Sjs00 posted:

Is that the lore or are you just making poo poo up

Rent-A-Cop posted:

This poor idiot is so immensely hosed.

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My friend is getting married to their partner. It has been super fast and they only met in October 2019. He recently told her that his work (hedge fund company) had to do a background check on her to see for any red flags. He produced a report that had her previous text messages and photos on it. They were of a private nature and were not shared on social media. He also had access to messages and photos from her ex's, all of which were personal.

A few questions:

Can a company legally do that? I have only heard of checks like that for government or intelligence roles.

Is he lying and has he actually hacked or had someone hack her phone?


Thanks for any help

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I don’t like my dad’s wife; we’ll call her “Terry.” She was our neighbor when I was young, and she and my dad had an affair and left their respective families for each other—it was very messy. It took a long time for my dad and I to rebuild our relationship, and then eventually Terry was reintroduced to me as his girlfriend (even though they were already married—which I discovered later on my own and which was also a mess). My dad passed away about six years ago and I have stayed in touch with his wife but only as much as I feel I have to. I keep her at arm’s length because she says hurtful, thoughtless things to me, but I also don’t want to cut her out of my life completely. I try to make time to see her around the holidays; I reach out on her birthday, on my dad’s birthday, on the anniversary of his passing, etc. My mom hasn’t seen this woman since they were neighbors—without going too far into it, my mom has really not let go of her deep hatred for this woman 25-plus years later (which is a whole separate issue for another time). Here’s the thing: I recently got engaged and we told Terry (mostly so that she wouldn’t find out via social media), but I can’t invite her to our wedding. Her presence would ruin my mom’s day and mine because she makes me so uncomfortable, and knowing how my mom’s family feels about her would make that anxiety even worse. I feel like I need to tell her that she won’t be invited but I don’t know how to do that nicely … is there such a way? Also she lives 800 miles away and I don’t have plans to go back there for a while, so this conversation will almost definitely be happening over the phone. Any advice you could provide would be appreciated.

A: I think not inviting Terry is well within your rights, but I also think you’ll need to accept that if you don’t, she may very well decide you have cut her out of your life, or at least that the terms upon which you’d like her to stay in it are unacceptable. So it will help to be realistic on that front. Do you think Terry is likely to assume she’s invited? Or does she seem to have a similar view of your relationship, namely that it’s a fairly perfunctory one? If it’s the latter, you may not need to say anything.

But if it’s the former, or if you worry she might start making travel plans otherwise, you have options. You can either offer her something plausibly deniable about how you’re keeping the wedding small (which, given her history of saying hurtful, thoughtless things, she may decide to challenge), or you can simply come out and say that you’ve decided not to invite her given her history with your mother and let the chips fall where they may. What you want to say to Terry isn’t nice; you can (and should!) say it politely, but there’s no gloss you can put over it that makes it anything other than what it is.

OhAreThey posted:

Also, most school nurses have pads available (and heating pads for cramps)--is the girl embarrassed to just tell the nurse she needs a pad? Seems like that embarrassment is worth getting over in order not to call her parents once a month.

Space Gopher posted:

It sucks that we live in a society where women are shamed for menstruation, and that adolescent girls have to deal with all kinds of horrifying social mind games that are connected to body-shame issues - but "she won't carry pads" still doesn't feel like a good reason to pull her out of school for half a day. This isn't some unique chronic illness; it's something that probably a quarter of the students in her grade have to deal with.

The dads here aren't assholes but they should probably buy her an opaque pencil pouch or makeup bag or something. Turning it into "you got your period at school, and of course you couldn't just carry pads, oh, the shame!" is not doing her any favors for the next few decades of her life.

Beachcomber posted:

It's not her blood. Her vagina is a portal to the period blood dimension.

Dazerbeams posted:

There are plenty of schools that regulate how frequently children can go to use the bathroom so it’s no surprise a girl is finding difficulties navigating her periods with any sort of privacy short of going home.

Sjs00 posted:

Is that the lore or are you just making poo poo up

Beachcomber posted:

The X-Mens Cyclops' percussive force beams come from an alternate universe of pure concentrated ruby-coloured force, lovingly called by fans and detractors "the punch dimension".

Play posted:

and if it doesn't require special ingredients that the delis don't already have, why would they think they're the first person to invent this sandwich?

and even if the delis do like his sandwich, what exactly is preventing them from simply making it themselves and not paying this idiot?

so many problems

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AITA For kicking my daughters BF because he disrespected me, my wife and our religion?


