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Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

There was one where the woman had been an escort and did anal for clients but wouldn't do it for him. They broke up and she went back to doing anal for clients.

I can understand being annoyed by this one. Willing to do sex acts with strangers but not your partner is strange.

Also, I thought the running butthole thing was a joke. Funny how easy it is to get people to spread their legs for a meme.

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:15

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# ? Apr 27, 2024 17:03

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Smirking_Serpent posted:

is this better or worse than the challenge where guys dunk their balls into soy sauce to see if they can taste it?

Who wants soy flavored piss instead of regular piss anyway?

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:24

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Leon Einstein posted:

I can understand being annoyed by this one. Willing to do sex acts with strangers but not your partner is strange.

she didn't want to do anal with her clients, either

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:24

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

AITA For Going To Hooters?

I'm M23, my GF is f21 we've been together for 2 years now. Last month my boy and I really wanted wings and I remembered hearing that on Mondays hooters has AYCE wings and we were close by so we headed on over. The wings were really good and the service was good and they have the beer I like. I told my GF that I grabbed wings with my boy and told her I went to Hooters, she wasn't pleased and said its a sleazy place etc. Well I went again this past monday for the wings and told her and she was super pissed and said only douchebags and assholes go there and I'm a big one for going while having a GF especially after she told me not to go.

AITA?

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:27

muscles like this!: Jan 17, 2005

Going there once isn't an issue but going back again after the girlfriend expressed her opinion wasn't a great move.

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:41

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Hooters does not have "AYCE" wings much less edible wings, please do not lie to the reader

# ? Jan 25, 2020 23:58

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Barudak posted:

Hooters does not have "AYCE" wings much less edible wings, please do not lie to the reader

They do occasionally, but I can't attest to their edibility either way.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 00:26

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

muscles like this! posted:

Going there once isn't an issue but going back again after the girlfriend expressed her opinion wasn't a great move.

Like 95% of relationship issues it all stems from someone only caring about their own desires and feelings and treating the other person as an object to satiate their desires on.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 00:32

PHIZ KALIFA: Dec 21, 2011; #mood

Miserable Maid posted:

Why do people always say stuff like this? It never fools anyone

they aren't trying to fool other people, this is to help themselves cope with their own actions.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 00:38

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

If your go-to wing joint doesn't have an LED sign with something misspelled on it and they're not serving them out of trash bags you've already hosed up.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:10

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

tactlessbastard posted:

If your go-to wing joint doesn't have an LED sign with something misspelled on it and they're not serving them out of trash bags you've already hosed up.

We've got chains, pizza places, and Korean style wings. Korean are good, but they're not the wings I'm looking for.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:18

Trapick: Apr 17, 2006

poo poo I'd go to the shittiest place in the world for decent all you can eat wings, that never happens in my neck of the woods.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:20

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

How do I ( m22) get my gf (f30) to take her health seriously

quote:

We have been dating for almost a year, I am 22 (almost 23) and she just turned 30. The first time my lady and I "got busy", she put a "sex towel" on the bed. I thought it was funny and cute, but she did it the second time too, and the third, etc. Every time we do it, she puts down one or more towels. It isn't very sexy and so finally one time after I asked her why she was doing it, and she looked at me like I was nuts. "It's for when your stuff spills out of me, so I don't mess up my bed." (We don't use condoms) She showed me the towel, and sure enough, there were a bunch of my dudes in a puddle.

I don't have a lot of experience, and I ended up asking some friends of mine, confidentially, if they use a sex towel with their partners, and they said no, they don't, and that it shouldn't be spilling out of there like that. One of them is going to school to be a gynecologist and she said there might be something seriously wrong that needs to get looked at.

Obviously I didn't want to tell my gf that I talked about our sex life - I feel really crummy about that, but I really didn't have a frame of reference really? But I did tell her that I did some research and that what's going on there isn't normal, and she should make an appointment with her gynecologist. And she just started laughing about it. I've brought it up two more times since then, and every time she dismisses it or she gets kinda irritated with me. I try to show her how serious and concerned I am but that just seems to make it worse. I'm not a very good communicator, I stutter a lot and when I get nervous or embarrassed I smile compulsively, and I think maybe she thinks I'm kidding?

But I am not kidding. I love her and I am worried about her. I don't want her to have a cancer or anything up in there. We would like to have some babies (that's why no condoms), but I worry that the problems she's having in her area might cause complications that could endanger her life. How can I get her to take this part of her health seriously?

