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5 people in a relationship who cant afford to rent their own place outside of the city but can just stop and uproot themselves for several months to crash at someone else's house for two months are going to be great guests and will definitely leave, drama free, at the end of those 2 months.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my sister I don’t want her and her new poly partners staying with us even though I was initially ok with just her bf. I don't mean to neg on different relationships but is four dudes and a girl really a healthy stable relationship and not just short term good time? I have a tendency to sort of automatically imagine people in all these stories being average looks and average personalities and reasonable living circumstances. The reality is a lot of these stories are probably from pretty trashy people who probably don't keep themselves the nicest. I don't know if that should change my perception of things or if it makes me a terrible person. Sillybones fucked around with this message at 07:21 on Jul 19, 2020 |
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MarcusSA posted:TBH though the sex aspect is an issue esp since they are going to be there for 2 months and yeah I'm not sure I'd want to try and explain sisters hosed up relationships to my young kids and then have them deal with it for the next 2 months. Poly poo poo is weird, but it's not that hard to explain. Especially to kids, who are perfectly happy to accept any old poo poo as normal. As long as they all make sure that the kids understand that this is unusual and agreed upon beforehand by everyone, it shouldn't be an issue. It's the same general thing as "How do I explain the gay to my children? IT WILL BLOW THEIR LITTLE MINDS!" and that's just... not the case. It's a simple concept, and the kids don't need to know who's a metamour or whatever, they just need to know that Aunt Sally is in love with Uncle Barry AND Aunt Rita at the same time. Kids probably wouldn't give a poo poo about it in general beyond "more aunts/uncles = more people to pay attention to me." ETA Sillybones posted:I don't mean to neg on different relationships but is four dudes and a girl really a healthy stable relationship and not just short term good time? It's rare, but possible. Granted, I have my doubts about the prospects of this particular bundle of relationships, but there do exist poly groups that work. You just don't hear about them a lot because they aren't advertising to people who aren't interested. Puppy Time fucked around with this message at 07:23 on Jul 19, 2020 |
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Bruceski posted:I tried to make one based off my middle name work, it didn't stick. Then one of my friends decided to start calling me Brewski after I complained about some admin lady mistakenly calling me Bruce. He thought it was hilarious, I hated it, but it grew on me and with a bit of modification to make it my own I've been using it as my e-handle ever since. I always read your name as “Bru-chess-kee” and this is the first time I realised it could be broken down as “Bruce-skee.” Huh. IME there are two kinds of people: those who care about the name you call them, and those who don’t. Neither are wrong but it’s respectful to actually get people’s names right. I used to live and work with someone with my name name/nickname, but hers was spelled with an i. Like, she was a Jami while I was a Jamie. She left the company over 5 years ago and despite my spelling being the normal common way to spell it, everyone now spells it Jami. Occasionally I correct people but they go right back to spelling it with an i so I just live with it. Part of me regrets not totally changing to a new nickname like Jemma when I moved here, but I missed that window of opportunity.
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Sillybones posted:I don't mean to neg on different relationships but is four dudes and a girl really a healthy stable relationship and not just short term good time? Perfectly! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7759411/Polyamorous-woman-20-fallen-pregnant-one-FOUR-partners-went-away-together.html
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Bruceski posted:I tried to make one based off my middle name work, it didn't stick. Then one of my friends decided to start calling me Brewski after I complained about some admin lady mistakenly calling me Bruce. He thought it was hilarious, I hated it, but it grew on me and with a bit of modification to make it my own I've been using it as my e-handle ever since. I feel like that's a common theme among nicknames, hating it at first. This was my nickname: Ziggy Piggy I watched Bill and Ted's while eating a big bowl of ice cream with some
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OB-GYN Kenobi posted:I feel like that's a common theme among nicknames, hating it at first. I had this happen, but it did not end when I "became cool with it", it ended when I injured a classmate's dick over it. That is my nickname story. Nobody has called me that nickname since.
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# ? Jul 19, 2020 07:29 |
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MarcusSA posted:Perfectly! From left to right; Too Spaced Out To Care, Nervously Trying To Make It Work, Living The Dream, Wondering How It Came To This, Just Glad He Gets Laid Sometimes
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MarcusSA posted:Perfectly! Second from the right looks like a total shitter.
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# ? Jul 19, 2020 07:36 |
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If your polycule isn't bringing in enough money that you need to establish a trust for your joint assets and property management empire you need to rightsize.