Now while I am not super religious, I still believe what I believe and it’s not something I blow off
This is a throwaway because I don’t need the drama with my wife potentially.
Now I am 40 and have a 18 year old daughter. She has a boyfriend who I think is a pretty ok guy. He’s made a few jokes sometimes but that was because he was genuinely trying to lighten up the mood.
So then my daughter thought it would be cool if he stays a few days so we all can bond a bit more. Which I thought was a wonderful idea because they have been dating for 6 months and while I knew him I didn’t really know him.
So when he gets There I smile and welcome him and we all take a sit in the living room. I give him a few requests that he doesn’t have s*x, that he try’s not to cuss and that he respects and try’s to participate with our religion ( we have family worship in the morning and I just want him to be there and just listen or pray at dinner to bless the food)
However he said “I ain’t got no f**king problem with that!” He instantly covers his mouth says sorry and that he’ll grab the soap. I laugh it off and ask him to try not to do it again.
That must have gone in one ear and out the other. Because he would cuss all the time, he was trying to bang my daughter but i interrupted as I knocked on the door asking if they were hungry. I repeatedly asked him to remember my requests to which he would apologise and say sorry it won’t happen again
But the straw that broke the camels back was when my wife asked to him to bless the food to which he said “F**k NO!” I was kinda baffled but I realised he might not be comfortable so I said “ok that’s fine I’ll say it” he told me “wait I’ll say it”
This is what he said
“Dear MR bh in the sky! Thank you for ping the rain and sting the dirt so we can fing eat! God bless my rear end. Amen”
I stood up and asked him to get in the car I’m taking him home. My daughter went from laughing to saying “WTF DAD?!”
After some father to boyfriend talk I dropped him home and came back pissed. I told her that if he wants to see you in my house or if you want money to see him again. I want a sincere apology face to face. He wrote one to my face book and I told him. Not good enough you have to say it to me and my wife in person
Daughter says I’m over reacting and that I’m an A-Hole for my over protective behaviour.
Reddit help me out here. Am I the antagonist?
I would like to make an edit. People have been saying that I shouldn’t force it and I understand that. However I should mention that he blessed the food once before (while not at the present stay) he has done it before so that’s why we asked.

Inspector Gesicht posted:

The above layer is coated with cheddar.

Tesseraction posted:

A while back I remember seeing a "would you rather have your period or be in heat instead" discussion and when I posted it in goon discord they were all trying to decode what it meant and assumed that women get really cold during periods.

Leon Einstein posted:

CannonFodder posted:

Of course women would get cold during their period. Their body temperature life force is draining out of their hoohah taking that heat from inside to outside. This lowers the internal temperature of the woman. It's basic science.




I feel like I made myself dumber writing that.

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OK so will try to keep this short.

I have been dating my fiance for arround 2 years. Engaged for 1. Before me he was with his ex for nearly 10 years ( they were high-school sweat hearts and dated till their 20is).

It's no secret that his family likes her more then they do me. Whatever. But recently something happened that has me livid. His grandma died and ofcourse she left inheritance behind. When we arrived to the will reading she was there. OK no biggie. She got a chunk of her money which rubbed me the wrong way but what took the cake is her getting his grandma's former engagement ring. I felt so disrespected. Specially because he seemed unfaced. He didn't even blink. I was floored. She also didn't have the decency to decline the item out of respect. She just took it. I waited till we where home and asked him why he didn't say anything. He said it was his gramies will and that it didn't matter either ways. The way I see it is that he is still letting his ex run the show and let her trampel all over me. We got in a fight and I said I have to rethink our marriage. Am I really on the wrong here?

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INFO: Do they have children together?

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1 daughter only

CannonFodder posted:

Of course women would get cold during their period. Their body temperature life force is draining out of their hoohah taking that heat from inside to outside. This lowers the internal temperature of the woman. It's basic science.




I feel like I made myself dumber writing that.

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This is not a shitpost I swear.

My dad is English, I’m English, but he fell in love with an American lady and he moved to the states a few years ago.

I have no relationship with my stepmother but I absolutely love my stepsiblings and we have a loving riot everytime we meet up. So I usually go over to see them and my dad. We are all adults in our early 30’s.

