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pentyne posted:Things like this on reddit make me go "geez it's like there are no healthy relationships anymore" then I remember those people probably talk and communicate with each other to resolve problems and don't try and crowdsource advice. Pretty much. Anyone who has better channels to figure things out do not end up asking on a public forum where they inevitably reveal either themselves or their nearby relations (partners or family) to be some level of sectionable.
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Here's a good one that makes you angry from the title but then... AITA for going to the gym during "women's hour"? quote:I recently moved into this particular apartment complex because its a lot closer to my work and it has a pretty spectacular gym. The gym fees are built into my monthly rent payment, about $40 and is optional. I elected to pay it because I'm an avid gym-goer. I've been going to the gym at my usual time of around 6:30ish and at first I was oblivious to the fact that during the times that I go, its all women - who usually give me pretty dirty looks but I thought nothing of it. I made a friend in my complex and when she saw me at the gym she was super surprised to see me. Unbeknownst to me, there is a women's hour every weekday from 6p-9p. Now look. I know that us dudes can be big creeps and it can be annoying for a woman to try to get off a workout in peace. But I think that 3 hours is far too excessive. I ended up leaving that day to keep the peace though.
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Feb 28, 2020 16:55
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Three hours every weekday during peak gym time does seem excessive.
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Feb 28, 2020 16:57
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Ghost Leviathan posted:It depends, my dad's 40th was a big party, albeit I mostly remember playing cricket at midnight when he was drunk and I (10) was leading him to each wicket. Also when I got hit in the back of the head by a wine cork while playing pinball. It was a fun night. Oh I mean sure you can have fun with it but I was minorly dreading* thirty and I am very much not ready for 40. Got most of a decade to figure it out mind you. *not massively just kinda that part where you go "gently caress, I'm no longer young"
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Feb 28, 2020 16:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Am I just a sexual object to my boyfriend?
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Feb 28, 2020 16:59
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Tesseraction posted:And worse is that I'm pretty sure 40 is the multiple of ten no-one wants to celebrate because it's their first "oh gently caress I'm really getting old" milestone. Welcome to being 40: here's your reading glasses because you already have or will soon get presbyopia. Also here is a flashlight because you're going to need twice as much light to see half as well soon.
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Feb 28, 2020 16:59
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zakharov posted:Three hours every weekday during peak gym time does seem excessive. Plus it's not an official gym policy. It's the residents saying, "This is now ladies only time." and attempting to enforce it.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:01
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Birthdays generally take on a very different tone depending on whether you have a family to celebrate them with. Yeah but this isn't about celebrating his birthday. It's about making sure he gets a present! And it has to be the right present! And if he has to tell you what to get him then it's not a surprise anymore so it doesn't count! And everyone has to each get him something because it's not fair just putting someone else's name on it!
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Feb 28, 2020 17:01
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zakharov posted:Three hours every weekday during peak gym time does seem excessive. Yeah seriously what the gently caress? That's not a loving hour.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:02
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Yeah that's not a women-only gym hour, that's a women-only gym
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Feb 28, 2020 17:05
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Kuros posted:Here's a good one that makes you angry from the title but then... i agree that is excessive but if all the women in this building are in a fitness gang who camp the gym and work out for three hours every day... maybe don't piss them off this scene, but the only dude is the OP https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ky9E5cDu-B4 Mr. Fall Down Terror fucked around with this message at 17:11 on Feb 28, 2020 |
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Feb 28, 2020 17:08
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I’m wondering how successful a business model a women’s only gym could be. Could be quite lucrative if you have a grand opening in January to pull in all those new year’s resolutioners.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:14
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m wondering how successful a business model a women’s only gym could be. Could be quite lucrative if you have a grand opening in January to pull in all those new year’s resolutioners. I mean there are a bunch of women's only gyms? Like Curves is a huge national chain and there are a ton of more localized ones.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:16
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m wondering how successful a business model a women’s only gym could be. Could be quite lucrative if you have a grand opening in January to pull in all those new year’s resolutioners.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:17