TL;DR: My girlfriend has something wrong medically in her gynecological region and refuses to see a doctor about it or take it seriously

quote:

UPDATE: So yeah, turns out I'm a dummy. :-) I just got off the phone with my friend that I mentioned who is going to school to become a gynecologist, who told me it could be a medical thing, and she said she was kidding around, and she thought I knew she was kidding. (I'm autistic so sometimes I don't read people very well.) Thanks to everyone who weighed in.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:30

Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

This guy never heard of the "wet spot"?

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:36

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

The biggest issue with almost all this poo poo is we live in a world where you can literally search for this poo poo online before you implode your relationship.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 01:58

snergle: Aug 3, 2013; A kind little mouse!

cumshitter posted:

Be a good son and go support your mother, rear end in a top hat.

this is the most in character thing you have ever said

Smirking_Serpent posted:

How should I talk to my longtime guy friend about his possibly-creepy behavior w/my daughter? (Or should I bring it up at all?)

big future estranged mom energy in this. hey this guy is inappropriate w/ my daughter but i just miss being his friend so much will turn into get over it he molested you 20 yrs ago how is that my fault

snergle fucked around with this message at 02:53 on Jan 26, 2020

# ? Jan 26, 2020 02:07

The_Franz: Aug 8, 2003

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling a friend they can watch something other than a PG movie?

Our little friend group, made up of mostly 18 year olds who are highschool seniors, has this one girl who refuses to watch anything unless it's PG and approved by her parents.

One day I was just having fun with my friends and suggested watching avengers for the movie night. I noticed she was giving me a terrible look as if I had a spider on my face. I asked her what was wrong and she said "that movie is way too inappropriate and you shouldn't watch it with or without me." I looked to her and said "look, not everyone here thinks watching a movie other than Barney is such a huge sin. Enjoy life and watch a GOOD movie for once." With a swift "humph" she then proceeded to walk out and not return.

Ever since then our group has been divided into the "fun ones" and "not so fun ones". Everyone from the "not so fun ones" hates me and thinks I'm a huge A-hole for being so rude. In fact they refuse to talk to me and scowl at me whenever I see them in the halls. It's gotten so bad that when I show up to our group's things, half of the people don't even show up. So AITA for this?

Edit: For those saying that I think that PG and G movies are automatically not good, I never said that. I do enjoy a fair share of Disney and PG movies but she won't even watch mandalorian or star wars...

The solution is to watch wholesome PG movies like Airplane, Logan�s Run and Sixteen Candles.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 02:19

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Top Gun was rated PG and im pretty sure will awaken something in that girl much more powerful than any horror film.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 02:28

avoid doorways: Jun 6, 2010; 'twas brillig; Gun Saliva

Just shows how smart her parents were to require she also get their approval

# ? Jan 26, 2020 02:40

Das Boo: Jun 9, 2011; There was a GHOST here.
It's gone now.

They should watch Watership Down. Rated PG and about god-fearing bunnies!

# ? Jan 26, 2020 02:49

BONGHITZ: Jan 1, 1970

sick soundtrack too

# ? Jan 26, 2020 03:03

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Better follow that up with Plague Dogs

# ? Jan 26, 2020 03:16

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

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# ? Jan 26, 2020 03:54

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

AITA Over Naming My Wife's and I's Second Child?

First off, we do have marriage counseling but we haven't been able to go in a while because scheduling is a nightmare and we disagreed about our last Counselor.

Now, my Wife and I had seperated for a year and change before deciding to reconcile, during the separation we both explored new "Avenues" of companionship. Now we've been back together for about 11 months and she is pregnant with our 2nd child (we had our first 5 years ago when shortly after we got married). She's not entirely happy with the names we decided on, and I'm flexible in that regard but going over names that she likes and wants to use is kind of a nightmare as most names I suggest are thrown away for one of two reasons: It's Overused and It's Stupid (Which I suppose is fair but it also discounts names I like such as Bruce or Logan or Thomas ect.). Last night she came up on a specific name (Andrew), which happens to be the name of one of her Booty Calls during our separation. I voiced a discomfort with the name and just asked "Really?" And she responded as having no problem with the name itself. After that I just went to bed, it was late and I didn't want to argue about it.

Am I the rear end in a top hat because I really wouldn't want to give our 2nd child the same name as some guy she had slept with while we were seperated or am I just over sensitive?

