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AITA for making my daughter wear a dressquote:I'm a mother of 4 children ages 15f, 14f, 7m, and 5m. My second daughter is kinda of a tomboy. She hates the color pink, wearing dresses,skirts,purses, shopping, etc. She's the type for stay home and watch TV, stay cooped up in her room, loves to skateboard,play video games paint, loves snakes, and is afraid of almost nothing. When my daughter was in 7th grade( she's an 8th grader now) her school was have an awards ceremony were the parents could watch online. My daughter asked to wear a suit but I refused she got upset saying that she hated wearing dresses and their wasn't even a reason because she wasn't gonna get an award anyway ( she got best student award) so the week before the ceremony I took her shopping for a dress but as we walked into the shop she looked pissed saying she didn't want a stupid dress. (Added para breaks for readability)
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Nov 29, 2021 05:14
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Blue Moonlight posted:It wouldn’t surprise me if they got exactly the response they wanted, then edited their post to make it look like the thread was fawning over a racist rear end in a top hat (AKA the sort of fuckery we have the “Soandso hosed around with this message” label on our edits to prevent). Here's a diff of the original post vs the one Cowslips posted: < My brother got extremely upset, called me a paranoid rear end in a top hat. He told me about how men constantly get unfairly accused of being a "t0ddler f0ndler" for any kind of interaction with kids, like when they take them to a park and so forth. He made me feel bad for my reaction and so I apologized, but in retrospect I still think him wiping my son's but without even asking my permission was a red flag, but I'm still confused about it. --- > My brother got extremely upset, called me a paranoid rear end in a top hat. He told me about how men constantly get unfairly accused of being a "t0ddler f0ndler" for any kind of interaction with kids, like when they take them to a park and so forth. He reminded me that he was doing me a favour helping me take care of my little "Jigaboo" and that I most likely won't find many other Caucasian men willing to do so. He made me feel bad for my reaction and so I apologized, but in retrospect I still think him wiping my son's but without even asking my permission was a red flag, but I'm still confused about it.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:21
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for making my daughter wear a dress This makes me irrationally angry. Why is it so important to this mom that her daughter wears specifically a dress in tyool 2021? It smacks of being worried the daughter is going to turn out to be some flavor(s) of LGBT.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:22
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Hughlander posted:Here's a diff of the original post vs the one Cowslips posted: Yeahhhh, the "he made me feel bad for my reaction" makes a lot more sense when it doesn't come immediately after calling the kid a slur
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Nov 29, 2021 05:24
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Every time I learn a new slur, I immediately regret learning it.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:24
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for making my daughter wear a dress As someone who's been in this exact situation/mindset, this line got to me 
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Nov 29, 2021 05:24
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Brawnfire posted:Yeahhhh, the "he made me feel bad for my reaction" makes a lot more sense when it doesn't come immediately after calling the kid a slur The interesting thing to me is that the NBA/rapper line is in there originally.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:26
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Hughlander posted:The interesting thing to me is that the NBA/rapper line is in there originally. "Just to make it clear I'M not the ONLY racist, my brother who is caring for my child is as well. Just, you know. If that helps you guys stop flaming me"
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Nov 29, 2021 05:28
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for making my daughter wear a dress It’s been 15+ years since prom and I am STILL mad at my mother for pulling this poo poo with me. I hated the dress she made me buy. She denies it was her idea but she refused every other option I gave (suit, a black ballgown, etc) and insisted on light blue with scratchy beading. Jokes on her, still turned out non-binary and queer! Just with a dash of bitter instead.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:30
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for making my daughter wear a dress Well, at least she bought the dress the daughter chose instead of just picking one out for her. That's all I can say in her favor. I had a similar awards thing in 8th grade and would have been mortified if my parents insisted on me going all out for it. If this one was anything like mine, it was incredibly boring and something only the parents cared about.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:40
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ChickenDoodle posted:It’s been 15+ years since prom and I am STILL mad at my mother for pulling this poo poo with me. I hated the dress she made me buy. She denies it was her idea but she refused every other option I gave (suit, a black ballgown, etc) and insisted on light blue with scratchy beading. Forcing me into constant dresses gave me some really lovely dislike of girls/women who conform to expectations and enjoy those things that I had to really work out of my head over the course of years. For a while, I wondered if I was trans, because I was just so miserable being a woman. Turns out I'm fine with my gender as long as people don't force me into pink dresses and makeup.  Really makes those "they're convincing kids to be trans!" people look like morons.wizardofloneliness posted:Well, at least she bought the dress the daughter chose instead of just picking one out for her. That's all I can say in her favor. Oh she did the same thing my mom did which was force me to keep shopping until I picked a dress she also approved of. I can assure you it still sucks. Playing a game of "what do I hate more, how this looks, how this feels, or staying here a minute longer."
