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Smirking_Serpent posted:NSFW How do I handle a female friend (30's/F) who won't stop hitting on me (26/F) Is there a lesbian version of Grindr? Lickr?
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Beachcomber posted:Is there a lesbian version of Grindr? Lickr? Scissr.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 07:29 |
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please knock Mom! posted:Who cares, a 25 year old should be pulling weight at home, not being dead weight
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 07:37 |
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PancakeTransmission posted:Failsons should be thrown to the wolves and made to prove they can actually hold a real job etc, before being allowed to inherit anything or live at home for free Counterpoint: You can establish a trust that pays an income sufficient to sustain your son's lifestyle, but only if he is continually enrolled in a college and maintains a B average or higher in gender and sexuality studies. A professional trustee must be given access to child's student login to ascertain that this standard is being met. The Trust can be similar to what's called a Life Estate, where the son receives income for life with the remainder interest transferring to a charity for LGBTQ youth upon his death. The dad could even receive a charitable deduction for the Present Interest the year it's created, and carry whatever remains over for the next 5 years if his Adjusted Gross Income isn't high enough to take all of the deduction within the first year. Everyone wins!
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 07:42 |
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PancakeTransmission posted:Failsons should be thrown to the wolves and made to prove they can actually hold a real job etc, before being allowed to inherit anything or live at home for free TBH, if fighting wolves was an option I think I'd do that.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 07:46 |
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Non-Romantic: Should I [35m] provide financial assistance to my parents [59f and 60m] who disinherited me?quote:I [35m] have a mom [59f] and dad [60m] who are married and two younger brothers [32m and 30m]. Until 2005, I considered my relationship with all of them to be great.
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quote:It wasn’t about the money; it was about the treatment and the lack of equal dignity I was being afforded.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:03 |
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Miss posted:Non-Romantic: Should I [35m] provide financial assistance to my parents [59f and 60m] who disinherited me? This guy sounds like he's channeling his strongest boomer impression but if you check the thread where people asked p much every clarification question you could think of honestly the parents come across real bad and you kinda circle back around to agreeing with him.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:21 |
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ArbitraryC posted:This guy sounds like he's channeling his strongest boomer impression but if you check the thread where people asked p much every clarification question you could think of honestly the parents come across real bad and you kinda circle back around to agreeing with him. I wanted to give the thread a chance to judge without the clarifications. I could've put it in a spoiler in my first post but I know y'all cheat on spoilers (I cheat on spoilers) quote:QUESTIONS ANSWERED
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:25 |
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Miss posted:I wanted to give the thread a chance to judge without the clarifications. I could've put it in a spoiler in my first post but I know y'all cheat on spoilers (I cheat on spoilers) Sorry for giving it away haha. In the comments it gets even more clear cause it kinda sounds like OP was the notably older sibling of 3 and left/got kicked out of the household at 17 and didn't get much/any support while his brothers stayed there well into their 20's. Whole picture kinda comes together as he was an unexpected/unwanted child and the parents bonded much more strongly with his siblings.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:33 |
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AITA For Refusing To Refund People Who Didn't Buy Insurance Due To Coronavirus? I'm a travel agent. I live and die by people trusting me to plan their dream vavations. My company always offers to insure vacations for a modest fee but most people click through thinking they'll never need to cancel. For whatever reason I'm particularly known in my town for organizing trips to a certain region of the world that recently had a spoke in Coronavirus / COVID19 cases. Unsurprisingly a bunch of folks have called me up asking for refunds. I've gladly refunded all those who paid for the insurance but told everyone else they're out of luck since their flights and accomodations are still usable. (Obviously if flights get cancelled it's a different story) I thought this would be straightforwars but I've been repeatedly accosted on the street by people telling me I'm greedy and trying to either take their money or get their families sick. I didnt think I did anything wrong — it's what they agreed to when they paid for the trips — but after hearing from practically half the neighborhood I'm not so sure. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:34 |
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Miss posted:Non-Romantic: Should I [35m] provide financial assistance to my parents [59f and 60m] who disinherited me? Parents are landlords. Let them bootstrap themselves.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:39 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For Refusing To Refund People Who Didn't Buy Insurance Due To Coronavirus? Nta, they're choosing not to go.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:40 |
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My [26m] parents [50s m&f] took my childhood from me along with thousands of dollars. Haven't heard from them in 5 years and now they want to apologize...quote:Avid redditor, using a throwaway since friends know my main and I am beyond pissed off right now.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:54 |
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Miss posted:I wanted to give the thread a chance to judge without the clarifications. I could've put it in a spoiler in my first post but I know y'all cheat on spoilers (I cheat on spoilers) Man, I thought it was just financial support they weren't giving him and was on the parents' side (though they could've approached it better) until that update.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:56 |
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Parents want to be involved with the grandchildren. That is the only reason they're reaching out now.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 08:59 |
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drat, both sets of parents in those stories suck. The second set moreso though. Essentially living off your teen daughters' minimum wage income - better make sure they drop out of school so they can work more! Ugh. ^yeah that guy nailed it, I'm sure.