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:15

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA Over Naming My Wife's and I's Second Child?

Am I the rear end in a top hat because I really wouldn't want to give our 2nd child the same name as some guy she had slept with while we were seperated or am I just over sensitive?

Lol title / post combo.

What do the comments on this say?

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:18

Peaceful Anarchy: Sep 18, 2005; sXe
I am the math man.

MarcusSA posted:

What do the comments on this say?

NTA mostly, with a bit of ESH.

It led me to this relationships post where the OP is obviously an rear end in a top hat, though:

My mom wants me to change my baby's name because it reminds her too much of the man who killed her friends. She is now starting to shun him and only pay attention to my older child.

quote:

So my mom does have a legitimate reason for how she feels, I just don't know what to do about it.

To try and briefly summarize the trauma she experienced:

A little over 25 years ago, my mom had a coworker that was a little odd. The other employees were not very nice to him, so my mom, being who she is, befriended him since she felt bad for him. They would chat during work and take lunch breaks together as well. She was the only person who was friendly with him there.

One evening she was working her usual evening/closing shift. In the early part of the shift, this man, who we will call Henry, made a sexually suggestive comment to her. He had never done anything like this, and my mom was upset and walked away without saying anything. She decided she would no longer be friendly with him from then on out.

As it got much later into the night, my mom, Henry, and other coworkers were nearing the end of their duties. My mom told me that Henry came up to her and offered to finish her section for her so she could leave early, but she was angry at him still and told him no. He went away, but shortly came back. He offered again to finish for her so she could leave. This time, his behavior was strange and unnerved her. He seemed really insistent that he would take care of everything. She got so weirded out by it that she took him up on the offer and decided she just wanted to get out of there.

She thought it might be his way of trying to apologize, but he was actually sparing her life.

Unfortunately, after she left, he killed the remaining coworkers with a gun.

Obviously she was traumatized. She additionally had to deal with the police and the trial. From the few times she has talked about it with me, it is obvious she suffers from survivor's guilt. She has never been to therapy for this and she is most definitely not a therapy person. One of the employees that died she had worked/been close friends with for almost a decade. That person also had three young children. One of the employees was new and was just about to celebrate his 21st birthday. While they were working they were talking about his upcoming birthday plans. Just really sad and horrible all around.

But let me fast forward to how this is affecting us now.

A few months ago I gave birth to my second son. My first son is 6 years old. The name I gave to my baby does have similarities to Henry's name, but I never thought about it until she said it. I picked the fake name Henry so I could try to explain the similarity without using their real names. So think Henry vs. Henderson. My son's name has three syllables, but is pretty similar in the beginning. Another way I could try to explain it is like this: if killer's name was Abcad my son's name would be Acad(followed by third syllable). Sorry if that was too confusing.

My mom had a bit of a silent freak out at the hospital when she found out his name and left very quickly, everyone noticed. I had no clue why. Later she made some comments about not liking the name. Then she called me crying multiple times to ask me to change his name because it is too difficult for her and when she thinks about him she thinks about what happened. I genuinely feel bad for putting her in this position, but it was completely unintentional and I am not going to change his name. I picked his name because the meaning of it is very special to me after miscarriages and struggling to have him at all.

She is now beginning to shun him, it seems. She used to make regular visits to see my first son, but now those have decreased. When she is here she doesn't want to hold my baby and only pays attention to the 6 year old. Even he has started to pick up on her behavior so I need to figure out how to solve this with her as soon as I can. I will not have her treating my children unequally because of this, but want to avoid cutting off contact.

Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to let me know if you think I'm a jerk for not changing his name.

Edit: Well, obvious to me, not particularly obvious to the relationship advice posters, apparently, who all feel very sorry for the mother but mostly agree with OP that she needs to protect the child and not by changing their name.

Peaceful Anarchy fucked around with this message at 04:36 on Jan 26, 2020

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:31

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

NTA mostly, with a bit of ESH.

It led me to this relationships post where the OP is obviously an rear end in a top hat, though:

My mom wants me to change my baby's name because it reminds her too much of the man who killed her friends. She is now starting to shun him and only pay attention to my older child.

Ooof that�s a poo poo one. I dunno what I�d do but I�d probably strongly consider changing the kids name or you just have to cut the mom out of your life :shrug:

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:34

Peaceful Anarchy: Sep 18, 2005; sXe
I am the math man.