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Nov 29, 2021 05:47
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Hughlander posted:The interesting thing to me is that the NBA/rapper line is in there originally. The only reason it would not be racist is if the baby's father is playing NCAA or actual NBA ball, and posting a ton of stuff on his socials about rapping. Even then if he's not in college she should be getting child support or something. One of those "tell me how you really feel" statements where it's either 100% true or just some weird racist insult.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:49
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That word and brother is 100% racist there’s no not racist context/use for it. It’s a relatively “minor” and obscure slur but the fact he used it at all means there’s no other context or guesswork about the rest of the stuff it’s just all bad.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:52
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:That word and brother is 100% racist there’s no not racist context/use for it. They’re not talking about the J word, they’re talking about the rapper/basketball player comment made by op. The racial slur supposedly from the brother was edited in after YTA verdicts started rolling in.
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Nov 29, 2021 05:56
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DreamingofRoses posted:They’re not talking about the J word. Read better. Never
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Nov 29, 2021 05:57
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Quickly editing out a bad attempt to get an own in, the shame, the shame
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Nov 29, 2021 06:03
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:Never I edited it for being needlessly aggressive, sorry. What do you do if you love perfume and your partner claims that perfume gives them headaches?Just wear it and spend time on your own, smelling yourself? quote:This is a past issue, obviously I divorced the person who claims this because I figured there was no use. What am i to do? Sneak off into a little corner and smell myself for a few hours and then wash it off and live with my partner the rest of the day?
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Nov 29, 2021 06:04
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DreamingofRoses posted:What do you do if you love perfume and your partner claims that perfume gives them headaches?Just wear it and spend time on your own, smelling yourself? impressive how sheerly sociopathic yet relatively begin she is
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Nov 29, 2021 06:09
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:impressive how sheerly sociopathic yet relatively begin she is She smells horrible and knows it.
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Nov 29, 2021 06:09
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From legaladvice: My half-sister(8) is at her aunt, and she won't give her back quote:Well long story short I live with my dad, little sister, and little brother. And since it's Thanksgiving break, (school was out on Wednesday - Friday) my sister said if she can go with her aunt and of course my dad said yes. Now, I don't talk with her side of the family a lot so I had no first impressions, so I just kept it at that.
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Nov 29, 2021 06:25
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AITA for not warning my cousins that my fiancé could understand them when they were speaking about him in a different language?quote:My fiancé comes from a very mixed background and speaks a lot of languages. His great grandmother comes from the same country as my grandparents so he speaks Urdu too. A lot of people assume he’s just white, though, and just looking at him you wouldn’t guess he has Pakistani ancestry.
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Nov 29, 2021 06:34
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not warning my cousins that my fiancé could understand them when they were speaking about him in a different language? LMFAO, NTA.
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Nov 29, 2021 06:46
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Am I reading it right that they’re getting married before ever having sex
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Nov 29, 2021 06:54
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DreamingofRoses posted:I edited it for being needlessly aggressive, sorry. OP is obviously deranged but how did they marry without this ever coming up unless the implication is that they banged their head and this all came up later but how did it not at least come up that OP is deranged and her husband should never have married her
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Nov 29, 2021 07:01
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Mx. posted:OP is obviously deranged but how did they marry without this ever coming up The implication is that her husband banged his head Once, and then complained about feeling like crap afterwards, and that was enough to make OP go "nope, you're a whiny baby, the doctors checked and you're fine, I should be able to bathe in perfume and play loud music all I want, I want a divorce". Basically, OP couldn't go more than a couple days before being told to hold off on the perfume was too much for them to bear, and they're not happy that everyone in their life is less than sympathetic about their divorce.
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Nov 29, 2021 07:15
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Ziv Zulander posted:Am I reading it right that they’re getting married before ever having sex Depending on the family, it might be wise to say that, whether or not it’s true.
