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Sisal Two-Step posted:I fully admit to being the type of person to closely follow cat rescue kitten streams (spay and neuter, everyone!) and I've literally never encountered such a thing as siblings picking on the runt of the litter. It's just... they can get rough but that's kittens. Kittens are basically 3 brain cells, 20 claws, and no sense of proportion or restraint. I'm sure OP isn't lying but... what an odd story. It could even just be that the travelling and being in a strange environment was stressful for the cat. Because, yeah - being taken miles away from home, dropped into a room with other cats, and expected to get along and be adorable is going to be something that freaks them out. The poor cat was probably expecting it to be a vet trip.
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carry on then posted:Yes, that's true. I literally quoted the part where the OPs insecurity is likely coming from. If you believed that every sexual encounter would get as far as you undressing before the other person left in disgust, you'd probably have hangups too.
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tinytort posted:It could even just be that the travelling and being in a strange environment was stressful for the cat. Because, yeah - being taken miles away from home, dropped into a room with other cats, and expected to get along and be adorable is going to be something that freaks them out. The poor cat was probably expecting it to be a vet trip. Apparently OP does this all the time? quote:While he normally loves meeting new cats (I've taken him to friends and family houses with other cats), Like, mine flees the house in terror when anybody not in the family visits, and often hides all day after the cleaners have been in, so I'm in no position to judge.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:05 |
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Some cats are totally fine traveling and some are very much not. You just kinda keep an eye on how your cat is reacting and act accordingly. Source: about to begin shared cat custody with my ex starting in two weeks and I’ve done a lot of anxiety reading. there are a lot of cats and a lot of personalities I’m contending with. aaaaaa
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:10 |
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Maybe the house had a weird smell? Maybe the cat was sick? I refuse to accept the cat was traumatized by kitten bullying. Kittens are far too stupid!!
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pentyne posted:These big vagina ladies are getting away with murder. Vagina dentata is real folks, and it's sexy
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:14 |
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Kitten bullying in action (warning! graphic!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9AuFUrKo6I And some content: AITA for snapping at my ILs when they tried to influence us to force our adopted son to meet his birth mother? quote:My husband and I adopted his nephew Kai when he was 6 years old. He had a rough start. His birth mother was never involved and my husbands brother was a single parent for five years of Kai's life. Then my husbands brother met a woman. They were together for a while and got engaged. All while Kai never met her. Kai met her and found out they were expecting a baby the day of the wedding. He knew his dad had someone but no introduction had taken place. What followed was Kai was placed second to the new baby girl and eventually he came to live with us, and a few months after his 6th birthday. In the space of a year he had his whole world turned upside down and it left a major mark on him.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:28 |
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My cat hides when people come around. She's just now, after 7 years, warming up to my girlfriend. I wouldn't say she likes my gf, but she does accept pets. No cuddling, though. I couldn't imagine taking her somewhere for a kitty play date. That's just insane.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:30 |
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So much animal stuff is based on getting them familiar with poo poo from the very start so it's not unbelievable that if someone started taking their cat to meet other cats early on, they would be fine with going to meet other cats.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:35 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not taking my cat on a "playdate" with his litter mates? Dude drives 3 hours one way for a cat play date which he spends psychoanalyzing his cat and you want to talk about the cats??
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:44 |
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Kitten bullying in action (warning! graphic!) Hey, it's Kitten Lady! I love her!
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I mean, I dunno if he has accurately anthropomorphized the cat's reaction, but he observed that it had freaked out and decided to not subject it to the experience again. That sounds perfectly reasonable. What floors me is that this was apparently an actual cat playdate and not a crazy cover for a booty call. What the heck
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Tomfoolery posted:Dude drives 3 hours one way for a cat play date which he spends psychoanalyzing his cat and you want to talk about the cats??
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:57 |
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Is the cat's name Ferguson?