MarcusSA posted:

Ooof that�s a poo poo one. I dunno what I�d do but I�d probably strongly consider changing the kids name or you just have to cut the mom out of your life

Assuming you otherwise value your relationship with the mother why would you consider cutting her out when you could just change the baby's name?

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:37

avoid doorways: Jun 6, 2010; 'twas brillig; Gun Saliva

MarcusSA posted:

Lol title / post combo.

What do the comments on this say?

The comments say why the gently caress did you two idiots have another child

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:38

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

Assuming you otherwise value your relationship with the mother why would you consider cutting her out when you could just change the baby's name?

Yeah I agree I was just saying those are really the only two options.

It�s not really a matter of telling mom to just get over it because that�s a crazy traumatic experience.

Licarn posted:

The comments say why the gently caress did you two idiots have another child

Lol also this.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:41

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# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:42

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Peaceful Anarchy posted:

Assuming you otherwise value your relationship with the mother why would you consider cutting her out when you could just change the baby's name?

In fairness changing the baby's name isn't exactly easy itself, both in terms of having to go through the legal process and in telling everyone "hey, the baby's name is different now, NO REASON."

Maybe there's a middle name or nickname the baby could go by? Either way, not exactly an easy situation.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:48

DeadMansSuspenders: Jan 10, 2012; I wanna be your left hand man

My (M/47) wife (F/39) has kicked our daughter (F/19) out of my house while I am away on a business trip. Considering divorce.

quote:

My daughter called me at 1 AM this morning (my TZ) crying, telling me that my wife had forcibly removed her from the house. My understanding of the event is that they got into an argument, which escalated to the point that my wife demanded my daughter leave the house. As my daughter tells it, and I believe her, my wife threatened to call the police and have them kick her out if my daughter did not do it herself. My wife stood over her with the phone in her hand while my daughter quickly packed a small backpack and left. She left my daughter standing on the curb, with no money, as my lovely wife took the scissors to my daughter's card which is attached to our joint account. I had to get a friend of mine to pick my daughter up and loan her money for a hotel.

I've called my wife at least a dozen times since all of this occurred, and she only answered the first time. He only words were "I'm dong what's best for you and me", and hung up. It's obvious at this point that she is actively ignoring my subsequent calls.

This situation needs to be contextualized. My daughter started her first semester of college last fall. My daughter wanted to follow in my footsteps (but also, for lack of anything else she was interested in), and become an engineer. Now look, my daughter is extremely intelligent, but she is not academically gifted, and she is poor at mathematics. She is not cut out to be an engineer. Both my wife and I recognized this. My position was that there is no harm in her trying, and that there is no substitute for legitimate interest, which she seemed to have. My wife took the pessimistic view. She thought our daughter needed a dose of reality, and she gave it to her. At first kindly, then not so kindly. That caused a lot of friction between them, and if I'm being honest they have never been that close. My daughter resisted, and actually got really motivated to prove her wrong. I helped her get through a calculus textbook over the summer, and she started last fall taking classes to become an electrical engineer.

She gave it the ole' college try (pun intended) but it didn't work out. She was disappointed, and decided to not go back for the spring semester. She didn't know what she wanted to do, but my wife was furious when she told us. My wife started nagging my daughter to go back but she didn't. She needs time to figure out what she wants to do.

Things were fine, but about a month ago my wife "suggested" that we "motivate" our daughter by kicking her out. I told her politely, "not happening", a few times, but she kept bringing it up. Finally, a few days before my business trip, she brought it up really forcefully, and I responded by essentially saying "If I'm going to kick out anyone it's you. Now shut up and drop it." Yes, I now regret the phrasing, but at the time I didn't. She did seem to drop it for the last few days I was there, then, a week and a half later this happens.

I'm considering a divorce. This is unforgivable to me on so many levels. What she did to our daughter, when she did it, how she did it; every aspect of this decision is wrong, a breach of trust, and my authority. However I'm also one to allow for the fact that I'm fallible, so I'm looking for different views that might help me understand what on earth my wife could be thinking or why this could in any way be a justifiable thing to do.

EDIT: For clarity, my wife is my daughter's biological mother.

EDIT2: My wife and I have been married for 4 years.

tl;dr My wife unilaterally kicked my daughter out of my house while I'm away. She gave me a single line when I called and refuses to answer subsequent calls.

Is this a story where the engineer is not the rear end in a top hat?

