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Sunswipe: Feb 5, 2016; by Fluffdaddy

Olanphonia posted:

How long is it going to take for this guy to realize he's not in a relationship anymore? The wedding?

"My girlfriend has just had a third child with the man she married, only this time they haven't asked me to be the godfather. Is our relationship in trouble?"

# ? Jan 21, 2020 19:43

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# ? May 2, 2024 20:39

Patrick Spens: Jul 21, 2006; "Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"; Pillbug

Olanphonia posted:

How long is it going to take for this guy to realize he's not in a relationship anymore? The wedding?

It's going to be rough when he loses his entire friend group because he's mad she's cheating on him.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 19:44

Darkhold: Feb 19, 2011; No Heart❤️
No Soul👻
No Service🙅

I'm waiting for the girlfriend to screw him over and burn all her bridges with her new friend group only to find out the other guy is gay and not interested or something. That'd be a twist.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 19:55

avoid doorways: Jun 6, 2010; 'twas brillig; Gun Saliva

New boyfriend leaves her for old boyfriend

# ? Jan 21, 2020 19:58

Play: Apr 25, 2006; Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Mr. Lobe posted:

in the story you are quoting, it appears the woman in question actually believes in her own strength to that degree, and is not merely being poetic or hyperbolic

buddy if I spent time correcting everyone whenever they said something self-evidently ridiculous, I'd do literally nothing else. the right answer is to let it go

Miss posted:

spoon that brother

brother is doing something with a spoon, that's for sure

Licarn posted:

Me [22M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 5 years, humiliated, violated, and embarrassed by housing community security guard [50M]. Have I failed as a partner?

well aren't you a delicate little flower

yeah, dipshit failure with an inferiority complex is passive aggressive and tries to act all big boy, this is something you see with almost every police officer and security guard in existence. It's really no reason to get this upset regardless of how you acted. You were not the first and will not be the last to be intimidated by an ultimately toothless show of authority, it even happens to hardened criminals.

teen witch posted:

2019: Fightman

2020: Tatty

I unreservedly adore these Tatty stories. I also loved fightman so it goes without saying that my taste is abysmal

Kill All Cops posted:

Stopping the cycle

Hi everyone, as the title suggests i want to stop the cycle. I want to go legit i want to quit. No ghosting. No 6 months hiatus no cold turkey and hard relapse just be done with findom for the pain i have inflicted on others because of it, because of the lie that it means something.

exactly as insincere as I expected

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

My [23M] wife [23F] of five months refuses to wear her seatbelt in the car, and it's causing major problems.

Man that's real tough. It's hard when such an important person in your life, someone you care for deeply, acts so loving dumb like this. If you intend to have kids, ask her if she'd make the kids wear seatbelts or if she'd wear seatbelts as a mom. If she tells you to shut the gently caress up again (that's pretty weird too, my partner doesn't normally tell me to shut the gently caress up) then tell her it's not gonna work between you.

It just speaks to a huge difference in priorities, if someone is so drat shortsighted they can't even realize that wearing a seatbelt is a necessity. I don't think I could be with someone like that, regardless of their other qualities.

Lucrece posted:

AITA for wanting my ex to cancel her plans to come pick up the children?

on the four days of the month when YOU are supposed to be watching the kids? how is that even a question??

Rudager posted:

What the gently caress?

That kids going to be hosed if mom follows along with this extreme robot thinking.

If dad does it every loving night, OK that's a problem, if it's a once off thing then hopefully dad comes to his senses later and apologises to the daughter and makes it up to her in someway.

Don't be so dramatic, I'm sure there is food to eat in the house. It is absolutely not mom's responsibility to make more food. Everyone in this story is too stubborn, but the dad is obviously the main rear end in a top hat. Please explain why the mom should be the one to make more food when the daughter is the one who allowed dad to eat it all and the dad is the one who ate it all. Let them work it out, husband clearly needs a wake up call as far as expecting his wife to fix everything and make food at a moment's notice. gently caress him.

The only lesson that would be teaching is that Dad can do whatever the gently caress he wants and its our job as women to clean up after him and fix everything he ruins. Nah

Kuros posted:

NTA, and I don't get why some ladies do this. There are plenty of ways to avoid this:

1. Wear something with pockets. I know women's fashion has an aversion to pockets, but some stuff does have pockets.
2. Have a small clutch or purse to hold stuff.
3. Fanny packs are for everyone!