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 21:58 |
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Mine gets along with other cats just fine. I already had a couple cats when I found her as a kitten, though. She does not like strange people or riding in cars, though. Socialization is a key thing, though. I gave a friend of mine a kitten. He took it to work every day. No carrier or anything, the cat just loved the car ride and seeing all the people at his shop. He named it Cosmo. It died, sadly, from some illness, so I gave him a little black kitten I found in a field, and he named it Rumi, after his favorite poet. That cat's nuts. He doesn't take it to work, but if Rumi is annoyed, he'll mash his head against the wall and scream. Things that annoy Rumi can be something simple like being told to get off the table.
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Tomfoolery posted:Dude drives 3 hours one way for a cat play date which he spends psychoanalyzing his cat and you want to talk about the cats?? I don't know if I speak for everyone who wanted to talk about the guy, but where does one even begin? He has his breaking point, and it's so far into the Crazy Zone that I can't give him any guidance. He's seen more than I have, and been places I will not go. Godspeed to him. Anyway here's Buffy after she climbed into a pile of her own discarded fur and Faith snuggling with her new best friend E-Reader
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packetmantis posted:Hey, it's Kitten Lady! I love her! Me too! I love that she's an 'affluent heiress' (sort of--her dad was in Styx) and she spends her time, money, and energy on kitten fostering (and occasionally puppies and piglets). Zulily Zoetrope posted:What floors me is that this was apparently an actual cat playdate and not a crazy cover for a booty call. What the heck I hadn't thought of that. Maybe the woman was hoping for a little action and op got spooked and that's the real reason they won't go back.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not letting my friend read secret letters my great uncle received from his secret lover? I'm good with the OP's call, but I think there's some degree of overlap on their position and the "don't dishonor the dead" principle they're against. Unless I'm misunderstanding the point of that paranthetical. Daduzi posted:[UPDATE] Had a falling out with the girl I love and got served a cease and desist order. What can I legally do? [Michigan] Wow, I loved The Power; didn't know there was a sequel.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Me too! I love that she's an 'affluent heiress' (sort of--her dad was in Styx) and she spends her time, money, and energy on kitten fostering (and occasionally puppies and piglets). I didn't find out about her dad until recently and I was like , it's so cool that she just... loves animals so much.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Me too! I love that she's an 'affluent heiress' (sort of--her dad was in Styx) and she spends her time, money, and energy on kitten fostering (and occasionally puppies and piglets). As a guy who was way too into Styx in high school, I immediately thought "I wonder if it's the one Tommy Shaw wrote songs to as a metaphor for his fanbase and presumably groupies" and uh apparently yes. I was not prepared for this very specific piece of trivia to reappear twenty years after I last thought about it for any reason at all.
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I hate the initials instead of names thing, but here's the setup: AITA for "stealing" my sisters house? quote:In May 2018 my husband "M" and I moved in with my little sister "L" and her friend "R." They were already renting but needed new roommates. M & I needed to find a place. The house was a walk to my work so we moved in. It was a house with affordable rent in one of the most expensive cities in North America. It needed a lot of work but M (with a little help from us) turned it into a badass place. And the knockdown: quote:At that time, L&R were earning more than M & I. They could have afforded it! We also got a roommate and we found her with no trouble at all.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 23:25 |
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Guessing by "she hates us for following gender norms" she means "I made a bunch of snide comments about her and her '''''friend''''' R and I just don't understand why they can't accept that some people have different opinions!"
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packetmantis posted:Guessing by "she hates us for following gender norms" she means "I made a bunch of snide comments about her and her '''''friend''''' R and I just don't understand why they can't accept that some people have different opinions!" I didn't want to quote a bunch of comments but the OP responded to a similar question. quote:She's heterosexual! She's just single. I'm actually bi; I just happened to end up with a man. The gender norms issue with our marriage never came up in the 8 years of our relationship prior to living with them. It seems tied solely to the fact that while living together I did most of the cleaning/cooking because in her eyes he refused to do it. She says it's "anti-feminist" because I did most of the traditionally female tasks and he did traditional male tasks.
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# ? Jun 20, 2021 23:44 |
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Egg on my face!
