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ad090 posted:My (20f) boyfriend (20m) hates that I go on "dates" my dad (45m) sets me up on Dad's kind of sleazy but honestly the job doesn't sound so bad. Kinda like working at a Hooters or something. Paying off school loans is probably a ton of money, right?
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 05:30 |
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# ? May 5, 2024 02:18 |
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Exposing her to a ton of entitled rich brats is only a matter of time before something goes bad.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 05:33 |
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Update about my dad's exotic meats obsessionquote:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ehvj9t/my_19f_dad_40s_m_has_an_obsession_with_buying/
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 05:42 |
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re: Date Girl, that is 100% pimping even if there's no sexual intercourse. Her pay is written off as a literal business expense by her fundraising father, like a bottle of wine would be. Boyfriend's both completely correct and within his rights to be upset about the arrangements. On a more generalized note, I wonder what it's like for sex workers when they date; if their partner's in the industry it's all fine, but if they're not how do they reconciliate that? I can't imagine finding a person outside of the industry who doesn't have hangups about it would be easy. Or do they just normally exit the job and find new income? I'm honestly curious.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 05:46 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Exposing her to a ton of entitled rich brats is only a matter of time before something goes bad. They aren't leaving the charity venue, though, right? Unless I missed something. Sounds like she's pretty good at drawing (and holding) boundaries. Maybe she is being pimped out, but as far as that type of work goes it doesn't sound bad. And she has concrete plans to stop as soon as it won't destroy her education. ETA: when I worked retail I put on a dumb outfit and was all overly-friendly and smiley with people to get them to spend money. Job's a job. I think her situation feels grosser because it's her dad and that makes it feel more personal than business--which is definitely the illusion he's pushing--but it really is just business. I wonder if her boyfriend would care if she was, like, a bartender who flirted for tips. artsy fartsy fucked around with this message at 06:14 on Feb 3, 2020 |
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ad090 posted:My (20f) boyfriend (20m) hates that I go on "dates" my dad (45m) sets me up on quote:My job pays less than a grand per month, despite me working 6pm til 2am 5 or 6 days a week Checking my math they're suggesting they work around 52 hours a week, a quick google suggests that you could throw a dart at a board of countries that pay in euros and find better overtime laws than the US but we'll go with the conservative over 40 hours at 50% bonus pay. This would indicate she was making post tax around 4 euros an hour. Dunno if that's normal but sounds p bad.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 06:24 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Checking my math they're suggesting they work around 52 hours a week, a quick google suggests that you could throw a dart at a board of countries that pay in euros and find better overtime laws than the US but we'll go with the conservative over 40 hours at 50% bonus pay. This would indicate she was making post tax around 4 euros an hour. Dunno if that's normal but sounds p bad. She lists prices in pounds so I assume England, where min wage is a bit over 8 pounds an hour. Do they also pay waitresses like crap with "you'll make it up in tips" BS?
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 06:53 |
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artsy fartsy posted:How long do you think it will take this idiot to destroy everything good in his life? Wait a moment: quote:I work an extremely busy job 100-120+ hours a week
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 07:07 |
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Kenshin posted:Wait a moment: Was just about to post this. I love it when Americans post ridiculous poo poo like "I work three full time jobs and study full time simultaneously you can't understand me!!!".