No one wants to handle sweaty titty money.

Just never ask where cumshitter keeps his walking-around money and we'll be good

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:00

Nastyman: Jul 11, 2007; There they sit
at the foot of the mountain
Taking hits
of the sacred smoke
Fire rips at their lungs
Holy mountain take us away

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for "getting too upset" over a game?

Don't get mad about video games but also maybe don't sabotage other people's work intentionally to piss them off and then act surprised when they get pissed off.

Pull that poo poo on my server and you'll find yourself having to justify every recreational activity you do henceforth as a super serious and adult thing that has material value.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:01

Tesseraction: Apr 5, 2009

AITA for asking a friend not to use a slur, despite her "pass"?

quote:

I (f) have this friend (f) who insists she should be able to use the word f*g because she's friends with a gay couple who've given her a pass.

Now, I'm a straight woman so I'm not sure whether I've any say in this matter, but I feel uncomfortable with most slurs including that one. And I mean, I also have lesbian and gay friends who don't accept any usage of this word, so by her logic, I could say my own "gay BFFs" opinions contradict her "pass".

My point is, her excuse seems absurd but when I try tell her that she comes out with "why are you getting so worked up, you're not a f*g" as if to mock me.

In your judgment, AITA or somewhat overbearing for this request, given the fact that I myself am not a member of the LGBT community?

Really expected 'the pass' to be her being a lesbian but weeeelp.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:04

FormaldehydeSon: Oct 1, 2011

Olanphonia posted:

How long is it going to take for this guy to realize he's not in a relationship anymore? The wedding?

quote:

Hi there, I haven't replied to any other comments on here because 9/10 just say she's cheating, which I don't believe she is.

The situation upset me because I would be asked not to come even when I was available and my friends wanted me to, meaning I would be sitting at home alone while my girlfriend hung out with my friend group.

I have spoken to her about it now, her initial reaction was that I'm sexist too, I find it quite sad that it comes across this way as I don't believe myself to be sexist nor do I "own" her. That's an extremely outdated idea.

The more we spoke about it she told me she didn't like me being there as I prevented her forming close relationships with people, as she doesn't know anyone apart from my friend group. I told her there's no problem with becoming close with my friends but excluding me from the group is not the way to go about it. She also apologised for how it must have looked to insist I don't come when they hang out 1 on 1.

I still feel a bit worried about it, because she doesn't attend college or have a job because of personal circumstance, so she's very isolated. It feels a bit like she's trying to push me away from the friend group so she can slot herself in. I know it sounds so jealous and controlling but I need my friends.

quote:

3 months ago
[20M] My girlfriend [19F] doesn't believe that being codependent is a bad thing

My girlfriend and I met at university and have been together for 9 months. We are still at university and have just started the new academic year. We spent the summer together in the university town as the lease to my rental property lasted over the summer, everyone else went home for the summer so it was just us for a while. During this time we spent every day together, and every night too. It was fun, we enjoy each others company and only worked about 3 days a week so we could have money to survive until our student loans came in. Because of this we didn't have very much responsibility and were able to spend lots of time together.

Now that the new year has started I have a lot less time on my hands, I do a very intensive degree course which has me on campus from 9am to 5pm pretty much every day of the week. This obviously means I have a lot less time for her, and I don't always want to spend the night at her house (Staying at mine together is not possible as I only have a small single bed). She doesn't seem to understand this no matter how many times I've explained it to her and insists that I have to spend the night with her every night as it makes her anxious when I'm not there. I've tried to tell her that for my own well being I need time alone and sometimes I need a night to myself, but she claims that I get enough time to myself during the day, I just feel like it's not the same. A few nights ago I told her I'm staying the night at mine as I didn't finish work until 11pm and I had to start uni at 9am the next morning, she complained but I stood my ground, and because of that she absolutely freaked out.

We've had conversations about this and I've been honest with her and told her that I think she's too dependent on me, she admits that she did over react and we've both apologized to each other for the situation. However, she doesn't agree with me that being dependent on me is bad, so she doesn't want to change it.