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MarcusSA posted:Perfectly! This is pretty much ~90% of poly people. Most of them are just weird outliers who think being free-spirited will make it easier to have sex. The rest are emotionally healthy people with good communication skills and boundaries. And a group of 5 needing to crash rent free at the sole female's sibling's house? Yeah the red flags streaming off that make a CCCP parade look tame. Uh, this somehow gets messier quote:Yes, sister, boyfriend, partner a (male), partner b (female) and partner c (male). So Guy C is with Girl B and no one else, but Girl B is with the other 3? That doesn't seem like a polycule so much as one party eventually going into a jealously rage at the rest of the group. pentyne fucked around with this message at 07:52 on Jul 19, 2020 |
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AITA for showing up at my girlfriends bar? quote:My girlfriend works as a bartender at a relatively popular local bar.
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Anyone has a long-term, stable poly relationship (where at least one of your partners and you are together for 10+ years or something close to that)? Is it even possible? Or are we condemned to choose between happiness, poly, short term; or dissatisfaction, mono, long-term?quote:I’ve been with my longest term nesting partner (WolfWoman) for 20+ years. We raised a kid who’s headed off to college in the fall, own a house, and have had plenty of ups-and-downs but are still going strong. We have been experimenting occasionally with non-monogamy since the very start of our relationship, but have been seriously practicing polyamory for the past 5+ years. quote:With one of my partners I am currently 8 years into a poly relationship. I had another poly relationship that lasted 14 years before we separated. But those are outliers in my 20+ years of poly. The vast majority of my relationships have lasted less than a year. quote:My bf and his wife have been married for 25 years (this summer-- gotta think of a nice anniversary gift for them). They've been poly for 11ish years. His wife and her bf have been together 3 years and I've been with my bf for just about 2.5 years. They've both had other partners that didn't work out for one reason or another in the 11 years they've been poly. quote:How many poly relationships have fallen a part on you? Is there a pattern? The issue might be you. But in all reality I think it's really hard to find someone who wants this style of relationship and is capable of it. All of us are working against the way our culture wants us to be... and that poo poo takes time and energy to work through. You have to have the energy and your partner has to have the energy. quote:So I have been poly my entire relationship. Lol the only person who has been in multiple concurrent relationships for 10 or more years has one of them living states away who they go months without seeing or speaking to.
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Atlas Hugged posted:Back to nicknames, we always went with either last initial or some kind of trait about the person, be it a hobby or physical trait. Long Hair Dave, Hockey Dave, Dave C, whatever. And it's not like we called these people that. It was just to clarify who we were referring to if there was confusion. Ironically, when Long Hair Dave shaved his head, he didn't stop being Long Hair Dave in our circle of friends either. Carnegie Mellon CS has a "Dave Ratio", stemming from the year there were more Daves than women.
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Beachcomber posted:Carnegie Mellon CS has a "Dave Ratio", stemming from the year there were more Daves than women. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nvzEqsZIGo
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Atlas Hugged posted:Back to nicknames, we always went with either last initial or some kind of trait about the person, be it a hobby or physical trait. Long Hair Dave, Hockey Dave, Dave C, whatever. And it's not like we called these people that. It was just to clarify who we were referring to if there was confusion. Ironically, when Long Hair Dave shaved his head, he didn't stop being Long Hair Dave in our circle of friends either. this has historically been my strategy except it's funnier when you tell them; I dubbed the two Ambers at work Amber Prime and Amber the Usurper and the latter absolutely ran with it
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AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"?quote:So I meet this guy and everything is going good until I notice something weird when we’re at a Starbucks. When he orders, he says, “I’ll have a capahchino” (cappuccino) in a thick Italian accent and “I’ll have a krahson” (croissant) in a thick French accent. I don’t say anything yet but just laugh in my head.
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"?
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This guy is like I don’t think it’s very funny to piss in someone’s coke, but as a leftist I must respect Chinese culture.
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"? You aren’t obligated to stay friends with someone if they annoy the piss out of you no matter what the reason is.
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MarcusSA posted:Perfectly! Don’t forget the aggravated child abuse charge after the ginger beat the poo poo out of the baby.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for showing up at my girlfriends bar? rear end in a top hat for what? Did anything happen here?
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:Don’t forget the aggravated child abuse charge after the ginger beat the poo poo out of the baby. It's always the most normal looking one in the polycule you need to look out for. Obligatory: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTsdKycVZZ4
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Sillybones posted:rear end in a top hat for what? Did anything happen here? If the bar isn't going for a "jealous bitter drunk" mood he killed the vibe and probably cost his girlfriend money while he watched her work when she was clearly not happy he was there
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"? that's just this video in text form basically https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKGoVefhtMQ
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"? I know doxxing is bad but I suspect Jimmy Smits wrote this one.