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Nov 29, 2021 07:20
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Blue Moonlight posted:Depending on the family, it might be wise to say that, whether or not it’s true. Its this, dude did the perfect response
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Nov 29, 2021 07:28
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AITA For Refusing to Make a $120 Cut of Steak Well Done?quote:So, we did a bit of an extravagant Friendsgiving this year as I lucked into a strip loin of A5 Wagyu for a price that was unorthodox levels of cheap (My friend works for a high-end meat distributor and received it as a gift) it was a tight-knit event with only 10 of us there, mostly couples including my friend who only started dating a girl within the last couple months. We had an array of dishes but I was responsible for cooking the meat. Steak is about the closest thing I have to a religion and I take it very seriously. The average steak for me takes about 4-5 hours to prepare and cook from the sous vide to the cast iron, to plate though sometimes I take as much as 3-4 months butter aging or dry aging my meats to be certain that they are perfect. These were genuine A5 so I only sous vide them after cutting them into two inch steaks. There was pretty perfectly enough for one each but I also made jerk chicken, mandarin duck breast, and a nice cut off cherry jalapeno salmon. I had quite the spread. I sous vide them to medium-rare to be sure the fat was well-rendered but informed them that if absolutely necessary, I'd bring them up to medium on request.
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Nov 29, 2021 11:07
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'Tricking' people into thinking you don't speak their language so they badmouth you right in front of you and can be embarrassed to death shortly thereafter is one of life's greatest gifts
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Nov 29, 2021 11:08
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Yeah normally let people eat food the way they want but what the gently caress why even eat nice steak if you want it well done much less a rare delicacy E: on second thought she could be pregnant or something and he took it way too far either way so host also sucks too so everyone in this story is terrible Butter Activities fucked around with this message at 11:13 on Nov 29, 2021 |
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Nov 29, 2021 11:10
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Evil Willow posted:AITA For Refusing to Make a $120 Cut of Steak Well Done? *deep breath* Aaaaaahahahahaaha, what a poser. Who does he think he's impressing with that horseshit, does he think (or does he think that others think) that chefs slave for hours prepping with a sou vide? They chuck it in a sealer, chuck it in the water and walk away doing other stuff. It's like saying you slaved for hours over an oven-cooked pizza, trying to act like cooking time is effort. Pretentious ignorant incompetent rear end in a top hat. edti: that account is Nine years old, and he's been consistent about this in prior posts. This is it people, it is an actual walking caricature! Serephina fucked around with this message at 11:31 on Nov 29, 2021 |
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Nov 29, 2021 11:22
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:Yeah normally let people eat food the way they want but what the gently caress why even eat nice steak if you want it well done much less a rare delicacy I was tending to ESH but his edit makes her TA
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Nov 29, 2021 11:23
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Blue Moonlight posted:Depending on the family, it might be wise to say that, whether or not it’s true. Yeah the cousins are joking about asking that so as far as they are concerned it's obviously a possibility, but dinner with your SO's mum and cousins is not the right time to start boasting about your sex life.
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Nov 29, 2021 11:24
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:'Tricking' people into thinking you don't speak their language so they badmouth you right in front of you and can be embarrassed to death shortly thereafter is one of life's greatest gifts As for racist OP and maybe-racist brother depending on if you believe the edit or not, the OP remains an rear end in a top hat whether or not the brother said slurs. The brother just might be one as well. Either way, OP sucks for several reasons.
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Nov 29, 2021 11:26
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Evil Willow posted:AITA For Refusing to Make a $120 Cut of Steak Well Done? every part of this is a lol
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Nov 29, 2021 11:27
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Propaniac posted:From legaladvice: I'm not 100% sure your half-sister is alive anymore
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Nov 29, 2021 11:59
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Dad is roughly slightly less concerned about his misplaced 8 year old child as I am when I cannot remember where I put my phone/keys but don’t have any urgent reason to need them
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Nov 29, 2021 12:10
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Ziv Zulander posted:Am I reading it right that they’re getting married before ever having sex Gallant plays it cool and doesn't blow up his spot by making crude sexual jokes in Urdu at his first family function. Goofus yells "Giddy up!" and mimes riding his significant other like a bucking bronco.
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Nov 29, 2021 12:23
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:Dad is roughly slightly less concerned about his misplaced 8 year old child as I am when I cannot remember where I put my phone/keys but don’t have any urgent reason to need them It could be shock.
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Nov 29, 2021 12:34
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DreamingofRoses posted:What do you do if you love perfume and your partner claims that perfume gives them headaches?Just wear it and spend time on your own, smelling yourself?
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