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Not to mention places like Planet Fitness that do super tryhard poo poo like LUNK ALERTS
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Feb 28, 2020 17:18
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lol a three hour window at the most desired time, every weekday? Get the gently caress outta here.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:23
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You could absolutely do a women-only gym if you're upfront about it and don't force people who can't be customers to pay. also if management is on board and it's not just the users deciding to lay down the law without telling anyone
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Feb 28, 2020 17:24
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My husband (28m) has became resentful of me (27F) and my new partner (28F) after opening up our relationship. I am confused and hurt. For all intents and purposes, Me and my husband have been together for about 7 years. Sometime last year he brought up the idea of opening up our relationship after getting heavy into the "free love" movement. At first, I was scared about the thought of losing him, almost to the point of nausea, but he said if we didn't open up the relationship, he would leave because monogamy wasn't what he wanted anymore. I decided I'd open up the relationship if I could get to have another partner myself. Surprisingly he agreed, and we opened up. At the beginning, he found partners but they would fizzle up when it came time to have threesomes, leaving me feeling dejected and upset. I confronted him about it, and he said that he hadn't brought me up while getting to know them, i.e, pretending to be single. I told him that my next partner would be into BOTH of us, and would know of our relationship. He was upset but agreed, so I went out and found Ty. Ty is great. She, unlike the rest of his partners, included me, almost all the time... to everything. All three of us would go out and do things, go to concerts, out eating, drinking. You know it. He of course had the same access to her, but it seemed to make him jealous with how close we were getting. He would crack jokes about it, like everytime I was out late I was with her or something, just off the wall jealousy. She assured him that she liked both of us, and would love to prove it. So, a couple of days ago, we had a threesome. It was beautiful. Ty and I connected on levels I didn't really think were possible, but my husband has completely pulled away from our relationship. After Ty left the next morning, he didn't say a word to me for an entire day. I pressed him on what his problem was, and he said that the experience wasn't enjoyable for him. I kind of looked at him blankly cause I'm 100% sure he finished, and then he told me that the whole time it was like he was looking at lesbian porn. Ty barely interacted with him seperately, and I'm guessing that has him angry? The entire time was all of us experiencing pleasure at the same time and he's MAD about that? Can someone fill me in on what I'm supposed to do about this now? I don't want to lose Ty as a partner, and I don't want to lose my husband either. His mood swings about this have kind of driven me up the wall, but I still care for him. TL;DR: i get a unicorn that includes me in me and my husbands open relationship, I feel included and happy, my husband feels dejected and used. I am confused and asking reddit for clarity.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:28
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My husband (28m) has became resentful of me (27F) and my new partner (28F) after opening up our relationship. I am confused and hurt. Man hits jackpot, will still find a way to ruin it for himself, more at 11.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:32
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I suppose I’ve outed myself as a non-gym goer.
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Dazerbeams posted:I suppose I’ve outed myself as a non-gym goer. for years I thought curves was just a big and tall store for womens so whatevs
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Feb 28, 2020 17:39
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For my 40th birthday my brothers wife got everyone in the family to send her a clip either saying something about me or having their kids sing or whatever and she cut it all together into a half hour video. Best gift I have ever gotten and it only cost time. I was trying not to cry when I watched it. 40 can be okay. 
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Feb 28, 2020 17:39
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Dienes posted:Man hits jackpot, will still find a way to ruin it for himself, more at 11. He was complaining it was like watching porn while complaining that it was not like the porn he watches where the threesome focuses exclusively on him. They should be kissing to arouse him. How dare they actually enjoy it for any reason other than pleasing him?
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Feb 28, 2020 17:41
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"I thought the two ladies would be servicing my cock like in those POV porn vids!" says idiotic man.
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Feb 28, 2020 17:50
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Xenocides posted:He was complaining it was like watching porn while complaining that it was not like the porn he watches where the threesome focuses exclusively on him. They should be kissing to arouse him. How dare they actually enjoy it for any reason other than pleasing him? "Well if it is one thing I will not tolerate, its the person treating my partner like a person in the bedroom!"