How do I tell her that the relationship is not sustainable if she's dependent on me, in a way that will make her understand?

TL;DR: My girlfriend is very clingy and definitely dependent on me, but refuses to see why that's a bad thing. How do I make it clear to her that it is?

then before that it's all comments on porn posts

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:06

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Play posted:

Just never ask where cumshitter keeps his walking-around money and we'll be good

Time spent walking around is time spent not at the business hole.

I imagine he's there late into early morning providing some kind of After-hours Securities Service.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:09

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

Tesseraction posted:

AITA for asking a friend not to use a slur, despite her "pass"?

Really expected 'the pass' to be her being a lesbian but weeeelp.

Has she even asked to see the pass to verify whether it's been properly validated at a credentialed business hole?

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:17

Tesseraction: Apr 5, 2009

gently caress Your Website posted:

Has she even asked to see the pass to verify whether it's been properly validated at a credentialed business hole?

Pretty much the top reply lol:

quote:

Her gay friends have said that they�re ok if she uses that word while she�s with them. It�s not an actual license like a drivers license...

You�re NTA here.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:19

opengl: Sep 16, 2010

Agrikk posted:

Indirectly related to this thread, but why do so many posts start with �posting from an alt account because ~reasons~�?

Why would anyone care if it is an alt account or not? Is there some kinda rule against posting with a new account on reddit?

For some reason this irritates me. That and �we�ll call him/her [x]�.

God this irritates me to no end. Nobody frigging cares why you made a throwaway.

And the fake name thing:

1. Just use fake names nobody will know you don't have to be all "tee-hee we'll call him Bubbles"
2. Half the time they never reference the name again in the post

I swear they just get conditioned to do this poo poo from so many other posts following the same template

While I'm at it, let's add "Fast forward".

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:20

Mozi: Apr 4, 2004; Forms change so fast
Time is moving past
Memory is smoke
Gonna get wider when I die; Nap Ghost

my BF john - let's call him tim [26m] - ...

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:24

avoid doorways: Jun 6, 2010; 'twas brillig; Gun Saliva

I'm [23F] in love with my married best friend [28M]

quote:

Throwaway because friends have my account info.

My best friend and I, we'll call him Mike, have been close friends since I was in my early teens. It became clear as I got older that my friend had very deep feelings for myself. To cut a (very) long story short, I was young and not sure how to navigate my feelings for him, and eventually stopped having such deep ties to him for a while, before we became close again. He stopped being so clear about his feelings for a while.

Fast forward 4 years into our friendship. We're still incredibly close, and he compliments me to the level a boyfriend may, and I do the same back. He got into a relationship with a wonderful woman, and married her.

Fast forward to today. They're still married, but my feelings have not gone away, and I am pretty sure his have not either. Their marriage has been incredibly difficult, and he regularly makes statements to me that make it very clear he still has deep feelings for me ("You are the best woman I've ever met", "you make me happy every time I see you", "your smile lights up my day, "I can't imagine what my life would be like without you", "you mean the world to me" - there are more). He has told me he loves me on multiple occasions, which has never been qualified as "as a friend". He also sent me a beautiful message for my birthday in April.

I have been in and out of relationships for years, but none of them seem to match the level of attraction and sincere love we have for each other. I cannot find anyone that I connect with as well as him. He matches my intelligence, we have the same values, the same humour, similar hobbies and interests. And we have undeniable chemistry. I currently have a boyfriend, and whilst I care about him deeply, he in no way matches Mike.

If I were in any other situation, I would have made a move. But because we met when I was young, and unable to completely comprehend the feelings I had for him, nothing happened. That is entirely my fault. He moved on, but he is not happy (as he has made abundantly clear).

I feel as if I should cut ties with him, but he is truly my best friend. He has been there for me through the worst and most difficult times of my life, has supported me to navigate mental health difficulties post child abuse, and much more. I feel that he is my ultimate match and I will never find a soul as beautiful as him.

What do I do?

TL;DR - Best friend since early teen years. It is clear we both have feelings for each other to this day, but because I did not realise I had them for a while, he married someone else. I have tried to find love elsewhere, but nobody else matches.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:30

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

gently caress Your Website posted:

Has she even asked to see the pass to verify whether it's been properly validated at a credentialed business hole?

