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She should of just outright said no in the beginning instead of pussyfooting around and muting them in college. It also sounds like the cousin was in a sharp decline in health and the family was desperate. I would've been on her side if she hadn't said anything about the will.
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Dear Aunt, Peace be with you. I have uncovered a plot where The OP seeks to kill The Cousin. Your humble spymaster, The Cousin
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AITA for telling my gf I respect her less for helping her friend have an affair? Yesterday I was talking to my gf who told me she was going to watch her friends cat this Tuesday but cancelled because her friend asked her to watch the cat on Saturday instead. The last time my gf watched the friends cat, she did it so her friend could get a heart exam. Curious, this time i asked why she was going to watch the friends cat. My gf told me that her friend had started seeing an old married collegue of hers and she was going to watch the cat so they could have time together. She followed this up by telling me her friend asked for the favor first, then divulged the information about why she wanted the favor. My girlfriend followed this up by saying apparently the husband had a lovely relationship with his wife, he is planning to leave her, and that the wife is allegedly crazy (allegedly shes bipolar). She said her friend told her she gave the husband three months to decide what to do. My girlfriend told me shes uncomfortable with the situation and doesnt want to lose a friend so cognitive dissonance has had her laughing along with her friend about the affair and willing to watch the cat while she's seeing the husband. Upon hearing all this I told my gf i respect her differently as I thought she would be more moral. I dont expect her to drop a friend for having a lovely dating life, but she definitely should not be complicit in ruining a marriage regardless of the backstory (which is likely biased as it was told to her by her friend). I told her its probably better to tell her friend she doesnt want to get involved and definitely will not help her break up a marriage by watching her cat, but to still remain friends. My gf claims its none if her business and she doesnt want to lose a friend. I told her its her business if shes helping an affair and she definitely shouldn't be joking about it cognitive dissonance or no. So as of right now my gf is hurt because I told her i respect her less and shes lovely for helping someone have an affair. She says she needs time to work out how she feels as she doesnt want to lose a friend. I told her her friend is lovely if she drops her for not wanting to be involved in an affair. AITA? Edit: Made a few tweaks for accuracy to the post after sending it to my gf. Also wanted to point out I asked her how she would feel if someone helped me cheat on her. She said she would hate it. I told her then she shouldn't be involved. Also, my gf deals with social anxiety and often struggles to go against convention or to upset others. I love my GF and definitely dont intend to leave her. I just want her to acknowledge this is hosed up and ideally to not be complicit in an affair For everyone asking about the cat, i asked her and her friend and the husband were planning on going to another city together and she would be staying the night at least
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Feb 28, 2020 23:03
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My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this?quote:Before anyone asks, no this isn't a shitpost, it's all very very real and I'm beyond confused. Throwaway for obvious reasons.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:04
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SpaceViking posted:My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this? That was an... impulsive decision.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:09
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SpaceViking posted:My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this? Murder him while he's still disoriented.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:09
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SpaceViking posted:My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this? 
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I don’t believe it unless OP saw that mangled dick with her own eyes. Edit: looks like he whipped it out and for sure went under the knife. Wowza. Talk about cutting your dick to spite your girlfriend. Dazerbeams fucked around with this message at 23:17 on Feb 28, 2020 |
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Feb 28, 2020 23:15
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AITA for wanting a dry wedding? I recently got engaged and have been excitedly planning our wedding. My fiancé and I both knew who we wanted on our sides and asked them very cleverly right away. My girls and I made a chat group to discuss details and such. My MOH is my sister and she’s always been much more of a party girl than me. One of my bridesmaids is under 21 and will be at the time of the wedding. Ny fiancé and I decided we wanted a dry wedding, for a plethora of reasons— mostly just that we don’t want it there but also because our venue doesn’t allow it. My sister made a joke about sneaking drinks to my under 21 bridesmaid and I casually commented that there wasn’t going to be alcohol. Later my sister made a passive aggressive comment about it but that was it. Until this week. I sent the bridesmaids a picture of the dress I picked out and she didn’t like that it is going to cover her cleavage. She then proceeded to write several paragraphs about how my wedding was going to be boring and people weren’t going to have fun because there wasn’t going to be alcohol and I should really reconsider. It was so condescending and gave me flashbacks to my lovely ex who would gaslight me all the time. “I do think you should reconsider the dry wedding part. I know you two don't drink, but the reception is a party, really for the guests. Dry weddings aren't super fun for the guests and people don't dance as much and tend to leave fairly quickly. Their are other ways to cut the cost of alcohol. Cash bar, BYOB...etc. but dry weddings are really not as fun and people don't enjoy them as much. We can find a way to get creative, but I do think it would be a mistake. I want your wedding to be fun and I want people to enjoy it and celebrate with you. I think no alcohol will hurt that .” I told her that I understood that she thought she was helping but that it came across as judgemental and hurtful, to which she said “You can be irritated but I only want what’s best for you” Our plan is to have a smaller scale after party at his parents house with a fire pit and alcohol, but we haven’t told anyone yet because the wedding is still like a year and a half out.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:17
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SpaceViking posted:My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this? This man is not mentally well
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Feb 28, 2020 23:20
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Bridesmaid sounds like my kind of woman. Fighting for her right to drink booze and show off her tits at a wedding.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:20
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I don't get why business monster didn't just lie about being a match though, that seems like the easiest solution (if you're an rear end in a top hat). Like isn't that crazy irresponsible of the doctor to be like "hey cousin X is a match, so uhhh I guess hassle them a bunch to do this".