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Feb 28, 2020 17:56
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Kuros posted:Here's a good one that makes you angry from the title but then... All he had to do was say "Hey I'm not here to chat please respect my boundaries and let me exercise in silence." And just keep working out and ignoring her. If there's anything rule lawyering tyrants hate most its being held accountable to their own policies.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My husband (28m) has became resentful of me (27F) and my new partner (28F) after opening up our relationship. I am confused and hurt. Oh drat we've got another one of these: Danaru posted:"BUT HOW DOES THIS AFFECT ME, THE PROTAGONIST OF THIS MARRIAGE" His original plan was just for him to gently caress other people (his wife introduced the idea of her also opening up and she was surprised when he agreed) and he wasn't acting 'open', he was pretending to be single and not telling his new partners that he was married when he hooked up with them. He just wanted an option to escape the marriage whenever he felt like it without actually ending it, he's a self-centred fuckwit.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:10
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 My (26F) mother (50+F) is really weird about my plushies and I don't like it quote:So this is kinda a long story, but I'll try to keep it as brief as I can:
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Feb 28, 2020 18:22
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pentyne posted:All he had to do was say "Hey I'm not here to chat please respect my boundaries and let me exercise in silence." And just keep working out and ignoring her. quote:So I go to the gym. I make sure to go out of my way to not look at or talk to any of the women there because I want to leave them alone, and vice versa. I just work out and keep my head down. Sounds like he did pretty much that with minor elaboration.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:23
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The Bramble posted:
Someone find the rat story.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:24
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Dienes posted:"Well if it is one thing I will not tolerate, its the person treating my partner like a person in the bedroom!" I'm wondering if he's getting insecure about how much his wife liked it - in his mind, possibly/probably more than she's ever liked it with him (in his mind, no matter what his wife actually feels). That could go all sorts of places, most of which end in divorce.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:25
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The Bramble posted:
Timothy prequel looking pretty good.
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Cythereal posted:I'm wondering if he's getting insecure about how much his wife liked it - in his mind, possibly/probably more than she's ever liked it with him (in his mind, no matter what his wife actually feels). That could go all sorts of places, most of which end in divorce. 100% this story ends in separation. Dude just wanted to gently caress other women while keeping his current girl on lockdown.
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Feb 28, 2020 18:37
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It sounds like because his wife and the other lady get along so well and also mainly focused on each other that he doesn't like the emotional connection they have. He's an idiot for opening up the relationship.
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And here we come again back to polygamy. Is it a loving Reddit thing? Do people look at r/cuckold, r/cuckquean, r/hotwife, r/hothusband, et al. too much? What the gently caress. It's maybe a nice fantasy, to have a third partner in a relationship that is emotional with both me and my wife. However, I'm a loving realist and I know that it would actually, in reality, crush me. My wife has brought it up because she's bi. I shoot it down every time because I couldn't handle it, nor could I handle being emotional with anyone else, nor could I handle keeping TWO women happy. /rant Anyways, these people are all idiots. The unicorn is not the woman who involves you and your partner, it's the successful polyamorous relationship.
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never even heard of somebody attempt at a polyamorous relationship in real life. people have talked about it and posted about it online, but never known anybody to go past that. i think it's mainly an internet thing. i'm sure it happens, i mean that's documented in cases like cults and all that, but i think it's probably something like a few hundred people getting signal boosted.
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Feb 28, 2020 19:15
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bell jar posted:i live in my own personal hell Okay there Sylvia Plath.
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Feb 28, 2020 19:18
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large_gourd posted:never even heard of somebody attempt at a polyamorous relationship in real life. people have talked about it and posted about it online, but never known anybody to go past that. i think it's mainly an internet thing. i'm sure it happens, i mean that's documented in cases like cults and all that, but i think it's probably something like a few hundred people getting signal boosted. Two different people I know are in (separate) polyamorous relationships and have been for years. And yes, I've met them in person.
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I think a decent rule of thumb is that trying to change the parameters of an established relationship is almost always going to end badly - there are people who do low-drama open relationships, you just don't hear about them a lot bc it's low drama. But I'm willing to bet they entered the relationship with it being open. Opening it up partway through when the understanding was monogamy? That's not going to work.
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Kuros posted:Here's a good one that makes you angry from the title but then... Holy cow NTA. It should not be 3 hours, during peak time, every day at a gym you pay money to use. I have a suspicion that a lot of those women don't know it's not a real thing and will find out when they try to complain to the company.
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