DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [24m] have been dating a very cool girl [27f] for about 3 months. I went to her club beach volley ball game and she screamed and cursed at teammate, refs, other team. Is this a red flag or just competitive spirit? quote:She is ordinally very sweet to me, and other than some "joy" she got out of firing an employee a few weeks ago, the volley ball outburst was totally out of character or her. Being competitive is one thing, but taking joy in firing someone is, at least 99% of the time, a massive red flag, jesus christ." Man, today was great, someone who reported to me can't pay bills any more and is going into a pandemic with no insurance!"
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https://twitter.com/aita_reddit/status/1241466924422303745?s=21
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Dramatika posted:Being competitive is one thing, but taking joy in firing someone is, at least 99% of the time, a massive red flag, jesus christ." Man, today was great, someone who reported to me can't pay bills any more and is going into a pandemic with no insurance!" Devil's advocate maybe the employee was a racist/bully/sex pest, but combined with the horrible behaviour playing sports the flags are getting redder
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Fatkraken posted:Devil's advocate maybe the employee was a racist/bully/sex pest, but combined with the horrible behaviour playing sports the flags are getting redder I dunno, even if the employee was a racist sex pest who was taking shits in the potted plants, I feel like "joy" is never a great reaction to a firing. Relief, maybe?
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# ? Mar 21, 2020 23:35 |
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NTA. And you should take a hard look at your "friends" as well.
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# ? Mar 21, 2020 23:40 |
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Licarn posted:They didn't get insurance because they've never had an accident before I mean, it’d be absurd even so, but at least he’d be consistent in his foolish overconfidence if nobody else ever touched the gas pedal.
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Fatkraken posted:Devil's advocate maybe the employee was a racist/bully/sex pest, but combined with the horrible behaviour playing sports the flags are getting redder I've had to fire someone, who I already disliked, (from a restaurant) for assaulting another employee in the kitchen, and it STILL felt lovely as hell. Firing people sucks, even when it's someone you don't like and they've definitively earned it. e; Dug up the thread. quote:I know the employee was a pretty big screw up (constantly late to work, messed up customers orders and actually lost a dog on an install job) so I get it but she said something about being happy he couldn't contribute to his kids college funds and child support. It just seemed a little too excited for what was happening in the bigger picture.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [24m] have been dating a very cool girl [27f] for about 3 months. I went to her club beach volley ball game and she screamed and cursed at teammate, refs, other team. Is this a red flag or just competitive spirit? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXb0zcEM-rI
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for walking out of my son’s therapy appointment after him and his therapist blamed me for his homophobia? if the son isn't being an rear end in a top hat homophobe because he's bitter over his parents divorce, then... he's just an rear end in a top hat, and the remedy is to persuade/punish an angry teenage boy into not being an rear end in a top hat anymore? i'm not sure OP gets the point of therapy
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Dramatika posted:e; Dug up the thread. "Lost a dog on an install job" I know that probably means left the door open and it got out, but I can't help but imagine something more bizarre. A muffled yipping comes from behind the TV set as the guy stands there "I know there was a dog here a second ago..."
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for walking out of my son’s therapy appointment after him and his therapist blamed me for his homophobia? So at no point in the actual post does it say the therapist agreed with the son or blamed her for his homophobia. Just sounds like they let the kid talk about his feelings and point of view, however stupid they may be. I'm sure that hurts for her to hear, but it sounds like she expected the therapist to just be like "Wrong!" and immediately cut him off, so I'm not sure she actually understands what therapy is.
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wizardofloneliness posted:So at no point in the actual post does it say the therapist agreed with the son or blamed her for his homophobia. Just sounds like they let the kid talk about his feelings and point of view, however stupid they may be. I'm sure that hurts for her to hear, but it sounds like she expected the therapist to just be like "Wrong!" and immediately cut him off, so I'm not sure she actually understands what therapy is. She probably agrees with the son on some level and just went defensive about it
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wizardofloneliness posted:So at no point in the actual post does it say the therapist agreed with the son or blamed her for his homophobia. Just sounds like they let the kid talk about his feelings and point of view, however stupid they may be. I'm sure that hurts for her to hear, but it sounds like she expected the therapist to just be like "Wrong!" and immediately cut him off, so I'm not sure she actually understands what therapy is. A distressingly common perception of group therapy is "my perspective will be vindicated by a professional and I will vanquish all opposition in the boss fight arena of arguments".
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 00:07 |
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Not only should your cousin go and get hosed for ever she should get the roni and watch her parents die to a disease she gave them.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [24m] have been dating a very cool girl [27f] for about 3 months. I went to her club beach volley ball game and she screamed and cursed at teammate, refs, other team. Is this a red flag or just competitive spirit? There's no way this won't manifest in every other area of the relationship. Run.
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McSpanky posted:A distressingly common perception of group therapy is "my perspective will be vindicated by a professional and I will vanquish all opposition in the boss fight arena of arguments". That's exactly what happened. She didn't see the therapist immediately and aggressively condemn her son for his homophobic words and she made a scene and walked out. Even her comment says "The therapist did not shut his statement down and asked him to explain it" Her son's mental and emotional health is secondary to her experience of coming out as gay. Everything is framed in terms of her and her sexuality, not one word about his feelings.
