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AITA for getting upset that my sister’s fiancé pulled me aside and patted me down at their wedding?quote:The title sounds so stupid but here we go anyways.
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Aug 12, 2020 09:33
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Miss posted:AITA for getting upset that my sister’s fiancé pulled me aside and patted me down at their wedding? 6 months clean is like nothing and uh once a junkie and yadda yadda. He also says he has been in recovery for 6 months not that he's been clean for 6 months which is an interesting choice of words there.
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Aug 12, 2020 09:41
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Poster is massaging the hell out of it, in other posts he admits that he's come to family gatherings high before and at one of those got in a fight with the brother in law, but honestly even with all that it didn't need to be public.
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Aug 12, 2020 09:47
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reignonyourparade posted:Poster is massaging the hell out of it, in other posts he admits that he's come to family gatherings high before and at one of those got in a fight with the brother in law, but honestly even with all that it didn't need to be public. I'm 99% sure this one has come up before and the consensus was that the BIL should have pulled him aside on the DL but with all the other poo poo that the BIL has gone through I get the frustration.
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Aug 12, 2020 09:52
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MarcusSA posted:I'm 99% sure this one has come up before and the consensus was that the BIL should have pulled him aside on the DL but with all the other poo poo that the BIL has gone through I get the frustration. The comments reveal he's gotten physical with the BIL on several occasions, gives some perspective why the BIL wanted to check him in front of everyone in case he swung on him for trying. The rest of the family giving him poo poo for not agreeing to it seems like they've seen the same behavior in the past and aren't going to trust him after just 6 months. It would've been better to pull him aside into a room where the groomsman were for witness/backup in case he was high, but in general no one really cares about a ex-junkie's feelings and they need to accept they're going to face embarrassment and shame for their past behavior until they earn back people's trust. pentyne fucked around with this message at 10:07 on Aug 12, 2020 |
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Aug 12, 2020 10:04
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AITA for not allowing my daughter to go on an 8th grade school trip.quote:This happened three years ago and my daughter "Mallory" still resents us for this. I'm asking now because my son is going to be starting the eighth grade next school year, permitting that schools will reopen again and this event isn't cancelled.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:07
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Miss posted:AITA for not allowing my daughter to go on an 8th grade school trip. Nah NTA. Like it sucks that the wedding was called off and I get why the kid is angry but it wasn't out of malice that they stopped her from going. I'm not sure I'd be comfortable sending my "younger" kid on a trip while the whole family took another trip to the other side of the country.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:13
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teen witch posted:I don’t think anyone is thinking of the book. It was on Oprah so that book was how a lot of people learned of the flower to begin with. I wasn't in a Oprah family but I know this just by seeing the book in so many people's houses, lol.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:20
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One more for the road AITA for not helping my daughter financially after she cuts me off quote:I am now in extremely lovely situation. My daughter(Jane) cut all contact with me after my wife made some racist comments about her bf. I agree what she did is disgusting but Jane told me choose either between her or wife. How the hell I am supposed to do that. TBH my wife comes from racist family I called her out many times but I think racism is deeply rooted into her now it is impossible to do anything about it. This happened five years ago, Jane and her bf getting married soon. She called me yesterday and asked for some money as she is laid off. Actually she told me to honour promise I made to all my daughters(I helped them financially when they get married). I refused. I told her I made promise to my daughter and as she denounced me as her father I am no longer going to help her out. AITA ?
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Aug 12, 2020 10:25
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Imagine that the worst thing in your life is not getting to go to your school's big annual spring break trip to New York City and Washington D.C. I'm sure it was devastating at her age, but drat. I'm just wondering why Linda called the wedding off with all her relatives there and the pressure of it all. I bet the husband cheated.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:26
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MarcusSA posted:Nah NTA. Keeping the kid away from a once in a lifetime trip so they can sit around with people they've literally never met before is garbage.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:28
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AITA for removing my sister from my weddingquote:My sister (36f) is on meth. I know I (27f) say it so nonchalant, but it is what it is. I’ve been dealing with her drug addiction since I was 12. She’s been on and off drugs for so long and when I got engaged, she was clean. Everything was great, she was participating in the planning of the bachelorette party and the bridal shower, she sounded like she was sober and excited, etc. Then out of no where she decided the dress I picked for everyone wouldn’t suit her. She wanted a completely different dress. I was annoyed by this but agreed. Then she decided she and her boyfriend should be staying in the same house as me and my fiancé the days leading up to the wedding. She said it was selfish of me to want the house we rented to ourselves. I said gently caress no you’re not staying with us and my mom has been bitching ever since (I just ignore her). The day of the shower comers and she doesn’t show up, she texted me three days later to say she fell off the wagon and she’s sorry but that I should understand and forgive her for not being able to attend. Fine, it’s my sister, I’m not going to cause a problem so I let it go. Well three weeks later and now it’s time for the bachelorette party. She has been MIA according to the other bridesmaids (she doesn’t answer any of my calls either) so I decided she’s not going to be in the wedding. She needs to work on getting better and this isn’t going to help her. Well after doing so my mom flipped her poo poo and told me that it’s wrong of me to exclude my sister. “She’s family and I need to have a bit of ‘grace’.” In my head this is a big what the gently caress no. She isn’t in a good spot and for once in my life I want something to be about me and not revolved around the family. I decided to go ahead and remove her from the wedding party despite the family objections. Needless to say everyone is pissed at me. Yeah she’s family but, AITA for kicking my sister out of the wedding?