She better, or else I foresee a tantrum hole

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:35

FilthyImp: Sep 30, 2002; Anime Deviant

Licarn posted:

I'm [23F] in love with my married best friend [28M]

They're going to hook up and it's going to become "hm.. he/she farts in their sleep. The magic is gone"

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:37

Tijuana-A-Go-Go: Aug 2, 2019; Doggles Aficionado

Kuros posted:

My (23f) boyfriend (29m) hates that I wear boxers to bed

UPDATE: texted and asked. He thinks it's "gay". As a bisexual woman I cannot see an alternative to breaking up right now.

Fellas is it gay to sleep in the same bed as your girlfriend?

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:37

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Tijuana-A-Go-Go posted:

Fellas is it gay to sleep in the same bed as your girlfriend?

Yes, and doubly so if either of you washes your rear end in the shower.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:39

Play: Apr 25, 2006; Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Licarn posted:

I'm [23F] in love with my married best friend [28M]

this is going to be a glorious trainwreck at some point. both of them have each other built up so much, mostly based off unresolved and residual emotions from adolescence (which is why the feeling is so strong), that I feel like even if they did end up blowing everything up to be together, it wouldn't end up working out.

Girl, claiming there is one person in this world who is the perfect fit is the height of idiocy. If you like this guy more than your current boyfriend, then dump your boyfriend, but this overromantic poo poo is nonsense

# ? Jan 21, 2020 20:40

OhAreThey: Oct 12, 2012; I like your nurse's uniform, guy.

quote:

Hey Captain Awkward.

I read some of your responses to other writers who had concerns about their partners� finances, and I feel like this is related but not quite the same.

I�m stressed about my boyfriend�s money management skills and how I can help him without getting myself into a bad financial situation. I also recognize that he�s probably embarrassed on top of being stressed, so I�m trying not to make him feel ashamed. He was raised below the poverty line and when he made it �big� in his industry, he was earning huge salaries, so I think he�s allowed himself to fully enjoy it. Now he�s unemployed but is still living a �huge salary� lifestyle.

About me: I�ve always lived pretty frugally. I�m kind of a prepper in some ways � I buy a lot of dried or bulk foods, and I park nearly a mile away from work and walk every day so I don�t have to buy a $400 annual parking pass, plus I get some exercise which is hard to come by in my 9-5 cubicle lifestyle. My mortgage is manageable, 90% of my furniture is thrifted (thank god eclectic/Boho decor is �in� right now), I pay my bills on time, I have a modest emergency savings, and I have excellent credit � with a little bit of revolving credit card debt. My house is my first home purchase, and in addition to receiving some assistance from my grandparents, I participated in a federally funded first-time home buyer program and saved for years to come up with the down payment. My house isn�t fancy, but I love it because it�s mine goddamnit, and after changing addresses every year for 18 years, I finally get to lay down some roots! I�ll hit my one-year anniversary of homeownership next week. Yay.

I do not typically seek out partners with tons of money. In fact, I�ve been known to date transient wildlife biologist types who briefly stay in the area to work for six months out of the year, and then squirrel their earnings away to get by the other six months. I just happened to fall in love with my BF who � up until last summer � was successful in his career, made a lot of money as a senior level designer with some recognizable household brands, and was promptly relieved of his duties the same week we met. He felt it was a blessing in disguise because he�s burned out on doing design for a living and wants to pursue his passion of selling rare European cars.

BF was earning a gratuitous salary last year, and while he lived within his means, said means were extravagant and now unsustainable: he owns two houses and has 7 cars (or 8? I actually don�t know anymore). Again, cars are his hobby/passion, as well as his side business, so some of this is to be expected. Two of them are �investment� items that will continue to appreciate in value, two are for driving, and the rest are �projects� that he plans to sell� but as you might imagine, this ties up a lot of capital in non-liquid assets.

BF is hemorrhaging money, but not cash, and is putting a lot of charges onto credit cards. He justifies this by saying that most entrepreneurs fund their businesses through credit. BF also owes his best friend a sizable amount for a recent generous loan which seems to have strained their friendship a little.