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 07:12 |
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Kenshin posted:Wait a moment: I was gonna comment on that but the rest of the post which was basically "her ex treated her like poo poo and I wish I could too" just led me too far away from the minutia.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 07:18 |
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My [38f] Husband [42m] was extremely rude to a former student [late 20's] and a casual friend of mine. Im mortified about it and not sure the best way to fix things. Okay, long story. I teach in the history department of a state university. I have alot of students, most of them are just filling a requirement and we don't really know each other all that well. But I get a few who I do really take to, and this individual was one of them. I'll call him Charlie. He was a dual major in education and history, and he was one of those students you see every now and then that makes you think "That one could do really well at this!" He did. He sailed through our program with flying colors and graduated early, and he now teaches social studies at the high school where my own kids will likely go one day. And we still have a professional relationship. He stops by campus every now and then to come by my office and chat about whatever he is teaching in his classes to share thoughts on it and refine his own lesson plans. I'm very flattered he thinks highly enough of me to do that, and it does make me feel quite confident that he will be teaching my own kids one day. He clearly takes his job very seriously and I'm glad to know him. So last night...my husband (another professor here at the University) and I were on campus catching up on things and decided to go eat at a big hotel at the end of the main street of our campus. It has decent food and a good bar so we were looking forward to it. When we pulled into the drive I saw Charlie come running out. Turns out he was working there as a valet. My husband recognized him as well. I was glad to see him and gave the sort of greeting you would expect for professional friends. My husband just looked at him and asked why he was working here. Charlie told us his wife is in graduate school so he works shifts down here on weekends just to get a little extra cash for them. I offered a little benign sympathy but my husband blurted out "Well I guess you should have stayed in school huh?" Charlie and I both looked at him because it seemed to come out of nowhere. My husband seemed unfazed, and carried on "Just saying, when your wife finishes grad school she probably wont have to be a valet on weekends." Charlie wasn't saying anything but seemed clearly offended. I just handed him the keys to the car so he'd have an excuse to walk away. As we went inside I told my husband "Well that was really rude!" My husband said something "Well he became a school teacher!" I was really shocked with how he was acting. My husband isnt normally an rear end like that. I asked what his deal was and he said something to the effect that maybe now Charlie will feel motivated to get a higher degree of his own. The whole conversation was pissing me off as this is a former student and a professional friend I have alot of respect for, and I really did not appreciate my husband talking about him like that. In the end we didnt see Charlie again but I left a big tip for him at the desk and we went home. The more I think about it the madder I am. My husband sees nothing wrong with his comments and it is maddening talking to him about it. Would it be worth sending Charlie an apology e mail or something? I'm horribly embarassed about what happened and I dont want to lose a beneficial professional relationship. How would you have liked an apology to look if you were in his place? tl;dr: My husband made some very rude comments to a friend and former student and I am very embarassed by it. What is the best way to fix it?
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 09:09 |
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Been my friend for over 2 years, I want to move to the next level, but does she?quote:I [34m] work with a girl [26f]. Shes been my close friend for about 2.5 years. I've always had a crush on her. Fairly certain she has always had a crush on me.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 09:18 |
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Lucrece posted:Been my friend for over 2 years, I want to move to the next level, but does she? Oh this is gonna end poorly.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 09:20 |
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It's gonna blossom into a beautiful restraining order.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 09:26 |
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Me (29) in Los Angeles, my girlfriend (22) who lives in Japan, I want to surprise her by me randomly showing up in her house in Japan. So I had a 3 month trip to Osaka, Japan last year from September to November and met a really beautiful girl there, actually met her on Instagram and decided to meet up for dinner and to drink and we just hit it off surprisingly well. We started to see each other a lot more those 3 months and she asked if she can be my girlfriend and I happily accepted because I wanted to be her boyfriend but was too scared to ask her... but she was a lot stronger than I was because she asked me instead. But anyways, after dating a few weeks, she wanted to introduce me to her parents and we all went out to eat and drink together and had an amazing time. I was able to go to her house a few times and just relax with her, in a real Japanese house, seeing how they live and the differences between that and of American living ways... Anyways... I came back to LA on November 30th of last year and I am really missing her. She has plans to come to LA in Summer and we can be together once again, we will drive all over America and even parts of Canada as well. But as I am laying on my bed watching TV and playing my Nintendo Switch... I am thinking about just randomly going to Japan and not even telling her, and randomly showing up in front of her house or some place that she always goes to... I can contact her