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Feb 28, 2020 23:24
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Trapick posted:I don't get why business monster didn't just lie about being a match though, that seems like the easiest solution (if you're an rear end in a top hat). Like isn't that crazy irresponsible of the doctor to be like "hey cousin X is a match, so uhhh I guess hassle them a bunch to do this". Eh, it's a 20 year old, I almost wonder if that is a post-fact justification she made up for herself without realizing how loving horrible it sounds
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Feb 28, 2020 23:25
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Trapick posted:I don't get why business monster didn't just lie about being a match though, that seems like the easiest solution (if you're an rear end in a top hat). Like isn't that crazy irresponsible of the doctor to be like "hey cousin X is a match, so uhhh I guess hassle them a bunch to do this". She's showing off her true colors about the whole thing to look for a husband, which she'll furious mate with for 5 days until satisfied that she's been impregnated, and then finally eats him
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Feb 28, 2020 23:27
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It's total speculation, but based on the stone cold behavior on display I wouldn't be surprised if she did intend to donate... until grandma croaked early and the will could no longer be modified. Granny was supposed to live another two months. With that out of the way, maybe she just decided "poo poo's locked in now, forget it!".
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Feb 28, 2020 23:29
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my gf I respect her less for helping her friend have an affair? If shes covering and helping a friend do that its because she expects them to help her when she starts having her own affair.
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Feb 28, 2020 23:33
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Bruceski posted:Murder him while he's still disoriented. It apparently works very well!
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Feb 28, 2020 23:33
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Feb 28, 2020 23:37
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AITA (22M) for putting my friend (22F) in the shower when she was hammered? Last Saturday, about 10-12 of us all went out and got progressively drunker as the night went on. Pretty standard - me and 3 others took an Uber back around 3ish to a McDonalds that we all live within about a 10-15 minute walk of (we’re all students). One of my friends (let’s call her C) who I’ve known since we started uni (over 3 years ago) was smashed. Almost chundered in the uber, had to stop and have her step out for a minute before getting back in. She seemed a bit better after that and we decided to go inside to Maccies but she went to the toilets almost straightaway to throw up (got a bit over her dress and in her hair). Since we’re not 17/18 and are actual adults we’ve all adopted a ‘you’re 22 you can look after yourself, if you’re kicked out of a club get an Uber home by yourself - essentially if you’re too drunk you’re on your own’. Although tbf we do usually help each other out since it’s just easier (or if they’re absolutely paralytic) and everyone’s happy with this. We’re adults. No grudges. But since me and C live in the same building, and she’s a girl, I volunteered/she asked me to take her home and look after her for a bit. No big deal. We got in and I told her to go have a shower while I make her a cup of tea. She said she was too drunk, chundered a little bit again and asked if I could help her. She seemed more worse for wear than she was earlier. I said sure and just helped her get undressed and helped turn the shower on. She could do most it herself, but she asked me to stay and I just handed her shower gel and had to hold the shower head a couple of times for a minute or so. She dried herself but I had to get her pjs out and help put her bottoms on. She asked me to stay over to which I said sure, went to mine to change and then came down and gave her a cup of tea but she knocked out after like 2 sips. Around a year ago she and my gf once had to put me in the shower as well in similar circumstances. We slept on the same bed and I left in the morning after checking she was fine for her to get some more sleep. My gf was totally okay with this and literally didn’t think twice about it - she barely even asked about details. Most of our mutual friends also didn’t even consider it to be even slightly abnormal. However, a couple of C’s friends found this like ridiculously inappropriate and that I was taking advantage of her (we’re 22 or older, everyone in our friend group has seen everyone else naked multiple times). But because she was hammered and I’d sobered up they saw it as harassment/assaul or something. They also thought it was worse because I have a gf and they complained to her (even though they barely know her) and now she’s upset. C thought it was perfectly normal too and is on my side but she’s also a bit upset now (although more because disrespectful towards gf). The friends gave me a proper bollocking saying it’s harassment at the least and know I’m thinking maybe it was wrong so AITA?
