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Jam With Seeds posted:Is this something that happens? Should I be worried? Shithouse Dave is an outlier and should not have been counted.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:I can't tell you how happy I am that she went through with pressing charges. I honestly think I'd physically attack someone if I woke up and found out they had done significantly altered my appearance for the next six months or longer. Like, motherfucker, I have to go to work on Monday. "its just hair, he went off his meds." makes me want to press charges more so my erstwhile friend can get the mental help he apparently so desperately needs.
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the hair shave victim was male, he talks about the *hypothetical* of how people might feel differently if he was female.
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m pretty sure I was introduced to it as Ten Little Indians abut that might have been while I was stuck in the conservative mountains of northwestern New Jersey. I think it was called this in Australia as well, at least that’s what some decrepit old biddy at the library implied when she asked the librarians why it didn’t have the original title anymore, which of course she then blurted out loud enough for the whole building to hear. Anyway how has nobody mentioned Agatha Christie’s most famous poo poo detective, Hercule Pooirot
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:lmbo that the Americans immediately released the book as And Then There Were None but the Brits used the original title until 1985 Based on that timeline I'm guessing Australia changed it in like 2011 or something.
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Fatkraken posted:the hair shave victim was male, he talks about the *hypothetical* of how people might feel differently if he was female. I mean I shave my head every few weeks but if I woke up to someone shaving my head/eyebrows I would press charges as well. Like wtf don't touch people without permission
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Grape posted:Based on that timeline I'm guessing Australia changed it in like 2011 or something. And it comes with a fee golliwog.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for calling my daughter’s firm? from the dad: quote:I don’t know. I think she was just stressed already. When she filed the police report she said she was happy for the guy to take a driving course but I told her it wasn’t acceptable. This man did a hit and run and left her by the side of the road. She said she didn’t want to spend the energy on revenge but she clearly doesn’t understand justice. quote:The law doesn’t dictate morality. You don’t turn off feelings of concern for your kid when they turn 18 quote:May be true but after she got hit she was very depressed and stayed in bed all day for several weeks. I had to put up with her being so lazy and it was difficult for me too. quote:She wasn’t that traumatised. I still made her go on bike rides afterwards. comment: quote:Holy moly I just went and read about your previous interactions with your daughter. She had to raise your two sons, pay for groceries, wrestle you to stop you suiciding, was sexually abused weekly for a year and a half which you minimised because you’d known the abuser ‘for so long’ then was vilified by the religious group you’re with while you made her attend services and in there being harassed by email because you wanted her to keep ‘being momma’ to her brothers after she fled, oh and had an accident that made you sad sad because she was depressed and took to her bed for a while. And now you act surprised she wants NOTHING to do with you. Wow! You are the KING of Assholes Kill. content: quote:Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 40 years.
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Kurieg posted:"its just hair, he went off his meds." makes me want to press charges more so my erstwhile friend can get the mental help he apparently so desperately needs. Yeah this, OP and the friend circle have also clearly identified it as part of an on-going spiral, so if he doesn't face legal consequences for this, odds are the next time he faces charges it will be for a more severe degree of assault.
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webmeister posted:Anyway how has nobody mentioned Agatha Christie’s most famous poo poo detective, Hercule Pooirot Hercule Pooirot and his friends Captain Shatings, Inspector Shatt, and Miss Lemonparty Plus there's Christie's other great detective, Miss Shartle i'll see myself out
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Holy poo poo, this one. AITA for being nice to my mother in law? quote:I (30NB) am married to my spouse (30NB). Throwaway for obvious reasons. Comments: quote:I'm sorry but this: "My mother in law chose to let HER mother die in a completely curable medical coma" gets my Scooby senses buzzing something fierce. quote:You really truly think that you will inherit any thing? quote:To be fair, half that money came from the houses Gramma bought for the 4 kids 25 years ago. MIL had the houses sold so she didn't have to "deal" with any of it. Now the money sits there. I take care of half the family, including helping her out. Do you not believe that I deserve a cut?
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calling the cops and pressing charges makes you the rear end in a top hat. this applies in 90% of cases. jail time does not heal someone's mental illness. thank you.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Holy poo poo, this one. This is confusing because it is implying that the MIL killed the grandma for money but then says right away that the MIL made it so that she can't touch said money.