Three months ago, BF put his second house, which is in a popular resort town a few hours away from where we both live, on the market. He�s received multiple offers on the second house, but due to complications beyond his control, they continue to fall through, and so it remains on the market. BF was relying on the sale of this second house to kick-start the car business.

His monthly expenses (e.g. mortgages, private school tuition for his two kids, and commercial space for his new business) are over $5k. Not included are utilities, groceries, gasoline, health insurance, pet expenses, or anything else fun/recreational like an occasional meal out or outing to the nearby large city. BF has very little income right now except for infrequent freelance design work which he loathes and the car side hustle. Currently, he sells a car every 4-8 weeks and each sale results in a few thousand dollars. I in believe he�s receiving unemployment, but I�m not sure that he�ll qualify for much longer.

I told him he could sell his primary house and move into mine if he wanted. My mortgage is literally half the size of his, and if he paid HALF of my mortgage he�d still save $2k/month. However, he doesn�t want to sell his primary residence for a lot of (legitimate) reasons, and he wants to keep trying to sell the vacation home that�s been on the market for four months. OK, I get that� But right now, it�s just him and his dog occupying a 3,000 square foot space. He wants me to rent out rooms in my house and move in with him (I would contribute to his mortgage, which would only cover 25% of his monthly payment). I am considering it, but I�m also so happy to finally have a home of my own� it would make me sad to move out of my first home so soon.

I know he�s filed for bankruptcy once before, and he recently said he doesn�t want to do that again (he said it semi-jokingly, so I don�t know how much of a real possibility it is for him). He also told me early on that he thought I�d be a good influence on him as far as spending habits go. These were yellow-orange flags for me at the time. Now, he�s asking me to go with him to a cousin�s wedding on the absolute opposite side of the country in two months. We both have airline miles that will cover the trip, but it�s honestly not how I want to use those miles � the whole reason I got a credit card that gives airline miles is because he suggested I get one so we can travel overseas together this year. I wouldn�t have taken out a second line of credit if I didn�t think we weren�t going to use it for an *international* vacation. Plus, the wedding trip in two months becomes more expensive when you add up the other items that will not be covered: lodging, dining out for five days, hiring a pet sitter for our two dogs, rental car, etc. And I�m also just feeling less and less secure about out future together as the weeks roll by. Like what kind of message would I send to his family by attending this big family event if I�m not sure how into/secure I feel about the relationship by the time the wedding rolls around?

He has also half-joked about how I should have offered to pay for a recent ticket he got because he�s so broke. (He wouldn�t have received the ticket in the first place had he agreed for us to take my car that morning � which gets twice the MPGs � instead of his� but he insisted on taking his car. It apparently didn�t have a front license plate which resulted in a ticket.) The irony is that I almost offered to pay for it as a �sorry you�re broke, happy belated birthday� gift� but after he said that, I thought �NOPE. Nevermind; I don�t owe you poo poo.�

Let me preface that BF is the closest I�ve found to �my person�, if you get me � our connection, chemistry, and compatibility are mind bending. I�ve dated a lot of people in my day and never felt about them the way I do about him. I want to live with him at some point, get married, and maybe even have a child. How can I communicate my concerns to him without compounding his stress and sounding like a tightwad? (Also� Am I a tightwad? I�m starting to doubt myself and my saving habits�) And how do I support him without getting myself into a bad financial situation of my own? I don�t want to lose my savings, wreck my good credit, or be his cash cow, but I do want to be there for him in a way that empowers, not enables. I can see a future with him� so do I just sit tight through this rough spot and hope it all works out soon, or am I aboard a sinking ship and just don�t have the perspective to see it? Also, is there a way I can get out of attending this wedding?!

Should I financially support my BF who owns 2 houses and 7 (or is it 8?) cars?!

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:01

Ziv Zulander: Mar 24, 2017; ZZ for short

Tesseraction posted:

The two of us living in homocommunist Europe are protected from this, because there's laws for people in positions of authority or trust (teachers, carers, bosses). Sadly, like hell the US would pass something of that nature when their current president famously burst into the Miss Teen USA changing rooms to catch a glance of child boob and was good buds with Jeffrey Epstein.

Few pages late but I have some bad news about the president of france

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:08

ClamdestineBoyster: Aug 15, 2015; Can't post for 10 years!