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Feb 28, 2020 23:56
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quote:you’re 22 you can look after yourself
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Feb 28, 2020 23:59
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Awful lot of guys in that thread insisting that since the black out drunk girl said she wanted to shower the only proper thing to do is help her shower.
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Feb 29, 2020 00:13
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that boy seems extremely proud of being 22 years old, manages to mention it like 6 times in one post when it's actually a detail that's completely irrelevant to the central question also he's the one who originally told her to take a shower, she didn't even want to at first
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Feb 29, 2020 00:22
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Play posted:that boy seems extremely proud of being 22 years old, manages to mention it like 6 times in one post when it's actually a completely irrelevant detail to the central question I mean, they're not 17/18, they're adults.
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Play posted:also he's the one who originally told her to take a shower, she didn't even want to at first That is not how I read it. Relevant line: quote:We got in and I told her to go have a shower while I make her a cup of tea. She said she was too drunk, chundered a little bit again and asked if I could help her. She seemed more worse for wear than she was earlier. I said sure and just helped her get undressed and helped turn the shower on. She could do most it herself, but she asked me to stay This entire story should be a complete non-story except for her friends are getting weird about it.
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Feb 29, 2020 00:32
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quote:We got in and I told her to go have a shower while I make her a cup of tea. He's the one who brought up showering in the first place is what I meant. He almost seems fixated on it. A drunken rear end friend who's a girl, just make sure she's done puking and put her in bed!! That's all that needs to be done in that situation. Nothing else. Definitely not a guided shower session while too drunk to understand that they're getting naked in front of someone they normally wouldn't be! When people are that drunk you need to be even more cautious of boundaries because they're not capable of doing so Play fucked around with this message at 00:39 on Feb 29, 2020 |
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Feb 29, 2020 00:35
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Play posted:that boy seems extremely proud of being 22 years old, manages to mention it like 6 times in one post when it's actually a detail that's completely irrelevant to the central question Surprisingly not how reddit reads it. Once a stumbling black out drunk girl has agreed to something literally nothing else matters and you can freely follow through with it and be NTA.
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Feb 29, 2020 00:39
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Polyamory is attracted to sexually themed activities that let you look down on those who have to actually do it for a living, hence why polyamory loves burlesque, silks, and other psuedo-eroticism. The guy whose girlfriend is helping her friend have an affair needs to just dump her now before she gets to take her skillset from theory to practical
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Feb 29, 2020 00:41
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Play posted:He's the one who brought up showering in the first place is what I meant. He almost seems fixated on it. quote:My gf was totally okay with this and literally didn’t think twice about it - she barely even asked about details. Most of our mutual friends also didn’t even consider it to be even slightly abnormal. Was it probably kinda dumb and ill-considered? Yeah. Sure doesn't sound malicious or creepy though, at least in the way the OP presents it. Obviously he could be super-sugar-coating it.
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Feb 29, 2020 00:42
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Kenshin posted:Ok except I get that, but even if not malicious I just consider it unnecessary. Seeing someone naked a few times is not carte blanche to see them naked whenever you want. A bunch of my friends have seen girlfriends of mine naked but that doesn't mean I'd be comfortable with them taking her clothes off and putting her in a shower while she's blackout drunk. Maybe it wasn't malicious, I still think it's overstepping. Unless you have total and complete permission (while NOT blackout drunk) I don't see the point of doing this. But you're right, it's not quite as bad as it looked at first, assuming he's actually telling the full truth here. Barudak posted:The guy whose girlfriend is helping her friend have an affair needs to just dump her now before she gets to take her skillset from theory to practical On the plus side I'd say helping her cheat in this way is a lot better than helping her friend cheat on her own partner. What I mean is, the professor in the story is actually the one cheating as the friend doesn't have a partner
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Feb 29, 2020 00:48
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Dry weddings suck but it’s just one night if you can’t abstain from alcohol for one night then you have a problem
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Feb 29, 2020 00:53
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Do it ironically posted:Dry weddings suck but it’s just one night if you can’t abstain from alcohol for one night then you have a problem weddings suck, dry weddings are intolerable and clearly anybody demanding a dry wedding is a loving sadist
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Feb 29, 2020 00:54
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It sounds like the dude made an off the cuff suggestion and the drunk girl thought it was good even though she was too drunk to follow through on her own. Considering there’s history between them of helping each other out while one is plastered, this doesn’t seem like any boundaries were crossed. Only a bunch of third party weirdos are kicking up a stink.
