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the pro move is to have a kid at exactly fifty years of age. cant wait
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that’s what my father in law did
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KOTEX GOD OF BLOOD posted:not having kids until i'm in my late 30s and only if I can afford childcare I'm gonna real talk for a second - stop waiting - there will never be a right time - your babymomma will re-enact her upbringing, guaranteed. Don't kid yourself into thinking otherwise, and be sure you're OK with everything that means. Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 01:27 on Jan 17, 2021 |
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Jan 17, 2021 01:05
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-don’t bother getting a diaper genie
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...I mean if you need a new trash can why not
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:what's up mid 30s dad? actually it's good because my friends had them a couple of years in advance so a) we got to extend our 20s into our 30s with respect to irresponsible levels of drinking and b) we've been given poo poo loads of baby clothes and useful stuff, like who knew babies need a special bath? Not this guy! these are all good points, we got p. much everything for free as a hand-me-down, including a $600 carseat/stroller thingie that we'd never have bought
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President Beep posted:-don’t bother getting a diaper genie ours was a free hand-me-down - aside from needing stupid custom bags, it's way better than the regular trash-can we have downstairs
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Poopernickel posted:I just wish I hadn't waited until I was in my mid thirties to do it why's that
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Because it’s exhausting
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I had kids from my early mid 20s and it was exhausting then as well. wife and I just console ourselves with the FACT that they will all be gone out of our house before we are 50 as much as we love them
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but who will run the farm?
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my homie dhall posted:why's that The pregnancy was harder on my wife, and we're having trouble getting a second one to stick. The risk of birth defects is statistically higher. But we want our son to have a sibling to grow up with. Also I'll be in my 50s before my kid goes to college, and probably in my sixties before I ever see a grandkid. I could be dead before I ever see a great grandkid. Plus I'm the oldest in a bunch of parent-group situations. Also I like having my kid, it's fun and rewarding - why not start something good as early as possible Poopernickel fucked around with this message at 15:43 on Jan 17, 2021 |
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Jan 17, 2021 02:34
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but anyways, computer good
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parenting is like small shrunken grapes because its literally just raisin kids
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Poopernickel posted:The pregnancy was harder on my wife, and we're behaving trouble getting a second one to stick. The risk of birth defects is statistically higher. But we want our son to have a sibling to grow up with. ah, sorry to hear about those troubles. my “have a kid” plan is currently early to mid 30s which is why I asked. I have trouble seeing having the money / stability before then at any rate
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Words of wisdom from an old-timer: broke rear end people have kids all the time, and nobody is happy if they're old and alone
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Whenever I propose something that the little one will likely disagree with, I tell my wife "Wintergirl and I have a deal- I do what I want, and she deals." This sounds like an emotionally distant, tough love dad thing but it's really just talking a big game so I don't have to face that I'm wrapped around her little finger.
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once my kids were fighting over a bath mat.. so as a solution, I got from the cupboard a second, identical bathmat, and gave it to them so they could have one each. I was shocked when both lost interest in having exclusive access to the bath mat
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my youngest is 17 months and oldest is 7 years. the other day they fought over something for the first time.  (my watuary bottle!  )
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unironically love being a dad but hoo boy do i enjoy the quiet times.
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President Beep posted:unironically love being a dad but hoo boy do i enjoy the quiet times. lmao my best friend just had her second kid recently, and she got 5 minutes to give me a call tonight while she was was nursing I get to be the weird aunt lmao https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDmxD78DKUw
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i do not appreciate the self reflection this thread is inspiring
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sometimes I think about how much I love my cat and I start tearing up. I dunno if that means I will be a good dad or a bad dad - could see it going either way
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my little guy is almost 2 and a half and I think hella smart, at least I hope (and tell myself) that's why he's so loving cheeky and always looking to get a rise out of his mum and me. anyway about time to try for number 2. as an only child this is hella uncharted territory for me
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President Beep posted:unironically love being a dad but hoo boy do i enjoy the quiet times. I said to my wife yesterday "now I know why people have those" home office" buildings at the end of the garden, it's so they can go there and conveniently pretend they cant hear their name being called to help" a friend has 2 boys (ages uhhhh idk 5 and 3 maybe?) and has just had twin boys on top of that. can you even imagine?
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:a friend has 2 boys (ages uhhhh idk 5 and 3 maybe?) and has just had twin boys on top of that. can you even imagine?
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I don't really have much to say, but we are making very serious motions towards trying this year (getting some longstanding fertility concerns checked etc), and I am enjoying all of these candid takes. Oh I guess there's one thing. How much does it suck to have a young kid when you don't have much of a local support network? We live far from family and our friend group is pretty small atm.
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eh, if you and your partner work well together and can navigate schedules it can be fine. we were in a similar boat with our first and it went ok. ymmv.
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we had some born-again friends back in AR and they loved to make babies. one day over there the wife said giddily "if the man's on top it'll be a girl, if the woman's on top it'll be a boy!" me: <gesticulates towards their boy toddler> "So that explains that" her: "Oh no, sometimes God throws you a curveball!"
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evangelicals love pregnancy and baby having because its the only way they can publicly talk about sex and cumming
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President Beep posted:-don’t bother getting a diaper genie yeah those proprietary bag liners are the scam there really you just want something that takes regularass kitchen trash bags like this one
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Poopernickel posted:The pregnancy was harder on my wife, and we're having trouble getting a second one to stick. The risk of birth defects is statistically higher. this is p overblown, really it's still quite a small difference the larger concern is diminishing fertility and complications with the pregnancy itself (like pre-eclampsia), but even still it's a sliding scale and the language and definitions around "advanced maternal age" ie giving birth after 35 is p outdated unless you're like pushing 50 or diabetic i wouldn't worry about it too much
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shoeberto posted:Oh I guess there's one thing. How much does it suck to have a young kid when you don't have much of a local support network? We live far from family and our friend group is pretty small atm. we live on the opposite side of the country from both of our families and it would've been p rough without paid maternity and paternity leave (thanks california). between that and her shockingly permissive residency program hoverwife was able to take off 14 weeks paid, while i got 6 also my mother in law flew over for those first two weeks, which are p rough because babby isn't on a day-night schedule yet and whatnot. but after that we v specifically didn't have the grandmas start staying over until hoverwife went back to work, then they did alternating shifts of like two weeks or so - this allowed us to not start (paying for) daycare until nearly 6 months old. and buddy, newborn daycare is not cheap still, this was nothing compared to childe #2 away from family - you can't exactly have a toddler in the delivery room, for starters
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Yeah we pretty much rely on my wife’s family Even if her mom has bad childcare habits and cut her hair without asking
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Arcteryx Anarchist posted:cut her hair without asking massive party foul.
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I do think my wife has stopped complaining and it was a month ago already Also right before Christmas photos
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having kids just seems awful both in the day to day and also in the aggregate im only in my late 20s but i think it would be pretty cool to spend the rest of my life doing whatever i want with my future partner(s)
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there’s only one thing to say there: it ain’t for everyone, and that’s 100% ok.
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increasingly my plan seems to be: hang out with my friends'/brothers'/cousins' kids and be a real person in their lives, and then go home and party with my s/o because I don't have to take care of a child.
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