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Evil Willow posted:UPDATE: My (28f) dog attacked my stalker after he broke into my house. Now my SIL (32f) says my dog is "too dangerous" to be around my niece (4f). Feel like I'm going crazy. I'm convinced sis-in-law was passing stuff on to the stalker because it's so romantic! and she should give him a chance! I'm glad OP has good friends and a really good dog at least.
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Evil Willow posted:UPDATE: My (28f) dog attacked my stalker after he broke into my house. Now my SIL (32f) says my dog is "too dangerous" to be around my niece (4f). Feel like I'm going crazy. I have a solution: Don't bring your four year old to my loving house if you're so paranoid. This is the ideal one because it means that no four year olds will be appearing at your house.
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More name drama! I live for this poo poo. AITA for "stealing the name of my sister's dead baby"? quote:Clickbait title but it's how my family sees the situation. This is a throwaway account since they know my main.
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Dead baby is dead, let a living one use the drat name
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Atlas Hugged posted:Back to nicknames, we always went with either last initial or some kind of trait about the person, be it a hobby or physical trait. Long Hair Dave, Hockey Dave, Dave C, whatever. And it's not like we called these people that. It was just to clarify who we were referring to if there was confusion. Ironically, when Long Hair Dave shaved his head, he didn't stop being Long Hair Dave in our circle of friends either. in my freshman year in hs 12 people shared my first name and 5 shared my friends name. we did the same thing but we called them the name at all times. you opted out pe style and going by your surname.
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:Don’t forget the aggravated child abuse charge after the ginger beat the poo poo out of the baby. Ghost Leviathan posted:It's always the most normal looking one in the polycule you need to look out for. It was actually the one who looks like he’s questioning every decision that led him to this point Ginger is the bio-dad, best as they can estimate. I just read about this when I realised the baby would be born by now and googled mum’s name.
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Switchback posted:I always read your name as “Bru-chess-kee” and this is the first time I realised it could be broken down as “Bruce-skee.” Huh. I answer to both, but it's bru-chess-kee in my head. Part of the "making it my own" thing.
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I don't believe this one, but it makes me wish Elsa was still here doing illustrations. My (28F) fiance (39M) insists on wearing something unusual to our wedding quote:He and I started dating last spring, and a couple months later we were at a yard sale together and he found a weird nintendo glove controller and bought it ("For ONLY TWO DOLLARS he constantly reminds everyone.) I didn't think much of it at the time. Fast forward, we accelerate our plans to move in together due to covid/quarantine rules and financial pressure. As everyone else on earth is learning sweatpants can be worn every day, he discovers the same of the glove controller. EVERY DAY. I commented that it was looking kind of ratty, so he sets out to restore it like a classic car. No fewer than 3 other glove controllers were bought online for purposes of acquiring "original parts." He replaced the fabric and velcro with new stuff, and it does look like new. Ridiculous, but like new.
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Midlife crisis ahoy
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TheKennedys posted:this has historically been my strategy except it's funnier when you tell them; I dubbed the two Ambers at work Amber Prime and Amber the Usurper and the latter absolutely ran with it RIP Hooker Steve
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TheKennedys posted:this has historically been my strategy except it's funnier when you tell them; I dubbed the two Ambers at work Amber Prime and Amber the Usurper and the latter absolutely ran with it My cousins consist of four kids with gendered names, Michael and Michelle and Chris and Christina is a close comparison. As things somehow always go michael married a Michelle and Michelle ended up with a michael. I don't know exactly how the cousins differentiated who is who at first since we only see them once a year, but my wife and my sisters husband have dubbed themselves the Outlaws of the family and it came up on a trip. So now we have Outlaw Michael and Outlaw Michelle as official titles, and when it's time for family pictures the inlaws now get their own photo while throwing stuff at us and yelling "Outlaws!" It ended up being a good bonding experience for all the extended family husbands and wives since we see them so seldomly. threelemmings fucked around with this message at 13:11 on Jul 19, 2020 |
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My (28f) boyfriend (29m) tried to publish my private writing as an engagement gift and I feel humiliated.quote:Throwaway account and I changed a few details as I really don't want friends and people I know, knowing about this.
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My father named me after himself and then spent decades complaining about how irritating it is that we share the same name. It confused the poo poo out of me until I realized it was so he could open my mail by accident and open a cable account with my information.
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for getting upset with someone who claims he was pronouncing foreign words "correctly"? There's no way this happened.
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