parents so maybe they can help me plan it without telling their daughter... (by the way, her parents really like me a lot haha and we are on very good terms with each other) But sadly I don't have money to do that now... but it's something I think about a lot, seeing her beautiful face and her reaction when she sees me... we both miss each other a lot and we sometimes cry when we talk on the phone because our love is just so deep and so strong... her name is Satomi and she is just the most amazing girl I have ever met and I tell her every day that I will always be a lucky guy to find such an amazing and beautiful girl like her... my heart is very weak and I am an emotional person, being a guy... I randomly start crying when I talk to her on the phone just because I love her so very much, and she will immediately start to video call me to show me her face and says that everything will be okay and we will be together very soon, she is the one in our relationship that helps me when I feel sad, she is so strong and a very amazing emotional support for me... but anyways... My purpose of this post is to see what your reaction would be if you are in a long distance relationship, how would you feel if your boyfriend or girlfriend randomly showed up to your house or you were coming home from work and you get home, and your boyfriend or girlfriend is sitting right there on the sofa in your home, and you were not expecting anything... I think that is the most beautiful and definitely the best surprise ever... and nothing can top that surprise... I want to do that so much... and it makes me cry sometimes but this is one thing I can't tell because it will forever ruin the surprise if I can do that one day... which will probably never happen but still....anyways thank you for reading this post. TL;DR: I want to surprise my long distance relationship girlfriend in Japan and randomly show up and surprise her, me in flesh and bones right in front of her and she didn't expect a thing... if you were in a long distance relationship, and if they did that to you, how would you feel?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [38f] Husband [42m] was extremely rude to a former student [late 20's] and a casual friend of mine. Im mortified about it and not sure the best way to fix things. Please murder your loving husband. Teaching high school is a tiring, thankless task that is also absolutely essential to society. You are expected to be counselor, disciplinarian and educator (and if you are in the UK, first line of detection for extremist behaviour). An old lecturer of mine previously taught at that level and flat out stated that his PhD and later lecturer work were less stressful than his time teaching teenagers. gently caress that rear end in a top hat. Especially if they have kids
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 10:16 |
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I've never had my car valeted, but my instinct would be to be as nice to those guys as possible.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 10:19 |
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professor metis posted:[b]AITA for not letting a kid pat my dog? Even if you set aside the whole being bitten by a strange dog thing it's just polite to ask first.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 10:20 |
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Bruceski posted:She lists prices in pounds so I assume England, where min wage is a bit over 8 pounds an hour. Do they also pay waitresses like crap with "you'll make it up in tips" BS? Minimum wage for a 20 year old is 6 pounds an hour, not 8
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 10:29 |
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Bruceski posted:She lists prices in pounds so I assume England, where min wage is a bit over 8 pounds an hour. Do they also pay waitresses like crap with "you'll make it up in tips" BS? no, as far as I know minimum is minimum and outside apprentices you can't pay less but as the poster above says it's tiered by age (which is BULLSHIT, and I say that as someone in the highest bracket). For adults under 20 it's currently a little over £6, which with a standard ~40 hour week adds up to around a thousand a month
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 11:15 |
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All the best to the guy who is dating his favourite anime character.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 11:15 |
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Lucrece posted:Update about my dad's exotic meats obsession Sorry that your dad is going to die of viral pneumonia, OP, but at least he's just arrested for animal poaching or whatever and not what I thought he'd get busted for cannibalism
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 11:19 |
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Dad's into long pig, so what
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 11:22 |
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Dad is a Captain Planet villain, so what
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 11:26 |
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quote:WIBTA if I went no contact with my brother who said he doesn't love my child?
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 12:20 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [38f] Husband [42m] was extremely rude to a former student [late 20's] and a casual friend of mine. Im mortified about it and not sure the best way to fix things.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 12:25 |
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An incel who votes for Stein is a new one.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 12:26 |
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My husband (33,M) died 1 week ago. We (I am 32,F) have been separated for 6 months. His mother (50s,F) is pressuring me into pretending that we were together and not in the process of divorcing.quote:Sorry if this isn't super coherent. Life has been coming at me fast recently. My STB ex ("John") died last week. We had been legally separated for about 6 months and were actively in the process of getting divorced. We have a small child (9 mo,F).