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teen witch posted:Some cats are totally fine traveling and some are very much not. You just kinda keep an eye on how your cat is reacting and act accordingly. good luck buddy
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Ugly In The Morning posted:Weren’t you the poster who was always posting about how men with small ducks are unworthy of love in the last thread? Yeah that’s been that posters gimmick for an extremely long time and I was honestly just shocked to see a sincere post from them lmao.
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packetmantis posted:Egg on my face! To be fair, with a statement like that you still had a 50/50 on picking which one was crazy. Because one of them was sure as hell going to be.
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“I told them that they needed to move out, and now they’re moving out! What the gently caress???”
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The Maroon Hawk posted:“I told them that they needed to move out, and now they’re moving out! What the gently caress???” Yeah, what the hell? They gave them a "get out" ultimatum and then when they got out, SHOCKED PIKACHU FACE
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"You're supposed to cave to the ultimatum and give me what I want, not actually do the thing I'm threatening you with!"
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A month ago: Nightmare Situation: Me(35F) with Partner(40M), my son and his nephew (15Ms) quote:EDIT: Thank you all so much for your support, advice and kind words! Your comments have given me a lot to think about, and I will be making contact with a family lawyer shortly. Update today: Update to Nightmare Situation: Me(35F) with Partner(40M), my son and his nephew (15Ms) quote:Hi again everyone. I posted about my family problem about a month ago and was bowled over by the amount of kind and extremely helpful comments I got. Someone requested an update, so I'm posting now to tell you what's happened since. To be honest it's also to unburden myself, the boys are really sweet but I obviously can't talk to them about these things and there aren't a lot of people in my life I feel comfortable sharing all the details with. I suppose I'm embarrassed. Scumbag meets reasonable person. Hurray, I guess?
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Maybe I am misunderstanding that post, but lady seems like a Saint.
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Midnight Voyager posted:Yeah, what the hell? They gave them a "get out" ultimatum and then when they got out, SHOCKED PIKACHU FACE Lmao that happened with my last roommate. My husband and I were renting a room in the roommates house and one day he told us we needed to move out by like October (I don't remember exactly but it was a three month window) so he could move his girlfriend in. I figured why wait, applied around and got a place a month later. He spent that entire month bitching that I screwed him and he couldn't afford the mortgage himself for the next two months. Like dude I did literally exactly what you said. You played yourself. Soysaucebeast fucked around with this message at 03:45 on Jun 21, 2021 |
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Lemniscate Blue posted:I hate the initials instead of names thing, but here's the setup: I love that OP called her sister's bluff & kept the house, some people are so, so stupid
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BOOTY-ADE posted:I love that OP called her sister's bluff & kept the house, some people are so, so stupid I think what I've missed is what the bluff was, didn't the sister just tell her to move out, she didn't want anything just for her to move out.
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Aramoro posted:I think what I've missed is what the bluff was, didn't the sister just tell her to move out, she didn't want anything just for her to move out. The fact that she was freaking out at the prospect of them actually moving out at least kinda implies a bluff.
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I think the sister was expecting them to procrastinate leaving/not find a place so quickly. Except they got out of there like a batvout of hell and suddenly the sister was down rent before she could set up another room mate. The dates for the ultimatum and the actual departure were pretty wide, right? Still amusingly hoist by her own petard either way. E: nope, I remembered it wrong. Sister didn't give a move out date and they didn't move for three months. FoolyCharged fucked around with this message at 09:25 on Jun 21, 2021 |
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Serephina posted:A month ago: Better people-understanders (or more active readers) than me may have suspected or even saw it from a mile away, but I was really caught off-guard by the cheating.
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Ocean of Milk posted:Better people-understanders (or more active readers) than me may have suspected or even saw it from a mile away, but I was really caught off-guard by the cheating.
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Algol Star posted:No, saying one person is not genuine is in no way saying that rehabilitation is impossible. Nor is applying scrutiny to someone's words instead of blindly accepting them saying that rehabilitation is impossible. Far from it, applying scrutiny is essential to ensuring that rehabilitation is possible. The simple answer: watch peoples actions not their words. His words are the right things to say, some people are very good at saying The Right Things and then going back to doing the exact same poo poo they've been doing. Since we don't know him though we have no way of knowing either way.
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