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Inceltown posted:Not only should your cousin go and get hosed for ever she should get the roni and watch her parents die to a disease she gave them.
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 00:44 |
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I haven't seen a lot of stories like that one, but I assume parents booking a therapist for the express purpose of telling their kids their feelings are invalid and should be shut down is a depressingly common situation.
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 01:14 |
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Murder the cousin. The equipment and medication she destroyed would equal a quarter of a million dollars in value, easy, especially with oxygen treatments. Actually sue her family to get the money back.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting my parent’s old car after they totaled my own car? Depending on the state/country, this could have been filed against the mom's insurance, and would have been a nonissue other than her premiums going up. Otherwise honestly I would sever if I was them, that shows a total lack of giving a gently caress about your children in several ways.
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Ardemia posted:Depending on the state/country, this could have been filed against the mom's insurance, and would have been a nonissue other than her premiums going up. They're on the same policy.
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 02:02 |
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https://twitter.com/huaslians/status/1241478437417545728?s=20 someone needs to make this into a movie
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 02:11 |
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Does anyone else read the thread title in the cadence of the oompa-loompa song? My brain just automatically does it, and then I need to try filling in the rhyme. Likecode:
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 02:11 |
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Does anyone not? I can't scroll past the thread without pausing for a beat to read it the proper cadence. I'm starting to worry that it's giving me prodromal schizophrenia.
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 02:22 |
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im permabanned poster oompaloompastomper58,
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 02:46 |
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spacetoaster posted:There's no way this won't manifest in every other area of the relationship. Run. This reminds me of my ex. She was always rude to waitstaff and stuff like that because she was adventurous and into a lot of active stuff I put the blinders on, because by the time I broke up with her she was invested enough to go full crazy and try to follow me in my apartment after work, kick and scream at my door, and call my friends. Still sends me emails from time to time about how she’s “forgiven” me.
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Mister Olympus posted:https://twitter.com/huaslians/status/1241478437417545728?s=20 I would watch this movie and cry like a baby when they finally cut through the poo poo and just talk to each other.
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:This reminds me of my ex. She was always rude to waitstaff and stuff like that because she was adventurous and into a lot of active stuff I put the blinders on, because by the time I broke up with her she was invested enough to go full crazy and try to follow me in my apartment after work, kick and scream at my door, and call my friends. There's a reason some variant of "don't look at how they treat you, look at how they treat the staff" has been around for at least a hundred years.
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Mister Olympus posted:https://twitter.com/huaslians/status/1241478437417545728?s=20 Anyone else have issue with these opening?
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 03:32 |
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AITA for asking my brother to not have a switch while he lives with me?quote:I (29f) live with my wife (31f) and 2 kids (8f and 10m). My brother (20m) is staying with us for a few months as our mother, who he lived with, passed away recently and he doesn't have the resources to live alone. He's not paying any rent/bills/food/expenses because the idea of him living with us is he's saving up to move in with his girlfriend so he needs a few months of just saving before he can afford to move out.
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 04:13 |
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What kind of tv does he have where he can’t have two hdmi cables plugged into it lol. Is he using RCA cables?? What a weird dickhead. He’s gonna bring home an Xbox next and set it up in the OPs bedroom tv
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# ? Mar 22, 2020 04:24 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for asking my brother to not have a switch while he lives with me?
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quote:He then tells me my kids and I are "entitled" because they asked to use his switch
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for asking my brother to not have a switch while he lives with me?
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MagusofStars posted:I like how he claims to be an adult immediately before angrily storming out in a temper tantrum because he can’t use the good TV to play Nintendo. Definitely proving your maturity and adulthood right there buddy. Has anyone ever actually meant "Hey I'm saving up to move out so I can't pay any bills at all"? It seems a little weird, especially if they need to "save up" for a few months and then are expecting to suddenly pay all the adult bills like rent, food, and electricity on their own but are dropping $$$ on expensive luxuries.
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pentyne posted:Has anyone ever actually meant "Hey I'm saving up to move out so I can't pay any bills at all"? I mean it can make sense if they're saving for a deposit. But like 90% of the time its an excuse to mooch
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for asking my brother to not have a switch while he lives with me? She’s letting her brother live rent free in her house and act like he owns the place, while he’s about to inherit everything from their homophobic mother who has almost certainly cut her out of the will
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pentyne posted:Has anyone ever actually meant "Hey I'm saving up to move out so I can't pay any bills at all"? Many places do require a first/last/deposit whammy that means you need a lot upfront even if the rent is a pretty manageable level of their income. Other people moving out for the first time might need to save for furnishing their place. And finally it's not entirely uncommon for some young people to save for a while so they can go straight to putting a big down payment on a house.
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ArbitraryC posted:Many places do require a first/last/deposit whammy that means you need a lot upfront even if the rent is a pretty manageable level of their income. I'm living on a tight budget right now because the short-term cost of moving to a cheaper place is more than I can manage. It's a fun gotcha.
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AITA for asking my ex to consider signing over rights to my wife?quote:My ex and I had 2 kids (8 and 6) who are the absolute best things that came out of my marriage. We separated when my second was born. We had pretty equal custody for the next two years, then I got an amazing job offer in another state. I was able to work out a plan with my ex where I had the kids for the school year and she got them for Christmas and the summer. She did not want to move, but she let me take the kids because there were much better education opportunities and housing options where I moved to.
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