My stepmum is one of those people who is almost stereotypically American- she bleeds red white and blue. Everything the English have the Americans can do better. They are bigger better stronger faster etc. That’s fine, I’m not in a pissing contest, but she will get really angry if I compare stuff. For example I think American chocolate tastes like shite. My step siblings agree with me because they visited me on holiday to the UK and they prefer the taste of UK chocolate.

My dad and I love a fry up and he was making me and my stepsiblings bacon. This was with American bacon because English bacon is non existent in the USA. I have a laugh with my dad and one of the things he misses is real bacon. I said to him ah I can’t believe we’re eating this shite. My stepmum was sat there and snapped that I don’t know what I’m talking about and this is how ‘real Americans’ have their bacon. I laughed and said you’re welcome to it, it’s nothing like English bacon and that’s far superior.

Now my stepsibs were also seated and started laughing (as was I, because up to this point I was being lighthearted) and said ‘yeah mum actually it’s pretty decent omg remember when we went to x and had that bacon butty’- she walked away without a word. It transpired I’d pissed her off, and my dad told me off about it afterwards because apparently I hurt her feelings, and apparently I’m influencing my stepsibs to disrespect her (??)

Think the whole thing is a bit weird tbh.

Leon Einstein posted:

FormaldehydeSon posted:

Lasagna is bottom tier trash food so it really doesn't matter if you like it with eggs or cream or whatever, hth.

AITA for telling my step mum that American bacon is shite compared to real English bacon?

Chomp8645 posted:

Is this a serious post.


It's hard to tell sometimes.

Leon Einstein posted:

I give him a few requests that he doesn’t have s*x, that he try’s not to cuss and that he respects and try’s to participate with our religion ( we have family worship in the morning and I just want him to be there and just listen or pray at dinner to bless the food)

Total Meatlove posted:

This is bait on bait on bait

Leon Einstein posted:

Total Meatlove posted:

This is bait on bait on bait

empty sea posted:

I've never had too much lasagna in my loving life except when I was a kid because my family did the cottage cheese thing and man, did my stepmom load that fucker up with cottage cheese. It was probably half cottage cheese and so loving gross. Just store brand sauce and noodles, cheap ground beef swimming in an ocean of cottage cheese curds. You know drat well she didn't season it, either.

Fenarisk posted:

This is from a page or two back, but most schools around here give no time between classes. I assist with posture and body mechanics education at schools nearby, and most kids age 12 and up are carrying around backpacks of 30+ pounds. For a lot that's like 25% bodyweight in a lovely backpack.

The amount of neck and back issues we see in 13 year olds is getting worse than boomers with desk jobs which is awful.

Inspector Gesicht posted:

I live in Irish food regulations, not the US, so our dairy is real and not Velveeta.

Platystemon posted:

TIFU by making my wife think I’d killed myselfS (self.tifu)

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for going on the bachelorette without the bride?

Leon Einstein posted:

“Dear MR bh in the sky! Thank you for ping the rain and sting the dirt so we can fing eat! God bless my rear end. Amen”

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for insisting my fiance contest the will after his ex girlfriend got part of the inheritance specially now that our wedding is comming up?


OP left out some vital info:

FormaldehydeSon posted:

Lasagna is bottom tier trash food so it really doesn't matter if you like it with eggs or cream or whatever, hth.

AITA for telling my step mum that American bacon is shite compared to real English bacon?

Neito posted:

Bringing back LasagnaChat for a second, I can tell you that there is such a thing as too much lasagna: when your mom makes it by the crockpotful and never bothers to brown the cheese, or drain out the extra water, or brown the beef.

Play posted:

I like how he thinks that there's "UK Chocolate" and "American Chocolate" rather than "Countless Different Brands from Countless Different Countries Which Are All Part Of The Same International Chocolate Trade".

Hobo Clown posted:

Dad is a little strict and the prayer time is whatever but that kid wasn't even trying to be respectful. You're 18 and visiting your girlfriend's parents, you gotta at least make an attempt to pretend you aren't a shithead for a single meal so that they trust you and their daughter enough to not cause a problem. "Rub a dub dub thanks for the grub lololol", yeah I probably would've driven him home too.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

Why does it matter? If she's doing well and it has no effect on her life outside of it bothering the nurse bc 'omg attendance record!!', gently caress it. It's super common for girls to have periods where their bodies feel bad enough they need to go home once a month. life isn't about trying to be cal ripkin.