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Inceltown posted:Parents want to be involved with the grandchildren. That is the only reason they're reaching out now. now, now. they could just want more money
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 09:08 |
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My [23F] boyfriend's [24M] mother [50sF] attacked my twin sister because she thought she's me & I'm cheating. Refuses to apologize.quote:I have an identical twin sister Jessi and we look very much alike. There are small differences but only those who know both of us can recognize them.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 09:09 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:now, now. For the church! Honest!
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My [23F] boyfriend's [24M] mother [50sF] attacked my twin sister because she thought she's me & I'm cheating. Refuses to apologize. Assault with witnesses.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 09:14 |
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The most hosed up thing about the modern day is how everyone practices Gavelkind inheritance.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 09:28 |
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Jack2142 posted:The most hosed up thing about the modern day is how everyone practices Gavelkind inheritance. AITA For Adopting Agnatic-Cognatic Primogeniture???
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 09:40 |
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My Partner is a Dirty Person I’m 26F, he’s 28M, and we have a two year old together. We’ve been together close to three years now. He’s my best friend, and I wouldn’t want to trade him for anyone, but I’m seriously at my wits end with him. We both work full time, and I’m in school full time. I also have the majority of our housekeeping and day-to-day life on my shoulders. I do all of the cooking, basically all of the cleaning, all of the shopping, and all of the driving the baby to and from daycare (I have the more reliable car and it works with my schedule, so it’s not an option for us to share but it’s still one more thing on my plate). He gets upset if I don’t lay down with the baby half the time (kid has anxiety issues and can’t just be told to go to bed yet) so I also do that every other night. I make and have to remember all of our appointments. I have to make sure all of our things are in working order — I found out recently that he was driving around in the dark with two dead headlights and no power steering fluid because he couldn’t be bothered to do anything about it. During weeks where I'm really on top of it, I'm working from sun-up to sun-down with no breaks to keep everything done. He takes the trash down when it really piles up, and will do maybe a load of laundry a week if I really nag him about it (if it gets folded/hung afterwards, it’s because I did it). The only room he’ll clean without being asked is the front room, and that’s only because that’s where he is 98% of the time. Sometimes he’ll be nice and do a load of dishes for me, but otherwise he can’t be bothered to do even simple things without being asked. I fell asleep last night while folding laundry, and instead of putting the clothes away for me (a couple handfuls, not even a lot) he allowed the baby to climb on them and rip them apart. I got to redo everything when I woke up. He has a list of excuses and reasons for not being helpful. “You didn’t ask me,” “You’re nagging me too much,” “I don’t want to clean around other people,” “I’m tired,” “I worked all day and I want to relax,” “It’s my weekend and I want to relax,” “my side hurts” (he has a hernia that causes him pain sometimes), “I don’t feel good,” “I will in a little bit.” Nothing motivates him. He can live in total squalor and be fine with it. Recently he's started to help a little (still not a anything substantial) when I get an attitude about it, but only because he knows I'll be in a bitchy mood the rest of the day if he doesn't. I don't want to be that person. I don't want to have to be bitchy get get help. What makes it even worse is that he can be DISGUSTING. He’ll pee in empty water bottles while in the bathtub and leave them on the ground once he’s done. He’ll stand in the shower and pee across to the toilet, leaving dried pee all over everything in between. When he shaves, he leaves his beard clippings in the sink and all over the counter. I was working on our sink full of dishes yesterday and realized to my absolute horror that he’s been hocking loogies INTO THE DISHES FILLED SINK. He said “he figured they were going down the drain.” He’ll stick boogers to the walls and leave them there. He’ll grab clothes to use as cum rags instead of wipes or toilet paper, so I always have to check our clothes before we wear them. So on top of basically having to keep the household functioning by myself, I have to clean up after poo poo like this. I'm just so tired. I've tried to talk to him about how much it all is on one person, but nothing ever changes. I've considered hiring someone to clean once a week to help me keep caught up but he refuses to let a stranger into our house to touch our stuff. I've considered setting up a cleaning chart, but I feel like that's infantilizing and probably wouldn't work anyway. What the hell do I do? How do I make him realize how much this is on one person? I just can't live like this anymore. Edit: I stay on top of the grossness, so my kid never has to deal with it or see it. Please stop insinuating that I’m a bad mom or let my kid live in squalor. The reason I’m exhausted and burned out is because I’m constantly cleaning this all up. My partner really does have redeeming qualities, and it hasn’t always been this bad/gross. I wouldn’t have moved in with him or had a kid with him if I knew how things were going to end up. I don’t have a strong support system, so leaving him/moving out/making him move out really aren’t options.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 10:34 |