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Aug 12, 2020 10:29
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Miss posted:AITA for not allowing my daughter to go on an 8th grade school trip. Once in a lifetime trip vs yet another wedding. You are the rear end in a top hat dude.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:30
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Miss posted:AITA for not allowing my daughter to go on an 8th grade school trip. sounds like op only has a few more years to make it up to her before becoming an estranged parent 
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Aug 12, 2020 10:32
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8one6 posted:Once in a lifetime trip vs yet another wedding. Plus maybe once in a lifetime family reunion. I really don’t think them having the family travel together is the wrong choice. If they had said she couldn’t go for any other reason then absolutely but I’m not gonna call them TA for having the kid go with them for a wedding and family reunion.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:43
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From the kids point of view theres no re to that union.
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Aug 12, 2020 10:45
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From Mallory's pov she gets shown off like a trophy to a bunch of barely interested people she doesn't know and then shuffled off to the baby table. Parents 100% hosed up, they broke an explicit promise to her and made it clear she is not a priority for them. Ghost Leviathan fucked around with this message at 11:04 on Aug 12, 2020 |
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Aug 12, 2020 10:56
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Pocky In My Pocket posted:From the kids point of view theres no re to that union. From the kids point of view everyone is a huge rear end in a top hat and rightfully so but I don’t think the parents made the wrong choice.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:00
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Ghost Leviathan posted:From Mallory's pov she gets shown off like a trophy to a bunch of barely interested people she doesn't know and then shuffled off to the baby table. Yeah, this is exactly it. It’s why I have always hated family reunions. You get introduced to a bunch of old fucks that only care about you in the sense that they are glad you exist to carry on the name, and then you get shunted off to the side while the adults talk. Even worse, with that age gap you end up being expected to watch the little kids. You don’t bring kids on those trips for the sake of the kid, you do it so great-grandpa can see them for 10 seconds and be satisfied that his family has another generation. gently caress that, let them have their unique once in a lifetime trip. They’re definitely the assholes.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:08
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AITA for laughing at my mothers plans to have a baby? quote:My mother was never really motherly, more like a friend but she did what she could.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:20
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Grape posted:lol at how adorably innocent goons continue to be about female sexuality. No idea what this is meant to mean. v Edit: I don't think I implied otherwise. Sillybones fucked around with this message at 11:36 on Aug 12, 2020 |
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Aug 12, 2020 11:20
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(Women also consume porn)
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Aug 12, 2020 11:24
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MarcusSA posted:Plus maybe once in a lifetime family reunion. hi i had an experience almost identical to that kid and i am here to tell you to go gently caress yourself and that the op is 100% the rear end in a top hat. the loving horse poo poo romanticism about how important ~*~family~*~ is is an extremely toxic aspect of our society and forcing your kid to miss out on an awesome, once in a lifetime experience to hang out with a bunch of people they don't know well or at all and who they may very well not get along with is some hot fuckin garbage, always, in every single situation. also her parents literally told her she could go on that trip two loving years before it was set to take place, she was psyched for it since the 6th goddamn grade. i am loving blown away that there exists anyone on earth who cannot see that the op is a gigantic loving rear end in a top hat. DEEP STATE PLOT fucked around with this message at 11:36 on Aug 12, 2020 |
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Aug 12, 2020 11:27
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DEEP STATE PLOT posted:hi i had an experience almost identical to that kid and i am here to tell you to go gently caress yourself and that the op is 100% the rear end in a top hat. Sorry you didn’t get to go to NY Mallory.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:37
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The best part is OP has basically parented herself into a corner. Her son is coming up soon for the same trip. If her son gets to go on the trip Mallory will resent her even more than she already does, and will likely resent her brother as well. If she doesn’t let her son go on the trip, he will resent both her and his sister for something that isn’t his fault. As far as parenting gently caress ups go this is quite spectacular.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:41
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Lord Ludikrous posted:The best part is OP has basically parented herself into a corner. Her son is coming up soon for the same trip. If her son gets to go on the trip Mallory will resent her even more than she already does, and will likely resent her brother as well. If she doesn’t let her son go on the trip, he will resent both her and his sister for something that isn’t his fault. the actual best part is that even if this wedding and reunion had taken place this would all still be true. absolutely nothing is more miserable than being at a wedding as a young teenager and then, later, a family reunion, with a bunch of people you don't know and potentially do not at all get along with, while knowing that your friends are having the time of their lives together somewhere else.