Tijuana-A-Go-Go posted:

Fellas is it gay to sleep in the same bed as your girlfriend?

Only if she wears the boxers regular style instead of turning the piss flap to the back. :hmmyes:

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:12

ishikabibble: Jan 21, 2012

HMS Beagle posted:

AITA for insisting we keep the Xbox in our future baby�s nursery?

Throwaway account.

My longtime girlfriend (30F) and I (38M) are having a baby later this year. We live in a pretty small house with two bedrooms. One room is currently our bedroom, and the other is an office/gaming room. That has my xbox set up (desk, console, monitor, chair), as well as a couch, some office poo poo (printer, bookshelves, etc.), and my GF�s crafting stuff.

We started discussing the baby�s room today, and she is insisting that I set the Xbox up in our bedroom or the living room. I am firmly against this. I love my GF and am excited about this baby, but I don�t think i should have to give up my personal space for a baby who is going to be sleeping most of the time anyways. This is my one space that I have to call my own - 6 square feet. The baby wouldn�t know the difference anyways.

We can�t do the setup in our bedroom because I wouldn�t have space for my chair. And I don�t want it to be in the living room, because that�s too much of a shared living space. All I want is to maintain a little space for myself to do what I enjoy in peace. I don�t go out and party with the boys, I hold down a good job, I do my share around the house...is it too much to ask to keep my space to jam some games with my boys?

So AITA for digging my heels in and demanding that I get to keep my Xbox setup in the baby�s room?

The comments for this one are actually pretty amazing. Pretty much everyone is dunking on him for being a manchild, it's great.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:18

Entorwellian: Jun 30, 2006; ~~Northern Flicker~~
Anna's Hummingbird

Sorry, but the people have spoken.

teen witch posted:

She better, or else I foresee a tantrum hole

That business hole is nearly ice-cream cone shaped, coincidentally.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:23

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Entorwellian posted:

That business hole is nearly ice-cream cone shaped, coincidentally.

But can it fit two scoops of ice cream?

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:30

Kuros: Sep 13, 2010; Oh look, the consequences of my prior actions are finally catching up to me.

DemoneeHo posted:

But can it fit two scoops of ice cream?

Dunno, ask cumshitter if his business hole can fit two scoops of ice cream.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 21:41

Tesseraction: Apr 5, 2009

Ziv Zulander posted:

Few pages late but I have some bad news about the president of france

Yes I'm sad he's still alive too.

More seriously yes, he exploited the loopholes as I recall. Typical.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:16

SilvergunSuperman: Aug 7, 2010

Clitch posted:

Minecraft is a creative outlet

Nastyman posted:

also maybe don't sabotage other people's work

*circling of drain intensifies

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:20

purple death ray: Jul 28, 2007; me omw 2 steal ur girl

I dunno, if I built a big Lego city with a young relative and my girlfriend came up and tap danced all over it I'd have a lot of hard questions to ask myself about this relationship

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:24

Meme Poker Party: Sep 1, 2006; by Azathoth

SilvergunSuperman posted:

*circling of drain intensifies

Minecraft is a creative toilet.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:24

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

Does Jillian Michaels win if I lose weight?

quote:

I am fat. Despite this, I�m in mostly good health (just a little joint and muscle pain), and for the first time since I was young, I love my body! I�ve always been a big woman�now I�m just a little bigger. I�ve been joining some fat-positive and fat-liberation movements, because, you know, we deserve to have rights and be a part of life! But lately, my foot has been hurting, and even though I am on good terms with my body, I�m noticing certain physical pains that I don�t remember having when I weighed even just 100 pounds less. I think I would like to start trying to lose weight again (just without the fad diets, while exercising reasonably), just until I get comfortable.

Only � Jillian Michaels recently said some fatphobic thing about the singer Lizzo, and it puts into perspective again how vile people can be to fat people and still get away with it. (After all, The Biggest Loser is back AGAIN.) Am I betraying a worthy cause by losing weight? I love my fat self, but I want to be comfortable again. I know my body is my own, and I can be fat-positive as a fat person or as a thin person. I�m not even talking about getting thin, just losing some weight, but I feel like a fraud for even thinking about it. Should I stop following my fat-positive peers and take a step back while I�m losing weight? Am I a fraud?