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murder the husband
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 10:46 |
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I'm really curious what his redeeming qualities are that they outweight THIS.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:05 |
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why do all these posts include the line 'he's my best friend' like goddamn these women must have really terrible friends if this is their best one
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:09 |
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it's just a few lil piss bottles and cum in my nice dress shirts, he's really a nice husband, really
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It was a super pretentious way to put it, but I'm kind of with the poster on that one, honestly. There's more to an inheritance than the raw monetary value, and that's something a lot of people tend to forget. When my grandmother died, my abusive grandfather spitefully threw away everything she owned. The only things that were saved were the tiny scraps of jewelry that my mother and her sisters managed to "salvage" before he could get to them. They weren't upset because of any potential money, but because a lot of that stuff had sentimental value. Maybe the reddit poster is a jackwad who only cares about money, but if my parents cut me out of their will entirely because I was "rich enough" and wouldn't even leave me important sentimental garbage - forget any actual money involved - I'd be pretty broken up about it too. Power Khan posted:I'm really curious what his redeeming qualities are that they outweight THIS. The fact that they've been together for three years and have a two year old really makes it sound like they're mostly together because whoops a baby happened.
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Power Khan posted:Edit: I stay on top of the grossness, so my kid never has to deal with it or see it. Please stop insinuating that I’m a bad mom or let my kid live in squalor. The reason I’m exhausted and burned out is because I’m constantly cleaning this all up. Lol so many redditors are such flaming bags of poo poo falling over themselves to make women the rear end in a top hat regardless of anything.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:14 |
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Sjs00 posted:why do all these posts include the line 'he's my best friend' like goddamn these women must have really terrible friends if this is their best one correct this is an age of high alienation and loneliness there's a recent statistic that said 22% of millenials polled described themselves as having no friends stands to reason that among the 78% that remain, a share of them are probably settling for some lousy choices
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:15 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:correct on the one hand that sounds very believable and on the other hand i have never once been 'polled' in my 24 years of life 'polls' are something I've never understood and just sound like believable, but made up bullshit
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:19 |
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There seems to be a pattern of "is currently dating me" being a massive redeeming quality because people are: 1. Terrified of being alone 2. Convinced no one else would want to be with them 2a. Staying with a literal or figurative garbage person cannot be good for anyone's self-esteem, reinforcing point 2 3. Convinced that all relationships are rife with terrible "compromises" 3a. There seem to be some good eggs on r/relationships that actually give solid advice, but if you're on there, it means you've got a straight hose to all the other terrible relationships people are in and don't see a lot of healthy relationships or have people in your life who are better equipped to give you the straight business
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:19 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:correct That is so loving sad
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:33 |
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Nice piece of fish posted:That is so loving sad I learned young: Better no friends than ones whose friendship is harmful to you, even if your options are limited. I was much happier once I learned that, honest.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:37 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:correct So youre telling me 10% of men are having 90% of the friends?
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 11:41 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:correct Late stage capitalism looking out for us. Try making friends while you're ground to fine powder
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 12:47 |
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Miss posted:Non-Romantic: Should I [35m] provide financial assistance to my parents [59f and 60m] who disinherited me? NTA and anyone who needed additional information to come to this conclusion is either a massive pushover or very smooth in the brain. Actions have consequences. Writing your kid out of your will means you're burning a bridge, don't get mad when people you've disowned disown you in turn.
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# ? Feb 24, 2020 12:52 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not letting my sister babysit my daughter in her house because she lives in a polyamory-based “love house”? The love shack is a little old place where We can get together Love shack baby
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I don't understand why he would think that peeing into the toilet from the shower was somehow better than just peeing in the shower if he didn't want to get out
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