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Lazy_Liberal posted:calling the cops and pressing charges makes you the rear end in a top hat. this applies in 90% of cases. jail time does not heal someone's mental illness. thank you. That's pretty true. Receiving zero consequences doesn't really help people either
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muscles like this! posted:This is confusing because it is implying that the MIL killed the grandma for money but then says right away that the MIL made it so that she can't touch said money. It is confusing. At some point MIL had control over the money (she sold all the houses) and then she put it into a trust she herself couldn't touch for ... reasons?
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m pretty sure I was introduced to it as Ten Little Indians abut that might have been while I was stuck in the conservative mountains of northwestern New Jersey. I knew it as both None and Indians in the 80s, I think it was a subtitle or something on the edition at my library, or just because other media that referenced it (and so much does) would cite either one. Had no idea about the other name until now, I'd known that existed for the original rhyme but not the book.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:It is confusing. At some point MIL had control over the money (she sold all the houses) and then she put it into a trust she herself couldn't touch for ... reasons? Yeah it really just sounds like the OP and their partner were on the outs with MIL for reasons that they aren't getting at and are now angry with MIL for making a series of very well thought out moves/actually making a good medical decision for someone (the amount of family members who will leave an old person with multiple health issues as a "full code" is insane and incredibly cruel*). I feel like they both feel entitled to the money for whatever reason and are just being really lovely about things. *Seriously, if you do not feel like you are capable of making medical decisions that are in the best interest of someone including the decision to let that person die, do not let yourself become the primary decision maker for someone. B-Rock452 fucked around with this message at 18:37 on Jan 29, 2022 |
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Uncle Enzo posted:That's pretty true. i won't go off on my police abolition derail too much but speaking as a mental health professional who works with a lot of folks with mental illness who've experienced legal consequences, they usually hurt way more than they help. there are plenty of consequences that don't involve bringing cops or a judge into the picture. in this case, the guy could have yelled at his friend and cut him off. he could've even told other folks what he did. losing a best friend and experiencing issues in your social group are pretty serious natural consequences. bringing the cops into it also makes it less likely they'll be able to repair the relationship in the future if they wanted to. anyways gently caress the police, have a great a day relationships thread. (also, it was "ten little Indians" when we read it in the nineties in California) edit: feel free to message me if you wanna learn more about how the justice system is hosed up because i won't be continuing this derail. Lazy_Liberal fucked around with this message at 18:59 on Jan 29, 2022 |
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Lazy_Liberal posted:i won't go off on my police abolition derail too much but speaking as a mental health professional who works with a lot of folks with mental illness who've experienced legal consequences, they usually hurt way more than they help. there are plenty of consequences that don't involve bringing cops or a judge into the picture. At the point where the person is being enabled by their family and the shared social group you're saying that the victims of their actions have no choice but to socially isolate themselves as their only recourse. "Off his meds" can me a lot of things, but that fact that Gary was apparently on a mission to try and shave the OP's head for weeks that's definitely leaning more into the "doesn't expect consequences" behavior rather then any actual mental illness. Who really knows, the way a person is enabled by their family can stretch from someone with serious disorders kept out of prison or a golden child who grows up and treats people like absolute poo poo the moment someone objects to their behavior. pentyne fucked around with this message at 18:53 on Jan 29, 2022 |
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AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demandsquote:Throwaway for reasons. Last year I purchased some property almost sight-unseen at auction. It is 14 acres total and the highlight for me was a farmhouse that hadn't been cared for in quite some time. After getting the property and finalizing all payment I contracted with a surveyor to give me the exact details and to my surprise, there was also a barn, patio, and firepit area that was my property. One weekend a few months ago I walked over to that part of the property and saw that the barn was in very updated shape with electric, water, etc, all having been run up there. In fact, that end of the property was more kept up than the house. Think of it as two ends of a large "L" shape. "Spending five to six figures to build out-buildings and basing your livelyhood around it without verifying you own the land you're building on sounds like an issue, not an issme"
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demands ahhh, it's almost as good as tree law 
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If someone cut off my hair in my sleep I can't say I would be worrying too much about how to heal their mental health. There's only so far someone can go before their situation just stops mattering.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demands
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Spatial posted:If someone cut off my hair in my sleep I can't say I would be worrying too much about how to heal their mental health. There's only so far someone can go before their situation just stops mattering. But don’t you see? It is the victim’s fault for reporting a crime! If someone assaults you, you become responsible for the outcome of that assault. And don’t ever rely on the system our society has setup to deal with these things, because it’s flawed and that’s your responsibility to fix.
