted:

Final note on progress: I used to be able to roughly dry with a towel after a shower, and I'd be able to run my nail along the head or shaft and it wouldn't hurt. Now, I need to dab with a towel otherwise it's painfully sensitive. I've also accidentally clipped it with a nail whilst swinging my hand and it's painful when that happens, whereas in the past, I wouldn't even register it.

I'm happy for you and all but uh, this paragraph does not sound particularly good, imo

Qubee
May 31, 2013




painfully sensitive is exaggerated, I'd say it's uncomfortable. like I could roughly dry with a towel but would rather not. same with if I don't wear the cover, the feeling of underwear rubbing on it is uncomfortable, but I can manage if I have to. just got carried away in my born-again man story. AKA compared to what my sensitivity was before, where I could barely distinguish a thumb being brushed lightly over the tip, things have now been dialled up to normal levels.

whydirt
Apr 18, 2001


Gaz Posting Brigade :c00lbert:
Unless you have burlap underwear, my thoughts are it shouldn’t feel uncomfortable on your exposed junk

Qubee
May 31, 2013




I'll take it, would rather have this than go back to how it was before. I've been keeping a real close eye on it though to make sure nothing bad is happening. I just think it's because I'm not used to feeling anything normally, so feeling something is just a little discomforting.

Hug in a Can
Aug 1, 2010

NICE FLAMINGO
kind heart
fierce mind
brave spirit

:h: be good and try hard! :h:

I don’t have a penis, but parts of that made me think “shouldn’t you see a doctor?”
I think whydirt and Johnny Truant might be leaning in the same “doctor” direction.
I’m sure it will be fine and I’m happy you’re happy, but a couple of things you mentioned (flaking, a change in scent, excess sensitivity) sound a little bit like doctor-visit territory! But I only know what you told us :)

Spikes32
Jul 25, 2013

Happy trees
Will you be going down the foreskin restoration route now that you've had such success with this?

sebzilla
Mar 17, 2009

Kid's blasting everything in sight with that new-fangled musket.


Gonna say a special thank you to my foreskin tonight, that sounds hellish

Qubee
May 31, 2013




I totally get where you are all coming from. I'd be booking an appointment ASAP if I thought anything was wrong. I'm probably thinking sensitivity is dialled to an 11 because I've gone my entire life used to not feeling much. I'd properly write how it was vs how it is now but I want to save you all from another paragraph (tl;dr is sensitivity isn't as internal anymore, it's external too).

- I haven't actually flaked, or if I have, I haven't noticed. My skin just appears smoother, less dry and wrinkly, and isn't as tough as it used to be. It actually looks shiny now. Maybe I will flake, but AFAIK, this is pretty normal. Circumcision causes a sort of callous to develop to protect the sensitive skin, so if you keep it protected, the callous eventually sheds off (or so I've read).
- Change in scent seems to be normal. At first, I was going to book an appointment with the doctor, as I thought I had some sort of infection. But from what I can tell, everything is fine, the natural smell is just more pronounced for some reason. Girlfriend told me it just smells like penis, and if it was unpleasant, she'd be the first to say so. I just think before this, I never noticed a smell because I wouldn't make as much of it. I can shower, wash, and an hour later I'll be able to smell it, but it's not gross or dirty smelling, just different (from what I'm used to).
- Excess sensitivity isn't painful. Just things I could do before that wouldn't make me bat an eye are now actually noticeable. Sometimes uncomfortably so (I don't push up against my girlfriend as aggressively anymore, as the feeling of skin pulling on skin is unpleasant now, and I don't jackhammer either because it's sensation overload, and now when she uses her hands, I need lube because dry is too uncomfortable and can sometimes chaff / hurt, whereas before, we'd do it dry every time, and it took weeks for her to stop asking "are you sure this doesn't hurt?" as she's only been with guys who weren't circumcised).

Spikes32 posted:

Will you be going down the foreskin restoration route now that you've had such success with this?

I looked into it, but I don't want to commit. I'm just going to keep using this cocksock and hope things continue getting better. If there's ever a day where skin regeneration becomes a thing and can be carried out by a medical professional with good results, I'd be the first one to sign up.

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Slimy Hog
Apr 22, 2008

Qubee posted:

I totally get where you are all coming from. I'd be booking an appointment ASAP if I thought anything was wrong. I'm probably thinking sensitivity is dialled to an 11 because I've gone my entire life used to not feeling much. I'd properly write how it was vs how it is now but I want to save you all from another paragraph (tl;dr is sensitivity isn't as internal anymore, it's external too).

- I haven't actually flaked, or if I have, I haven't noticed. My skin just appears smoother, less dry and wrinkly, and isn't as tough as it used to be. It actually looks shiny now. Maybe I will flake, but AFAIK, this is pretty normal. Circumcision causes a sort of callous to develop to protect the sensitive skin, so if you keep it protected, the callous eventually sheds off (or so I've read).
- Change in scent seems to be normal. At first, I was going to book an appointment with the doctor, as I thought I had some sort of infection. But from what I can tell, everything is fine, the natural smell is just more pronounced for some reason. Girlfriend told me it just smells like penis, and if it was unpleasant, she'd be the first to say so. I just think before this, I never noticed a smell because I wouldn't make as much of it. I can shower, wash, and an hour later I'll be able to smell it, but it's not gross or dirty smelling, just different (from what I'm used to).
- Excess sensitivity isn't painful. Just things I could do before that wouldn't make me bat an eye are now actually noticeable. Sometimes uncomfortably so (I don't push up against my girlfriend as aggressively anymore, as the feeling of skin pulling on skin is unpleasant now, and I don't jackhammer either because it's sensation overload, and now when she uses her hands, I need lube because dry is too uncomfortable and can sometimes chaff / hurt, whereas before, we'd do it dry every time, and it took weeks for her to stop asking "are you sure this doesn't hurt?" as she's only been with guys who weren't circumcised).


I looked into it, but I don't want to commit. I'm just going to keep using this cocksock and hope things continue getting better. If there's ever a day where skin regeneration becomes a thing and can be carried out by a medical professional with good results, I'd be the first one to sign up.

Did you go to a doctor BEFORE trying this new foreskin-replacement device?

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