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:50

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

My (M/47) wife (F/39) has kicked our daughter (F/19) out of my house while I am away on a business trip. Considering divorce.

Is this a story where the engineer is not the rear end in a top hat?

Plot twist the mother is also an engineer.

That second edit is lol.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:57

DeadMansSuspenders: Jan 10, 2012; I wanna be your left hand man

My fianc� (28M) wants me (27F) to give up my job so that he can pursue his dream for a 3rd time

quote:

My fianc� (let�s call him Adam) and I have been together for 6 years, engaged for 2 years. To complicate things, our wedding is in 2 weeks.

My husband played baseball in college. It was his dream to be a professional baseball player. He was able to play in the minors for a short period of time but was eventually cut. After this, he went to a foreign country to play for a few years. About a year and a half ago, he �retired,� moved back to the states, and got an office job.

In the meantime, I went to law school, graduated, passed the bar, and got a relatively high paying job. I like what I do and, while I don�t know if I want to do this forever, I have no plans of changing jobs anytime soon.

Yesterday, Adam told me that he was thinking about going to a different foreign country (with lower standards) to revive his baseball career. He wants me to come with him.

I did not react well, I�ll admit that. I laughed and asked if he was joking and, when it became clear that he wasn�t, got super pissed. I spent a lot of time and money building my career. I�m honestly insulted that he wants me to give it up.

He says that I could always take a few years off and come back to it when he finishes playing baseball. I argue that I won�t be a particularly desirable candidate to a law firm after taking years off of work. He says I could try to work as a consultant at a foreign firm or at an American firm�s office in that particular country. This would involve changing the area of law that I practice. I practice the type of law that I do because I like it and am good at it. I don�t know if I could be happy practicing in a different area or if I could even get a job with no experience.

He thinks I�m being unsupportive and has threatened to go regardless of whether I agree to come with. I think he�s being delusional. I know this is harsh and I would never say it like this to him but he tried this and failed twice. Why would he put himself through that again? If he doesn�t like his current job and wants to do something else, that�s fine. I will support a career change. But I will absolutely not give up my job to chase a dream that will likely never pan out. I know it�s his dream but most people don�t actually get to do their dream job. I feel like he needs to grow up.

I�m sorry if this comes off as insensitive. I am just so frustrated. I�m looking for any advice about how to tackle this problem. Do I let him go on his own? Do I put my foot down?

TL;DR: fianc� wants me to give up my job so that he can chase his dream career that he has already tried and failed at twice

# ? Jan 26, 2020 04:59

Bananaquiter: Aug 20, 2008; Ron's not here.

I want why they took so long to get married.

Edit: For the engineer husband not the baseball husband.

Bananaquiter fucked around with this message at 05:03 on Jan 26, 2020

# ? Jan 26, 2020 05:00

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Bananaquiter posted:

I want why they took so long to get married.

Yeah those two edits don�t really clear things up it just begs for more information.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 05:02

Eediot Jedi: Dec 25, 2007; This is where I begin to speculate what being a
man of my word costs me

darkwasthenight posted:

She has two twitter accounts because one is for her OnlyFans posts. It's not the first time she has posted her butthole on Twitter and you should get fine with it ASAP cause it won't be the last time and there's a non-zero chance she's earning more money than you.

OP posted:

So I was on Facebook yesterday when a relative linked a video of my daughter ...

# ? Jan 26, 2020 05:19

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

My (M/47) wife (F/39) has kicked our daughter (F/19) out of my house while I am away on a business trip. Considering divorce.

Is this a story where the engineer is not the rear end in a top hat?

The commentary on this one reveal something a lot more sinister at work. Mainly an rear end in a top hat engineer that took advantage of a young woman and is aiming to control his household like a tyrant.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 05:39

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# ? Apr 27, 2024 17:03

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

WIBTA for telling a girl she creeps me out after she got excited by my suffering?

I recently lost my girlfriend to a cerebral haemorrhage. I was offered time off from school but refused and went back to school the next day as I know it is what she would have wanted.

There has been lots of support from our (my girlfriend and I were in the same class) classmates but I have knuckled down and got on with stuff.

One girl has kept mentioning it though, she keeps saying how �attracted� (and yes she used that word) she is by my soldiering on through the grief. I was flattered the first few times but I feel enough is enough.

I don�t want to be too harsh though as I know she has gone through problems herself.

# ? Jan 26, 2020 06:26

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