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Pressing charges and dropping charges aren't really things. And I don't mean to call fake, but I doubt the police used the exact words. You can indirectly influence the DA's decision to pursue the case, but once the law is involved it's not really in your hands. Head shaver guy made his bed and now he's lying in it. OP can't save him and shouldn't feel bad about any of this.
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I want an r/relationships post where a cop is renting from a bad landlord so I can see who the ultimate villain is. It's capitalism isn't it
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demands Bullshit that they 'can't afford' to buy the land. They just don't want to. If they have a successful business, the land is an operating expense.
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OPAONI posted:Bullshit that they 'can't afford' to buy the land. They just don't want to. If they have a successful business, the land is an operating expense. I get a hint that Mr. Fair Market Rate who bought the property "almost" sight unseen might be gouging them a little, but c'est la vie
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Spatial posted:If someone cut off my hair in my sleep I can't say I would be worrying too much about how to heal their mental health. There's only so far someone can go before their situation just stops mattering. Yes but have you considered that this could make you indirectly responsible for sanctimonious lectures from drive-by posters?
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B-Rock452 posted:Yeah it really just sounds like the OP and their partner were on the outs with MIL for reasons that they aren't getting at and are now angry with MIL for making a series of very well thought out moves/actually making a good medical decision for someone (the amount of family members who will leave an old person with multiple health issues as a "full code" is insane and incredibly cruel*).
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Dik Hz posted:
you’re also pointedly ignoring the mask and noise canceling headphones I also suggested. the xanax was mostly a joke. mostly.
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A HUNGRY MOUTH posted:I get a hint that Mr. Fair Market Rate who bought the property "almost" sight unseen might be gouging them a little, but c'est la vie maybe, but the sticking point is the owner's insistence that they carry insurance (which suggests they were probably operating uninsured. probably illegally, but it's a lovely mom and pop operation out in the sticks)
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"But the headphones are too expensive you bougie rear end in a top hat!" I say as I continue to sneer at parents who can't just hire long term sitters.
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A great way to filter out annoying noise is to add constant random noise. I listen to pink noise when I want to filter things out, it works really well and you don't need expensive earphones. It has a similar sound to very heavy rain.
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Spatial posted:A great way to filter out annoying noise is to add constant random noise. I listen to pink noise when I want to filter things out, it works really well and you don't need expensive earphones. It has a similar sound to very heavy rain. I'm more of a brown noiser, myself
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the holy poopacy posted:maybe, but the sticking point is the owner's insistence that they carry insurance (which suggests they were probably operating uninsured. probably illegally, but it's a lovely mom and pop operation out in the sticks) Could also be they called their insurance, explained it to them, and got the reply, "You did what now?!?!? gently caress no we're not insuring someone else's property for less than Insurance*10." Or that they knew what they were doing all along, and insurance will ask for permits, the county will realize what happened and...
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Lazy_Liberal posted:calling the cops and pressing charges makes you the rear end in a top hat. this applies in 90% of cases. jail time does not heal someone's mental illness. thank you. Some reasons this take is dumb 1) the victim is not responsible for the wellbeing of the person who harmed them 2) in most places you can’t “press charges”. The cops can decide to make an arrest but only after that does the DA or prosecutor decide to press charges or not, depending on the crime and the evidence. it is pretty much entirely out of the hands of the victim. you can *maybe* affect it by not cooperating actively after calling the police, but you don’t actually make the decisions after you get the legal system involved
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Two comparative posts. The haircut guy is pissed and got the cops involved, he was a victim and wanted justice in some form. Girl hit by car was a victim but didn't care about justice and wanted to move on. Sadly her dad got involved in that one but hey
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