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Dazerbeams posted:It sounds like the dude made an off the cuff suggestion and the drunk girl thought it was good even though she was too drunk to follow through on her own. Considering there’s history between them of helping each other out while one is plastered, this doesn’t seem like any boundaries were crossed. Only a bunch of third party weirdos are kicking up a stink. Yeah, what's conspicuously missing here is C's opinions on any of it now she's sobered up.
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Feb 29, 2020 01:12
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quote:C thought it was perfectly normal too and is on my side but she’s also a bit upset now (although more because disrespectful towards gf). 
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Feb 29, 2020 01:15
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AITA for telling my dad my mom put trackers in his van?quote:So this has been going on for my whole life. My mother has always suspected my dad is cheating on her. Ive always heard about their failing marriage and accusations and a lot of other poo poo a kid shouldnt hear about. Its always weighed on me because theyre my parents and i want them to be happy. I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure OP's mother has committed at least one felony there.
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Feb 29, 2020 01:26
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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for refusing to grant my cousin a kidney? Finally someone using cognatic primogeniture instead of gavelkind The outcome is like pure CKII too it brings a tear to my eye. However she is a bad person Holy gently caress that is cold. Jack2142 fucked around with this message at 02:08 on Feb 29, 2020 |
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AITA for telling my sister to uninvite her friend to my son's destination wedding? My son's wedding will be at one of those "everything included" resorts in Mexico end of May. The hotel fee is per person so you aren't going to pay less if you have another person in your room. My older sister invited one of her friends to go with her to Mexico. She wouldn't be invited to go to the actual wedding or the reception but will be hanging out during the rest of our "downtime" so if anyone wanted to spend time with my sister, we would also have to spend time with her friend. My younger sister lives in Australia and so we don't see her very often. I was looking forward to the "sisters hanging out" and now it would be the sisters and this random friend. Yes, I have met her twice and younger sister has met her but that doesn't mean either of us want to hang out with her and what would we have to talk about with her? She called my son's fiancee to "ask permission" and caught her off guard so of course, she said it was okay but my son called me and said that it "bothered him" that my sister would be bringing this person. To top all of this off, my sister told me that their flight included an 8-hour layover in Houston and her friend's sister lives there so they called her to let her know they could meet up for a few hours and her friend invited her sister and said they could "play wedding crashers" THAT really pissed me off because it seemed like they might really try to crash the reception. I told my sister she had to uninvite her friend and that I didn't want her friend there. So now my older sisters "feelings are hurt" and my younger sister "doesn't see what my problem with is" They both seem to think "the more the merrier" My son's wedding, he isn't comfortable with this and equally isn't comfortable telling his aunts this. My sisters think I am being "unreasonable"
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Weren't there even letters from the traitor leaders saying "Let there be no mistake, this is about the right to own slaves." Which does somewhat cast a doubt over their good intentions to kill hundreds of thousands of their own countrymen. Yeah and check this poo poo: http://www.civildiscourse-historyblog.com/blog/2018/7/1/secession-documents-mississippi This is the declaration of secession of Mississippi. It contains the line, "Our position is thoroughly identified with the institution of slavery- the greatest material interest of the world." This is another great go-to when dealing with these dumb-gently caress dead-end poo poo-eating Lost Causers. "Oh, it wasn't about slavery? Why did the people who were actually seceding say it was?" Confederates were scum, neo-confederates are even worse scum, and they should be hounded and humiliated with their lovely southern education until they just shut the gently caress up anytime someone so much as mentions the Civil War.
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SpaceViking posted:My (22f) boyfriend (24m) just got a circumcision after an argument. How do I respond to this? She won the gently caress out of that argument.
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