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Aug 12, 2020 11:51
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there’s no good reason to drag a teenager to a family reunion. if grandma’s third cousin is so interested, then send her a photo.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:06
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A key thing people really shouldn't discount is that this trip was a promise made years in advance, with Mallory keeping up the conditions of good behaviour and good grades, broken without warning so she should be treated as a prop to be briefly waved for the vague amusement of some strangers who would probably not notice if it was a broom with a smiley face drawn on it. She's learned that she can't trust or rely on her parents, OR her family, no matter how hard she works to earn it.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:13
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If great grandpa really wanted to interact with her he could call or write a letter or use any of the myriad technologies we have for relationship building at a distance.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:20
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Dissenting opinion (with no other content because when I looked for something to copy and paste all I could find were banal stories, I don't know how you guys find the good stuff), my grandparents lived in another country and are long dead so all I know of them comes from some camcorder tapes and one international trip when I was a 13-year-old moody jerk who felt exactly the same as Mallory did. In hindsight I would gladly swap memories of the annual interstate sightseeing trip for a conversation with them, or even just remembering that visit better.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:29
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Yeah, that's one that will leave a mark. 40 years from now: "But you promised us you wouldn't put us in a lovely nursing home and abandon us!" "Sorry, I've got a trip to New York planned." Mom and dad hosed up royally. But at least they bald-faced lied to their child and broke a years-old promise for absolutely nothing at all. I bet the kid is going to treasure all her precious memories of the family reunion, and all those strangers she met once.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:30
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Ghost Leviathan posted:A key thing people really shouldn't discount is that this trip was a promise made years in advance, with Mallory keeping up the conditions of good behaviour and good grades, broken without warning so she should be treated as a prop to be briefly waved for the vague amusement of some strangers who would probably not notice if it was a broom with a smiley face drawn on it. She's learned that she can't trust or rely on her parents, OR her family, no matter how hard she works to earn it. I get that goons will poo poo all over the entire concept of family. And having severed from most of my family because they're toxic shitheads, I understand the sentiment. But this is the real crux. The parent made a promise years before and then backed out on their end of the deal.
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Aug 12, 2020 12:35
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Funky See Funky Do posted:Aww poor baby. Everyone knows how to spell your name instantly? Don't have to spell it out every single time someone asks? My heart breaks for you. I get hosed over both ways. My name is Sara and I was one of six in school. It was crazy. But now I work as a dispatcher and every time I call a vendor they ask me how to spell it because of the Sara/Sarah split. Granted it's not a huge deal, but it's not like it matters if they put the h on there. Just go with what your heart tells you, random vendor dude!
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Aug 12, 2020 13:11
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Weddings are the worst poo poo, and she had an excuse to miss the wedding and her dumb parents decided she still had to go, that's pretty unforgivable. Family reunions are absolutely missable. Like if you never met most of those people and never will again, its just a waste of time. Otherwise there's always next family reunion. I'm not saying that she should never get over this or anything, but I think it says a lot about their parenting style that they're not even sure they hosed up. Like the post should have been "I hosed up, I know, how do I fix it?"
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Aug 12, 2020 13:21
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I read it as Mallory had to go to the wedding because it's in New Mexico and there would be nobody around within driving distance of New York should anything go wrong on spring break, rather than 'you have to come to see family'.
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Aug 12, 2020 13:36
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Georgia: Law that requires access to drinking water in schools?quote:Is there a law in the state of GA that requires schools (including private schools) to provide access to drinking water during school hours?
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Aug 12, 2020 14:03
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teen witch posted:Georgia: Law that requires access to drinking water in schools? It's Principal.
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Aug 12, 2020 14:07
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It's a class trip, there are chaperones and people to help if something goes wrong Mallory is old enough, it should have been her choice. Mom hosed up by treating her like a younger child and making it for her. Another case of a parent's brain failing to grow up along with their kid.
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Aug 12, 2020 14:14
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I agree, I just think that people who are going on about how family reunions and weddings aren't fun for teenagers are missing the point a bit, they aren't going because they think Mallory will enjoy it, they're going because they want to.
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Aug 12, 2020 14:16
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they're going because it's considered an obligation, much like everyone who has had to do dumb poo poo since the beginning of time
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