"It's Jillian Michaels' fault I can't lose weight!! Also I am constantly uncomfortable and in pain but I'm worried what my HAES groups on insta will think!!"

Lady there are people with real problems in the world, come back when someone torches your Minecraft monument to Outlander.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:27

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

purple death ray posted:

I dunno, if I built a big Lego city with a young relative and my girlfriend came up and tap danced all over it I'd have a lot of hard questions to ask myself about this relationship

There was that guy who complained his wife wouldn't stop trying to play "jokes" in him by shocking him, up to plugging in an outlet with stripped wires and trying to touch him with it.

That maybe have been attempted murder, but people like that generally think destroying something or "minor" pain is ~hilarious~ and have no compunction about not doing it unless they see actual consequences.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:29

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

Another trivial non-problem that's solved by the complex task of "saying something, saying literally anything" but still worth it:

My friend gave me a painting

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A few weeks ago, I went to hang out with a friend of mine and we had dinner and chatted for most of the evening. While at their house, I noticed that they�d been working on a painting of two cats dressed up in military regalia (akin to one of those joke Renaissance-style pet paintings that you can buy online). They were making this painting for another friend, and I politely complimented their work before moving the conversation elsewhere.

Yesterday, out of the blue, I received a photo from this friend of a brand-new canvas with a painting of my own cat wearing Kylo Ren�s costume from Star Wars with a First Order symbol in the background. Prudie, I hate this painting. I hate that it�s my cat. I hate that it�s the First Order, the Star Wars analogue to Nazis. I hate that in the near future this painting will be in my possession. I hate everything about it. I wish I had never seen it.

I have absolutely no idea where this friend would have thought that this was a gift I wanted, since my compliment of their first painting was strictly along the lines of: �It looks nice. I bet your other friend will like it.� I am positive that I did not express a desire for a painting for myself, let alone one of my own cat. Since this friend has revealed themselves to be the kind of person to personally paint a custom Renaissance-style cat portrait and gift it to me at the mildest hint of polite interest, I�m worried that they are also the type of person to comment if I don�t hang the painting where they can see it the next time they visit.

What do I do? I would rather quit my job and move across the country and assume a new identity than hang this painting anywhere in my house, let alone in my living room or a common area. I equally dread the idea of having this friend confront me about not hanging up the painting.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:32

LethalGeek: Nov 4, 2009

gently caress Your Website posted:

Does Jillian Michaels win if I lose weight?

The Fat Thread lives!

I never tire of people who's lives are so loving empty that they've made being fat a whole identity that completely and utterly messes them up until it kills them. Plus that part of "ow my body hurts but FAT RULES" is some true broke brain poo poo that I can't ever quite get my head around. I get spite a whole lot but the complete inability to see that the only person their spite is hurting is themselves is ....I don't know. It's like reading posts from some aliens.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:32

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

But if she makes her life a little more comfortable while being nicer to her body, the fatophobes win!

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:34

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

gently caress Your Website posted:

Does Jillian Michaels win if I lose weight?

Oh just stay fat and die uncomfortably who cares. Eat more cheesy fries.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:39

An Actual Princess: Dec 23, 2006

SilvergunSuperman posted:

*circling of drain intensifies

you are a terrible loving poster

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:53

Sir DonkeyPunch: Mar 23, 2007; I didn't hear no bell

gently caress Your Website posted:

Another trivial non-problem that's solved by the complex task of "saying something, saying literally anything" but still worth it:

My friend gave me a painting

That painting sounds amazing

# ? Jan 21, 2020 22:58

limp_cheese: Sep 10, 2007; Nothing to see here. Move along.

gently caress Your Website posted:

Does Jillian Michaels win if I lose weight?

"I can still be fat-positive as a thin person." Lol this lady is delusional. The second she loses weight all her "friends" in the fat acceptance movement will call her a traitor and cut contact with her if they can't guilt her into putting all the weight back on and then some to make amends for her heresy. Doesn't matter how much she supports them staying fat or claims its only for health reasons.

# ? Jan 21, 2020 23:17

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hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

there are plenty of other insane clubs to join, CrossFit for example

# ? Jan 21, 2020 23:29

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