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 12:29 |
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I'm surprised that the doctors went ahead with a vasectomy at 23 years old while he is single. Usually if you don't have a kid or are not married, its hard to get a vasectomy done.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 12:32 |
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Vasectomy guy might be poor. Governments are surprising Machiavellian regarding less-visible social policies. Where I live, if you're young, have kids, and are poor (pick 2 of 3), the gov will CHEERFULLY suggest and pay for a vasectomy. People who aren't such a big risk of creating filthy welfare-needing poors will be told to gently caress off and get their own in a private practice. It's not phrased as such of course, but the policies are upbeat and forthcoming about who they're aimed at.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [38f] Husband [42m] was extremely rude to a former student [late 20's] and a casual friend of mine. Im mortified about it and not sure the best way to fix things. Husband is a raging rear end in a top hat. I wouldn't be shocked if he made fun of history majors when his wife isn't around, either.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 14:17 |
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Kenshin posted:Wait a moment: I think it's safe to assume the Redditor doesn't shower
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 14:45 |
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Dienes posted:Husband is a raging rear end in a top hat. I bet they've never had that conversation but if pushed he would absolutely say her degree and life's work is meaningless since it isn't a STEM degree.
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Inceltown posted:An incel who votes for Stein is a new one. I got the impression that her brother has some undiagnosed autism. Although being on the spectrum and being an incel are not mutually exclusive. He could put a little more effort into being cordial towards his niece, but some people aren't ever going to like young kids, like this girl who knows what she wants: AITA for telling my little cousin she doesn't have to have kids? quote:So I was at my cousin's (27F) house and at some point she went to take a nap while I pmayed with her daughter, my little cousin, 6F. My little cousin, let's call her Mia, is kind of going through an "anxious" phase. She worries about a lot of things from adulthood for some reason. Today, it was having kids. She was telling me that she was so scared of having kids. Honestly it was kind of hard not to laugh as this little girl was explaining to me how much she finds kids annoying haha. We just got a new little cousin and she saw him not too long ago so that might be what sparked this anxiety, it's colicky baby and the constant crying left quite an impression on her. Then it took another turn as she told me that a classmate told her babies came out of your pee hole and that all girls had babies. So I tried to explain that babies had their own baby hole and didn't come out of your pee hole but I have no idea what s age appropriate to ewplain to 6yo so I kept it quite vague and elusive, and focused on telling her that not all girls have babies. I told her some girls can t have them, and some girls don't even want them ever, like me. I even told her you can adopt kids instead of making your own. I wasn't trying to convince her of anything, just telling her the reality, that babies aren't some kind of fatality that happens to all women.
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AITA for making my 14 year old brother walk home in the rain?quote:I'm 30, have quite a few siblings, i don't work on Mondays as i only work Tuesday to Fridays. My little brother (half brother to be exact, same dad, different mum) is normally a really nice, cool, collected guy - i've never had a problem with him.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 16:29 |
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Is It Crazy to Bring My Toddler on a Flight During the Coronavirus Outbreak?quote:Dear Care and Feeding, quote:Dear Selfish,
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 17:06 |
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r/relationships: Leave the kid. Take the canoli.
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 17:24 |
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for telling my little cousin she doesn't have to have kids?
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# ? Feb 3, 2020 17:37 |
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More little girls need to be told they don’t need to be babymakers and caretakers if they don’t want to.
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gloom posted:My partner is kinda doing this for her sister's step-daughter and I think it rules. Her sister's family lives in a rural area where a lot of girls and young women seem to get channeled towards having kids really young and giving up everything else. A lot of misery gets reproduced like that. It's important to let them know they have more options in life even if it isn't easy to follow through. Is the OP's cousin too young? Maybe, but the strength of the family's reaction kinda suggests they were already projecting those expectations on her, even if in "age-appropriate" ways, so the timing seems about right to me. I just don't get why anyone even cares. The girl is 6. The cousin allayed her fears by giving her some facts (not everyone wants or has kids, wow how terrible). Plenty of people don't want kids for ages until they grow older, some end up never wanting kids. This incident at 6 is probably not going to be the final factor in what this girl decides later on in life. (Nor should it even matter if she ends up wanting kids or not.) As for the rural flying lady, I agree she should just leave the 2 year old home. The amount of poo poo I remember from when I was 2 is nonexistent. Did I have fun playing with other 2 year olds? Sure, but I don't remember, so who the gently caress cares. I do think her husband saying they live in a rural area for a reason is definitely a buried lede that was picked up on.
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